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One Thing Terrorizes Family Courts like Nothing Else: Exposure of TRUTH

Evelyn Nissirios Should NOT Fraudulently be Able to Portray this Public Record as ‘Harassment’ — Even in Compromised Judge Michael Antoniewicz’s Kangaroo ‘Court’

COURT STATEMENT (UNDER OATH) BY BANDY LEE, MD, MDIV

I must say, in my twenty-five years of practice as a forensic psychiatrist, I have never experienced a court so resistant to receiving a reply brief [legal document], with stonewalling so extreme that I had to submit an order to show cause [emergency application], just to submit five pages debunking Plaintiff Evelyn Nissirios’ lies before this hearing. This happened before, when I tried to refer her for a mental competence evaluation, which you [Judge Michael Antoniewicz] obstructed, of course, because she was sure to fail — and her mental incompetence is precisely what is useful in family court.

Under the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment, and consistent with Caperton v. A.T. Massey Coal Co., a judge must recuse himself when a party’s right to a fair and impartial trial is endangered. Your continued refusal to adjudicate or even to acknowledge Evelyn Nissirios’ 600 documented lies and acts of perjury in official proceedings, satisfies this requirement and compels mandatory recusal…. The context of this unconscionable behavior is that Evelyn Nissirios’ perjury is useful to you, because you are trying to contrive a conviction through the pretense of a “trial”, using deliberate deception.

This is why, after my first motion to recuse, and my second motion to recuse, you are still on this case. I had to file a federal lawsuit for your constitutional violations, and you will give any reason not to remove yourself, even though … if the federal lawsuit involves abuse of power, retaliation, or due process violations, the judge must recuse.

But you are not. So you are setting yourself up for severe legal consequences for making a mockery of justice. There are people monitoring this trial who are aghast at your behavior and the extreme disregard for any semblance of constitutional law. We all know that you are a subordinate of Jane Gallina-Mecca, who has already actively intervened in your trial, documenting and proving for the world how compromised your court is. We know that you worked with Evelyn Nissirios extensively in the past, and any judge with any semblance of integrity and ethics under these circumstances would automatically recuse himself. This is not a fraternity where you extend professional courtesies to each other with a wink of the eye. You are not a judge in a court in China or Russia. The very foundation of American democracy, and the guiding principle on which the entire American judicial system is founded, is the Constitution of the United States. Do you even know what this means? Or are you so accustomed to colluding with your colleagues, that you consider yourself above the Law?

Here are the incontrovertible facts: the family court system across the continent has become the moral equivalent of a child slave trade. I am not the only one to say so; a report by the United Nations Human Rights Council, A/HRC/53/36, states essentially the same. Mothers and children have no rights at all, the Constitution is thrown out the window, and billions of dollars are being made by professionals who willfully exploit the existence of domestic violence, physical abuse of children, sexual abuse of children, and the sex trafficking and pornography industry of children.

Instead of honoring your sacred, sworn duty to protect families, you side with the violent perpetrators and predators of society. Let us be clear: Evelyn Nissirios is a predator and henchwoman for this slave trade. Loving mothers and sometimes fathers have had their children ripped away from them, viciously, brutally, and violently, using police SWAT teams, because this is how Evelyn Nissirios ensures that her victims are so traumatized and so incapacitated, that they will not be able to fight back against her theft of their children through violent kidnapping. The gangster methods she employs, or the psychological equivalent of brass knuckles and clubs that she brings to batter innocent parents, demonstrates the very degree of her guilt.

This is how this fraudulent “protective order” began, and why Evelyn Nissirios is using it to retaliate and to reverse victim and offender. Why have you not reacted to the fact that Evelyn Nissirios literally almost killed my sister four times since falsely weaponizing this frivolous case with the sole intent to assault her emotionally and psychologically, so much so that she had to be admitted into the intensive care unit, and now suffered irreparable injuries? Having co-conspired to murder her with her violent ex-husband as far back as in 2021, Evelyn Nissirios knows exactly how to maximally harm her. You keep saying her lawyer should speak for my sister, not I, but I am now her ADA [Americans with Disabilities Act] advocate as well as her attorney-in-fact, who has watched her go from superior health and superb performance to being debilitated and needing round-the-clock, 24-hour care since entering family court. My question for you is, how do you issue a protective order against my sister, who had not even contacted Evelyn Nissirios for a year, while you refuse to issue one against Evelyn Nissirios, who has repeatedly attempted to kill my sister, in order to eliminate her as a witness? Without Evelyn Nissirios, my sister’s children would still be the happy, healthy, and thriving prodigy children they were when they were with her, instead of ceasing to grow and going from perfect attendance to missing half of school, since being forcibly imprisoned with their violent abuser, who almost killed each of them by head injury. Child psychiatrists have called what Evelyn Nissirios did to these children, “soul murder,” but for you she is a victim? A victim of what? Truth telling of her actual deeds?

Silencing victims and their witnesses is what this “protective order” is really about. In Bergen County Family Court, profit replaces justice, cruelty becomes “law”, and the truth dies in darkness — and I can back up these claims with plenty of evidence. This is why they only punish loving parents who try to protect their children from abuse, rape, battery, and murder — exactly what the parents need to be doing for their children — and instead intentionally impose the worst kind of violence one can perpetrate against well-bonded parents and children: to separate them for a lifetime, as if they were dead to one another. Evelyn Nissirios stole my niece and nephew by conjuring false charges against my sister, and has not returned them for four years. Not only the mother but all the loving and caregiving adults in their lives cannot ever see or hear from them. This is why I began writing about Evelyn Nissirios, and then when dozens of litigants contacted me with similar stories, I began writing about them, too. The public needs to know that a supposed public servant is actually a predator and trafficker of children, who has destroyed dozens if not hundreds of lives by sending innocent, vulnerable children to their abusers, rapists, attempted murderers, and members of pedophilic sex rings. Many have thanked me for alerting them of her true nature and called what I have done, “a public service.”

She would deserve the electric chair in some states, but this court protects her, because she brings in good business. This is why the Office of Attorney Ethics would not investigate the dozens of complaints against her but instead appointed her as secretary, and this is why the Advisory Committee on Judicial Conduct would also not respond to similar charges against Jane Gallina-Mecca, the chief judge of family court, even after accusations of multiple murders have arisen against her.

Jane Gallina-Mecca has been on what can only be described as a mad rampage to retaliate against me for years, even disparaging me as a “political judge hunter” in front of unrelated observers. In truth, she is terrified of the exposure I could give her, being a New York Times bestselling author with a book coming out, starring in a documentary, and helping to refer her for impeachment, with more than 2500 petitioners and three dozen witnesses willing to testify against her in her pending impeachment trial.

Jane Gallina-Mecca has at least a decade-long history of trying to control the press, for which she was even shamed by the Washington Post. But not being able to succeed with me, she charged you, as her subordinate, with doing what she herself could not do — which is to silence me. She has stalked me, falsely arrested me, tried to report me as a “terrorist”, and sent secret orders to news agencies, demanding that they “unpublish” my interviews. When she was severely rebuked for violating the First Amendment, she astonishingly went back to her drawing board, reissued another order, and tried again!! When she repeatedly failed in her attempts by being rebuked instead, in what can only be described as an act of desperation, she enlisted you to issue for her a prior restraint on my protected speech, in the guise of a “protective order”! Even if you say you are unrelated to Jane Gallina-Mecca, which is hardly possible, you are dealing with Evelyn Nissirios, who works with her in just about every case now, so joined are they at the hip.

Tell me, how is writing truthful articles to hold a government-appointed individual accountable — articles that she must look up the Internet to find — “harassment” that requires a protective order? Any reasonable, well-informed person would know that you have been recruited to be an enforcer for a runaway court — and not to be an independent judge. By faithfully and obediently serving in this reprehensible role assigned to you by Jane Gallina-Mecca — you have made a mockery of American justice.

I find it uncanny that, just a few weeks after Jane Gallina-Mecca lost direct control following the close of my sister’s trial, that this “protective order” would be issued. The timing and outcome strongly support coordinated retaliation and obstruction. And Jane Gallina-Mecca’s interjection on April 15, 2025, to intervene in my attempts to get transcripts, now proves her involvement.

In summary, you have disqualified yourself not just by “casting an intolerable cloud of partiality over [your] judicial conduct” but through active collusion.

First, you took extraordinary measures to deprive Co-Defendant Patricia Lee and myself the opportunity to obtain counsel at the first hearing, forcing us into a trial on the first day, so that we could not easily dismiss or appeal this case.

Second, you faithfully followed Plaintiff Evelyn Nissirios’ script, no matter how absurd or frivolous, going so far as to parrot her counsel’s words, verbatim, numerous times.

Third, you refused to recuse yourself from the case despite a federal, 42 U.S.C. 1983 litigation, extensive past working relations with Evelyn Nissirios, and Jane Gallina-Mecca’s brazen intrusions coming to light.

Fourth and finally, you repeatedly rescripted events in Evelyn Nissirios’ favor, despite continually being corrected on the record: for example, you continued to insist that my former counsel agreed to take down my articles and that I did not contradict her during the “two opportunities” — two court hearings — I had, when the exact opposite happened: I contradicted my attorney at the soonest opportunity by writing a letter to the Court on the same day — since the clerk muted my microphone for the hearing. And when the Court did not respond, I submitted a follow-up declaration and a motion — then, at the next Court hearing, my former attorney did not contradict my declaration or my repeated statement that I did not authorize her to agree to take down my articles.

I will note that, when I corrected you about this at the April 4, 2025, hearing, the court resisted giving me the audio recording. When I finally obtained it, only the portion where I corrected you was missing. This was when, out of the blue, Jane Gallina-Mecca interjected and placed a protective order on the recording, in a case that is not under her jurisdiction and has no business with her, apparently to hide the tampering of evidence….

