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Teacher-Pupil Frames: Why (Some) Teachers Are Takers

Teacher-pupil frames refer to intellectual power dynamics where the teacher self-frames as higher-power by virtue of his explaining and the pupil is framed as lower-power by virtue is lack of knowledge, expertise, or competence

In simpler words: he explains to you, so he slots himself as “above you” -smarter, more knowledgeable, more worldly, more effective, etc. etc-.
We may also refer to these as “teacher-learner”.

Explanation

Teachers are always higher value than learners.

Te...

The Richest Man in Babylon: Summary & Review

The Richest Man in Babylon shares basic personal finance advice through a collection of parables set 8,000 years ago in ancient Babylon.

Bullet SummarySave moneyInvest moneyProtect your capitalFull Summary

About The Author:
George S. Clason was an American soldier, businessman, and author.
He wrote several personal finance parables that were distributed by banks and insurance companies. The most popular ones were collected together to form what’s known today as “The Riches...

Tools of Titans: Summary Review

Tools of Titans is a mix of what Tim Ferris considers to be the best tips and hacks from the various people he has met or interviewed.

Bullet SummaryJust start. Whatever you got in mind: start. People who’ve done are no better than youStart small to ingrain a habitDevelop a morning routineFull Summary

About The Author:
Tim Ferris is an American entrepreneur, investor, and popular “self-help celebrity”.
He is also the author of “The 4 Hour Work Week” and “The 4 Hour Body“.
W...

The Personal MBA by Josh Kaufman: Summary & Review

The Personal MBA is an eleven-chapter book on business in which the author, Josh Kaufman, aims to give a clear overview of the essentials of every major business topic. The result is this book, which he calls the foundational business training manual.

Exec SummaryYou don’t need an MBA to succeed in business: you can gain as much value from an informal education path without wasting as much time and money.Always continue learning: the path of self-education is a never-ending one....

5 Techniques to Say No (Polite, But Effective)

Many people find it difficult to say “no” to others.

Be it because of a lack of assertiveness, fear of confrontations, passive communication styles or “too nice” personalities, outright refusing someone or someone’s requests can be challenging.

In this article you will learn how to say no to people in simple and effective ways.

Why You Need to Be Smart Saying “No”

Evolution isn’t stupid.

And if so many people find it challenging to reject others people and their request, there...

The Gifts of Imperfection: Summary & Review

The Gifts of Imperfection (2010) is a book in which author Brene Brown talks about self-acceptance of yourself over external and social standards of “what you should be”. A self-acceptance that includes your unique gifts and quirks, your imperfections, and your natural wants and needs.

Bullet SummaryCultivate your unique gifts, even if you can’t monetize them it’ll make you happierIt takes courage to be yourself, but it will pay off: don’t conform to the massesMake time for rest ...

How to Handle ALL Power Moves: The Silver Bullet Technique

A power move is anything that affects the power dynamics of an interaction.

However, the most dangerous power moves are the ones that, for you, negatively affect the power dynamics.

We call it here “disempowering”.
And it can be anything that embarrasses you, undermines you, harms your reputation, frames you as antisocial, or anything that generally makes you worse off and keeps you lower down, and far from your true potential.

In this article we will learn how to handle any of that dise...

How to Handle ALL Power Moves: The Silver Bullet Retort

A power move is anything that affects the power dynamics of an interaction.

However, the most dangerous power moves are the ones that, for you, negatively affect the power dynamics.

We call it here “disempowering”.
And it can be anything that embarrasses you, undermines you, harms your reputation, frames you as antisocial, or anything that generally makes you worse off and keeps you lower down, and far from your true potential.

In this article we will learn how to handle any of that dise...

Why “Dating Like An Alpha Male” Is Costing You

Let me say this first:

Dating as an alpha male, a high-status, high-power, and high social dominance man is good.

HOWEVER…

Many people get it wrong.
And, often, being too intransigent on “being alpha” or “as high power as possible”, will cost you.

This article will explain the limitations of the “alpha male game” and show you a more effective alternative.

What’s The Alpha Male Game

First off, let’s separate the two:

Alpha male traits and game are two different things.

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Why The “Growth Mindset” Is Disempowering You

After Carol Dweck’s “Mindset” the “growth mindset” concept has become very popular in self-development circles.

And, largely, it’s for good reasons: it’s fundamental to personal growth and, together with the antifragile ego, to mental empowerment.

We generally support and encourage a growth mindset here.

HOWEVER…

It’s important to remember that the law of optimum balance also applies to a growth mindset, and it’s certainly possible to overdo it:

At a certain level and in certain s...