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Cease-and-Desist Letter

To Mr. Christopher Ambrose

*An earlier version of this article, without a preamble, was sent out by error. Here is the correct version:

https://bandyxlee.medium.com/cease-and-desist-letter-fc7a475ebd81

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Cease-and-Desist Letter

To Mr. Christopher Ambrose

September 29, 2024

Mr. Ambrose:

I demand that you cease and desist contacting, stalking, and/or harassing me or any of my past or present affiliates, be they colleagues, associates, or institutions.

As you are aware, I reported you to multiple police precincts because of your unsolicited contact of me ever since you learned that I was retained as an expert witness in your family court case. Even though I have no obligation to you and was fulfilling my duty as a mandated reporter of child abuse, you harassed me with letters consisting of dozens, if not hundreds, of pages of threatening and coercive content, in order to interfere with my fulfilling my professional duties. Now, you have heard me testify in court that I believe you are attempting to tamper with and intimidate me as a witness, since I have affirmed your extreme violence against your children and ex-spouse, as well as your preliminary diagnosis of a dangerous personality disorder.

Yet, in less than a week since, you have contacted three dozen more of my affiliates, especially in relation to a major national conference I was organizing. I kept the identities of the presenters private, precisely so that you would not have an opportunity to harass them, and yet you managed to find them out anyhow. This would not have been possible without the kind of obsessive, pathological, and intense stalking of which I accused you but which you denied just recently in court on September 23, 2024. Now, you have proven that you are engaging in a campaign of stalking, harassment, spreading of fraudulent information, and targeted character assassination, because I am a witness against you.

This would not be the first time. I am well aware of your extensive history of targeting, intimidating, and retaliating against witnesses by incessantly contacting their employers and getting them fired — which has happened to two people so far — so that they would think twice about testifying against you. Your ex-wife has lost many witnesses and social supports as a result, for you did not stop until you exhausted or frightened every one of them. On one occasion, you manipulated the FBI and orchestrated a false SWAT raid, based on pathological lies. This is the very material I examined for your preliminary diagnosis of psychopathy, which does not necessarily require a personal interview of the perpetrator (instead, studies show that interviews of victims are far preferable, which I have performed).

Against your ex-wife, you filed an astounding sixty motions, all in order to “DARVO” (deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender), so that you might deflect from charges against you — and have succeeded. In my case, I have counted up to almost fifty persons or departments you have contacted in order to harass me. Through these extreme actions, you are only confirming that you are dangerously disturbed, and that my diagnosis of your dangerous disorder is probably correct. Should you contact me or anyone connected to me ever again, I will move for your arrest. Please be guided accordingly.

Sincerely,

Bandy X. Lee, M.D., M.Div.

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The United States of Abuse

How Long will We Condone Family Court Sacrifice of Our Children?

I was first alarmed when I served as an expert witness for a Family Court case in the Midwest, and a beautiful, sensitive four-year-old girl was allowed to be brutalized by her sexually assaultive father. There were four medical professionals confirming sexual assault and rape, and finally a rape kit returned positive. Yet, Child Protective Services (CPS) called this “insufficient evidence”! Instead, the stronger the evidence, both Family Court and CPS came down harder on the mother, until she lost custody altogether. The child — now permanently “sold” to a depraved and perverted man as his sexual slave — is as good as “soul murdered,” to use Leonard Shengold’s phrase. This would become the first of 39 out of the 40 Family Court cases in which I served as a expert witness, where the results would be almost identical: the violent abuser got sole custody, and the nurturing parent lost all contact by the time Family Court was through with the case. Every one of these cases, if in criminal court and not in the secret, “sealed” Family Court, the child predator would have been convicted “beyond a reasonable doubt.”

Soul murder is worse than bodily murder, my patient population — violent offenders in maximum-security prisons — told me. They would mutilate themselves to lessen the pain, as they called themselves, “walking tombs.” Now, having set foot in the Family Courts (not an easy task), I am witnessing this damaged population in formation, a third of whom will become violent themselves to cope with the trauma they endured. In the above case, Family Court had the choice to allow the girl to continue to thrive and blossom under her mother, as she had despite the abuse. Instead, it made the deliberate choice to send a child to unspeakable suffering and a life worse than death — and this is what Family Courts do to 160 children a day in this United States of Abuse. The reason? I am told that this is the biggest revenue source for the 50- to 175-billion-dollar Family Court industry. What I see in the actual courtrooms is a perpetrator class in black robes.

Now there are concrete studies showing Family Court judges intending child destruction. A study from the University of Manchester aptly calls it, “‘Let’s excuse abusive men from abusing and enable sexual abuse’: Child sexual abuse investigations in England’s private family courts” (the U.K. government recently forced Family Courts to open to reporters and researchers, which is why we are hearing more from that side of the Atlantic, even though the U.S. is worse). However, this what I see every day. Below is another, clear-cut case whose evidence I personally examined as an expert witness. In addition to listening to the mother’s very credible interview, I encourage the reader to read more about her here, here, and here. Her reports are very valuable and rare, since Family Courts get away with what they do by destroying witnesses and silencing reporters.

Family Court-persecuted parents are almost always good if not excellent parents, but Ria Aichour is one of the best I have witnessed. Her loving relationship with her daughter is what allowed her daughter to become so precociously discerning, articulate, and outspoken — in other words, highly emotionally-developed — which is precisely what psychopathic perpetrators, be they parents or judges, target for destruction:

NJ Mother Takes DCPP to Court Over Abuse Cover-Up

Sep 18, 2024

SIGN THE JUSTICE FOR M.C. PETITIONBy Richard Luthmann

Ria Aichour, a New Jersey mother, continues her legal battle against the Division of Child Protection and Permanency (DCPP), alleging they failed to protect her daughter, M.C., from repeated sexual and physical abuse by M.C.’s biological father, Jimmy Cerveaux.

Ria Aichour

In a recent episode of The Unknown Podcast with journalists Michael Volpe and Richard Luthmann, Aichour detailed her harrowing experience of fighting to save her daughter from what she describes as DCPP’s systemic failures and cover-ups.

Jill Jones Soderman, Founder and Director of the Foundation for the Child Victims of the Family Courts, joined her.

Medical Concerns Lead to First Disclosure

According to Aichour, her daughter first disclosed the abuse in early 2023 during a doctor’s visit.

“We were on our way to the pediatrician when M.C. told me about the abuse,” she explained on the podcast.

The pediatrician made the initial report to DCPP, setting off a chain of events leading to Aichour’s legal nightmare.

DCPP conducted interviews with M.C., but according to their findings, the child didn’t disclose any abuse during those sessions.

However, Aichour, who wasn’t present for the interviews, said she installed cameras in her home after being told she was the only one hearing the disclosures. Despite alarming behavior from M.C., including sexualized play and repeated verbal disclosures, DCPP declined to view the video evidence.

18 Months of Ignored Disclosures

Aichour explained that over the next 18 months, M.C. disclosed the abuse to over 15 different individuals, including teachers, doctors, and other mandated reporters.

“At this point, 12 different people had called DCPP or the police, reporting that M.C. had disclosed abuse to them,” she said.

Despite these reports, DCPP repeatedly deemed the allegations “unfounded.”

Richard Luthmann, a former attorney and co-host of the podcast, pointed out the pattern of denial in cases like Aichour’s.

“Too many coincidences make a fact,” Luthmann said. “When you have 17 reports from multiple teachers and doctors over a year, it’s almost better than direct evidence.”

Doctors Raise the Alarm

Several doctors who examined M.C. became increasingly concerned. Forensic psychiatrist Dr. Bandy Lee was one of the professionals who found the disclosures credible.

“She made very clear, unequivocal disclosures to Dr. Lee and other doctors,” Aichour said.

Michael Volpe emphasized the importance of medical professionals’ reports.

“Doctors are trained to distinguish between coached children and those disclosing actual abuse,” he said. “If multiple doctors are calling it in, they believe the child is being abused.”

Yet despite these mounting concerns, DCPP maintained its stance, refusing to investigate further or view the evidence provided by Aichour.

“They didn’t want to see the videos. They didn’t want to acknowledge what M.C. was saying,” Aichour recalled.

Systemic Failures and Allegations of Cover-Up

The pattern of inaction has led Aichour to file a tort claim against DCPP and Hudson County, accusing them of gross negligence and a deliberate cover-up of her daughter’s abuse.

Luthmann described the situation as beyond negligence, saying, “It’s deliberate indifference, if not intentional.”

Jill Jones Soderman, another podcast guest and founder of the Foundation for Child Victims of the Family Court, elaborated on the systemic issues at play.

“This isn’t an isolated case,” she said. “Millions of children are being tortured and abused, and the systems in place are failing to protect them. The consequences are devastating.”

Jones Soderman went further, stating that reunification therapy, often mandated in cases like Aichour’s, is a form of psychological torture for the child.

“It tells children that what they experienced didn’t happen, gaslighting them into silence,” she said.

Struggling for Custody

While Aichour fights to protect M.C. legally, she also struggles in the family courts. Despite the evidence of abuse, M.C. was removed from Aichour’s custody and placed with her father, Jimmy Cerveaux.

“DCPP took her from me even after M.C. disclosed severe physical abuse, including strangulation,” Aichour said.

She hasn’t seen her daughter in three months and fears that without action, she may never regain custody.

“Every day that passes, I don’t know what’s happening to her,” Aichour tearfully shared on the podcast. “I count every single day — 92 days now.”

Mandated Reporter’s Dilemma

Adding to Aichour’s frustrations is her role as a mandated reporter. In New Jersey, individuals who suspect child abuse must report it or face criminal penalties. However, Aichour says she is caught in a bureaucratic nightmare.

“I’ve reported the abuse to the authorities, but they’re the ones allowing it to happen. Who do I report them to?” she asked.

When she went to the police, the response was equally frustrating.

“They told me to report it to DCPP — the very agency I’m accusing of negligence,” she said. “It’s a Kafkaesque situation. I’m damned if I do, and damned if I don’t.”

