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Why “Dating Like An Alpha Male” Is Costing You

Let me say this first:

Dating as an alpha male, a high-status, high-power, and high social dominance man is good.

HOWEVER…

Many people get it wrong.
And, often, being too intransigent on “being alpha” or “as high power as possible”, will cost you.

This article will explain the limitations of the “alpha male game” and show you a more effective alternative.

What’s The Alpha Male Game

First off, let’s separate the two:

Alpha male traits and game are two different things.

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Why The “Growth Mindset” Is Disempowering You

After Carol Dweck’s “Mindset” the “growth mindset” concept has become very popular in self-development circles.

And, largely, it’s for good reasons: it’s fundamental to personal growth and, together with the antifragile ego, to mental empowerment.

We generally support and encourage a growth mindset here.

HOWEVER…

It’s important to remember that the law of optimum balance also applies to a growth mindset, and it’s certainly possible to overdo it:

At a certain level and in certain s...

Growth Mindset Power Dynamics

Ever since “Mindset” by Carol Dweck the “growth mindset” concept has become very popular in self-development circles.

And, largely, it’s for good reasons: it’s a fundamental driver of personal growth and, together with the antifragile ego, of mental empowerment.

We generally support and encourage a growth mindset here.

It’s important to remember though that the law of optimum balance also applies to a growth mindset.

And the foundational power principles of personal success and g...

The Millionaire Next Door: Summary & Review

The Millionaire Next Door is a study on millionaires, teaching readers what are the habits and mindsets of actual millionaires.

Bullet SummarySelf-made millionaires are frugalMillionaires invest instead of spendingMillionaires value independence over status symbolsFull Summary

Stanley & Danko say there are 7 common elements among millionaires.
Millionaires:

Spend much less than what they earnFocus time, energy and resources on accumulating wealthValue financial independence more ...

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind: Summary & Review

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind (1963) teaches readers how to leverage your subconscious to make thoughts a reality and to attract what you want into your life. 

Bullet Summary What your subconscious believes your conscious mind will do Your subconscious mind can make thoughts a reality You talk to your subconscious mind with visualization and thoughts during sleep and half-sleep time Full Summary 

About The Author:
Joseph Denis Murphy (1898 – 1981) was an Irish author and New T...

Pussy A Reclamation: Summary & Review

Pussy: A Reclamation teaches women to live an empowered life by regaining control over their center of life, pleasure, and power: the pussy.

Says Regena Thomashauer -in art “mama gena”-, the author of “Pussy”:

The solution for the epidemic of powerlessness among women, which neither great success nor higher education is able to solve, is simple: reconnecting a woman to her pussy.

Bullet SummaryLearn how to pleasure yourself (from orgasms to food to dancing)Embrace your negative emot...

Why Balance Is Most Seductive

The law of optimum balance states that many traits that are beneficial at certain doses turn ineffective, harmful or unattractive at extreme levels of total lack or oversupply.

The law of balance also applies to many traits relevant in dating, attraction, and seduction.

In this article, we will learn how the law of balance can make you more effective at dating and at attracting partners.

Women’s Strength – Quickly Turns Dating Weakness

Female power has been a central theme in each fe...

The Law of Optimum Balance

The law of optimum balance says that many traits are beneficial at certain doses but turn bad, ineffective, or harmful at extreme levels of total lack or oversupply.

Many positive traits that people aspire to and work towards follow the law of balance.
And so do many traits that many people generally associate with “bad morals” or negative outcomes.

That pervasiveness and ubiquitousness make it a fundamental concept of self-development and life optimization.

In this article we will lear...

The Social Strategist: Summary & Review

The Social Strategist is a 6-chapter book on advanced social skills in which the authors, Lucio Buffalmano and Ali Scarlett, teach social skills, social strategies, and social power dynamics.

Bullet SummaryPosition yourself as a value-giver: and build social capital to build goodwill and influence Acquire empowering mindsets: to empower your own assertivenessBe high-power and high-warmth: balance being very powerful with being very friendlyAvoid allowing others to pull power move on you: ...

Naive Self-Help: 10 Most Dangerous BS to Avoid

Naive self-help refers to self-help authors and products that distort reality, provide sub-optimal advice, and potentially even harm the learner.

Here at The Power Moves we know something about self-help.
We’ve gone through thousands of self-help products, and we summarize and review hundreds of them.
We’ve seen great products, and… Not so great ones.

But… How to recognize what’s good, from what’s not?

In this article, you will learn how to recognize and avoid naive self-help (so that yo...