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What really matters

What matters

I admit it, when it comes to gift-giving, birthdays, holidays, traditional celebrations, I always forget. Not because I don’t care, but because I do not focus on these superficial creations of society. Everybody does it, so everybody feels that these things are important.

Well, I respect that completely; however, I’m here to remind you that what really matters is being there for your family, for your loved ones, for yourself. Sometimes is easy to get caught up with celebrities and their vain lives of money and silly pomposity.

Quite often, even in magazines and TV, people hammer your brain telling you that these superficial things matter. But what really matters is the time you spend with people, not what you buy. And what really matters is the listening and the respect you show for the struggle of another, not the poetry or words of love you say.

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Growing together

Women & Men

Women and men are not so different in reality. Well, society has always told them they are very different. But when it comes to wanting to be understood, accepted, loved, acknowledged for who they are, they are not so different. We all need space, time, room to grow as individuals.

The key to any relationship is being there, showing your affection, with honesty; but not smothering people, thus giving them access to their own personas in order to understand themselves and their role in the relationship. It’s about freedom, because freedom is where true love grows.

Unselfishness

And relationships require openness with each other, and this openness is about exposing our feelings. This can be scary, I know this from personal experience; however, I also know now that opening your heart to somebody is about unselfishness. It’s easy to be selfish and remain safe in your emotional cocoon, but it takes real courage and true love to open yourself to someone.

That is being unselfish, because by opening your heart to someone you are sharing yourself with others, even running the risk of not being accepted. That takes a great human being, especially if you’ve been hurt in any way in the past. I wish you the best in your relationships moving forward.

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How to in life…

The roller coaster of my life

I have always had challenges, problems, issues fitting in. Since high school I felt a little odd, like I needed to find my purpose, like I was the odd duck in a sense. It took me many years of heartbreak and family loss to finally understand that I was to follow myself, that I was meant for something different.

And that’s the key, isn’t it?? Finding yourself and letting go of heartbreaks, resentments, and all that burden one may carry. Because life is hard no matter what we do, so at least being free of these burdens helps you see more clearly. And clarity is what we require to live better and to give our best.

Embracing my roller coaster

And since life will always be hard, because there’s always something painful or sad, which is where the lesson of life hides, one must learn to embrace life as it is and expect everything with a positive mindset. Not a naïve attitude, but a mindset built to seek inspiration and good vibes daily. I have seen many I love die.

I have been victim of racism and all prejudice. Etcetera. But the truth is we all have suffered, and still do; however, learning from our past to be better in our present makes for a better future. This is something I won’t get tired of repeating. The past happened the way it did for a reason, and it is up to each one of us to acknowledge that reason or not.

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What it means…

What love means to me

A flower blossoming freely.The sky above us blue and clear.Birds singing in a meadow.A mind liberated from anxiety.Love is not a romantic thought in the mind.Love is not a desire to possess or own.Love is what is left when there are no words.Love is what dwells only in the pure heart.And of love I know because I live in joy.And of joy I know because I'm in love.Because it is what resides deeply in me.Because it is what love means to me.

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THE CHRONICLES OF HISTORY

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Be who you want to be

The rights of people

The rights to feel love, happiness, self-worth, feeling free to live your life as you wish. These are the true rights of the human being. It does not matter gender, age, or any other condition, as long as you are a grown up and mentally capable of deciding for yourself.

Do not let the prejudice of others stop you from embracing your life with joy. That is your very right. The right to feel joy. We are all unique, different, capable of finding joy. But you must be free and stop letting others dictate how you should feel

Choose to be you

This seems easy to understand, but truth is sometimes people let themselves play a part just for others. Quite often others dictate how we behave, and we let ourselves fall into this pressure/this prison. And, yes, it is a prison to always try to please others or try to be what others expect.

Life must be lived with a mind that is absolutely free, and that takes courage because you must stand up for yourself and be yourself. Being yourself is using that right while feeling empowered to be who you want to be. Never forget this.