Legal and Advocacy Fight Continues

Despite the obstacles, Aichour is determined to continue her fight. She has filed a petition to urge the judge in her case to return M.C. to her custody and compel DCPP to act in her daughter’s best interest.

“This isn’t just about me and my daughter,” Aichour said. “It’s about ensuring that no other child goes through what M.C. is enduring.”

Richard Luthmann vowed to keep covering the case.

“This isn’t over,” he said. “We will continue to shine a light on this story until justice is served.”

As Aichour’s legal battles continue, she remains hopeful but realistic.

“The system has failed M.C.,” she said. “But I won’t stop fighting for her.”

SIGN THE JUSTICE FOR M.C. PETITION

(The original article is published here: https://substack.com/@luthmann/p-149037410.)

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Disgraced Principal Michael Piacenza Leaves Ridge Elementary School

A Principal who Aided and Abetted Child Abuse, Now being Federally Sued, Transfers to Another School

Michael Piacenza abused his authority to arrest falsely three innocent people, including a world-renowned physician, in order to intimidate them as witnesses and to tamper with the creation of evidence. The reason? To protect and criminally collude with a duly-diagnosed psychopath and violent abuser and abductor of children. Now, he has been demoted to his previous position, and the atmosphere at Ridge Elementary School is already improved. At the time of Piacenza’s false arrests, the mother wrote a heartfelt letter to him, which others deemed moving enough to publish: “Who will You Be, Mr. Piacenza?” Rather than repent what he had done, Piacenza punished the mother with yet another false arrest, for doing the same volunteer work she had done the previous five years! All charges against these three people were dropped within five minutes of being heard, with the prosecutor calling Piacenza’s charges, “obviously overblown.” Whether the former principal did all this to satisfy his need to be a “pseudo-jock,” or whether there was financial incentive involved, he would not have dared such acts without the involvement of a corrupt Family Court. In June of this year, I added Piacenza to my federal complaint, alongside who seem to believe that piling on co-conspirators will somehow “justify” my niece’s and nephew’s violent abuse and abduction, which continue to this day. Regardless, the Ridgewood School District has failed to investigate these allegations of abuse — despite complicity with child abuse carrying equal legal weight as commission of child abuse — and merely transferred the contemptible man to another school. I cannot help but recall how the Catholic Church handled abuse allegations among its ranks until an outcry and overwhelming pressure came from the public. Far from taking the lead in investigating or mitigating harm against children, it abdicated its role until forced from the outside. If institutions charged with protecting the most vulnerable members of society are busy covering up their exploitations of them instead — and Family Courts veritably creating an industry of doing so — who will safeguard our children? Is it any wonder that child murders by parent in the U.S. are among the highest in the developed world, and Family Courts responsible for up to one-fifth of them? I can now finally publicize the letter I wrote to Piacenza before the false criminal charges he heaped on us were heard:

March 9, 2023

Mr. Piacenza:

I have learned that you lied to the prosecutor on the deceitful machinations of an abusive, pathologically-lying parent who is ironically using the school system to hide his abuse. You personally caused and are solely responsible for the arrests of three innocent people, including a world-renowned doctor and expert on child abuse I was escorting, who had come down from Massachusetts specifically to do his legally-mandated duty to investigate child maltreatment. You embellished and rescripted the facts for your malicious, vindictive, and slanderous ends. Your malfeasance and dereliction of duty not only caused grave injury by arresting these three innocent individuals but caused great disruption to the entire school body, students, teachers, parents, and the Ridgewood Police.

You violated the law by believing one parent without even bothering to consult the other — an egregious breach of the inherent responsibilities of a school principal. As if arresting three innocent people was not enough, you are willing to give false testimony to have us imprisoned to justify your false arrests. I do not believe you realize how much you have incriminated yourself, and you have no idea of the severe legal consequences you are going to face for acting as if you had impunity, which is certainly not the case.

Giving false testimony to the district attorney is a crime, and you are putting yourself in serious legal jeopardy. Therefore, think twice before you continue to tell your contrived, fictitious stories and indict yourself further, because this is all going to be publicly known when I file my suit against you and the school — and specifically against you personally for your unprofessional and disgraceful conduct.

You are not going to ruin the life of an innocent mother, or the careers of two doctors who have dedicated their lives to protecting victims of violence, because you were foolish enough to be bamboozled and manipulated by someone who has been diagnosed by three prominent forensic psychiatrists to be a psychopath. If anything happens to these two children, I am going to hold you personally responsible. You are the sole cause of the arrest of three innocent people, abusing and exceeding your authority as principal. I can only conclude that your actions are motivated by your willingness to serve as a lackey of a pathological liar and a sadistic perpetrator of child abuse without any investigation.

Others are giving you deference right now only because they do not know how you have aided and abetted a sadistic abuser of children, and the harm that you have done in the arrests of three innocent people. When they find out, they will deem you a dishonor to all the principals who preceded you at Ridge Elementary School, as well as all the other principals in the Ridgewood School System.

How dare you pick on an innocent mother. Is this what you do? Is this your idea of intramural sports, to take a petite woman grieving for her children, and to have a whole police department descend on her as your lynch mob? [It came out in the discovery that, after the police chief deliberated for forty-five minutes, mumbling to himself, “I can’t arrest her based on this,” and finally told Piacenza that he could not arrest the innocent mother based on what he gave him, Piacenza told additional lies in order to ensure her arrest.] Why would you do this? Do you have an issue with Asian women or against Korean-Americans?

To say that you are the shame and embarrassment of any educational institution is an understatement. You are out of control. While you have been trained by Alan T. Chan to do his vicious bidding, what you do not know about him is that, when charges are filed against you, he will act like he does not even know you. And as he has done to many others, he is going to throw you under the bus and disappear.

Because of you, the custody of these children has been given to a sadistic, pornography-addicted, substance-abusing, and psychopathic father. He has a history of a temporary restraining order for giving his son a head injury, and since he has taken the children, his daughter has a shoulder injury that was neglected for months.

Not only that, you helped him further hide his abuse by denying Patricia Lee her constitutionally-protected right to access her own children’s school records, when all she wanted to do was to monitor their wellbeing, after one of her children had fifty-six absences in the first seven months after their violent abduction [she was a prodigy student with perfect attendance before; of note, Piacenza further tampered with the electronic attendance record system called Skyward, not only to block the mother from access but to reduce the confirmed absences by half!].

Why would you hide these records if you were innocent? Are you so gullible to be taken by the lies of an abusive father, that you are willing to go to these extremes to jeopardize your own position, not to mention these children?

And most disgracefully, you willfully and maliciously sabotaged the urgent medical mission of two doctors who were investigating the unspeakable abuse these children have suffered. Instead of welcoming and supporting their investigation, as any competent principal concerned about the welfare of children would have done, you vindictively and maliciously orchestrated their false arrests. Why would you commit such heinous acts? You are acting more as the protector of a violent father than a protector of innocent and vulnerable children.

I do not think you can even begin to fathom the enormity of your crimes for actively colluding with a man who is hiding his abuse, and your aggressive enabling of his abuse by going as far as to arrest two internationally-respected physicians to prevent their seeing them — or even discussing this urgent matter with you, which was the purpose of our visit. And if this weren’t unscrupulous by itself — you have now gone out of your way to compound your indefensible, illegal actions with a series of appalling and abhorrent lies to the prosecutor, in which you have perjured yourself with the deplorable intent to justify your false arrests.

You have simply gone too far. Because of your actions, I will have no choice but to hold you personally responsible for your malfeasance and abrogation of your solemn responsibility as a school principal. You do not know that the web that you have woven against myself, my sister, and a renowned forensic professional is for your own legal entrapment.

I therefore suggest that you act as a responsible school principal entrusted with the solemn duty to protect innocent and vulnerable children.

Bandy X. Lee, M.D., M.Div.

P.S. Attached are the New Jersey statutes on child abuse. The violations of Alan T. Chan, the parent whom you have chosen to protect, are notated in red. The statutes which you have illegally violated are notated in red and bolded.

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Family Court ‘Judge’ and ‘Guardian ad Litem’ Play God with Others’ Lives

Too Much Power in the Hands of Unfit Persons Breeds God Complexes — and Wreaks Havoc on Society

I have treated many patients with god complexes, but the ones who are hospitalized with the belief that they are God, in a desperate attempt to escape the painful reality of their helplessness, are not the ones who are the most dangerous. The most dangerous are those out in society who actually act like they are God, having taken power positions that they neither deserve nor can handle, for being psychologically, morally, and spiritually unfit. They are largely unrecognized in society, despite being more dangerous for their devious and deceptive ways of using power to disguise their incompetence. In Family Courts, the lack of public scrutiny, the cooptation of existing structures through a Racketeer Influenced and Corrupt Organizations (RICO) scheme, and “court seals” have covered up child kidnapping, child sex trafficking, child pornography production, and the mayhem and murder of children and loving parents (as well as reporters) to keep the business going.

I came to learn of this secret world of organized crime through my sister’s divorce, in which her peaceful household was torn apart when her children were raided, kidnapped, and “sold” to their formerly absentee father and violent abuser. Never had I seen such violence in my life, despite specializing in treating violent offenders! This is because, when violent offenders can “legalize” their own actions, there is no limit to the harm they can do. Now, my sister is being actively targeted for murder — by an ironically-named, Family “Court”! And the reason? She is an impeccable former government official and model mother they did everything to try to “break” but could not, having underestimated the New York State governor’s former executive assistant who acted as his “right-hand woman” and directed all First Responders on Ground Zero after the greatest enemy attack on U.S. soil, September 11 — all while she was still in her twenties. The usual course is that Family Courts would assault the loving mother so viciously and unexpectedly, that any ordinary person would be broken psychologically — especially as their children are taken from them to be tortured and brutalized. Then, once the mothers are broken, they can be declared “unfit” and be permanently barred from seeing their children, while forced to pay exorbitant “child support,” the abuser’s legal fees, and court appointees’ salaries, until they lose everything, including their homes, possessions, life savings, retirement, and human rights. I have seen this happen over and over, to Ivy League-trained doctors, accomplished lawyers, and even multi-millionaires — who lose everything to Family Court. The Courts have no deference for credentials, reputation, track record, wealth (unless it comes to them), or certainly innocence, only that they have full power over you, no matter who you are.

