Margaret Robinson Rutherford's Blog, page 40
June 28, 2019
135 SelfWork: Your Questions My Answers (and a big announcement…)
Your emails are coming in fast and furious so I decided today that I would answer some of those questions with everyone and we can continue to learn from one another. The subjects range from trauma to ending a relationship to having trouble letting go of regrets and shame to perfectly hidden depression. — so […]
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June 21, 2019
134 SelfWork: Making A Distrustful Mess with Money and Marriage
Money and the distrust that can be created because of it in a partnership or marriage is what’s on the agenda for today. It’s amazing how many people commit to one another and never touch the subject. We’ll talk about the business of relationships and common problems people run into when they initially establish their […]
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June 14, 2019
133 SelfWork: “I Have Body Image Issues.” The Damage of Eating Disorders and Seven Things You Can Do
Today we’re talking about psychological disorders that have to do with you, food, and exercise that have the power to damage your child’s body image and self-esteem as well — no matter how you try to keep it out of their life. Both moms and dads can have struggles that not only damage their own […]
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June 7, 2019
132 SelfWork: Where Do I Begin If I Want A Better Relationship? Change What You Do, What You Say and What You Think. That’s All.
Is therapy really helpful when a relationship is in trouble? And what are the kinds of things you need to realize about therapy that might increase the chances of it being effective? Let’s talk about what’ s important in choosing a couples therapist, but also I’ll offer a roadmap to guide your healing. There are […]
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May 31, 2019
131 SelfWork: When Your Dad Isn’t A Dad. The Effects of Father Hunger
Father hunger… when your dad isn’t or wasn’t available or connected with you either due to divorce, death or disinterest — causes many problems for a child and the family as a whole. But the numbers are staggering of how many homes are without dads. There are so many engaged dads out there, but when […]
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May 24, 2019
130 SelfWork: The Power of Failure and What You Can Learn From Flying a Kite
No one particularly likes to fail. And what does it have to do with flying a kite? In this episode, we’ll talk about the power that failure can have in your life and what can help you learn from it. Because failure is inevitable. And far too many people shame themselves for failure and then […]
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May 17, 2019
129 SelfWork: Challenging and Changing Negative Self-Talk
We’re talking self-talk here today. What is it? And what can you do about it? A lot of people tell me they kinda “know” what it is, but haven’t a clue how to change it. It feels as if it’s too elusive. How could you possibly rein in what your mind is telling you about […]
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May 10, 2019
128 SelfWork: What Happens When You Quit Perfectly Hiding Depression? You Find Grief.
Dr. Jennifer Ashton of ABC News was interviewed this week as she revealed the suicidal death of her ex-husband. She stated quite clearly that he displayed none of the signs of depression that she had studied in medical school. None of them. I need to read her new book on surviving the suicide of […]
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May 3, 2019
127 SelfWork: The Two Masked Marks of Manipulation aka Stonewalling and Gaslighting
There are many ways of creating problems in relationships, but there are two manipulations that are sometimes harder to see than out and out contempt or defensiveness. They are stonewalling, basically “the silent treatment” and gaslighting, when someone tries to undermine your own perceptions to the point where you distrust your own mind. The first […]
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