*I have been invited to give my testimony to the Arizona Joint Legislative Ad Hoc Committee on Family Court Orders tomorrow, June 16, 2025, and I hope to see many there! I will be doing so in both my expert as well as personal capacity. I will be calling national attention to the movement to impeach Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca , which now exceeds 2600 petitioners, to be submitted to the General Assembly this week! Help us to turn the tide by holding accountable one of the most notorious judges who exemplifies the unacceptable corruption and cruelty of the Family Courts, all around the country!

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Whatever Violence You Endured in Your Life, Family Court will Show You Worse

‘Surviving Him was Just the Beginning: How Family Court Took My Children’

The worst criminals are not your abusers or violent perpetrators, but “judges” in Family Court. This is because they wield unchecked power from behind the bench, while inflicting greater injury than one may ever encounter in situations of domestic violence, stranger attacks, or even the horrors of war — precisely because it comes from an unexpected source. Few would suspect that a figure cloaked in the authority of a black robe — entrusted with upholding the law and dispensing justice — is actually a child predator or a serial murderer. Yet, tragically in Family Court, the chances are probably more likely than not. Because of “judicial immunity,” unlimited “discretion”, and the latitude to “fix” any record, all manner of sadistic, psychopathic, and homicidal individuals congregate in these so-called “Courts”, to carry out their deranged acts of cruelty and injustice. Many would deserve the electric chair in some states, save for their black robes, but in Family Court they get to lord over vulnerable and helpless families not only with impunity, but for billions of dollars in rewards. Family Court is considered “the sewer” of the judicial system, even by other judges, although it is unclear how aware other members of the judiciary are of the criminal activity and devastating atrocities that are occurring as par for the course in Family Court.

Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca is a case in point, but hardly an extraordinary exception. She exemplifies the grave dangers that result from giving unstable individuals unchecked power. She believes that her judicial position entitles her to send every child who enters her courtroom into a life sentence to hell. Parents who resist or question her authority — especially those who act out of love and concern — are marked for decimation, and will quickly find themselves psychologically shattered, financially ruined, physically threatened, and reputationally destroyed. A lifetime of impunity for committing the most heinous crimes possible against loving parents and their innocent children has made her consider herself “God”, grow apoplectic at the mere suggestion of accountability, and rampage against any who dare to defy her with a ferocity unbecoming of the bench. She is alleged to have played a role in the death of at least one journalist and has used her authority to issue false arrests, fabricated protective orders, and other punitive measures against individuals who would criticize her, including myself. One piece of writing was enough for her to report me as a “terrorist”.

She almost murdered my sister ten times, in collaboration with her violent ex-husband, who would have been incarcerated years ago if not for her “protection”. She removed criminal charges against her co-conspirators — such as her favorite partner in crime, Evelyn Nissirios — without a trial, extending her impunity. In this manner, she exonerates criminals, intimidates and retaliates against witnesses, tampers with evidence while manufacturing false narratives to support predetermined outcomes. Disturbingly, she leaves a trail of dead bodies behind her — not to mention the “soul murder” of countless children entrusted to her court. Despite this, she remains insulated by the sweeping protections of judicial immunity afforded her, and the threats, intimidation, and violence she can unleash if anything is less than to her liking. In fact, my life is perpetually at risk because of her, and I have let it be widely known that, if anything happens to me, even if an “accident”, the greater probability that she is the culprit (with Nissirios acting as her lackey), more than any other possibility. Such concentrated power, unchecked and unexamined, thus poses a profound threat not only to individual litigants and the integrity of the judicial system, but society as a whole.

Guardians ad litem, ubiquitously utilized in Family Courts, require even less qualification than the unfit judges who appoint them. Therefore, they are positions frequently occupied by child predators, in the same way that the Boy Scouts and the Catholic Church have become favorite hiding places for malevolent actors. That is why, Arizona and New York State, or any place that values children and human life enough to bother to look, are horrified when they do. Nissirios, mentioned above, is perhaps the most barbaric and brutal gangster I have met in my lifetime of treating and specializing in violent offenders, and yet she is a “guardian ad litem” for children!!

And finally, as a forensic psychiatrist and expert witness for the courts, it grieves me to say, many mental health professionals, lured by the dollar sign, sell their souls to “fix” reports for Family Courts, in order to send children to their torture, battery, rape, sex trafficking, and murder. It is the very betrayal of our sacred duty — and what used to be the domain of the most poorly-trained, uncredentialed “experts” who would write fraudulent reports for hundreds of thousands of dollars a piece — where else could an unlicensed “associate counselor” make that much! — but now more and more psychologists and even psychiatrists are jumping on this bandwagon….

Hence, when heartrending stories such as the below reach me, I seek to assure the reader that there was no escape for this mother. It was not exceptional circumstances that brought her here: the usual domestic violence offender transmogrifies to grotesque proportions in Family Court; no lawyer, no power position, and not millions of dollars in the bank would have changed the predetermined ruling to deliver maximal destruction; and no personal decision could have been made differently, so as to change the course. The only variable, perhaps, might be if one were less exemplary — less superb as a parent; less successful, healthy, and thriving; or less radiant with love and compassion — then the outcome might have been better, for these are precisely the qualities the miscreants and misfits of Family Court set out to annihilate. Indeed, they possess an uncanny ability to identify the criminal in the courtroom, so that they can entice them, draw them into their orbit, and co-conspire with them in their orgy of carnage. This is the direction that the abuse industry — where intoxication with power, moral decay, and the lust for genocide dominate — leads. I therefore can confirm everything that this loving mother says:

Surviving Him Was Just the Beginning: How Family Court Took My Children

I am a mother who was violently assaulted — beaten, raped, and strangled — and who then lost custody of her children, not because I was unfit, but because I tried to protect them. My story is not a tragic anomaly. It is the consequence of a family court system that enables abusers, punishes survivors, and silences truth. My story is not a high-conflict custody dispute. My story is about state-sanctioned coercive control.

My ex-husband was controlling throughout our marriage, but when I left him in 2019, he escalated his abuse into something far more insidious: a campaign to destroy me through the courts. He became the calm, “reasonable” parent in the courtroom — while behind the scenes, he emotionally tormented our daughters and manipulated every institutional tool available to isolate them from me. I followed every court order. He broke them repeatedly. Still, the courts rewarded him.

In 2022, I was brutally attacked by a man I was dating. It was a violent, documented crime — I was hospitalized, a restraining order was issued, and the case proceeded through criminal court. While I was still recovering in the hospital, my ex exploited my trauma to strip me of custody. Prior to this, we had no formal custody agreement, despite my pleas to the court to issue one for the children’s sanity. My ex claimed I had “provoked” my own rape, and family court attorneys echoed the sentiment. I was made to cover my bruises because they might “upset” the judge — and then labeled a criminal, despite having no charges, no convictions, and no history of being deemed unfit. The court ordered supervised visits. My children and I have not lived together since.

I never lost custody through a ruling. In fact, an extensive custody evaluation recommended that we share custody. Still, my ex threatened to drag out the trial for years at a cost of hundreds of thousands of dollars. I finally gave up litigation after a year because I couldn’t bear to force my daughters to go through the battling anymore. I was representing myself, exhausted, grieving, and suffering from PTSD. I thought I was acting out of love by shielding my children. But love wasn’t enough.

Since then, my daughters have been systematically cut off from any meaningful relationship with me. Phone calls were silenced. Visits canceled. My attempts to reconnect led to further restrictions. He punished the girls for missing me, reinforcing the lie that I was unstable. He manipulated them into silence. The court gagged me from speaking to my children’s schools, doctors, or therapists. All while he withdrew them from schools, traveled with them out of state, and attempted to institutionalize one of our daughters, all without my knowledge or consent.

When I brought these violations to court, I was ignored — or further punished.

The man assigned as minor’s counsel, William Spiller Jr., is emblematic of the system’s failures. He lies under oath, does little to nothing for his minor clients, and is under investigation for falsely claiming military honors. He carries a loaded gun in court, openly boasts about “gifts” from clients, and delays cases to increase billing. He refuses to speak to my daughters or their teachers. He told me — before ever meeting them — that they would be sent to a wilderness boot camp, part of the abusive Troubled Teen Industry. Today, my daughters are 14 and 16. One has not attended school in three years.

Mr. Spiller has no issue with this. They are being groomed for confinement and erasure.

Spiller is not alone. He is protected by a system that rewards silence, enables predators, and vilifies protective mothers. There are countless stories like mine — women whose trauma is used against them, whose truth is rebranded as instability, who are punished for trying to protect their children.

My youngest daughter once dreamed of being a scientist. She now faces involuntary commitment — not because she is a danger, but because it would be convenient for her father. Her father said before I left: “If you leave me, I’ll take the kids and make you homeless.” And that’s exactly what the court is helping him do.

This past Mother’s Day, I asked for a few hours with my children. No restraining order prevents it. Our custody agreement allows it. The children have expressed wanting to see me. But their father refused, and the court did nothing. No explanation. No legal justification. Just silence.

I am a mental health professional. I have no criminal record. And yet, I have been erased from my children’s lives — not because I failed them, but because I tried to protect them from a man who is still using my rape as a weapon.

I am not alone. Thousands of mothers are living this reality. We are told to be silent. We are told it’s hopeless. But we will not be erased.

E.W.

Mother. Survivor. Advocate.

Not silenced. Not broken. Not done.

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Child Theft is What It is All About

Family Courts are the Largest State-Sanctioned Child Trafficking Enterprise in the U.S.