I, too, have not been reputationally or physically safe, as a witness of their criminal enterprise and a whistleblower of this crime cartel hiding within loopholes of the “Law”. When no legal or criminal justice system would help, I consulted a Harvard Law School professor, who astonishingly advised: “Going public may be the only way.” So, I learned that there are areas of extreme human rights violations, including serial kidnapping, sexual slavery, and serial murder, that our legal system has no remedy for, and the worst street gangs are nothing compared to the destructiveness of these “Courts”, which are committing mass “soul murder,” before actual mass murder, with industrial efficiency. One day, my words will be revealed to be true and not exaggerated: this is the Hidden Holocaust of our time.

The “guardian ad litem” (“GAL”) in my sister’s case came close to killing her at least twice. Since I started writing public articles trying to expose her abuses of authority after the law professor’s advice, the “GAL” abrogated my First Amendment rights through the guise of a protective order against me. She tried to silence me before by sanctioning my sister with 27,000 dollars, for my articles that my sister did not even know about and had no control over. The GAL’s mindset is much like her protective judge, Jane Gallina-Mecca, who was written up in the Washington Post for making up laws to violate the First Amendment. Still, the judge did not learn, and was recently rebuked again by the legal department of a major magazine for trying to “unpublish” an article containing my interview, which violates the U.S. Constitution.

The GAL recruited Judge Michael Antoniewicz, whom she works with extensively and who is a subordinate of Judge Gallina-Mecca. Any reasonable judge would have recused himself, but she would not have recruited him if he were a reasonable judge. Family Courts operate almost exclusively through incestuous conflicts of interest and corrupt abuses of process. Because their activities are basically criminal, they cannot allow in outside experts or independent evaluators — which is why the GAL, too, has been repeatedly appointed by the same judges in the same court, and the most ignorant and incompetent attorney I have met — not to mention immoral — has no trouble finding work. These are the same low-level, poor-quality Family Courts that do everything not to appoint me as an expert witness, when even the highest-level criminal courts have treated me with only deference and gratitude for my work.

Needless to say, there is no “threat” to the GAL’s safety — but so intoxicated with power is she, the slightest nuisance to her feels like a “threat”! The GAL has literally very nearly killed my sister multiple times, irreversibly damaged her children, and injured her in the most extreme ways my sister ever experienced in her life — this is the typical experience of loving mothers, rarely loving fathers, in Family Courts, where they love all their constitutional and human rights. Yet, despite my sister having actual medical evidence of threats to her life, the compromised judge predictably would not issue a protective order for my sister. My engagement in Family Court cases as a forensic psychiatrist has shown me that, whatever Family Courts decide, the opposite extreme is likely the correct decision (in the approximately forty cases in which I served as an expert witness, 98 percent went the wrong way — sending children to their rapists, batterers, and would-be murderers, while the good parent lost custody).

What most people do not recognize is that the greatest human violence happens not in battlefields or war zones but in the home. Thus, when a corrupt “court” system capitalizes on this violence as an opportunity to profit by further victimizing the victims — as well as to satisfy their lust for cruelty — it is providing a haven for the most dangerous individuals our society produces. Not only that, just like Family “Court” actors themselves, undue power in the hands of the incompetent amplifies their dangerousness multifold, borne out of now ballooned expectations morphing into out-of-control megalomania and grotesque delusions of grandeur. This is what turns into god complexes that do not hesitate to “justify” their arbitrary rulings by falsifying “evidence”, decimating good parents to the point where they cannot fight back, and sacrificing children to lifetimes of torture, sexual slavery, and suicide if not murder. Violent perpetrators, who believe they are not only being “gifted” with impunity but financial bonanzas, are further affirmed in their violence — until it intensifies into spousal murder, child murder, and murder-suicide.

It is tragic that I must write a letter as the below to a so-called “judge”, but money is all that speaks to her:

September 4, 2024

Judge Gallina-Mecca:

I am updating my demand that you address the financial responsibilities of a litigant whose crimes you have so far covered for in every possible way — which is the real reason you have shunned me, as the primary and most qualified witness of his violence against his children — even though I do not expect anything. If kidnapping, child rape, battery, and attempted murder are nothing to you, what is a third person’s entire savings? Theft of others’ entire wealth is a given to you — and I am not just speaking of the damage you have caused me but countless others, who are coming out to speak up against you (see the attached petition for your impeachment).

You gave my niece and nephew to a violent psychopath and destroyed the lives of not only these children but all those who love them, because you thought it would be profitable. You employed a psychiatrically sick, sadistic torturer of children to be their “guardian ad litem,” because she is efficient to your goals. You may believe that your black robe allows you to play God, but judicial immunity is not impunity. There is something called truth, and numbers do not lie; facts and evidence do not simply disappear.

As a reminder, here is what your darling litigant, Alan T. Chan, owes me:

$ 883,120.94

(Eight hundred eighty-three thousand one hundred twenty dollars and ninety-four cents)

These are all marital expenses, including house and status quo maintenance ($321,228.03), legal fees ($470,235.56), and medical costs ($91,657.35), up to and including August 31, 2024, only. All receipts and itemizations in an Excel spreadsheet are available if you ever looked for them. Additionally, minimal house maintenance costs we have been urgently waiting for since the beginning of the year are $43,755.00 (forty-three thousand seven hundred fifty-five dollars), and the arrears of the minimum deposits you ordered him to make, on which he is still delinquent, are $19,847.09 (nineteen thousand eight hundred forty-seven dollars and nine cents).

For the final time, do what is right.

Sincerely,

Bandy X. Lee, M.D., M.Div.

She gave a repetitive response, and so I wrote her back the next day:

September 5, 2024

Judge Gallina-Mecca:

Your robotic, mindlessly repeated response, that I am “not a party” to this matter, is irresponsible and unacceptable. You are the one who forcibly made me an unwilling participant in your illegal and unconstitutional rulings — causing me to expend almost a million dollars, as I never have before in my entire life — purely to protect your favored litigant’s illicit financial schemes.

Being a judge does not mean you are above the Law.

Your hand was revealed when you refused to do what any normal and responsible judge would do: have me testify as a fact witness against Alan T. Chan’s daily violent abuse of his children and his spouse, which nearly killed each of them on multiple occasions.

Instead, you extended your hand in all manner of places where it does not belong: interfering with Child Protection Services (CPS) investigations by canceling their interview with me; ordering the Child Abuse Hotline not to take reports on this case; falsely attempting to incriminate me with the State Police (which they dropped); falsely arresting me and a renowned, elderly psychiatrist at the children’s school (which the prosecutor called “obviously overblown” and dropped); attempting to “unpublish” national magazine articles containing my interview (for which you were rebuked for violating the U.S. Constitution) — which reminds me of your rebuffing a foremost Constitutional scholar in the nation warning that you were violating the U.S. Constitution in this case — and enabling Alan T. Chan to slander and character-assassinate me in order to discredit me as a witness.

This is why a petition for your impeachment is gaining record momentum (with 1500 signatures, dozens of witnesses against you, and the governor and senators willing to hear them) — please do not forget to read the comments — and why I and my sister have a federal case against you, which will only be the first of many among the numerous loving parents you have victimized.

Regrettably,

Bandy X. Lee, M.D., M.Div.

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A Major National Newspaper Finally Places the Family Court Abuse Industry on Front Page!!

A Major National Newspaper Finally Places Family Court Abuse Industry on Front Page!!

It Should be Headline News Everywhere that Family Courts do Not Protect but Profit from Abuse — with Deadly Results

An astonishing event has happened: the Family Court abuse industry has made the front page of the Wall Street Journal (WSJ)! And then a week before was an article in the Independent. I have said all along that the U.K. is ahead in reporting the abuse industry: people were up in arms when nineteen child homicides in Family Courts were uncovered, and the government finally forced Family Courts to open to reporters. But in the U.S., where a thousand children have been murdered, nothing has been done — until now. I hope this article will herald a turning point, since unconscionable human rights violations have been able to continue largely because of a media blackout — and judges’ ability to threaten and harm reporters, if they dare to cover the issue. In other words, the more severe and egregious the crimes, the more they have been covered up through gangster-like techniques of intimidating reporters. Therefore, the WSJ reporting is huge!! Below is only the tip of the iceberg, of course, but it brings out the stark reality of “reunification therapy” camps, which are in truth torture camps. Far below is a recent article in the Independent, another exceptional piece of reporting that highlights the decimation of women (which is often the true, hidden goal of destroying the children they care for). Hence, I document here the publication of two extraordinary articles in the span of less than ten days:

A Court-Ordered Therapy that Separates Kids from a Parent They Love Stirs a BacklashA controversial treatment used in custody fights can keep family members apart for years against children’s wishes. ‘It all absolutely destroyed me.’August 25, 2024By Daniel Frosch

PHOENIX — Tori Nielsen was 16 when she and her 12-year-old brother were whisked away from their mother at the Maricopa County courthouse by four strangers in a white minivan on the morning of May 27, 2021.

The strangers wouldn’t tell Tori and her brother where they were going, she recalled, as the siblings held hands and cried in the back seat. After hours on the interstate, they arrived at a hotel somewhere by the ocean. The strangers, three men and one woman, barricaded the door to their room with furniture so they couldn’t leave, Tori said.

The next morning, she remembered one of them saying: “You’re going to have a meeting with your father now.”

“At night, the children were moved into a hotel room with their father and his girlfriend, said Tori, recalling how the hotel phone was removed from the room so they couldn’t try to call their mom. Their cellphones had been confiscated the day they were taken from Arizona.”

What Tori didn’t know was that a judge had ordered the children to attend a four-day family reunification program in Ventura, Calif., with their father. The judge determined it was the only way to repair their relationship, damaged during a decadelong custody battle, court documents show.

The children had been living mostly with their mother, Angela Nielsen, and resisted seeing their dad because of his temper, Tori said. But court-appointed evaluators determined that Nielsen was poisoning the kids against their father. She was suddenly barred from contacting her children to ensure they no longer rejected their dad.

