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Help Us to Expose the Dangerous Case of Family Courts

And Protect Our Children, Our Future, Our Democracy

Many of you know about Family Court violence from my now numerous articles — but the rest of society does not. As a physician, I have watched my sister dramatically decline from a state of perfect health to being in the hospital twice this month, the second time in the intensive care unit for five days — all because of the abuses of Family Court. As a psychiatrist, I have watched my prodigy niece and nephew go from being healthy and thriving, under a parent lauded as being “the best mom,” to arresting in physical growth and continuing to miss school — as they are prohibited from seeing her for the fourth year in a row. Yet, they are the lucky ones, for many under Family Court do not survive; almost a thousand have died. This is why it is vital for me to be able to free time to finish my book. Please help:

Donate to Help Us Expose the Dangerous Case of Family Courts, organized by Bandy Lee

Too many dangers and injustices in our society are carefully obscured, purposely hidden, and lurking in the shadows for far too long. This has happened in recent years with regard to the opioid epidemic, police violence, sexual assaults, systemic racism, and even medical insurance denials. Exploitation by the very systems that are supposed to solve our problems is becoming all too frequent.

Too often it takes years if not decades for such abuses to surface into public view. Oftentimes this happens only after a particularly egregious act takes place, sometimes one that is captured on video or otherwise evokes public outrage. Even then, it may take a very long time before the perpetrators are caught, charged, and prosecuted.

This difficulty is well-known to me through my decades of work with our prison and legal systems as a forensic psychiatrist. However, none has been more shocking to me than a very serious, pervasive problem I have only recently learned about, and the public knows far too little about. After all my education, clinical research and experience, and becoming a recognized authority on human violence, I did not know until recently that Family Courts knowingly send 100,000 children per year, year after year, to their soul murder. These children grow up dead inside. Roughly a third become violent offenders. Almost all are too wounded for democracy to be possible.

It was after very unexpected personal involvement that I have become aware of this deadly and predatory practice under the guise of “legality” in the Family Courts. Since entering these Courts, through the experience of a family member’s divorce, but more importantly as an expert witness in now almost fifty cases, I have discovered that the gang rapes, gladiator fights, mayhem, and murder occurring with impunity in our maximum-security prisons pale in comparison to the deadly abuses that are taking place in our Family Courts…. And the victims are vulnerable and innocent children, not to mention the adults who try to protect them!

Family Courts, originally carved away from regular courts to protect children, are instead devouring them. In cases of family violence, which is a vast majority of child custody cases, the children are abducted from the loving parent to be given over to their torture, rape, battery, and murder — and judicial authority is used to “fix” the results — all as part of a multi-billion-dollar abuse industry.

My project for over two years, writing about the scope, scale, and severity of this scandal, is almost complete — but I need your help to finish it! Please support this project to save our children, our collective future health, and our potential for democracy….

Here is a summary of what happened to my sister:

https://cafemom.com/parenting/catherine-kassenoff-domestic-abuse-mothers

Here is my interview after another mother’s death:

https://msmagazine.com/2023/06/20/catherine-kassenoff-family-court-divorce-bandy-lee/

Here is my testimony to the New York State Senate:

https://www.nysenate.gov/sites/default/files/admin/structure/media/manage/filefile/a/2023-10/testimony-to-the-new-york-state-senate-by-bandy-x.-lee-md-mdiv.pdf

Here is what the United Nations said about the Family Courts:

https://news.un.org/en/story/2023/06/1138057

Here is what an expert consultant to the International Criminal Court said about the Family Courts:

https://europeantimes.news/2024/11/institutional-abuse-when-protective-mothers-become-victims-of-the-system/

Having spent most of my time working to keep my sister alive (the usual course is to take your children, to demand exorbitant “child support,” and then to incarcerate you if you cannot pay), I desperately need to free time to complete this project. Your support will be indispensable! Thank you, in advance!

Sincerely,

Bandy Lee, MD, MDiv

Donate to Help Us Expose the Dangerous Case of Family Courts, organized by Bandy Lee

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Family Courts: A Breeding Ground for Disease

Psychopathy and Violence Flourish in Family Court, by Virtue of Court Actors’ Own Pathology

It is not a mystery why Family Courts are obsessed with disease. Without any health or mental health background — and often without even a command of their own field of law — Family Court judges are quick to label healthy, prosperous, and upstanding persons “mentally ill” and “mentally incompetent.” Indeed, one scarcely encounters another setting where such phrases are so freely bandied about. There is a reason: they are trying to hide their own sickness, their own incompetence and unfitness, by reversing the definition of what is healthy and fit. And the ease with which they do so indicates their degree of detachment from reality.

