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Goal setting Myth #3
I don’t need reasons for my goals, I just want more



Goals come from decisions. Most decisions are subconscious and come from the limbic area of the brain, the place where emotions come from. Put an emotional reason WHY behind a goal and your subconscious will drive the goal for you. Use this tool to your advantage.

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Real goals are big and scary



Only if you want. But even big, scary goals are broken into chunks. Your focus is on the chunk. Think of to as a path to a mountain. You use the mountain in the distance as guidance and motivation, but you focus on where you are walking and what is coming up next. Also, you might get some way along the path and decide that you want to go to a different mountain.

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Goal setting Myth #5
I don’t have any goals



What do you want? Any of these? - Career, travel anywhere, finances to support you, great relationships, toys (cars, boats, planes and trains), jewellery, houses, to create, to be in business, to be fitter and healthier, have nice clothes, change lives, make a difference. Sure, you have a goal. It is there, find it and work out WHY you want it. Then work out how to get it.

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Goal setting Myth #6
I don’t deserve my goal



Feeling you don’t deserve a goal can stop you pursuing it. Once achieved you can feel undeserving (Imposter Syndrome) and lose it. Dig deep and find the reason WHY you want it. Reflect on this every day. Take responsibility for your goal. Break it into chunks. After achieving each chunk, celebrate. Reflect on what you have done, and on your WHY. At the finish you will know it is your success.

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Goal setting Myth #7
I feel selfish if I set goals to get things for myself



Everything you do, everything, is for your own benefit. If you work for charity, do a friend a favour, help little old ladies across the road, work 80-hour weeks at work – it is all for you.

It fulfils your needs to contribute, to help others, your obligations to provide for your family, all for you. AND THAT IS OK. As the cabin crew always tell you “Fit your mask before helping others”. The happier you are the more you can help others.

Set your selfish goals!


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Goal Setting For People Who Can't Set Goals: Proven Tools and Techniques To Achieve Anything You Want

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I can’t change the goal once I set it, so I often fail



The goal gives you direction. The work you do is along the path. On the path you learn, fail, have fun, and succeed. You change. Suppose you get down the path and decide that you want a different goal, what do you do? You change the goal!

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I can’t set goals. I am terrified of failure



When doing new things, guess what, you perform poorly. Get used to it. If I asked you to throw tennis balls into a bucket 20m away would you get it in the first time? 10th? 35th? How good would you be after 100? How many misses? How may failures? But really good by the time you have thrown 100, right? Failure is just a step in the process. Do it and do it sooner than later.

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Goals should be visualised



Well, yes, but not just that. They should be THINKUALISED – image the goal as achieved and imagine it using every sense – sight, sound, touch, taste, smell, temperature and even proprioception (knowing where your body is in the space around you – this enables you walk, or to catch a ball). Imagine the time of achievement is now, in the present.

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I don’t have time to set goals



Chances are if you are very busy you are busy achieving something. Otherwise, you might consider that the average person watches 18 hours of TV and plays on the Internet for 13 hours, every week. Yes, you have to give something up if you want more in life. Can you take 8 of those hours and spend the equivalent of one working day per week on a goal? 4 hours? Once you get started you will love it.

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I can’t get over procrastinating



Sure, you can. Do this – put up post-it notes that say “When I get home from work I will spend 10 minutes working on my goal before I do anything else, because I am a goal achiever”. This is a neuro-trick called an Implementation Affirmation. Put the post-it notes in your car, on your mirror, in your wallet, wherever you will see them. Chances are once you start you will keep going (because progress feels good). Another great way to start is to simply review your progress to date. This will motivate you to keep going.

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Goal Setting For People Who Can't Set Goals: Proven Tools and Techniques To Achieve Anything You Want

Chris Christoff

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