It would be around two years before Tori and her brother saw or talked to her again.

“I tried to numb myself to what was happening. It was like surviving,” said Tori, who moved back in with her mom the day she turned 18 in May 2023. “But that only worked for so long because it all absolutely destroyed me.”

Tori’s father declined to speak about his family’s situation, saying he was focused on being the best father to his children.

The treatment the Nielsens underwent is part of an industry of intensive “reunification therapy” that has sprung up during the past decade and is ordered by family courts to settle custody fights. Services like Building Family Bridges, where the Nielsens were forced to go, use videos and exercises to try to break a child’s pattern of rejecting a parent. The child is then ordered to live with that parent for an extended period and barred from having contact with the other parent. A battle has erupted over the approach in courtrooms and statehouses across the country.

After Tori told her story at a hearing with Arizona lawmakers earlier this year, the Republican-led legislature passed a measure prohibiting courts from ordering any reunification treatment that cuts off a child from the parent they prefer unless both parents agree. It was signed by Democratic Gov. Katie Hobbs in April.

Utah, New Hampshire and Tennessee approved similar proposals this year. California and Colorado passed laws restricting reunification treatment in 2023.

Some legal experts and family advocacy groups say the treatment is too extreme and traumatizes children. Child-abuse researchers have raised concerns that the operations, which can cost families tens of thousands of dollars, are unregulated and use pseudoscience to sway courts into believing they can help kids and parents.

“Children are being court-ordered into costly, unregulated reunification treatments or ‘camps,’ which force them into contact with a parent who they often fear for good reason,” said Danielle Pollack, policy manager for the National Family Violence Law Center at George Washington University, which supports restricting the treatment.

But supporters say it’s a last resort during the worst custody disputes, when one parent wants to re-establish a relationship with a child who has shunned them. In these cases, they say, the other, favored parent must be temporarily cut off during the reunification process, to keep from interfering.

“The whole goal here is to ensure a child has a happy, healthy relationship with both their parents,” said Demosthenes Lorandos, a psychologist and attorney who has worked with Building Family Bridges.

disputed theory

Only about 10% of divorces in the U.S. involve significant conflict over custody arrangements, and just a fraction of these need to be decided by a judge, according to Robert Mnookin, a Harvard University professor who studies divorces.

It’s in these cases that the idea of parental alienation syndrome emerged in the 1980s with the late child psychiatrist Richard Gardner.

Gardner posited that a child can be brainwashed by one parent into rebuffing the other during custody fights and even persuaded to make up abuse claims. He testified in numerous cases, recommending in extreme circumstances that a child be taken from the “alienating parent” who had custody and placed with the “rejected parent.”

Gardner’s theory spurred fierce opposition from some mental-health professionals and family-law experts, who said it dismissed children’s legitimate abuse allegations and was being weaponized by mostly fathers seeking custody of kids living with their mothers. Parental alienation syndrome has never been officially recognized as a diagnosis by major medical or psychiatric associations.

Because custody cases are mostly sealed, information is limited on how frequently courts mandate the treatment. Researchers say programs like Building Family Bridges are likely ordered by judges only in especially contentious cases — perhaps as many as several hundred over the past few years.

There has been limited research examining their effectiveness or safety, said Jean Mercer, a professor of psychology who studies the programs and believes they pose serious risks for children.

“We don’t know the simplest things — like how often the mother is alleged to be an alienator, and how often the father is alleged to be an alienator,” Mercer said. “What we do know is there are potential dangers for the kids, like PTSD, and depression and anger at how they were treated. This can be extremely frightening for them.”

Matthew Sullivan, a psychologist and supporter of reunification treatment, said courts typically don’t order the programs until after less intensive interventions have failed and multiple evaluations by experts. Effective treatment seeks to challenge dysfunctional behavior exhibited by the child and both parents, he said.

“These are pretty awful situations on all sides,” said Sullivan.

Costs can range from $8,000 to around $40,000 for the programs, according to documents viewed by the Journal. There are also hourly therapist fees for the “aftercare” program that the so-called alienating parent must typically complete before seeing their children again.

Judges may order the rejected parent to pay the bill up front. In some cases, the favored parent ends up paying a portion.

‘Burst into tears’

The website for Building Family Bridges greets people with a silent video showing what appears to be a teenager on a couch having an intense conversation with a parent. A clipboard-toting counselor looks on.

Describing itself as the “gold standard” of family reunification services, Building Family Bridges says it can help families who therapists and courts thought were beyond reach.

“This innovative four-day workshop helps children reunify with a parent they claim to hate or fear,” the site says.

The site quotes unnamed parents and judges lauding its success. It also cites a study by a former workshop leader that says out of 83 children who had participated in Building Family Bridges, a “significant number” repaired their relationship with the parent they’d previously rejected.

Tori Nielsen’s experience was far different

After arriving in Ventura and spending a sleepless night together, Tori and her brother were ushered across the street to a Crowne Plaza hotel, she said.

In a conference room, their dad, his girlfriend and several Building Family Bridges staff members were waiting. One introduced himself to Tori. She later learned from speaking with other children who’d gone through Building Family Bridges and from a picture she found online that this was Randy Rand, a founder.

Staff read aloud the court order and laid out rules, Tori recalled. The children couldn’t contact their mother for 90 days. If they tried to leave or didn’t participate, they could be sent to a wilderness camp, she said. Bringing up incidents from the past was forbidden. If someone did, staff told Tori that they would stop them by saying, “Moratorium!”

The first two days were spent watching videos that appeared aimed at shifting the kids’ memories about their parents, Tori said. One focused on “The Monkey Business Illusion,” a psychological study that aims to show blind spots in people’s perception of events. The second two days were interactive, with the group writing down traits about themselves and family members.

Rand declined to comment on any specific cases and described parental alienation as “complex, painful for those involved, and nuanced.”

“The Building Family Bridges methodology is available for severe parental alienation cases and continues to be an effective tool for families,” he said.

Lorandos, the psychologist who worked with Building Family Bridges, said he’d observed its workshops and trainings. He likened their work with children who had rejected one parent to deprogramming people who’d been in a cult.

“There’s a lot of re-education around things your dad, for example, may have said about your mom that are not true,” he said.

At night, the children were moved into a hotel room with their father and his girlfriend, said Tori, recalling how the hotel phone was removed from the room so they couldn’t try to call their mom. Their cellphones had been confiscated the day they were taken from Arizona.

“One morning, I woke up and went to the bathroom, and I just looked in the mirror and I thought about what was happening and I burst into tears,” she said.

Immediately following the workshop, Tori and her brother were required to vacation with their dad, who took them to San Diego. Under the court order, they then returned to live with him at his home in the Phoenix suburbs.

Angela Nielsen lived just a few miles away. But under the no-contact order, she couldn’t interact with her children until she completed Building Family Bridges’s “aftercare” curriculum.

It included writing out explanations on why she was forbidden from contacting her kids and why the court had intervened to protect them.

Nielsen said she worked for countless hours on the responses. The therapist administering the program for Building Family Bridges said they were insufficient and that Nielsen was combative, documents show.

The therapist wrote that Nielsen drafted multiple iterations of answers but refused to acknowledge that she’d “ever engaged in any parental alienating patterns.” She therefore couldn’t move onto the program’s next level.

In another report, the therapist noted that while the children’s relationship with their dad was “close and healthy,” they missed their mother and desperately wanted to see her. The report said Tori would prefer to live primarily with her mom, and felt more supported and happier living with her.

These emotions, while normal, were also examples of the kids’ own alienating beliefs, the therapist wrote.

“I would get so upset and so down,” Nielsen said. “Like why can’t I pass this program? I would spend entire weekends working on these questions. I just wanted my children to come home.”

Now staying with her dad and his girlfriend, Tori buried herself in activities: cheerleading, a mentorship club, time at her boyfriend’s house. She stayed “neutral” toward her father, trying to get along with him, hoping it would speed a chance to see her mother, she said.

Her dad’s mood swings continued to upset her, Tori said. And she developed panic attacks, overcome with nausea and shakiness.

On her closet mirror, Tori marked off the days that passed. Just after midnight on May 7, 2023, her 18th birthday, she packed her belongings and told her dad she was leaving. He asked if she was certain she wanted to leave like this, she recalled. Her brother implored her not to forget about him. It broke her heart.

“I kind of just showed up at my mom’s house that day,” Tori said. “We just hugged and cried. It was a surreal and relieving moment, but it was really hard because my brother wasn’t there with me.”

Troubled histories

Concerned by reports of children being traumatized after being removed from a parent to attend reunification programs, Danielle Pollack’s group at George Washington University has been working with lawmakers to limit them.

Kayden’s Law, passed by Congress in 2022, provides federal funding to states that restrict reunification treatment not shown to be effective, and trains judges on how best to evaluate abuse allegations in custody fights.

The law was named after Kayden Mancuso, a 7-year-old Pennsylvania girl who was fatally beaten by her father after a judge allowed him unsupervised visits despite warnings from her mother about his violent history.

“These camps are not about protecting our children or bringing families together. They manipulate children and pass on exorbitant fees to families,” said Arizona state Sen. Shawnna Bolick, a Republican who sponsored the recent measure there.

Supporters of more restrictions note that while the reunification industry includes some well-intentioned therapists, leading proponents have come under scrutiny.

Randy Rand of Building Family Bridges was disciplined by the California Board of Psychology in 2009 for misconduct in two cases, records show. In one, the board found Rand blatantly sided with the father in a custody case he was supposed to be impartially mediating. In a separate case, Rand recommended a permanent custody change without ever interviewing the child, which amounted to gross negligence, the board said.

Rand’s license was placed on probation for five years unless he agreed to have his practice monitored, take an ethics course and pay a $43,000 fine. His license is currently inactive.

In board filings, Rand denied wrongdoing.

Rand said he does not lead Building Family Bridges workshops and serves as “administrative services director.” He said he occasionally provides support to the licensed mental health workers and legal professionals running the sessions.