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I started this book series to bring some entertainment, but also bring some insights and moral guidance to myself and to the reader. I always liked the worlds of ‘Harry Potter’ and ‘Percy Jackson,’ so I wanted to write in the same narrative and adventure style.

But also I wanted to join it with the world of spirituality and human goodness. We all have moral values in us and the strength to act on them, even if sometimes the struggle in life clouds our judgement. So, I know you will enjoy this book, as it brings some needed adventure and insight into daily life.

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Knowing your feelings

Feelings

Feelings can be scary. When your heart breaks can be difficult to love. When you are frustrated can be challenging to keep on. When you are disappointed can be tough to trust again. Feelings are what make us humans, and what give us the capacity to achieve love and happiness.

So, exploring your feelings, even though scary and hard at times, is what gives you more empathy and makes you a better human being. That is why spending time with yourself, accepting the way you feel and not trying to escape it, is truly important in order to really understand life and the right choices to make.

The right feelings

What are the right feelings..?? The right feelings, for me, are the ones that help you move on and create a better life for yourself. But for that, I need to focus on how I feel and totally ignore the world. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed due to the news, or the suffering of someone close to me, or the injustice out there, etc.

She said this. He did this. Ignore everything. Protect the way you feel. You have to do this in order to think clearly and be ready to love again, be happy again, and try your best again. A successful life is one where you feel positive and strong to forge your path. And from that, you may give a better example and good vibes to others, so they too can build a better life for themselves.

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Meditation

Practicing meditation

I often think about how meditation has helped me throughout the many years. It really has done things in my body and mind that I hadn’t noticed before. And, even though tough at first, after years my mind has really gotten used to looking inwardly as daily practice.

I wanted to write this post in hopes that maybe I can help someone in this aspect. Maybe you seek to lessen your anxiety. Or perhaps you seek a greater control over your anger, frustration, and all negative thinking. Whatever it is, I think meditation is a practice for everybody seeking love, happiness, and all good things.

Benefits from meditation

-Sharing a moment with the silence in me each morning has expanded my mind and made me aware of deep insights. My creativity and capacity for creating vivid scenarios have really strengthened. Everything has become so clear.

-One thing that I’ve noticed gradually is that it has also increased my capacity to resist mental and physical pain. It makes my brain more calm when there is the presence of pain, and I can deal with it without trying to escape it with great desperation and anxiety.

There are many more great outcomes of just knowing my deep self, beyond the noises of my mind, far from the confines and imprisonment of the limiting conscious. Because, I have learned after many years of practice, that meditation opens a gateway into my very subconscious.

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Growing relationships

A clear mind

Dates. Getting to know each other. Romance. Not appearing too clingy. Trying to show your best side. It’s all very challenging, isn’t it?? That’s the human experience, trying to form relationships, any sort of connection.

But, quite often, the problem is the anxiety in the mind, the nervousness, having a lot questions in there, all this pressure. It took me a long time, but now I understand that it is all about having a mind free of all this. That is, a mind which can be relaxed and not overthinking.

The damage is overthinking things, trying to answer all questions, seeking to be the one who understands how to do everything in a relationship. But letting it go, flowing with what is, just letting it happen–that’s what is required.

No expectations

Relationships are important, but they can be easy to damage. As mentioned, sometimes we put a lot of pressure on us to be this and that. But this only makes it worse, because no one is free and happy if we feel like we carry big burdens. And expectations can be burdens.

Expecting something to be the way we want, or trying to make another person like us or love us the way we want. Any expectation becomes a program in our minds, and it affects the way we interact with each other. And we may get angry easily, or tend to have no tolerance, or get frustrated with ourselves or with the other person easily.

So, I’ve learned that relationships become a success when we carry no burdens. Love is like a garden of flowers, and weeds are the expectations. Weeds choke the beautiful flowers. Get rid of the weeds, so the garden grows.

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