Judicial authority given to unfit “judges” can turn into unhinged intoxication with power. This is what has happened in Family Courts, where the combination of undue judicial authority and abysmal-quality judges produces a deadly mix. After decades of impunity, they now operate an orgy of child theft, child trafficking, and a child slave trade — and the mayhem and murder of loving parents to maintain this abomination — in a runaway, up to 175-billion-dollar industry. If law enforcement diverted only a fraction of the monitoring and surveillance they devote to pursuing non-state human traffickers, they would find, by the most conservative estimates, that Family Courts are trafficking a child every nine minutes. Based on my courtroom experience, it is just about every child who comes through Family Court. Here are just two painful stories, among the innumerable ones that reach me:

Dr. Lee,

I greatly appreciate all that you do to raise awareness of what is happening with family courts. [CYS/CPS and domestic violence shelters] ignore all forms of abuse including child sexual abuse with physical evidence and children’s disclosure, just like family courts, all the time and claim “coaching” and “parental alienation” of the protective parent, and give them to the perpetrator regularly.

I was warned when I left in 2016 and was in the process of divorce. My divorce attorney [told me] that there were so many CYS reports made by mandated reporters, not by me (I only made two reports myself when I left), that I could lose my sons in a custody case. I told her all of those reports were from mandated reporters, not me, and they were all against my ex, not me, but she said the family court system and CYS believe that many mandated reporter reports must have been influenced by me in some way, and I would lose them to the person that the mandated reports were made about, even though not a single mandated report was about me.

I was also warned shortly after I left in 2016 by a children’s advocate that, no matter how much physical evidence I have and how much sexual abuse and abuse they disclose, I would be accused of “parental alienation” by the family court and lose them to their abuser. Then I would spend the next however many years it takes until they each turn 18, trying to find money to get them back, but that would never actually happen until they turn 18. She said she has been watching that, and multiple kids die by the hand of their abuser or committing suicide from the abuse, happening for 22 years. More recently after Kayden’s Law was passed federally and in Pennsylvania, I was hoping that would change things, but I still have been watching videos in our state of Pennsylvania from advocates I follow, with videos of protective parents getting put in jail trying to help their child, because the courts are not following Kayden’s Law any more than they were following the children’s best interest law, and these videos are quickly deleted by Facebook because of threats from the family court system and CYS….

I am writing this in the hopes to create awareness of all the things my ex got away with because I was not believed and he was never investigated, and to look for medical and legal advice for what my two ADHD sons and I are currently going through. If one or all of us die, these are the things he is not only capable of doing, but has done and gotten away with in the past, because I was not believed and he was never investigated. One of the online advocates I follow talks about how even police officers in her family don’t do their job properly and investigate at all, or investigate as thoroughly as they should. She wonders how many suicides were really homicides made to look like suicides. I am going to add to that and wonder how many overdoses were really overdoses, or vehicle accidents really accidents? If anything happens to me that is made to look like a suicide or an overdose, I am not suicidal, and I won’t even take painkillers or antihistamines or drink alcohol, because [my sons] need at least one sober parent….

I have been trying to decide if going public with this would help or harm the situation, the way it ultimately harmed Virginia Giuffre, who I don’t believe actually killed herself, because she stated online she was not suicidal…. I remember before I understood the reason behind it, I kept thinking Woody Allen’s fame and money was the reason he stayed out of jail and still got supervised visitations of Dylan Farrow, even though she disclosed what he did. Now I realize the entire system including CYS/CPS is financially designed to not help victims. Your advice and help are greatly appreciated.

Thank you so much for your time and consideration,

S.S.J.

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Dear Dr. Lee,

I’m a family nurse practitioner seeking your expertise in reviewing what I believe to be a coordinated campaign of psychiatric and medical manipulation used to justify emergency custody transfers in Ulster County, New York. This effort ultimately resulted in the transfer of primary custody of my daughter to my ex-husband, P.G., through a series of legal and evidentiary abuses.

I filed for a contested divorce in 2023 after years of coercive control, emotional and financial abuse. Once my ex-husband retained attorney Elizabeth Faulkner, the case escalated into strategic litigation abuse involving false allegations, suppressed evidence, and fabricated medical narratives. Faulkner coordinated closely with Guardian ad Litem Heather Harp, a known associate who was immediately added as GAL after Faulkner’s retention, to build a false case of parental unfitness.

I was falsely accused of drug addiction using expired, unrelated prescriptions, subjected to subpoenas of my medical, therapy, prescription and employment records leading to ongoing surveillance of my medical information and accused of having an inherited neurological disorder due to caring for my 85-year-old mother who has dementia. Despite submitting over 70 Ring camera videos documenting my ex-husband’s abuse, none were shown at trial. I was also falsely accused of child abuse through a fabricated incident that Faulkner and Harp coordinated with my ex-husband. I have documentation of a private call between Harp and P.G. the night before they called an emergency contempt hearing after I obtained an order of protection due to P.G. threatening me with false arrest, documented on the surveillance cameras he installed in the home to monitor and intimidate me.

The court ultimately awarded Faulkner’s client, P.G., child support, alimony, legal fees, and primary custody — leaving me financially destitute and forced to support my abuser. Since then, I have developed a heart condition and trauma disorder.

In a previous incident from January 2024, Faulkner submitted 17 photo exhibits of 7 expired prescription bottles stolen from my home, with single bottles photographed and submitted multiple times with the dates obscured. One image appears to show Faulkner herself holding an Oxycodone bottle in her office, prescribed to me in 2021 after surgery. Despite these being expired, irrelevant, and photographed without consent, the court admitted them into evidence. This violated my rights under HIPAA, due process, and professional standards, and directly undermined my standing as a licensed healthcare provider.

Of greatest concern is the forced pediatrician switch to one of three providers at Optum Lake Katrine — a provider Faulkner has used repeatedly to generate falsified psychiatric records in other custody cases. Despite submitting 12 alternative pediatricians I would accept for my daughter, all my submissions continue to be rejected. The court approved the Optum assignment based on perjured testimony by my ex-husband, who falsely claimed he never consented to her previous doctor. Messages from May 2024 — before trial — clearly show he did. His testimony appeared to be coached by Faulkner, and no mention of changing our daughter’s healthcare provider was made during the entire year of negotiations prior to trial.

This pediatrician manipulation follows a known playbook. In other cases, including Faulkner’s own stepchildren, children were placed on antipsychotics like Abilify and Risperidone following similar forced provider changes. The medical documentation from these providers was then used to file for emergency custody in Ulster County Family Court based on falsified claims of instability of the protective parent. I have now connected with eight other parents with near-identical experiences. The Ulster County Human Rights Department confirmed it has received 27 similar complaints involving Faulkner. Judges and clerks openly refer to her as “Lying Lizzy,” yet she continues to operate without consequence.

I am requesting your professional opinion on whether these coordinated actions may constitute medical child abuse or factitious disorder imposed on another, implemented via legal and clinical proxies. I am not under a gag order, as the case originated in Supreme Court, and I can freely share my documentation.

Attached are the messages showing P.G.’s agreement to the prior doctor in OFW messages, transcript section from trial where he lies to coerce me into agreeing to the pediatrician switch, medical timelines from myself and two other parents showing this concerning pattern, and two of the over a dozen threatening letters since trial eight months earlier from Elizabeth Faulkner demanding our daughter be switched to Optum, Lake Katrine and falsely stating she has no connection with this office. I am also in possession of multiple, ongoing demand messages from my ex-husband to take our daughter only to these providers and rejecting all other reasonable suggestions.

Thank you for considering this urgent and deeply troubling matter. I am prepared to provide all other relevant records, affidavits, and court documents at your request.

Sincerely,

H.R.G.

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Arizona Takes Remarkable Lead in Family Court Accountability

A Model for the Country: Few Legislatures have Done What the Arizona Senate is Doing Now

Committee on Family Court Orders Sheds Light on Stories of System Abuse, Devastating Consequences for Families

April 15, 2025

PHOENIX, ARIZONA — State lawmakers are investigating allegations of ongoing abuse within Arizona’s family court system through a series of joint ad hoc committee hearings, with the first commencing Monday. Personal stories from aggrieved parents and traumatized children revealed disturbing patterns of judicial overreach, lack of accountability, and the silencing of parents and children in custody battles.

Chaired by Senator Mark Finchem and Representative Rachel Keshel, the Joint Ad Hoc Committee on Family Court Orders brought long-overdue attention to the lived experiences of families who have been taken advantage of by a system that is meant to protect them. Multiple parents explained how they have spent nearly a decade in court, costing them hundreds of thousands of dollars — one even exceeding $1 million, due to prolonged custody battles involving court-ordered therapeutic intervention (TI).

Acknowledging the urgency of the situation, a second committee hearing is scheduled for May 12 to continue addressing these issues and begin shaping legislative solutions aimed at restoring integrity and justice to Arizona’s family court system.

“I have serious concerns that the civil rights of children are being violated. We will not allow these voices to go unheard any longer,” said Senator Finchem. “Real change needs to happen to the family courts in Arizona. We can’t take a problem that is this big and give it a simple solution. It was made clear today by those who spoke of their experience, the system is breaking families, and the role of certain court professionals needs to be evaluated. I was appalled when the only person who testified in favor of court-ordered TI, Kristyn Alcott, a frequent court-appointed ‘therapeutic parenting time supervisor’ said in essence, the court can order whatever they would like, that is why we have a court of appeals. A judge cannot order whatever they would like. They are required to uphold the rule of law. Over the course of four additional committee hearings, we will work on solutions to safeguard families and hold bad actors accountable for any self-serving unreasonable practices.”

“As a legislator and a mother, I can’t stay silent while Arizona families are being torn apart behind closed courtroom doors,” said Representative Keshel. “What we heard in the committee was heartbreaking — but not surprising. Parents are being silenced, children are being traumatized, and the people responsible hide behind the bench or a therapy license. We have a duty to expose this abuse and fix a system that no longer serves the best interests of the child.”

(Original press release can be found here: https://www.azsenaterepublicans.gov/post/committee-on-family-court-orders-sheds-light-on-stories-of-system-abuse-devastating-consequences-fo.)