Linda Gottlieb, who runs the Turning Points for Families reunification program in New York, is the subject of a lawsuit filed in New York state court in March. In the lawsuit, an Ohio woman, Tricia Singer-Romohr, sued Gottlieb for violating rules on deceptive and unfair trade practices, alleging she falsely represented parental alienation as a scientifically accepted disorder that her program could cure.

A judge ordered Singer-Romohr’s two children to participate in Gottlieb’s program in 2021 after determining she was manipulating them into rejecting their father and after hearing testimony from Gottlieb. Singer-Romohr, who had primary custody, was initially barred from contacting her kids for 90 days until Gottlieb determined she was supporting the kids’ relationship with their dad.

In court filings, Singer-Romohr included copies of letters that Gottlieb required she write to her children. Her letters included recollections of good times the kids shared with their dad, and encouraged them to have a loving relationship with him while apologizing for making them feel like they shouldn’t.

Gottlieb told Singer-Romohr that wasn’t enough, according to emails from the filings. After Gottlieb said Singer-Romohr wasn’t complying, the no-contact order ultimately got extended for around 900 days, according to the suit.

Attorneys for Singer-Romohr referred to the lawsuit when asked for comment.

Gottlieb, a marriage and family therapist and social worker, wouldn’t comment on the case. In legal filings, she said parental alienation was widely accepted by courts and that she favors lifting no-contact orders as soon as it’s “clinically advisable.” Gottlieb asserted that it was the judge who extended the no-contact orders and she never made any recommendations about them. In court filings, her lawyer said Singer-Romohr didn’t object to Gottlieb’s involvement until she disagreed with the outcome of the case.

“I think my entire profession, including what I do, has been unfairly criticized with deliberate lies,” Gottlieb said in an interview.

‘Unnecessary and sad’

The house where Tori lives with her mother is cluttered with court documents that have been the weapons in her parents’ war.

Three years since the two children attended Building Family Bridges, Tori’s brother still lives solely with his dad. The aftercare program is effectively on hold, Nielsen said. Earlier this year, a judge granted her four hours a week of supervised visitation with her son.

Tori, who is heading to college in the fall, sees her brother about once a month at her dad’s house and occasionally accompanies her mom on her visits. She leaves feeling despondent.

Among boxes of court filings, several cards and letters are displayed from both kids, expressing how much they love their mother and want to spend time with her. Somewhere in the boxes, there’s a photo of the entire family from more than a decade ago, before the divorce and its aftermath.

Tori, who was 6 when her parents split, said it’s surreal to see them all together. She struggles to understand why her father pursued reunification treatment as a solution. She wants a positive relationship with him. But if anything, the past three years have driven a deeper wedge between them, she said.

“I always asked my dad, ‘Can we please figure this out ourselves and stop involving the courts?’ It all seemed so unnecessary and sad. We could all have gotten along,” she said.

“None of this ever had to happen.”

(The original article is published here: https://www.wsj.com/us-news/reunification-therapy-custody-family-court-5b4e9279?st=q9k56tiw0odemhd&reflink=article_imessage_share.)

‘It’s not like you were beaten’: The horrifying misogyny vulnerable women face from the judge’s benchDomestic abuse survivors warn that — inside the secretive family courts — they are being ‘retraumatised’ by the legal system, and say judges are the worst offenders.16 August 2024By Athena Stavrou

“Domestic violence is a 50/50 thing.” “It’s not like you were beaten.” “Maybe one day you’ll be able to forget what happened.”

These are just some of the shocking comments that vulnerable women say they have been forced to face in court — from the judges tasked with deciding their families’ futures.

They say the comments show a problem with misogyny in the secretive family courts that not only subjects them to further trauma — often in a courtroom with their abuser present — but leads to rulings that can even leave them legally required to face the perpetrator.

Now campaigners are calling for judges who sit in the family courts to undergo further training so they have a proper understanding of the complexities behind domestic abuse, including coercive control, when deciding on cases including access to and custody of children.

‘Reinforcing the coercive control’

Emma* broke up with her partner after 10 years, during which she says he controlled her money and would bill her for “costs” — including when she was on maternity leave raising their child. He was investigated by police for coercive and financial control but, despite this, she faced hours of questioning over money in court after he brought a case against her.

She said she had been put into debt even before the process started, because the assets under her name meant she did not qualify for legal aid despite them being controlled by her ex-husband. She said: “I have assets on paper, but my ex-husband has trapped the capital in those assets [in property], so I am thousands in the red while he controls the assets that I have no access to, because his name is on the mortgages despite the first property being one I bought many years before I knew him.

“Initially his barrister spent a lot of time attacking me on the finances and the money. He focused on the fact that [my ex-husband] was paying for things while I was on maternity leave. So it’s reinforcing the coercive control, it’s reinforcing that you should somehow be grateful that he’s controlling the money.

“The judge was not challenging things that should have been challenged, such as victim-blaming from my ex-partner’s barrister and reinforcement of outdated and sexist attitudes. They were quite happy to just take my husband’s word for everything.

“I was attacked by a barrister for four-and-a-half hours, and the trauma just came right up to the surface that entire time.”

‘The system is abusing them’

A 2020 report published by the Ministry of Justice found that the courts were putting domestic abuse victims and their children at risk of additional harm yet little has been changed since.

Family court cases, which often involve parental disputes concerning the upbringing of children, are anonymised and closed to the public, placing a shroud of secrecy around proceedings. But campaigners say this is also leading to a lack of accountability.

Solicitor Rachel Horman-Brown, who has worked within the family courts for 30 years, said domestic abuse victims face a “lottery” when it comes to who hears their case.

“Some clients feel effectively the system is abusing them and colluding with the perpetrator or minimising the abuse,” she said.

The lawyer said that judges often avoid investigating domestic abuse as it takes up time and resources in a stretched legal system.

“While official guidance has caught up and has recommend that the court takes [domestic abuse] seriously, the reality isn’t quite there,” she said.

“It’s sad we have a system that which judge your case gets put in front of will change the outcome.”

Ms Horman-Brown said more training needs to be offered to judges to deal with domestic abuse.

“This infects all participants within the family system. Judges are the top of that pyramid of power within it,” she said.

“For the judge to make a comment the victim feels is unfair or minimising abuse, hurts so much more than if it was said by a lawyer or social worker.

“That person wields so much power and it really is terrifying for victims if they feel judges don’t understand domestic abuse. It’s something they find really traumatic.”

‘Where can you feel safe?’

Following a decade-long abusive relationship, Sally* was taken to court by the father of her child for visitation rights.

The 31-year-old informed the judge of his abusive past and provided evidence. She requested an investigation but says the judge told her it would have to be shelved “because she didn’t think it was fair”. She added: “What does she mean it’s not fair? It sounded like she didn’t believe me. He did this to me for 10 years, what makes you think he wouldn’t do it to my son?”

She added: “Because she dismissed the abuse, I now have to call him every week and I myself have to drop my son off to him every six weeks.

“It makes me feel sick every time. My stomach turns, I absolutely hate it.”

A campaign launched by Riverlight — which provides support for abuse survivors — has brought to light testimony from victims of their experience during family court proceedings. Survivors were invited to submit testimonies, which also included judges rolling their eyes at mentions of gaslighting and saying: “If you are so afraid of him and we are to believe what you’ve said, how can you sit near him in court?”

The Judicial College, which is responsible for training of judges, said all family judges and magistrates complete an induction and training that covers domestic abuse.

But Riverlight founder Roda Hassan is calling for more to be done. She said: “Victims and survivors constantly tell us that they often feel more abused and victimised by the court system itself than the perpetrator. If you can’t feel safe in a court of law where this happens, then where can you feel safe?”

(The original article is published here: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/family-court-judges-misogyny-domestic-abuse-b2595125.html.)

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Victims of Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca, Unite!

An Impeachment Petition is in Process, and We Need Your Testimonies!

It did not take long to collect almost a thousand signatures on the petition to impeach Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca. The question many may rather ask is, Why did it take so long to do it? The most unthinkable things happen and have happened for a long time in Family Courts, because judges are given unlimited power over families with no accountability. What occurs within Gallina-Mecca’s secret chambers illustrates this fact: her court sells children! It is a lucrative, modern-day slave trade, where she has condemned hundreds and hundreds of children to unspeakable suffering, to a fate worse than death. And yet she gets away with it through draconian “court seals,” which litigants cannot breach on pain of imprisonment — although she may put them in prison anyway, along her path of destroying loving, devoted parents and sometimes their supporters, in order to eliminate witnesses (what the public may not recognize is that, in Family Courts, there is no due process; incarceration happens regularly — increasingly universally — without a trial, without limit, and without the possibility of bail). Gallina-Mecca uses the excuse of “court seals,” preposterously claiming them as needed “for the protection of children,” when they are the only thing that allow for her monstrous crimes against children and adults who love them to continue. She wields them against loving parents so that they cannot access transcripts or other court records in order to defend their children and themselves, or so that she can hold secret, ex-parte hearings without telling them that these hearings even happened. She also uses it to isolate her victims, and to prevent them from speaking to their supports — when even mass murderers are permitted to speak to whomever they wish — as she financially bankrupts and psychologically breaks them. Those who have experienced this judge know that her court is not a court, but a criminal enterprise that has contempt for courts and the law. Murderers literally get away with their crimes in her “courtroom”, as she encourages if not facilitates their violence, and innocent people suffer terribly at the hands of ignorance and greed. Yet, Gallina-Mecca is an archetype, replicated throughout the country and increasingly exported around the world.

We can stop these abuses at one of the epicenters. If you have not yet signed the petition below, please do so, at this link. If you are a victim of this judge, we need your testimony at the time of our presentation of the petition to the New Jersey Senate and to Governor Phil Murphy, who appointed her. Many of you have reached out to me based on my articles, and you can do so confidentially at this address. Your testimonies will also remain confidential.

Petition to Impeach Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca

Started by M B

We are more than 30 mothers (and one father) who are in enormous pain, as our children have undeservedly become victims of a system that was designed to protect them. Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca of Bergen County, New Jersey, is at the epicenter of our grievance, as she has egregiously mismanaged each of our cases, resulting in our children being trafficked to their abusers. The Judge’s abuses of authority have created unimaginable horrors for many families.

