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The Oxford Handbook of Accurate Personality Judgment: Summary & Review

The Oxford Handbook of Accurate Personality Judgment (2021) synthesizes contemporary theory and research on the accuracy of personality judgments, exploring relevant issues such as when we are most likely to make accurate trait inferences, and what we can do to improve our “people reading skills”.

Exec Summary People are generally good at assessing othersSome people are better than others at assessing character traits It’s possible to improve our ability to read othersFull S...

How Storytelling Reveals Who’s NOT A Friend: 5 Red Flags

Using a story to covert-brag can be fair.

But if the covert brag involves you looking bad and your “friend” looking great by comparison, well, that’s a nasty power move.

We call it “nasty social climbing”.
And it’s when someone uses you as a “social peg” to reach higher (while they push you lower).

Let’s see a real-life example of how that would look like:

Red flag #1 : You look bad in the story

Imagine:

Your friend is telling a story involving both of you.

Generally sp...

How to Be An Alpha Male In 10 Simple Steps

Want to know how to become an alpha male?

We built this website for that!
This step-by-step guide will show you exactly how to become an alpha male.

But first, a warning:

To become an alpha male you must start from the truth of what it truly takes to be an alpha male.

We generally prefer and advise to become high-quality, “non-jerk” alpha males -also because it’s better for you-.
But the truth is that becoming an alpha male has little to do with ethics and morals.

That being said...

Start With Advanced Material For Most Effective Learning

The common advice to maximize learning is this:

Always start from the basics.

And while that’s sometimes true, often the opposite is true.

In this article, we show you often learn faster and better by doing the opposite.
Such as: it’s often better for you to start from the more advanced material.

Call it a cascading, “top-down approach”.

This same concept applies to any learning.
But we will focus on social skills in this article because that’s where we have the most experience....

100 Million Offers: Summary & Review

In $100M Offers, Alex Hormozi teaches readers the entrepreneurial skills of “how to make offers so good people will feel stupid saying no.” Specifically, Alex breaks down the steps to come up with a highly valuable and unique offer, offers examples, and teaches you how to enhance it using psychology.

Exec SummaryPick a good marketProvide a unique value offer, that solves all the customers’ problems, adds real value, and price it very highEnhance it with guarantees, scarcity, bonu...

Schwarzenegger Showdown: “I Don’t Stand By Your Rules”

“I don’t stay with your rules”,

Said Schwarzenegger to the interviewer.

And that was the culumination of the mini power showdown.

Power showdowns happen when you stick to your preferred outcome or frame, and the people you’re dealing with do the same.

Then, the escalation continues until either one of you gives in, or until you negotiate an outcome.

In this article, we are going to review a real-life example of a mini power showdown.

Strongly and directly rejecting someone’...

How To Brag Without Bragging: The Covert Brag Technique

Bragging without bragging is an art.

But, likely for us, it’s also part of our power dynamics science.

And it’s something you can learn.

In this article you’ll learn how to brag without bragging with the covert bragging approach.

Definition

Covert bragging refers to self-promotion that avoids the first-person format of self-enhancement and instead utilizes different techniques to promote oneself and display high value, without coming across as a braggart

If well-executed, cov...

Elon Musk Frame Control: Case Study

Elon Musk recently gave an interview to CNBC host David Faber.

It was a fantastic interview with countless opportunities for learning and improving social skills, reputation, and general life effectiveness.

For this post, we will focus on a specific exchange that serves as a great case study on the importance of frame control.

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Accept the wrong frame, and you take a reputation for nasty capitalist, and lose ability to influence and lead. Change the frame, and you take a reputation fo...

CNN Town Hall: Why Trump Always Owns Liberals

Campaigning Trump eats liberal hosts and critics for breakfast.

And while this article draws from the latest CNN Town Hall, that was just a single instance of a more general tendency.

So, what is it that gives Trump an unfair advantage over all those liberals?

Well, in short, it’s power:

She looks at him and rotates towards him, he doesn’t do the same toward her. Her words are angry, but her body langauge betrays low power (including a powerless “please” type of hand gesture)

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Is Alex Hormozi Legit? 5 Red Flags You Must Be Aware Of

Alex Hormozi is an American entrepreneur, private equity investor, and “business guru” of growing popularity.

This article is a review of Alex Hormozi as a “business guru”, as a man, as a leader… And about Alex character and moral mettle.
Ultimately, we also want to find out whether Alex Hormozi is worth looking up to.

My name is Lucio Buffalmano, expert on power dynamics, social strategies, and personal empowerment.

I founded this website that also happens to share the largest summari...