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Family Courts: A Mother-Killing Machine

It Can be a Deadly Mistake to Assume that Family Courts are ‘Courts of Law’

I wish to duplicate here for Mother’s Day a memoriam We Spoke maintains for mothers killed by Family Court. Below is just those known to have died through Family Court in the last two-and-a-half years (to whom latest casuality Virginia Giuffre may be added):

As a violence expert, I have evaluated and treated murderers, rapists, and mass shooters. In Rwanda, I examined the public health effects of rape as a weapon of war, and in Ivory Coast, I researched the effects of civil war on domestic violence. In American prisons, I observed how gang rapes, torture, and murder occur with impunity. However, nowhere have I witnessed the level of serious, egregious, widespread violence as in the Family Courts: this, I believe, is because of their ability to commit the most heinous crimes and then to cover their own tracks. This is a travesty and a national emergency of unparalleled proportions.

I call Family Courts “Anti-Courts,” because the last thing they are is a court of law. They are the equivalent of walking into a hospital, expecting to receive treatment, and then learning that the “doctor” is a butcher. Such an enterprise would not last long in medicine, since word of mouth would get around and, above all, there would be external means of getting justice. Not in Family Courts, for they have the power to “gag” litigants, to “seal” court records, and above all, to “fix” the system so that only they enjoy a carveout from the Law (for example, appeals seldom work because of unlimited “discretion”; federal courts will not get involved because they do not deal with “custody” matters; and legislators are helpless to do anything because they may be killed — and legislation can sometimes backfire, since the intent to harm is not dealt with).

The result is that, if not “slaughterhouses”, they should be aptly called “child slave auctions” and “mother-killing machines” (fathers are killed, also, if they are the loving, protective parent). Indeed, the most dangerously-disordered personalities congregate in Family Courts, and it is almost routine to walk into a Family Court, expecting to receive justice, only to learn that the “judge” is the most violent criminal in the room. This is my conclusion after having been an expert witness, examining the evidence in detail, in approximately fifty Family Court cases across the country.

When a thousand children have been murdered in the context of Family Court, and previously healthy young mothers die by suicide, heart attack, stroke, “broken heart syndrome,” and cancer in ways unseen anywhere else, in addition to being murdered as a direct result of Family Court, something is seriously wrong.

I came to understand the inner workings of Family Courts through my own sister’s originally “normal” divorce — which rapidly devolved into near-lethal child injuries, child kidnapping to conceal crimes, and then ten counts of attempted murder against the mother (several of these attempts did not even involve the violent father, since “court actors” acted on his behalf). I quickly realized that what Family Courts are in truth running is an industry of: “protecting an abuser’s right to kill.” Recently, in attempting to appeal to Assignment Judge Carol Novey Catuogno, I learned that Bergen County Court may in truth be running an operation of: “protecting a judge’s right to kill.” Here is the affidavit I shared with her on my sister’s presiding judge:

AFFIDAVIT AGAINST JUDGE JANE GALLINA-MECCA

I, Bandy Lee, duly sworn upon oath, declare the following statement is true to the best of my knowledge:

1. I have significant, relevant background [to make a citizen’s complaint], including 25 years of serving as an expert witness in approximately 200, mostly criminal, court cases across the country. I am a forensic psychiatrist and expert on violence, who taught at Harvard Medical School, Yale School of Medicine, and Yale Law School. I am president of the World Mental Health Coalition and cofounder of the Violence Prevention Institute. I served as director of research for Harvard’s Center for the Study of Violence, as well as cofounded Yale’s Violence and Health Working Group at the MacMillan Center for International Studies. I have consulted with governments on prison reform and community violence prevention, such as the U.S. Senate, New York State, Connecticut, Massachusetts, Pennsylvania, Alabama, California, Ireland, and France. I helped author the United Nations Secretary-General’s chapter on “Violence against Children” in 2007 and have led a project group for the World Health Organization (WHO) Violence Prevention Alliance since 2011. I am a past fellow of the National Institute of Mental Health and recipient of the National Research Service Award. I played a key role in bringing in federal investigators and initiating reforms at Rikers Island, a correctional facility in New York City in 2013, and was recently invited to help reform the 44 prisons of New York State. I authored a widely-used, authoritative textbook, Violence (Wiley-Blackwell, 2019), 17 edited scholarly books and journal special issues, over 100 scientific articles and chapters, and over 300 opinion articles in outlets such as the Guardian, the New York Times, the Boston Globe, the Independent, and Politico. In addition to the WHO, I have served as an expert consultant for the United Nations, UNESCO, and the World Economic Forum. My clinical practice specializes in treating violent offenders, and of my serving as an expert in almost 200 criminal and civil court cases, approximately 50 have been in family court. Upon learning that family courts often knowingly and actively participate in domestic violence offenders’ legal abuse, facilitating possibly hundreds of murders of women and children per year, I have testified before the legislatures of Colorado, New York, Louisiana, Tennessee, and Washington about this serious problem….

2. The criminal acts with which I am charging Judge Gallina-Mecca, including kidnapping and attempted murder, in addition to multiple other felonies of which I have been a direct witness, should not be covered under “judicial immunity,” as they are not judicial acts.

Legal Basis:

3. I personally witnessed Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca attempt to murder my sister, Patricia Lee, multiple times. This is not a legitimate part of being a judge. Even though Judge Gallina-Mecca committed her acts while in the role of a judge, and they have the appearance of being judicial, the total absence of any constitutional process and the repetitive, deliberate, and sadistic pattern of harm make them more consistent with murderous intent. There is overwhelming medical proof: Patricia Lee has undergone eight hospitalizations and one intensive care unit (ICU) admission, is on seven different medications, and now suffers from total physical debilitation, in need of 24-hour, round-the-clock care. Her current debility is entirely attributable to Judge Gallina-Mecca[‘s co-conspiracy with her violent ex-husband], as five specialists confirmed during her ICU admission, since Patricia Lee was in perfect physical health prior to Judge Gallina-Mecca’s … assaults.

4. The motive is apparently to help Patricia Lee’s proven violent abuser and attempted murderer, Alan T. Chan. As just one example: on November 12, 2021, sometime in the afternoon, Judge Gallina-Mecca held an illegal, ex-parte meeting with her violently-abusive ex-husband, Alan T. Chan. The purpose was to issue an illegal “court order” permitting a police raid, soon after receiving a physician’s note, advising the court of Patricia Lee’s life-threatening medical emergency. Neither Patricia Lee nor her lawyer was notified of the ex-parte meeting…. Since there was no judicial reason for the raid, the timing makes it criminal: Patricia Lee had no criminal history, was of exemplary conduct, and was on her legitimately assigned weekend to be with her children, under written authorization. Occurring at around 6:00 p.m., within hours of the notice of a life-threatening condition, the intent was likely murderous. Indeed, Judge Gallina-Mecca almost caused the demise of Patricia Lee that day. Since there was no judicial reason for the police raid, it cannot count as a judicial act. Additionally, the act was repetitive: just two days earlier, on November 10, 2021, at around 3:00 p.m., Judge Gallina-Mecca caused Patricia Lee to be transported directly from the courthouse to the local emergency room (ER), where she was tested for a heart attack and was told she could have died. I was present at both incidents….

5. Alan T. Chan, her ex-husband, had a 13-year history of domestic violence and had been on a restraining order for nearly causing Patricia Lee’s demise. Six renowned forensic experts declared him a danger to his ex-spouse and his children — one of them, highly-respected in the [state] Court system, confirmed homicidal intent. Four of them duly diagnosed him with psychopathy — a serious and dangerous disorder that he shares with serial rapists and mass murderers. Instead of heeding these warnings, Judge Gallina-Mecca illegally sealed her records, again without informing Patricia Lee for four months, thus giving her no chance to be notified, to defend herself, or to contest the illegal seal. The purpose of the seal appears to be to conceal criminal activity, since Judge Gallina-Mecca herself continually maintained that there was no child abuse [while prematurely closing down three Child Protective Services investigations]. Thanks to Judge Gallina-Mecca’s assistance, Alan T. Chan, who was previously on a restraining order for almost killing both of Patricia Lee’s children by head injury, who recently had zero parenting time, and who almost killed their mother multiple times, was allowed to kidnap and imprison the children under “legal” cover — and, as any abuser would do, would not allow the mother one minute of access to her children for four years, lest his abuse be revealed….

6. Psychologists consider [the disruption of parent-child bonds] to be the worst kind of abuse one can inflict on growing children (ages 7 and 9 at the time), calling it, “soul murder.” Indeed, the children ceased to grow physically from the trauma, and one of them missed almost half of school (both were healthy, happy, and thriving prodigy children with perfect attendances before the kidnapping). This is without mentioning reports of their orthopedic injuries, emergency room visits, dental surgery from neglect, and abandonment of their care to their 87-year-old paternal grandfather with a chronic hepatitis B infection, which is dangerous to children. Judge Gallina-Mecca did not hold a single evidentiary hearing in relation to this abrupt transfer but engaged in criminal evidence tampering (including the destruction of expert reports), blocking reports to the Child Abuse Hotline (at least three other medical professionals tried without success), falsely arresting and retaliating against witnesses, and removing [without a trial criminal indictments], for which probable cause had already been found (against three people who perjured or falsified medical records on her behalf)….

Immediate Necessity:

7. Alan T. Chan’s own stated motive is to avoid paying child support, to extort six-figure “child support,” to demand his legal fees, and to keep the entire equity of the house ($1.3 million) as well as Patricia Lee’s life insurance ($1 million — Alan T. Chan also collected the life insurances of his mother and his sister). [He] is currently anxious to seize the house — so anxious, that he came by to smash a stone step to the house as a “warning”, for which another judge issued a temporary restraining order (TRO) (See “Exhibit I”). Judge Gallina-Mecca previously ordered Patricia Lee out of the house, [for which] she almost died, [and since] three doctors wrote letters reporting on her fragile state, Judge Gallina-Mecca appears to be gearing up again to attempt to cause Patricia Lee’s demise. She has taken over the TRO case in order to cancel it again, and has already amended it without due process to allow for another police raid. This happened as of April 10, 2025 (See “Exhibit II”),… without notifying Patricia Lee, in violation of her legal rights and her human rights to remain alive. She is once again at imminent risk of death because of Judge Gallina-Mecca….