A meeting with one of the nation’s premier legal minds revealed that what is occurring in Family Courts is not entirely unknown to the top echelons of the profession. “Family Courts are where scumbags and sociopaths gather — the dregs of the judicial system!” I was astonished to hear him say, but he is correct. I had heard Family Courts be called “the sewer” among courts and “the bottom of the totem pole” — which is why judges with little respect from the world and even less self-respect obtain their “kick” from tyrannizing and terrorizing innocence and goodness. It was initially astonishing — and telling — to me that Family Court judges are so exceptionally demeaning, dehumanizing, and debauched in their treatment of litigants, when even criminal courts are respectful of the human rights and dignity of those who come before them.

As Family Court judges side with likeminded criminals, and regularly persecute model parents and successful citizens by taking their children, their courtrooms become killing fields. Violent perpetrators commit crimes with impunity and turn tables on their victims, punishing them with the force of “the law.” In Family Court, they can gain custody of the children they are raping, torturing, battering, and murdering, while demanding exorbitant “child support” for it and incarcerating the good parents if they cannot pay. Family Courts are complicit, not just for the under-the-table envelopes and suitcases of cash (a regular fare in Family Court), or the judges’ selection and retention by “Fathers’ Rights groups” (which I call “Abusers’ Rights groups,” since they do not help good fathers), but for the intrinsic, sadistic glee of seeing those under their power suffer.

Such a dark world of brutality and cruelty is made possible through a structure of total secrecy and total power, unknown to the public and unbound by the Law, while populated by unfit judges who in turn appoint unfit “officers of the court” (such as guardians ad litem who prey upon the children they are supposed to protect); hire unfit “experts” (such as masters-level counselors who are willing to generate fraudulent reports for lucrative returns), and make a mockery of the “justice” they swore to serve.

The holiday season is a prime “opportunity” for sadistic minds. My own sister is facing having to vacate her home in the next month, pay all her ex-husband’s legal fees, pay six-figure “child support” for his imprisoning her children for the fourth year in a row without allowing her one minute of contact — and, of course, go to jail if she cannot pay. This shocking scenario is standard operating procedure in Family Court, as is the loss of health in previously thriving mothers. My sister just came out of five days in the intensive care unit, as a result of dangerously high blood pressures from discovering that her children have not grown at all — in addition to suffering injuries and missing half of school (their father was on a restraining order for almost killing each of them by head injury before Family Court gave him full custody).

This is the context in which I received the remarkable story, below, of a fellow mental health professional scheduled to be incarcerated the day before Christmas Eve. With the Family Courts, it does not matter how highly-educated, professionally-trained, and well-respected one is in the community — in fact, successful persons are the very targets of Family Court actors, who envy and punish those who do better than they by stripping them of their wealth, their possessions, their reputation, and ultimately their dignity.

Essay on Family Court, by Dr. E.C.

This road has been one of humiliation, degradation, violation and silencing. I haven’t spoken publicly about the last six years out of fear. I have a doctorate in clinical psychology and spent my career working with trauma survivors. The stories of the many survivors I have worked with since 2010 and the profound personal and institutional abuse they have endured shaped me personally and professionally. I have witnessed these dynamics on a societal level with the R. Kelly trials, Heard v. Depp, Farrow v. Allen and other famous abuse cases. I have seen civilian cases in the news and on social media with the same dynamics and very few instances of justice.

I have always stood on the side of the oppressed even when it cost me personally. However, fighting for myself has been one of the most challenging and lonely experiences of my life. I have heard far too many times, “there are two sides to every story,” and “I don’t want to get involved.” I have known far too many people who virtue signal alignment with the marginalized yet when it is their neighbor look the other way.

I write this because my story, though horrific, is not unique. If you thought that women were no longer “burned at the stake,” institutionalized or lobotomized, donned with a scarlet letter, beheaded or put in the scolds bridle in 2024 think again.

My own custody trial was nothing short of a witch hunt with actual unsubstantiated accusations of practicing witchcraft. In the months since losing my children I chose to break my silence in order to garner help for us. I posted audio clips and screen shots of the abuse. I posted true statements about what I have experienced, what my children have outcried. I have only interacted with my children in public, monitored by our abuser or by the paid supervisors he has mandated necessary for the children’s “best interests”…. I am now facing state-sanctioned silencing, threatened with further financial ruin and jail time. They are also threatening further limitation on my ability to see my children.

The expert I obtained for the trial, whom opposing counsel had struck on a technicality, rated my ex-husband as High Risk. With a substantiated pattern of abuse, multiple adult victims, threat of violence, use of a gun in his domestic violence against his wife and due to systemic failure and enablers a lack of any consequence, he is a very real threat both to her and the six children in their home. My prayer is for someone, a champion for human rights, women’s rights, civil rights to hear me.

Dear friend and supporter:

I will be going to jail on December 23rd. My ex had an unconstitutional permanent injunction slipped into my divorce decree that I was not made aware of until 2023 when I filed the modification. The language states that I cannot make public statements that would disparage his professional reputation.

