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None of this (or anything related to it) is normal or acceptable within a family unit no matter who tries to convince you it is.

Smear campaigns are not normal.Turning against someone just because someone else tells you to is not normal.Being ostracized and ostracizing others is not normal.Cliquish behavior is not normal.Bullying is not normal.Abuse is not normal.Relationships being riddled with envy is not normal.Triangulation is not normal.Stalking is not normal.Weaponizing forgiveness is not normal.Abuse by proxy is not normal.Purposely ignoring boundaries is not normal.Cult-like behavior is not normal.Flying monkeys are not normal.Attempting to cover up abuse is not normal.Weaponizing the importance and significance of family is not normal.

None of this (or anything related to it) is normal or acceptable within a family unit no matter who tries to convince you it is.

As a Christian, you are allowed to set healthy boundaries in the relationships in your life.

Age does not give you the right to be abusive.

Age does not give you the right to be abusive. If anything, it should motivate you to be a positive, teaching influence on those who are younger than you with you seeking to be a blessing to those around you through the years that you have been blessed with.

If you didn’t come from a Godly family, make sure a Godly family comes from you.

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Remember this: racism is blasphemous.

Whenever I Play The Piano, I Smile For The Little Girl Who Thought She Wasn’t Allowed To

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I have always loved music. I was a little girl when I realized that I could sing.

I don’t remember what song I was listening to, but I remember singing along with the artist and trying to mimic what they were doing. As I sang, I was amazed at the volume with which I could project my voice.

Music comes naturally to me. There are things I know about music that no one taught me — they are God-given gifts.

Unfortunately, I have had many people in my life (not everyone in my life but quite a few people) who have attacked those gifts and tried to discourage me from utilizing them. Their efforts were, sadly, usually successful.

It was so bad that, at one point, I genuinely believed my musical abilities were demonic. At the time, I was involved in the charismatic movement and I was believing in things that were unbiblical, untrue and just plain ridiculous — that is how that idea was able to creep in.

I wouldn’t go anywhere near music. If I caught myself humming absentmindedly, I would immediately stop fearful of what might happen next.

My thought process was, “Every time I try to do anything that involves music, the reaction I get is so vicious. This has happened time and time again. Whatever talents I think I have must be something evil otherwise this would not be happening. Whatever I do, I have to stay away from music”.

Thank God, I am no longer in that place.

Whenever I play the piano now, I get so happy for that little girl, that teenager, that woman who thought she was not allowed to do things like that. Just touching piano keys brings me so much joy for her.

I wish that she could have gotten into a time machine just to see the keyboard in my bedroom. 

That alone would have made her cry tears of joy.

If you have to lie, cheat, steal and sell your soul to get it, it ain’t worth it.

Ugly

Yesterday, I stumbled upon a picture of myself from a few years ago.

As I stared at it, I was surprised by how much I actually liked it remembering how I had taken multiple (and I mean multiple) photos of that moment out of fear that I wasn’t taking any good ones.

Lately, I have noticed that my response to old photos of myself has grown more positive – possibly more positive than it has ever been in my entire life.

I spent most of my life constantly hearing how ugly I apparently was. This supposed ugliness was often attributed to my skin color, my ethnicity, my ethnic features or the general assertion that I was just not an attractive person.

I have spent so much of my life viewing myself from that perspective and my response to old photos of myself has often been filtered through it.

Now, seeing myself so differently, it breaks my heart to look through old pictures and see just how wrong that narrative was.

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To The Individuals Who Have Been Harassing Me For The Past Few Years

To the individuals who have been harassing me for the past few years:

Stop contacting me. You have repeatedly been told (either directly or indirectly) to stop contacting me. Law enforcement has been notified and is aware of everything that has happened in the last few years.