Signed and notarized,

Bandy X. Lee, M.D., M.Div.

*There is now extraordinary momentum to impeach Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca! Please sign if you have not done so, and contribute your own affidavits if you have a story to tell about her. Help us to declare that the killing of mothers is unacceptable in the Family Courts!

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Trauma, Pandemic, and the Family Court

Whatever Problems You May Have, Family Court will Make Them Worse

I have often compared Family Courts to the prison system. Those who enter are deliberately maltreated, and all manner of human rights abuses occur with no accountability: gang rapes, gladiator fights, mayhem, and murder in prisons; and sex trafficking, child pornography, torture, battery, and murder in Family Courts. When tragic deaths happen all too often, the public assumes that there must have been extenuating circumstances or that these institutions are doing their best under difficult circumstances. They do not imagine that the opposite may be true — that prisons and Family Courts are magnets for violent, sadistic, and psychopathic criminals who relish exercising power over others. Prison guards may be seen as poorly-trained individuals who come from the same backgrounds as prisoners, but Family Court players should know better — yet, they are even more dangerous, driven by a 50- to 175-billion-dollar industry and wielding the extraordinary weapon of being called a “Court”. In these institutions, those with mental challenges grow markedly worse as rule, while those without previous mental problems often develop new ones (in Family Court, it is a veritable formula!). At least prisons overtly express their opposing philosophy to treatment: retribution. No one informs the public of Family Courts’ hidden, antithetical agenda to justice: exploitation of unsuspecting, innocent members of society and predatory alienation of children from well-bonded, loving parents (when they accuse, “parental alienation,” it is a form of projection, “framing” of the victim, and denial of their actual intent).

The following is an essay by a grandmother victim of Family Court. I have been receiving many grandmothers’ accounts of mothers who have been decimated or killed in Family Court, as in the court of Jane Gallina-Mecca — on whom I am collecting testimonies for her impeachment. Patricia Allen wrote to me the following heart-rending story. Her eloquent, 9000-word version I do not have the space for, but hopefully she will publish it elsewhere or decide to turn it into a book. Below is the summary version. Her account comes shortly after the publication of my scholarly article on, “A triple pandemic: COVID-19, violence against children, and the crisis in family courts,” which illustrated how the Covid pandemic exacerbated the Family Court crisis (yet, with predatory intentions, there are few things Family Courts would not exploit to further advantage).

Hello Dr. Lee, I have crafted an article which documents my experiences with the family court system during the pandemic. I have a disabled daughter who was denied access [to her children] with the Covid pandemic shutdown and ultimately went on to a complete mental health collapse and loss of reality.

I have found a behavioral therapist who gave me your name and suggested you would be a good contact with which to share my story….

I acknowledge my own personal emotion and bias in sharing this story. While there is no turning back of time, it is my hope that my story is one that can offer teachable moments and lessons for all. In the end, my grandchildren were alienated from two families (their mother and maternal grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins) all of whom love them very much. My prayer is that time will eventually become a friend and lead to a day of renewed relationship.

Here it is. The ongoing life of a woman, mother, and grandmother and the hills and twists that are a part of the ride known as the family court system:

Trauma, Pandemic, and the Family Court

Mary’s introduction to trauma began in a controlled way. At age fourteen we learned that she had a congenital brain abnormality requiring compression surgery. She lost a portion of bone at the base of her skull and her first cervical vertebrae. Shortly after the neurosurgery she began to experience absence seizure. In time, the seizure activity increased to grand mal with full body convulsion and requiring medication. A diagnosis of epilepsy was made.

Mary never let her diagnosis get in the way of her dreams. As a first-year college student she hoped to pursue paralegal studies. She also sought to join a sorority. Mary’s time in college would be short-lived. A hazing pledge led to the unthinkable. She was to be left at a fraternity house and stay alone for a time. A serial predator was there, and she was sexually assaulted. No one came to her aid during or after the event. The predator assaulted multiple women at multiple schools and later committed suicide as the police were closing in.

Mary married in 2004 and in 2005 delivered her first child, a son. Two daughters would follow in two-year increments. Cesarean section was required for all births to avoid pressure on her central nervous system. Mary’s first daughter was born with malignant pulmonary hypertension and sepsis. While full-term at the time, tests indicated her daughter’s lungs were not fully developed. Mary insisted that something was wrong and demanded that her baby be delivered. She faced scrutiny and arrogance. As it turned out, her daughter’s lungs were fully developed but extremely ill. The baby’s odds for survival were five percent. There was little hopeful word in the days to follow, but Mary and her daughter held strong. Her daughter will graduate high school this year. Mary saved her life.

In 2010, Mary and her husband discovered they had little in common. This ultimately led to divorce. In view of Mary’s epilepsy, her spouse was granted primary custody, but Mary retained 50% legal custody. The arrangement worked well for seven years. They worked out parental schedules for family or other events, and James would occasionally invite Mary to join them for dinner.

In 2018, James met a new partner, and things took a turn. Mary’s access to the children became restricted. She was no longer afforded input on health care or other matters, and the children’s school was changed without her knowledge. Exchanges at James’ home became drama filled. She filed a motion before the court seeking order for specific custodial exchange place and times. The motion was granted, and the referee reminded James that he would be held accountable for adhering to the order. That accountability never happened.

The children were with their father when the courts shut down for Covid in 2020. Mary would call and request to speak with her children. The stepmom would answer, indicating the children did not wish to speak with her. The court had ordered that neither parent should speak ill of the other in front of the kids, but Mary felt certain this order was not followed. Mary did not have a driver’s license but arrived for her designated exchange times using Uber. She was met by James who would express the children did not wish to go with her. Calls to the police were of little help, as they indicated this was a civil matter. Predatory alienation had begun.

The courts would eventually open using Zoom as a vehicle for communication. A guardian ad litem (GAL) was appointed. While not a party to the divorce, the stepmom had a demonstrative personality and financial resources, which appeared to grant James’ favor with the GAL. Mary went through multiple counsel and spent thousands.

One counsel indicated she had secured reunification counseling for Mary. Mary was given the names of two counselors from which to select. Mary was surprised and disappointed when she contacted each counselor, only to learn that neither were aware of any forthcoming call. One counselor expressed anger at being named in a motion for which he had no knowledge.

In July of 2022, Mary learned that James and stepmom were divorcing. She discovered that James had moved into his father’s home with the children. She contacted James, expressed sympathy for the loss of his marriage, and asked if they could meet and talk. He never responded. Following that, Mary and I prepared a pro se motion for the court. She decided to plead her desire to see her children directly with the referee. That motion would never be filed. Mary came to share that an angel named Michael was speaking to her and had reassured her that she would be reunited with her children in time. She seemed at peace.

I received a nonsensical text from Mary in August 2022. She spoke of overcoming towers and being God. Her father went to check on her, and she became aggressive. The police were called, her father was arrested, and Mary was left on her front lawn in the fetal position. Charges were later dropped, but Mary had become isolated and wished no contact with anyone.

Mary would go on to be hospitalized for a severe mental health condition and continues to struggle with that today. While there is family history of mental health challenges, her therapist shared that the multiple traumas she had experienced, particularly those specific to the family court experience during the pandemic, had likely driven Mary to the point of absence from reality.

The children lost their paternal grandmother during Covid, and I continue to be alienated from them. I was not at my grandson’s graduation. I have missed school concerts, proms, etc. I’ve been told that my appearance may create additional trauma, and reminded they are all of an age where they can make individual choices with regard to contact. I have sent gifts and cards but have no assurance that any were delivered. Memories of good times shared on vacations are events are what sustain me.

As the trauma bubble was given more oxygen and expanded by the events of this court experience, it was destined to burst. I feel professionals should ponder festering bubbles and make concentrated effort to prevent them from bursting. Heat can be lowered. In many ways, all would have been blind not to predict what might be coming in.

The pandemic took all of us by storm. I was employed by a medical school, and there were challenging times. As an educator my hope in telling this story is that the courts and others might learn from it. Our daughter remains isolated from everyone. It is uncertain whether she will ever be reunited with her children or family. Her husband’s attorney was very skilled. There was much posturing, revenue generation, and bias. CPS was never called, and her child support was paid. She was a disabled individual with limited resources who simply wanted to see her children. She deserved better.

Patricia Allen, Ph.D.

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Psychic Genocide in the Family Courts

It Must be Noted: Many Family Court Judges are Serial Killers (and Their Impunity has Made This So)

We must not limit our belief only to what is believable, but be open to what reality reveals. As harsh as it may sound, many Family Court judges seem to believe they are God, so unfit are they for the power the public has bestowed on them. The tragic result, from my direct observation of over fifty cases across the country as an expert witness, is that no Law or principle of human decency binds them. I have come to observe in detail how judges use their authority to “fix” their cases so that they look perfect from without, as loving mothers (and less commonly loving fathers) and innocent children die from within. Sometimes the death is not physical, but studies show that “soul murder” can be even worse — for it is a lifetime of torture for each child, in addition to slow physical death, decades before their time. Even worse is the psychic pain the loving parent must endure, for what loving parent would not give her life for her child? It is a natural, inborn response. This is precisely what psychopathic abusers and, worse, psychopathic judges relish targeting for destruction (the Family Court “slave trade” may begin with the 50 to 175 billion per year in revenue, but I have witnessed many simply relishing their sadism — or their sense of unlimited power over those at their mercy).

Much has happened recently: My interview with “Slam the Gavel” host Maryann Petri was broadcast, and as of today I did another one, in consultation with a litigant from South Carolina who generously wished to use her case to educate the public.