It is said that the judiciary forms the backbone of our society, sworn to uphold justice and protect our rights. The Judge’s repeated failure to conduct thorough investigations, failure to hold violent abusers accountable, but rather rewarding them with sole custody of their victims, child support payments, and no obligations to the parent who raised these children has turned our lives into living nightmares.

The issues are not isolated and reflect a larger, egregious pattern of abuses of authority. We reached out to renowned forensic psychiatrist, Dr. Bandy X. Lee, M.D., who had the following to say:

“As a specialist in dangerous personalities, I must alert against a predatory personality pretending to be a judge and devouring the lives of innocent children and adults. She is running an exploitative operation of stealing children from healthy and successful parents to ‘sell’ them to their abusers, who are often their rapists, batterers, and attempted murderers. She seemingly drags out cases only to maximize harm and to induce ‘trauma bonding’ (separating children from their primary caregiver and isolating them in a life-or-death situation with their abuser, so that they cling helplessly to the latter to stay alive).

“Judicial immunity was never meant to be impunity. As an expert witness for the courts for twenty-five years, I have encountered hundreds of judges — but never have I met a judge so outlandish in treating everyone with disdain, who dehumanizes litigants to dangerous degrees, and who treats clear-cut evidence and qualified witnesses with such contempt. She shows respect for no fact or law that interferes with her ability to ‘fix’ her predetermined rulings and to perform what can only be described as show trials.”

We have been wrongly labeled as “disgruntled litigants,” but the desire to protect our children from destruction is only a natural response of loving parents. With great hope, we call on the New Jersey State Legislature to take immediate action, conduct a transparent investigation, and impeach the Judge if found guilty of these crimes. No judge should continue to preside over cases where she can commit atrocities against children and families and remain unaccountable to the law.

We implore fellow Bergen County residents, those affected by similar judicial negligence, and empathic citizens across the country to support us in our plight. Please sign this petition to help us remove this Judge from her position and to protect our children and families.

Please reach out to give your testimony at this address , so that we can present your story among many others with the petition to the New Jersey Senate and to Governor Phil Murphy.

Already, the comments section on this petition contains horrific stories, mirroring many others in the Robing Room :

I, too, had the unfortunate NIGHTMARE of encountering Judge Mecca five years ago in regard to my daughter. She has DESTROYED my family by taking away my parental rights through allowing my daughter to be placed in the custody of her alcoholic, abusive father who is a retired cop in and out of rehabs with suicide attempts as well. Judge Mecca unjustly took away my rights to handle her schooling, 504, medical care and treatment to which she has been left with NO SUPPORTS since 16 years old; because of a negligent father who loves his alcohol more than his children, and has his own untreated SEVERE mental health issues as well. “Judge” Mecca was FULLY aware of this! As an adult, now 21, my daughter has dropped out of high school as an HONOR STUDENT, doesn’t have her GED, didn’t go to college, doesn’t leave the house or go out and make friends, doesn’t have a job or independence, has crippling social anxiety, and other UNTREATED mental health issues by fault of her Father and his negligence. Instead, she’s become her alcoholic father’s “caregiver” and was recently just left in the dark (STILL living with him)with no electricity for 3 months under his “care”. Not only were my hands tied by Judge Mecca when she was a minor/ teenager, but also now because she’s an adult. Her and her Father’s relationship dynamic is unhealthy and codependent. Judge Mecca fully was aware of the situation and my concerns — as well as NJDCPP — and permitted it anyway, even going against the recommendations of the State’s forensic psychologist. All of the responsible offenders from DCPP, my daughter’s attorney they assigned her, and Judge Mecca (which work together and aid each other in this tyranny) deserve hard prison time and a VERY HOT ETERNITY IN HELL!!! I have a broken heart as a Mother, and a now destroyed relationship with my daughter because of all of them — including my abusive ex husband which is why I divorced him after 17 years and was given FULL custody of BOTH of our children with good reason. This should never have been reversed or happened, nor was it deserved or beneficial to my daughter in ANY way. It was SEVERELY damaging and I’m STILL VERY CONCERNED FOR HER WELL BEING. I obviously have concerns about permanent damage to her now which I DON’T take lightly!!! No child should be allowed to be manipulated by a parent or be allowed to choose a parent to live with that’s highly dysfunctional with no structure or rules — who had a DUI crashing the family car (as a retired COP yet), and restraining orders to protect the ex wife (me) and the kids with good reason. My heart goes out to other parents that have been affected by this fraudulent, psychopathic, cold, careless, negligent, and criminally depraved and predatory “judge.” Hopefully this petition will not only get her terminated and barred from the legal system permanently, but will put her away in the criminal system for a VERY long time which she deserves!!!! I think an orange jumpsuit would complement her well, along with her courthouse/DCPP cohorts.

Here is another:

My daughter who turns 3 years old this August, has only gained 2 lbs. 5oz. In the last year, her BMI is 14, and severe injury after severe injury weekly and not only did this judge refuse my pictures and evidence be admitted into the litigation but allowed conflict of interest, perjury, and ordered my one year old to take the Covid vaccine, which is not good for her age and went against my daughter’s pediatrician’s word saying she didn’t need it, while also allowing her mother, who was failing for several illicit drugs and substances that her pediatrician also advised against the continuance of breast feeding with all those harmful substances in her mother’s system, to continue breastfeeding against my daughter’s pediatrician’s wishes, and even after I said I would provide formula and/or breast milk from a breast milk bank for the mother to continue to breastfeed, with all those harmful substances in her system due to a formula shortage — what a joke! Also, DYFS, DCPP refused to act, because they already messed up and didn’t want to admit their failings but told me, “E — , you have a bad attitude, and we don’t like it, and until it changes, you will have your parenting time only in this office, and only supervised by our employees!” I asked if it was a joke and was told to leave if that’s what I thought, by the way I have these statements on recording, which they didn’t like, and reached out to the head of DCF of NJ, Ms. Better, a tyrannical, appointed criminal, who hung up on me and told me, “Do what they tell you to!” This is a disgusting abuse of power and needs to end now. Just look at the initial injury my one year old experienced at the hand of her mother and the DCPP, who said, “This is normal for a one year old!” Absolutely disgusting, but this is the only channel I have left. Please let the public take action, and give power back to where it belongs. I have been dealing with this for the last 2.75 years, and my daughter suffering atrocities that can only be rectified with the help of the public…. Thank you all, please hear my truth!

And there are more.

New Jersey recently permanently removed a municipal judge for misdeeds that are the minimum for Gallina-Mecca: ex-parte communications, illegal fraternizations, and verbal abuse in the courtroom. Gallina-Mecca’s excesses with judicial privileges and protections go further to include at least one highly-publicized murder, as well as a half-dozen more of which I have been told — and yet the Advisory Committee on Judicial Conduct (ACJC) refuses to investigate her after more than two dozen reports, one outlining one hundred seventy violations of the Code of Judicial Conduct. In my sister’s case, the dramatic descent from her peaceful life as a thriving, successful community member and a mother of two healthy and happy children, to losing her children, suffering the greatest tragedies conceivable, and literally fighting for her survival at almost every moment, vividly illustrates the enormity of the abuses. Even her emergency plea to gain access to her own transcripts, to defend her very life against Gallina-Mecca’s appointed guardian ad litem who almost killed her, was denied. Gallina-Mecca and this guardian ad litem work as a team, and almost everything they do consists of abuse of court process, court connections, and conflicts of interest — with no compunction whatsoever. The guardian ad litem truly ludicrously stepped out of bounds when she had one of Gallina-Mecca’s subordinate judges approve a protective order against her own victim whom she almost killed, in order to extend her harassment and control. When my sister tried to apply for a protective order against the guardian ad litem, her assaulter who almost killed her, the same judge denied it without a hearing. It is a sad fact to recognize that these “courts” do not serve justice but mete out the greatest injustices, even to the point of multiple unjust deaths.

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Family Court ‘Officer’ Enlists Court Crony to Issue Protective Order to Harass and Suppress Speech

Court Officer Abuse of Protective Orders, Created for Domestic Violence Victims, against Their Own Victims!

Just when you thought there could not be any new low to the Orwellian Family Courts, a guardian ad litem (GAL), who harassed a mother to a life-threatening condition and stole her children — in co-conspiracy with her violent spouse — now took out a protective order against her victim in order to harass her anew!

The motive is apparently retaliation and control, since the mother’s divorce case ended on May 16, 2024, and the protective order went into effect on June 8, 2024. Despite an absentee husband, the mother had led a happy and healthy household in an affluent neighborhood with two thriving, prodigy children, before calamity and destruction gratuitously rained down on them, 100 percent of the GAL’s own making. The story of my sister is an all-too-common one of those who enter the Family Courts — and it almost never ends.

My sister, Patricia Lee, has not been able to see her children for three years. Before Family Court, she was lauded for her parenting skills and reputed to be “the best mom.”

Family Court Judge Michael Antoniewicz of Bergen County Family Court, subordinate of Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca, the judge protecting the GAL, approved the protective order for “cyber harassment” and “stalking”, even though the mother had not contacted the GAL for over a year. Nevertheless, almost no Family Court process is not use of the rules of the court to abuse the court. Few encounter the kind of gangsterism and criminality as they do in the predatory Family Courts, where lives are easily destroyed and lost. The below is reported by Richard Luthmann and reproduced with permission:

GAL Evelyn Nissirios Accused of Weaponizing the NJ Courts Through Targeting, Judicial AbuseAllegations in Federal Lawsuit: Misconduct Lead to Health Crisis

Aug 02, 2024

By Richard LuthmannFree Speech Under Fire: Protective Orders Raise First Amendment ConcernsCustody Battle Controversy: Father Gains Custody Amid Allegations of Abuse and NeglectGAL Evelyn Nissirios Accused of Weaponizing the New Jersey Courts: Targeting Patricia Lee in Judicial Abuse Case

Evelyn Nissirios, a New Jersey attorney and Court-appointed Guardian ad Litem (GAL) allegedly weaponized the legal system against Patricia Lee, resulting in a severe health crisis and her children being snatched, raising serious legal questions.