Prominent Jeffrey Epstein sex trafficking victim Virginia Giuffre has died, essentially having been tortured to death by Family Court. I link here my article about singer and songwriter Sinéad O’Connor, another unnecessary, high-profile Family Court-caused death. And the death of Attorney Catherine Kassenoff revealed that not even the New York State governor’s powerful prosecutor could escape the Family Court killing machine. These cases are portrayed as involving particularly vicious or clever abusers, but what is omitted is the artificial role of Family Courts amplifying exsting violence or creating violence anew — which dwarfs any violence an individual can perpetrate. These “Anti-Courts” especially target and destroy talented, capable, and courageous women, in part I believe because of jealousy: the judges and the entourage they select are, as a rule, of shockingly poor quality. This is why I say that Family Courts are committing a “psychic genocide”: “genocide” refers to “killing of a kind,” and the kind they are systematically killing are those who are especially highly psychologically developed — and therefore healthy, successful, compassionate, and loving.

There is also a recent glimmer of hope: the Arizona Joint Legislative Ad Hoc Committee launched: “what may become one of the nation’s most significant state-level inquiries into family court failures.” Many of the testimonies echo what I have been saying:

This paradigm pits an abusive parent against a protective parent. The psychologist shifts the no-contact order onto the protective parent, forcing the child to live with the abuser. Of course, the protective parent will pay whatever it takes to save their child.

This isn’t justice. This is extortion. This is no different than child trafficking. People are making extreme amounts of money off of this — and the only difference is we have it under the guise of being legal.

Family Courts would not be so aggressive in trying to silence me if what I am saying were not true. They could always avail themselves of a defamation lawsuit — but they would not dare, for this would involve discovery. Instead, they twist and turn to create criteria for “protective orders,” so as to keep the matter within Family Court. I added the judge targeting my own sister, Jane Gallina-Mecca, onto my federal lawsuit against her underlings, Evelyn Nissirios and Michael Antoniewicz, for issuing yet another illegal “protective order.”

In the meantime, there have been many casualties and many actual deaths associated with Gallina-Mecca, and her behavior in my sister’s own case makes it easy to demonstrate how it happens. Recently, I wrote to Assignment Judge Carol V. Novey Catuogno asking for an investigation and an intervention against Gallina-Mecca, who is under her. Here is her response:

I am in receipt of your letter dated April 10, 2025, in which you seek certain relief on behalf of your sister, Patricia Lee. While I understand an impulse to intervene on behalf of one’s family member, in this instance such intervention is inappropriate … as you are not a party to this matter, you have no standing to petition for relief.

As I returned two weeks later, noting an upcoming date when Gallina-Mecca was expected to authorize a police raid to help cause my sister’s “medical” death, she repeated:

As I explained in my letter of April 10, 2025, you lack standing to seek relief on behalf of your sister, and most importantly, your sister is represented by counsel in the matters pending before the court.

I hence responded to her clerk:

Dear Ms. Morley:

My communication to Her Honor regarded issues that cannot be handled by the “appropriate” avenues, because they concern abuse of process and weaponization of the law. Certainly, counsel cannot handle a homicidal judge who is already halfway through with her victim. My issue, again, is that being a judge is not a license to pillage, steal, and murder.

On the books, these things are not supposed to be covered under judicial immunity, but in practice no one will hold a judge accountable — not even the hon. assignment judge. This is why dead bodies keep mounting around this “judge”, and if an assignment judge does not care to investigate it while it is taking place, who would be?

She is incorrect that I do not have standing. I am adding Ms. Gallina-Mecca to my lawsuit. And every month that I am unable to lead my life, because I must care for my previously extremely high-functioning sister, who is now totally incapacitated because a gratuitously sadistic “judge” unmoored from reality loves to partner with violent criminals, then it does indeed become my business.

Bergen County Court would not so be a source of incompetence and harm, had response been “appropriate”. Therefore, I am not surprised at Her Honor’s lack of response, but disappointed. Please be advised of my carbon copy of the press.

Sincerely,

Bandy X. Lee, M.D., M.Div.

In the meantime, below is my letter to the prosecutors who have removed criminal charges against a pediatrician who colluded with Gallina-Mecca to cover up child abuse (she is the third person for Gallina-Mecca removed criminal charges without a trial!):

Dear Prosecutors DeMarco and Malfitano:

My sister and victim, Patricia Lee (protected class), has decided she would like to resubmit her charges against Dr. Karen Wu, the pediatrician who co-conspired with the kidnapper of her children and attempted murderer. There is new medical evidence, as well as the fact that she was present at the probable cause hearing, waiting to testify, and that the judge did not call on her is not her fault (See Exhibit 1 for her Declaration). As can be noted, the charges levied in her affidavit are serious, and they have not exceeded any statute of limitation.

Whereas I am Patricia Lee’s attorney-in-fact (See Exhibit 2), she was not always disabled. The kidnapping of her children by their violent abuser and her ex-husband, who almost killed each of them and was on a temporary restraining order (TRO) for slamming her 7-year-old son’s head into a window, caused life-threatening, stress-induced high blood pressures that have now hospitalized her eight times, including once in the intensive care unit. Five specialists confirmed that her lethal-level blood pressures and constant risk of death by stroke or heart attack have no physical cause. They are purely a result of the stress of her children being kidnapped by their violent abuser, who is once again on a TRO but continues to imprison her children (See Exhibit 3). There are physical effects: since December 2024, Patricia Lee has been totally physically incapacitated and requires 24-hour care. Brain scans are now showing multiple mini-strokes from all the episodes of high blood pressure and near-death.

There is clear motive: Dr. Wu’s co-conspiracy has helped her violent ex-husband to kidnap and keep two children for the extortion of millions of dollars in “child support,” legal fees, and the entire equity of the house. If not for Dr. Wu, he would have been prosecuted far before he was able to use legal abuse — a crime of coercive control — simply based on his possession of the children. I can also attest, as a medical professional trained in the best programs in the country, Dr. Wu has committed the most egregious instance of medical crime I have witnessed in my 25 years as a forensic expert for the courts (See Exhibit 4 for sample expert reports, of which there are a total of a dozen).

Finally, I am aware that cases are often “punted” back to Family Court, a closed court with one judge and no jury, but this can be a dangerous practice. Heinous human rights abuses are now found to occur regularly against women and children, as the United Nations Human Rights Council documented in 2023 (A/HRC/53/36), and therefore this should not be the standard for dismissing a case (also, the divorce case has concluded). Regardless, Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca, the presiding judge, is not only being federally sued but being referred for impeachment by more than 2000 petitioners, more than 30 witnesses, and the nation’s foremost constitutional lawyer writing the articles of her impeachment.

Sincerely yours,

Bandy Lee, M.D., M.Div.

Gallina-Mecca is a veritable serial killer who acts as a tyrant in the courtroom, treats children like chattel, colludes with violent criminals, and “fixes” her predetermined outcomes through extreme maneuverings in and out of her courtroom. In my sister’s case alone, she has stonewalled experts, manipulated outside providers, shut down Child Protective Services investigations, and financially depleted and tried psychologically to “break” the innocent parent, so that she cannot fight back. When this did not work out, she co-conspired with her ex-husband to murder her. Part of this was to send her children to fates worse than death, although she very blatantly savors the power that their torture signifies for her, in its own right. I have outlined her obvious unfitness elsewhere, but this extraordinary specimen of a human is actually common — if not typical — in Family Court!

As will have been revealed in my podcasts, we cannot understand the behavior of Family Court players using ordinary human psychology. We must apply criminal psychology if we are to guard ourselves against serial murder, serial child sex trafficking, and the lucrative industry of child pornography — all staples of the so-called “Family Court.”

*There is now a tremendous push to impeach Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca, and the proceedings are bound to become national! Please sign if you have not done so, contribute your affidavits if you have not done do, and help us to turn this into a movement that we will no longer accept genocide in the Family Courts!

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Archetypes of Family Court: Jane Gallina-Mecca — Evelyn Nissirios — Alan T. Chan

Archetypes of Family Court: Jane Gallina-Mecca — Evelyn Nissirios — Alan T. Chan

Family Court Pathology is Repetitive and Predictable

My sister’s Family Court case is everyone’s Family Court case. Many have now told me that my articles have been important to their recognizing that they are not alone in the previously unimaginable, unprecedented atrocities they are experiencing upon entering Family Court. They have also expressed that it has been helpful to know what to expect, for otherwise they would not have known that they would be transitioning from a relatively placid, middle-class modern life to a world of medieval barbarity and misery that is Family Court.

Having been in operation for close to a half-century, the Family Court underworld of criminality and brutality is well-established — indeed, it is predictable and determined by the structures that have allowed them to mushroom. First, the overarching structures are the allowance of impunity and secrecy. Setting up a system under the most benign-sounding name, “Family Court,” but handing unlimited power to the most incompetent “judges”, is a magnet for attracting psychopaths and a setup for developing a criminal breeding ground.

Second, the internal structure of “judge”, “court appointee” (such as guardian ad litem), and violent offender collaborating with one another to rupture the most humanly basic, parent-child bond is perhaps the most sadistically-titillating experience psychopaths could ask for (psychopathy may be defined as an absence of compassion and conscience, but acutely aware that they lack what most humans have, sufferers of the condition vindictively target human life for harm). Hence, ironically, “Family Courts,” instead of helping families and administering the law, have become slaughterhouses for unsuspecting families who get caught up in what are in reality criminal cartels. Their shameless plunder, stealing, and killing have become so dangerous, no one wishes to touch them — not the Advisory Committee on Judicial Conduct, not the Office of Attorney Ethics, not Appellate Court, not Federal Court, and certainly not law enforcement — and mob rule prevails. The actors in my sister’s case act their parts: “Judge” Jane Gallina-Mecca becomes enraged when her prey does not comply; paranoid “Guardian ad Litem” Evelyn Nissirios files for a “protective order” against her own victims; and domestic abuser Alan T. Chan goes full-blown child kidnapper and multi-count attempted murderer.

Here is an update:

‘Judge’ Jane Gallina-Mecca

That this Family Court “judge” is the orchestrator of these child theft operations is seen in her relentless control of the narrative. How Gallina-Mecca has aggressively taken down articles, despite the Washington Post shaming her for doing so years earlier — and falsely arrested medical professionals, based on secret orders she could not show anyone — has been written about elsewhere. Her track record is extremely disturbing, with multiple murders under her “belt”, and a petition for impeachment in process, whereby several family members of litigants who were murdered under her hope to testify.

Herself an abusive personality, she “mentors” already-sadistic Nissirios on heaping one human rights violation after another to hide their own, shocking criminality. By going against ten psychiatric reports unanimously confirming the mother’s “excellent mental health” and “exceptional talent in parenting” — one of them 96 pages long with extensive testing and collateral interviews — Gallina-Mecca was practicing medicine without a license.

Because she had no evidence, witnesses, or experts taking her side, Gallina-Mecca simply appointed an endless stream of needless court actors to parrot her preset narrative. This included a guardian ad litem for the mother, Linda Schofel — for the duly-diagnosed psychopathic father’s fantasy fulfillment of labeling the mother “mentally ill” and in need of a “guardian”, instead of himself. It also included an unlicensed student “counselor”, Tara Devine — who was willing to give Gallina-Mecca the “evaluation” that no other, highly-credentialed psychiatrist or psychologist would (and Gallina-Mecca, of course, counted only her opinion!). There was also a designated pediatrician, Karen Wu — who has finally recently been criminally indicted for falsification of medical records, tampering with evidence, retaliating against witnesses, and failing to report child abuse. And, in addition to Child Protective Services and the Child Abuse Hotline, the long tentacles of Gallina-Mecca have also interfered with one assignment judge, one civil court judge, one municipal judge, two appellate judges, and at least one covering judge on this one case — and this is only what I know about!

‘Guardian ad litem’ Evelyn Nissirios

As the “children’s” guardian ad litem in Family Court, Nissirios’ one task was to work for “the best interests” of the child predator. In order to do so, she perjured herself a staggering 600 documented times in just this one case! On the father’s first weekend with the children, soon after being on a restraining order for almost crushing the skull of his seven-year-old son and almost having killed his daughter as an infant, he tried to abscond with the children, having stolen their passports and secretly crossing state borders to take them hours away from home. This directly violated court directives, and he was caught only because the terrified children called their maternal grandfather, but none of the above bothered Nissirios

However, when the mother picked up her children slightly early from school, on a day she was specifically authorized to have her children — partly because they were distressed and suicidal from the prior, terrifying weekend with their unstable father — she descended on the mother like a hawk! She immediately coordinated with the father to make a false police report, scheduled an emergency, secret hearing without notice to either the mother or her attorney, and sent in a SWAT team of five police officers, who forcibly tore the crying and clinging children from their mother, accusing her of trying to “abscond” with them. This ambush attack could also be deemed an attempted murder, since just hours earlier the mother had notified the Court, including Nissirios and the father, of a medical emergency: life-threatening, stress-induced high blood pressures that Nissirios and the father themselves caused through hourly harassment and demands for updates. The charges against the mother were instantly dropped when their lies to the police were exposed, but having seized the children, they had no intention of letting them go.

Police raids are apparently Nissirios’ specialty, as she has done across dozens of cases, before blocking the children’s contact with the loving parent altogether — and then telling the children the good parent abandoned them, no longer loves them, and wishes to have nothing to do with them.

Alan T. Chan

That this kind of “court” is where my brother-in-law drags his family into should make clear his serious psychiatric problems, without even knowing his diagnosis (since the most dangerous psychiatric disorders are also the most deceptive). After all, he decided to file for divorce because my sister “stopped praising” him enough. A corporate lawyer and student of Alan Dershowitz, he is the perfect kind Family Courts cater to. They enticed him with full custody, financial rewards, and punishment for a family that dared to have a mind of its own (for example, when he suddenly imposed himself on the children — after being an absentee father all their lives — so that he could have an edge in his divorce, they dared to scream and cry every day!). And now, with the Family Court to prop him up, he will show them he is somebody!

Instead of containing his sickness and managing his behavior — indeed, during the five days he was on a restraining order after smashing his son against a window, both children were calm, cheerful, and back to their normal selves — Family Court saw his symptoms as an “opportunity” to entice and enable. His compulsions would find it impossible to resist their offer, and his detachment from reality would keep him from noticing how the Court is draining all his and his wife’s assets. He was busy rejoicing, for the first time, being labeled “the good parent” and being given the license to unleash vengeance against his family for “not loving” him enough, with all the force of the law behind him!

This is the ugly “service” that Family Courts sell, breeding psychopathy and violence, under the guise of being a “court”. Violent men, who like in my brother-in-law’s case almost killed his wife six times, almost killed each of his children on different occasions, kidnapped the children, and continues to neglect, injure, and harm them, can experience being all-powerful and all-righteous, while putting on a perfect public façade — since no one would believe the truth, even if one heard it.

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Psychiatrist Dr. Bandy Lee and Constitutional Lawyer Bruce Fein Join Efforts to Reform Family Court

Renowned Forensic Psychiatrist Dr. Bandy Lee and Constitutional Lawyer Bruce Fein Join Nationwide Family Court Reform Initiative

Partnership with Project Justice USA and One Mom’s Battle Brings Expert Credibility to Critical Data Collection Effort

DENVER, CO — April 14, 2025 — Project Justice USA and One Mom’s Battle today announced a significant partnership with Dr. Bandy X. Lee, a distinguished forensic psychiatrist and violence prevention expert with 25 years of experience and Bruce Fein, a nationally and internationally renowned constitutional lawyer, scholar and writer. This collaboration marks a pivotal advancement in the nationwide initiative to collect and analyze data on family court outcomes across the United States.

Dr. Lee, who taught at Harvard Medical School, Yale School of Medicine, and Yale Law School and led global research projects on violence prevention, will lead the research efforts analyzing the national data collected through Project Justice USA’s comprehensive survey. With extensive experience testifying before state legislatures in Colorado, New York, Louisiana, Tennessee, and Washington about family court failures, Dr. Lee brings both academic credibility and practical expertise to this critical initiative. Her background in analyzing systems that perpetuate violence makes her uniquely qualified to interpret the survey data and translate it into actionable policy recommendations.

“Through my work as an expert witness in approximately 50 family court cases, I’ve observed firsthand how these systems often actively perpetuate cycles of abuse, resulting in thousands of preventable violent deaths, particularly of children and women,” said Dr. Bandy Lee. “My experience reforming prison systems and developing violence prevention strategies at institutional levels has shown that we can transform even the most entrenched systems through data-driven approaches. I am grateful for this unprecedented opportunity to help apply rigorous research methodologies to the lived experiences of families navigating these abusive systems. By analyzing patterns across state lines, we can identify structural failures and develop evidence-based recommendations for meaningful reform that prioritize the protection of children, as well as bring transparency and accountability.”

Bruce Fein, is a nationally and internationally renowned constitutional lawyer, scholar and writer. Bruce Fein was Associate Deputy Attorney General and General Counsel to the Federal Communications Commission under President Ronald Reagan. He served as Research Director for Republicans on the Joint Congressional Committee on Covert Arms Sales to Iran, and on the American Bar Association’s Committee on Presidential Signing Statements. He has been a Visiting Fellow for Constitutional Studies at the Heritage Foundation and an adjunct scholar at American Enterprise Institute. He has advised numerous countries on constitutional reform, including South Africa, Hungary and Russia. He is regularly called to testify before the House and Senate Judiciary and Foreign Relations Committees. Mr. Fein is author of Constitutional Peril: The Life and Death Struggle for Our Constitution and Democracy, and American Empire: Before the Fall. Bruce Fein is a partner in the law firm, Fein & DelValle, PLLC. Bruce Fein — HuffPost Contributor

“Dr. Bandy Lee and Bruce Fein’s involvement marks a transformative step for Project Justice USA,” said Christine McGinley, MBA, Executive Director of Project Justice USA and architect of the national family court survey. Dr. Lee’s unparalleled expertise in violence prevention and forensic psychiatry will help us translate thousands of lived experiences into evidence-based policy recommendations. Bruce Fein brings a wealth of constitutional and legal knowledge that strengthens our capacity to develop solutions grounded in justice and democracy. Together, with national data, legal insight, and clinical expertise, we are building more than just a record of public experience; we are crafting a data-driven blueprint for systemic reform that lawmakers will be compelled to act on.”

Tina Swithin, founder of One Mom’s Battle, emphasized the significance of this development: “Dr. Lee’s decision to join our effort validates what we’ve been saying for years, the family court crisis is a public emergency that demands immediate intervention. Her expertise in treating violent offenders and consulting with governments on violence prevention brings invaluable insight to our work.”

In addition, Dr. Rene Buenzow will be assisting Dr. Bandy Lee and the Project Justice team with the research data. Dr. Buenzow is a nurse practitioner, dual-specialized in family medicine and psychiatry with a doctorate in Health Care Policy from the University of Iowa. She has over 30 years of experience in preventing domestic abuse and interpersonal violence. Dr. Buenzow brings specialized knowledge and training in coercive control and family court dynamics and is a Certified Divorce Coach, has completed the Johns Hopkins Danger Assessment training, and advanced training through the Institute on Violence, Abuse, and Trauma.

Dr. Lee has previously researched social determinants that reduce violent death rates across the nation as well as the globe. She has also consulted with the U.S. Senate and multiple state governments on prison reform and community violence prevention. She has authored over 100 scientific articles and served as an expert witness in approximately 200 criminal and civil cases. Her involvement signals growing recognition of family court reform as a critical public health and safety issue.

Bruce Fein has testified as an expert witness before Congress on more than 200 occasions. He served on the American Bar Association’s Task Force on Presidential Signing Statements. He has lived through every major political-legal battle or crisis since 1969, beginning with the defeats of President Richard Nixon’s Supreme Court nominees Clement Haynsworth and G. Harold Carswell.