Lee filed a case in New Jersey Federal Court. This article highlights the controversy, allegations, and potential legal ramifications.

Background

In November 2021, while serving as GAL for Lee’s children, Nissirios allegedly harassed Lee to the point of causing life-threatening stress-induced high blood pressure, landing her in the emergency room on November 10, claim documents filed in Newark Federal Court.

Two days later, Nissirios allegedly orchestrated a police raid that took Lee’s children without warning. A police report indicates that Nissirios misled authorities by hiding key information and lying about medical appointments. This incident triggered ongoing legal battles for Lee.

Bandy X. Lee, a renowned forensic psychiatrist and violence expert, and sister of Patricia Lee, claims Nissirios has and continues to abuse judicial power to issue protective orders against her and her sister, suppressing their First Amendment rights. This outlet distributes some of Dr. Lee’s commentary on the Family Courts and other issues.

Dr. Lee has joined her sister and is suing GAL Nissirios and others. They claim Nissirios and others conspired to falsely deprive Patricia Lee of the custody of her children and knowingly placed them in the hands of an abuser.

A Legal Battle Unfolds

The November 2021 police raid was just the beginning of Lee’s legal struggles. Lee lost custody of her children to their father, Alan T. Chan, an absentee parent with a history of alleged violence. Despite lacking evidence of wrongdoing, Chan retained custody, raising concerns about the children’s well-being.

Reports indicate that since Chan gained custody, the children have suffered physical injuries, missed school, and lacked access to adequate medical care.

Patricia and Dr. Lee have repeatedly claimed GAL Nissirios and Chan should now face criminal charges for their actions during the police raid. However, these charges are hard to pursue due to unwarranted protections by the New Jersey Family Court.

Dr. Lee alleges that Chan’s actions resemble “tangential spouse abuse” and that he manipulates the legal system to gain custody of the children and avoid financial obligations.

Recent Developments

On July 8, 2024, police served Patricia Lee with a protective order for alleged “cyber harassment” and “stalking,” despite her having no recent contact with GAL Nissirios. Dr. Lee also received a protective order, despite living at a separate address.

These actions appear to target Lee, given her history of severe stress responses to police visits. Dr. Lee contends that these orders are designed to suppress her free speech rights.

The courtroom abuse, the Lees claim, extends to Judge Michael Antoniewicz, who approved the protective orders. Despite evidence to the contrary, Judge Antoniewicz accepted Nissirios’ testimony, which Dr. Lee claims contained numerous documented and clear-cut falsehoods.

Judge Antoniewicz allowed Nissirios to present outdated evidence from October 2021, which should not have been admissible. The stress of the hearing pushed Lee back into a severe medical crisis, the court papers allege.

First Amendment Concerns

Dr. Lee argues that the protective orders are a cover to suppress her right to free speech.

In court, an article by Paul Boyne on the “Family Court Circus” website was cited against her. The state police had already investigated and cleared Dr. Lee of involvement in this article. Boyne now sits in a Connecticut lockup awaiting trial on multiple charges, including violent threats against several judges.

Dr. Lee maintains that her public and truthful writings are being misused as evidence against her. The protective orders represent a desperate attempt to censor her work.

Attempts by Patricia Lee and Dr. Lee to file a protective order against Nissirios were denied without a hearing. Judge Antoniewicz rejected their application, raising questions about judicial impartiality.

Dr. Lee claims these actions are part of a coordinated effort to suppress dissent, involving bringing her and Patricia Lee into the same case to extend illegitimate jurisdiction over Dr. Lee.

This outlet contacted Attorney Nissirios’ law office requesting comment. As of press time, no response was received.

Looking Ahead

The allegations against Evelyn Nissirios highlight serious concerns about judicial misconduct and abuse of power in the legal system. The use of protective orders and potential judicial bias warrants a thorough investigation.

Patricia Lee’s ongoing battle underscores the risks of unchecked authority in the Family Courts. It also raises implications for First Amendment rights and legal ethics.

Stay tuned as this story develops.

(The original article is published here: https://luthmann.substack.com/p/gal-evelyn-nissirios-accused-of-weaponizing.)

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My Proposal to a Family Court Judge, Jane Gallina-Mecca

Life is Cheap in Family Court. But will Family Court Itself Survive Exposure? My Proposal Letter Asks this Question

Honorable Judge Gallina-Mecca:

I am writing to you because your “guardian ad litem” [henceforth GAL], for the second time, nearly killed my sister. Fortunately the emergency room tested her for a heart attack and a stroke and found her to be negative, but this is unacceptable. Just as you cannot ignore your favored litigant, Alan T. Chan, owing me almost $850,000.00 (eight hundred fifty thousand dollars), you cannot turn a blind eye to [GAL] co-conspiring with Alan T. Chan to try to murder his wife and my sister, Patricia Lee. You have chosen this as your jurisdiction, and you are responsible.

GAL has tried multiple times to harm Patricia Lee physically — in addition to raiding her in the most violent fashion possible to rip her crying, screaming, and clinging children away from her. GAL is now under criminal charges for her first life-threatening assault.

Now that I have finally, at long last, heard everything from my sister — because of GAL’s frivolous and absurd “protective order” against her — I can see why you, in a naked effort to undermine and sabotage Patricia Lee’s defense, have denied my critically-needed testimony against Alan T. Chan and prohibited my sister from discussing anything with me about her case.

Unheard of in American jurisprudence, you barred a defendant from choosing her own support for three years — as you systematically isolated, bullied, and tried to break her psychologically, including by not allowing her to see her children for even one minute or to talk to them over the phone for three years. You have also allowed your favored litigant, in collusion with GAL, to co-conspire to cause his wife’s “medical” demise.

You took a system entrusted to you by the Constitution and governed by the Laws of New Jersey — and violated that system to commit unconscionable acts against vulnerable children and their innocent mother.

When this case started almost four years ago, Alan T. Chan, who suddenly decided he needed to take possession of his children for financial advantage in his divorce, had a restraining order against him for causing serious bodily injury to both of Patricia Lee’s children.

Now, my sister and I are facing Family Court Judge Michael Antoniewicz — under your direction as chief judge of Bergen County Family Court — who granted a bogus, fabricated, trumped-up temporary protective order for GAL, for “harassment” and “stalking”, when my sister’s last contact with GAL was by email almost a year ago, in relation to her own litigation. He made his intentions clear when my sister, truly afraid for her life, tried to file for a protective order against GAL — and he denied it without a hearing. His indefensible decisions can only be to stop me and my sister from telling the truth about the egregious violations of human rights and public trust of this Court.

This is because, once the Court of Public Opinion hears what you have done, in giving full custody of my sister’s children to their abusive father — against their desperate pleas — the public will plainly see for itself that you have condemned two children to a life of unspeakable suffering, as well as physical and mental trauma from which they may never recover.

Everyone who has seen photos of my sister’s children has commented that they look like they have been interned in a concentration camp. They were of average height and weight when they were living with their mother — and since you gave full, sole custody to Alan T. Chan, three years ago, they stopped growing. Both are now the shortest students in their respective classes, still fitting into the same clothes they were taken in, because their father is too stingy to buy them new clothes, let alone feed them.

My sister has submitted to you reams and reams of evidence from psychiatrists as well as from many other sources that overwhelmingly and convincingly prove that Alan T. Chan is not only unfit to parent, but is also likely to be physically violent and mentally abusive. Your decision to give full custody of Patricia Lee’s children to Alan T. Chan is based on the recommendations of GAL who is documented to have lied to this Court over three hundred fifty times — and, as is coming to light, has perjured herself over two hundred times in this case alone. These are serious, felony crimes.

GAL’s relentless three-year campaign was to advance the false narrative that Patricia Lee was not mentally fit — despite ten highly-qualified mental health experts stating the opposite. The purpose of the false narrative, of course, was for GAL and yourself to justify auctioning off her children to the highest bidder: Alan T. Chan.

You defined my sister as “contumacious”, which means “disobedient”. Is it “disobedient” for a devoted mother to fight for the return of her children, against this Court’s defiance and desecration of the U.S. Constitution and all logic, rationality, human decency, and natural law — to condemn two children to a fate worse than death? You have unwaveringly, without exception over the past four years, granted absolutely everything Alan T. Chan asked of you, and at the same time consistently denied every reasonable request Patricia Lee made to this Court.

Also, in coordination with GAL, you suppressed all incriminating evidence against Alan T. Chan and denied the testimony of ten psychiatrists and psychologists who deemed my sister to be mentally fit and stable, with “excellent mental health” and “exceptional talent in parenting” — after interviewing numerous friends and parents who know her — a job GAL never performed. And when GAL could not find a single compromised psychiatrist who would fraudulently declare Patricia Lee to be unfit, she lied that my sister refused a psychiatric evaluation, falsely placing her in “default”.

It is obvious to anyone who knows Patricia Lee that she is an exemplary, devoted, nurturing, and loving mother, which is why they nicknamed her “the best mom” — lauded by all the mothers and teachers in the neighborhood — prior to the unconstitutional abduction of her children without cause or due process. Shame on this court!

This court turned a blind eye to the pathetic reality that Alan T. Chan had to recruit his 87-year-old, hepatitis-infected father to care for the children and to act as a surrogate mother and father — because Alan T. Chan is constitutionally incapable of doing so. And yet, despite his being an unfit parent in every conceivable way, you will be granting him full custody of Patricia Lee’s children. Do you truly believe that your decision will not shock the conscience of any reasonable person outside the fantasy world of this court?

You were entrusted with the sacred responsibility to protect innocent children. Instead, for reasons too scandalous and hideous to mention, you decided to sell them to their abusive father….

Your sorry attempt to continue hiding the abuses of your court by “sealing” the proceedings of the case against Patricia Lee, who has not been permitted to see motions or transcripts in her own case — yet another example of your abuse of authority — and the extreme unconstitutional isolation in which you have intentionally placed her for the last three years, will be explosive for the world to discover….