“These partnerships underscore our unwavering commitment to pursuing family court reform with the seriousness and the scientific and legal rigor it demands,” added McGinley. “With the expertise of Dr. Bandy Lee and Bruce Fein guiding our work, we are building an unshakable, data-driven case for change. Together, fueled by the voices of families across the nation, we aim to develop a Model Family Court Legislated Code that places child safety, accountability, and evidence-based practices at the center of our legal system.”

Project Justice USA is actively pursuing research grants from foundations and government agencies dedicated to child welfare, judicial reform, and public health. While several grant applications are in progress, the organization welcomes additional funding opportunities from philanthropic organizations, private donors, and institutional partners who share our commitment to evidence-based family court reform. This research initiative requires significant resources to ensure comprehensive data collection, rigorous analysis, and effective dissemination of findings to policymakers nationwide. Those interested in supporting this critical work can donate on the website www.projectjusticeusa.com.

About Dr. Bandy X. Lee: Dr. Lee is president of the World Mental Health Coalition and co-founder of the Violence Prevention Institute. She served as director of research for Harvard’s Center for the Study of Violence and co-founded Yale’s Violence and Health Working Group at the MacMillan Center for International Studies. Dr. Lee has consulted with numerous governments on prison reform and community violence prevention, including the U.S. Senate and the states of New York, Connecticut, Massachusetts, Pennsylvania, Alabama, and California, as well as the governments of Ireland and France. She helped author the United Nations Secretary-General’s chapter on “Violence against Children” and led a project group for the World Health Organization (WHO) Violence Prevention Alliance. Dr. Lee is a past fellow of the National Institute of Mental Health and recipient of the National Research Service Award. She played a key role in bringing federal investigators to Rikers Island correctional facility in 2013, initiating significant reforms, and was recently invited to help reform the 44 prisons of New York State. Her scholarly contributions include an authoritative textbook, “Violence” (2019), 17 edited scholarly books and journal special issues, over 100 scientific articles and chapters, and more than 300 opinion articles in major outlets such as the Guardian, the New York Times, the Boston Globe, the Independent, and Politico. Beyond the WHO, she has served as an expert consultant for the United Nations, UNESCO, and the World Economic Forum. Her clinical practice specializes in treating violent offenders, and she has served as an expert witness in approximately 200 criminal and civil cases, including 50 family court cases. For more information, visit https://bandylee.com/

About Bruce Fein: Bruce Fein has been a renowned legal-media fixture in Washington, D.C. for more than 50 years across the political spectrum. He featured on Attorney General William French Smith’s short-list of potential nominees to the United States Supreme Court.

His unique network extends to all three branches of the government, the media, think tanks, universities, and a cluster of NGOs. Mr. Fein appears regularly on national and international television. His articles on law and public policy are ubiquitous. He conducts constitutional tutorials for Members of Congress and staff. He is Vice Chairman of the Committee for the Republic.

Mr. Fein graduated with honors from Harvard Law School and served at the highest levels of the legislative, executive, and judicial branches of government before establishing his own law firm. Among other things, Mr. Fein served as special assistant to the assistant attorney general in the office of legal counsel at the U.S. Department of Justice, assistant director of the office of legal policy, associate deputy attorney general, general counsel of the Federal Communications Commission, research director for the Joint Congressional Committee on Covert Arms Sales to Iran, and clerk to federal Judge Frank A. Kaufman. He has assisted multiple countries in writing or rewriting constitutions. He offers unique multi-dimensional analyses and solutions for every client. For more information, visit https://lawofficesofbrucefein.com/about

About Project Justice USA: Project Justice USA is a nationwide initiative collecting data on family court outcomes to drive evidence-based reform. Building on successful state-level work in Colorado, the project aims to provide all state lawmakers and advocates with comprehensive data to support legislative change. For more information, visit www.projectjusticeusa.com.

About One Mom’s Battle: One Mom’s Battle is an internationally recognized advocacy organization dedicated to raising awareness about family court challenges and empowering individuals to navigate post-separation abuse. For more information, visit www.onemomsbattle.com.

Media Contact:
Tina Swithin
(720) 336–2111
tina@onemomsbattle.com

(The direct link is here: https://www.projectjusticeusa.com/renowned-forensic-psychiatrist-dr-bandy-lee-joins-nationwide-family-court-reform-initiative/.)

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Letter to My Precious Niece and Nephew

This is the Only Way I Can Reach My Niece and Nephew, Since Family Courts Block All Contact with Loving Adults

My niece and nephew were taken in a violent police raid, orchestrated by their pathologically lying, abusive father, Alan T. Chan, with the help of “Guardian ad Litem” Evelyn Nissirios (whom the children rightly called their “enemy”). Instead of arresting him and returning the children, Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca gave him full, sole custody and prohibited contact by their mother, by any other previous caregiver, any other loving adult, or any qualified medical professional, lest their abuse be discovered. They were last seen when they were ages seven and nine, and now they are eleven and thirteen. This horrifying act is only one instance in Gallina-Mecca’s vast criminal enterprise of stealing children and selling them to their tormentors, rapists, batterers, attempted murderers, and child sex traffickers — which she hides through one method alone: an illegal “court seal.” On April 15, 2025, she even interfered in my request for an audio recording of another case, under Judge Michael Antoniewicz (regarding his illegal “protective order”), which should have nothing to do with her. She did so by issuing another illegal “protective order,” which says: “This information cannot be disclosed to any other person for any reason, and cannot be given out or made public by any means, direct or indirect, without the express written permission of the court.” This is a public hearing! I wrote back: “… this proves my very point to Judge Michael Antoniewicz that he is not independent, could never be an impartial arbiter, and should immediately recuse himself and change venue, as I have warned numerous times — that the length of your tentacles precludes any possibility of proper adjudication.” This is precisely why so many are now working to impeach Gallina-Mecca.

This is how writing my letter here came to be the only chance anything will be communicated to my poor, beloved niece and nephew, who are living in a desert of love, warmth, compassion, and probably even food (their father used to chase their mother out of the house so that she could not care for them, and then abandon and starve them while he himself ate):

To My Most Precious Niece and Nephew,

I hope this message reaches you, and you know that your mom, I, and grandpa miss you more than words could ever say, and our love for you soars to the stars every day. Not a second passes by without our thinking about you and working without a moment’s rest to bring you home — safe, protected, and surrounded by love again.

To tell you the truth, when you were taken from us, that was the very moment our lives stopped. Everything stood still (even my hair didn’t grow for more than a year!). This is what happens when we love you so much — you are the greatest joys of our lives, the apples of our eyes, and nothing in the world can ever, ever replace you!

But we are not worried, because you are the most beloved children of God. You must know this: nothing can ever take this truth away from you, no matter what happens around you.

I hope you will take a moment to let this truth sink into your hearts, because true love — the kind that comes from God — can never be stolen from you. It is eternal, ever present, and ever comforting. When you find peace in that love, everything false will fall away, and you will begin to feel a vast Presence. Then, you will discover that you are held in the palm of God’s hand. And in that place, you will feel us. Because in the Holy Spirit, we are not separated but One!

Your mom, grandpa, and I are with you, just like your grandma, Grace! She is watching over you, all the time. When you walk, she walks with you. When you sleep, she accompanies you. In fact, she is more alive now, being One with the Holy Spirit, than she ever was when you saw her! In fact, she is closer to you than ever before.

This is what happens in “meditation” — when you close your eyes, you will experience a deep place inside of you that never changes, never gives up, and is always loving and embracing, no matter how you may feel on the outside. This is the mystery and the miracle of God’s Love — it is already a part of you, and once you find it, you will know where to go to feel the Bliss.

Grandma loved the Book of Psalms, and here is a passage she enjoyed (you will hear God whisper to you, too!):

Where can I go from your Spirit?

Where can I flee from your presence?

If I go up to the heavens, you are there;

if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.

If I rise on the wings of the dawn,

if I settle on the far side of the sea,

even there your hand will guide me,

your right hand will hold me fast.

If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me

and the light become night around me,”

even the darkness will not be dark to you;

the night will shine like the day,

for darkness is as light to you.

For you created my inmost being;

you knit me together in my mother’s womb.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;

your works are wonderful,

I know that full well (Psalm 139:7–14).

This is you! You are fearfully and wonderfully made, handcrafted by God with plans so special, so sacred, that only you can live them! God looked around all of creation and decided the world needed you — both of you — exactly as you are! Every part of who you are is holy — your dazzling smarts, your maturity beyond your years, your funniness and silliness, your unstoppable determination, and your loving hearts, with which you gave so much to everyone around you, so early — because you have in you God’s divine plan! None of that has changed, and no one can touch it, no matter how hard they try.

Indeed, they started trying very early, because the two of you are so unusually and exceptionally brilliant — and the Devil got jealous! Still, inside of you are Old Souls, as old as God, and I know you will overcome everything. This is because you are exceptionally close to God, and God is closer to you than you are to yourselves (this may sound paradoxical, but it is true)!

God sees what others cannot see. God hears what others cannot hear. The Holy Spirit knows your heart, because God absolutely adores you and delights in you — you are God’s precious children, God’s masterpieces!

So, when you feel lost, call upon the Angels and the Archangels — and they will guide you! When you are weary, lean on the Cherubim and Seraphim — and they will buttress you! God’s special plans for you, full of hope, are unchanging, and you are being prepared. You may not see the whole path right now, but God is walking every step with you, and you will see the Kingdom of Heaven unfold before you.

So remember who you are. Dressing up like Princess Anna and Prince Charming was not really play, but a dress rehearsal for the wonder and the glory of your rightful places in God’s world. One day, you will see the Light, glowing from within you. And you will shine like a city on a hill to illuminate the world!

Until then, you will not be alone. Your mom, grandpa, grandma, and I never left you. You are loved more than you can ever know. You belong to God.

With all my blessings and prayers,

Your Emo,
who loves you more than life

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