[My proposal to Jane Gallina-Mecca remains private for now. Gallina-Mecca is representative of the so-called “Family Courts” in this country, which view victims of domestic violence and child abuse as “opportunities” for predatory plunder. It is the largest child trafficking business in the country, sending 60,000 children per year to their torture, rape, battery, and murder. They are the main supply source for pedophilic sex rings and child pornography production. In order to attract perpetrators of abuse, they promise them custody of their victims, as well as rich financial rewards. Judges and guardians ad litem then “fix” the cases through their own criminal activity, which they conceal under “court seals.” The practice has become so lucrative, there are hardly exceptions: almost no victim child goes to the right parent, at least in my experience as an expert witness — for that would be a loss to the 50- to 175-billion-dollar industry! Nearly a thousand children have been murdered through this arrangement, and mothers are dying at alarming rates, just as my sister almost died recently from GAL’s harassment — through a Family Court-issued “protective order,” of which she, an actual victim, was denied. Those who enter a Family Court and feel as if they are now in the grips of a Mexican cartel should know that they are neither alone nor unique — only, they may be warned that Family Courts are actually more brutal, carrying the title of “Courts”, being government-subsidized, and weaponizing “the Law” without limit. The reason “Family Courts” are terrified of exposure is because they are not real courts — and their whole criminal enterprise would crumble if the world only knew the truth of their atrocities.]

… You will not be a Family Court judge forever. One day you will retire, and you will reflect every day of your retirement on what you have accomplished during your life. You will have the chance to reminisce on one of two things: You will either see the horrified faces of hundreds of children you have condemned to a life of unspeakable suffering and a fate worse than death. Or you will … see the happy, joyful, smiling faces of children in which you honored your sacred duty to protect and provide the safest environment for innocent and vulnerable children.

The choice is yours….

Yours truly,

Bandy X. Lee, M.D., M.Div.

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Free Speech Violation Disguised as a Protective Order

My Affidavit Reveals the Lengths to which Family Court Actors will Go to Hide Their Violent Crimes and ‘DARVO’ (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender)

AFFIDAVIT OF BANDY LEE

I, Bandy Lee, duly sworn upon oath, declare the following statement is true to the best of my knowledge:

1. I am a forensic psychiatrist and expert witness for the courts with twenty-five years of experience. I am also a faculty member of the Harvard Program in Psychiatry and the Law. When I consulted a preeminent constitutional scholar at Harvard Law School with all the evidence I had, he agreed that [Guardian ad Litem, or hitherto “GAL”] and the court of Jane Gallina-Mecca were violating the U.S. Constitution. He even wrote a personal letter to Gallina-Mecca, urging her to keep with the Constitution, but she ignored it.

2. In January 2022, alarmed at [GAL’s] and Jane Gallina-Mecca’s due process violations and contempt for the Law, I informed them that, unless there was a change of course, I would go public with their deeds. They merely responded that I am “not a litigant,” and conveyed no concern. Indeed, I would come to discover routine, reckless endangerment of lives under Gallina-Mecca, with at least one death widely publicized. [GAL] herself has boasted “absolute judicial immunity” regarding her deeds.

3. I have worked for the past two and a half years to expose [GAL] as a corrupt court official who endangers the lives of the very children she has been entrusted to protect. Without remorse, she has harassed, falsely arrested, orchestrated false police raids, and co-conspired to intimidate witnesses — and invariably gave custody to the physically or sexually abusive parent in virtually all cases in which she participated.

4. [GAL] is now abusing a new statute that allows for a protective order against “cyber harassment” and “stalking”. How is telling the truth harassment? Her petition is a naked attempt to circumvent the First Amendment, and a rebuke she received from legal departments of major news outlets, for her and Gallina-Mecca’s “presumptively unconstitutional prior restraint against ongoing publication.” The Washington Post previously reported on Gallina-Mecca’s illegal interference with the press. [GAL’s] goal is clear: to bend the law backwards to make my constitutionally-protected speech a threat of physical harm, so that she can prey on vulnerable children with impunity.

5. [GAL] lies or misleads multiple times in her certification. Most notably, she concocts a connection between me and a third author, unknown to me, who advocates the Second Amendment, displays stacks of ammunition, and places her picture behind crosshairs. Her dramatic display belies the fact that she already knows there is absolutely no connection between me and this author, because when this article was first published on February 4, 2023, [GAL] immediately called the state police. The state police did a thorough investigation and concluded that there was no basis whatsoever for her making a connection with me. At the time, she assumed that I wrote the article. My very first article on [GAL], dated February 17, 2023, clearly postdates that article, as I cite the article and denounce any violence (see Exhibit A).

6. [GAL] has refused to acknowledge that multiple agencies and individuals are investigating her and Jane Gallina-Mecca’s crimes, as the above-referenced article makes clear. Instead, she has harassed Patricia Lee for any random party that revealed about her case. She even used this false attribution to force Patricia to pay almost $27,000, without an investigation, when the judge recommended $5000 ([GAL] stated that the only way she would accept $5000 is if my sister would stop any future articles from being published — a power my sister clearly did not have). The absurdity of [GAL’s] taking out a protective order against Patricia, when Patricia has never posted or said anything negative about [GAL] — her last communication was an email related to her litigation, dated July 23, 2023 — reveals [GAL’s] total lack of credibility.

7. Lest we forget — my sister had her screaming, crying children literally pulled from her arms by a “SWAT team” of five police officers, in a blatant kidnap orchestrated by [GAL] and her abusive husband. [GAL] assigned her to be with her children that weekend, when they went to a nearby hotel to access a pool, as the children were suicidal after their father had secretly taken them to a faraway resort the weekend before (they called their maternal grandfather in terror — which is how we learned that he violated court directives by taking them out of state without permission).

8. Instead of protecting these children, [GAL] has not only co-conspired with their abusive father to abduct and isolate them but has harassed, intimidated, assaulted by false police raid, and almost caused the death of Patricia Lee. Patricia developed post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) only after [GAL’s] raids, when she did not have this diagnosis even after thirteen years of domestic violence and coercive control. [GAL] is solely responsible for abducting her previously healthy and happy children from their devoted mother to isolate them with the father who almost killed each of them by head injury and was placed on a restraining order shortly before [GAL] transferred them to his sole custody, to their precipitous medical decline ever since.

9. Additionally, [GAL’s] request for a gag order constitutes a curtailment of my rights and privileges as a physician. I am a mandated reporter, legally required to report child abuse at any medical suspicion, and to repeatedly report ongoing abuse. I have encountered obstacles every step of the way because of her and Jane Gallina-Mecca’s interferences with Child Protective Services and the Child Abuse Hotline. Gallina-Mecca has also shielded [GAL] from investigation by the Office of Attorney Ethics.

10. [GAL’s] greatest fear is exposure of the truth. She has conjured up an implausible false narrative that she is being physically threatened because of a “tweet” from someone whom I have never met nor contacted. I am a New York Times bestselling author with an X audience of over 100,000. Of my thousands of posts, if one erratic response was all [GAL] could find, then the protection of life I endeavor to provide clearly outweighs any unintended harm. Since my articles, judicial reformers have called upon me to testify before seven different State legislatures about Family Court abuses. Almost forty other victim litigants of [GAL] have come forth to share with me [GAL’s] pattern of transferring thriving children from devoted, nurturing parents to abusers (who use the children to extort “child support” or for other money-making schemes). A documentary film is underway with their testimonies.

11. What Evelyn [GAL] is calling “stalking” is the fact that the Saddle River community, protesting her remaining on their Board of Education — despite her being voted out in November 2023 — invited me to report my observations to the Board. Several of the above victim parents offered to testify, which we were in the process of arranging when [GAL] filed for her abusively frivolous protective order.

12. The irony is that the one who needs restraining is Evelyn [GAL], not myself or my innocent sister. [GAL] has constantly harassed my sister for my articles, when my sister has never been my source of information. I write about my own witness, what independent investigators tell me, and what I read about in articles such as the one [GAL] cited, which often have more information on my sister’s case than myself. Additionally, [GAL] has violently assaulted or arrested both of us through false police raids by lying to the police, after which all charges were dropped. One violent raid almost killed my sister, for which the State of New Jersey criminally charged [GAL] as of March 26, 2024 (see Exhibit B). She even perpetrated a violent police raid against a parent of the Saddle River community — which shocked a community unaccustomed to such violence by a Board of Education member in its history. Many who are familiar with [GAL’s] and Jane Gallina-Mecca’s gangster-like ways have warned me that my life is in danger. I have taken down several articles in response to their cautioning, and others have told me, in no uncertain terms, that my public presence was keeping me alive. There is at least one reporter who died while confronting Gallina-Mecca. [GAL] gets her way through weaponization of the police, threats, intimidation, and constant lying. She lied in her certification that no criminal charges exist. Her more than 350 lies to the court and multiple counts of felony perjury have been submitted to authorities. The rest is being handled through federal litigation.

13. This protective order is therefore a subterfuge for an illegal “cease and desist” order from my publishing or speaking the truth. [GAL’s] desperate strategy, under Jane Gallina-Mecca’s tacit approval, is to deny my First Amendment rights of freedom of expression. Bringing under public scrutiny their abuses of power, in government betrayal of public trust, is the very purpose of the First Amendment. By claiming a false “threat of harm,” they intend to hide their public harm; to negate our federal charges; and to undermine the petition for Gallina-Mecca’s impeachment that over thirty of her victim litigants have organized, gathering 700 signatures in three weeks. This is why they are using a fellow judge in the Bergen County Family Court system under Gallina-Mecca’s supervision as chief judge, to silence my free expression. Both [GAL] and Gallina-Mecca have a track record of trying to exert control over me, first by pulling me into my sister’s divorce case (even as they denied me my testimony), and now through a frivolous protective order, which is but a perversion to restrain victims’ ability to challenge perpetrators. Their obvious intent is to stigmatize me, to justify future assaults against me, and ultimately to endanger my life. Before moving forward, there must be an unsealing of my sister’s court records, which should reveal that the seal itself, secretly issued and backdated by four months (for which we have proof), was not to protect children but to cover up [GAL’s] and Gallina-Mecca’s egregious, predatory exploitation of them and the adults who love them.

Signed and Notarized,

Bandy X. Lee, M.D., M.Div.

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