When I took to social media, I was careful to not speak to his employment, work ethic or abilities in his field of finance. I spoke true things, I shared matters discussed in an open jury trial court case, I critiqued the justice system, law enforcement and child protective services (CPS), I spoke out about widely known corruption within the — th district court.

My story is not mine alone. I spoke out about the increasingly known family court crisis in America and globally that weaponizes the justice system against abuse victims and their children.

In a hearing in mid-December, in which I proved indigence, requested court-appointed counsel, was denied due process and made to represent myself pro se on the spot, the judge signed a temporary restraining order. The citation served to me requests punishment of 180 days in jail for the offense of executing my First Amendment rights, manipulated to claim it could negatively reflect his professional reputation.

The totality of the violations my ex-husband cites amount to 1,620 days in jail — 4.43 years. The normal worries of life, how to rebuild my career and even the pressing issue of protecting my children have fallen away to the singular focus of my own incarceration, despite my own heart’s desire to focus on them.

I know that fighting for myself is how I love my children best at this time. I have been told that the way I have challenged the system itself has triggered a need to make an example out of me. I would like to meet that intent. I am willing and desire to be an example of the injustice survivors of gender-based violence face when they speak out.

If I must go to jail, I want it to mean something. I want this experience to impact the lives of the women I have worked with in my 15-year career in my state and virtually with women across the country. I want my story to change the society my daughter’s burgeon into womanhood within.

Being a woman who has experienced rape and gender-based violence comes with an intentional social shaming. The social myths around these topics are meant to keep the truth silent and place the guilt inside the victim who then becomes complicit in her own abuse by feeling she is to blame for it. I refuse shame; it is not mine but theirs to bear.

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What if the Criminals are the Judges and the Court Actors?

When Family Courts Harbor Serial Murderers and Serial Predators

Family Courts are the scourge of current society. They offer a loophole where the most heinous criminals congregate to commit the greatest atrocities. Yet, the public is in the dark because these “anti-courts” concoct their own “facts”, decide what is evidence, eliminate witnesses, and conceal their crimes through “court seals.” No law enforcement can hold them accountable, because they believe they are above the law and have the means to enforce that belief. No press can cover them properly, because they threaten newsrooms and sometimes reporters mysteriously die. The result? Around 100,000 children in the U.S. per year are trafficked to their rape, torture, battery, murder, and suicide. Adults who try to protect them suffer unspeakable persecution, if they are not destroyed financially, emotionally, and physically before being killed or killing themselves. And the scale is such that our whole society now has a trail of traumatized persons who can barely function, affecting our collective state of mental health, and even the ability to maintain a democracy.

As is usually the case, without personal involvement, I myself would not have known anything about this secret world of medieval barbarity and brutality (to which I can only compare the secret world of prison abuse, where gang rapes, gladiator fights, beatings, and murders happen with impunity — and yet Family Courts are worse, since their victims are innocent children!). Even as a family member, I may not have known, without being an expert witness for the courts and getting involved in over forty other Family Court cases, that the pattern of cruelty and violence is horrifically consistent if not identical. Not even other judges or those in the legal profession are aware of the full extent of the abuses that are occurring within Family Court fiefdoms, where judges serve as “judge, jury, expert, and executioner” (I insert “expert” here, because the judge decides the finding and picks the right “expert” to give it, not the other way around).

However, even my sister’s “judge” could not hold onto her case forever. The original trial date was set for November 2022, which she then postponed to July 2023, and then to August, September, October, and November 2023, and then to January 2024, before it finally happened in May 2024. Even then, she did not release her ruling until December 2024. Neither litigant wanted the divorce so prolonged, but stalling time was the only way she could “habituate” an unacceptable arrangement. Indeed, during the four years of litigation, almost nothing else was achieved, other than dragging out time to cement the children’s “traumatic bond” with their abusive father, who had kidnapped them very early in the case without allowing them even one minute — whether in person, by phone, or through the exchange of a single message — with the mother who raised them since birth. In other words, a “temporary” transfer of custody was by default made “permanent” by imposing an inordinate passage of time — and for children, four years is an eternity!

Here is what happened:

‘Child Therapist’ Barbara Maurer

When Family Court mandated the children to “therapy”, Maurer seemed to know “the protocol.” She would take days or weeks to answer the mother’s queries, if at all, but if the father called, she responded within minutes. She had only one task: to make the abusive father “good” and the caring mother “bad”, and to cover up any signs of abuse. The children, who became more suicidal after each session with her, finally refused her “therapy”. In response, she locked them in her office and traumatized them, which caused her licensing board to investigate her, to adjudge her guilty, and to force her to recuse herself. The Family Court’s response was simply to find a replacement, this time without notifying the mother and while concealing the identity of the new “therapist”.

‘Guardian ad litem’ Evelyn Nissirios

As the “children’s” guardian ad litem in Family Court, Nissirios’ one task was to work for “the best interests” of the child predator. In order to do so, she perjured herself a staggering 600 documented times in just this one case! On the father’s first weekend with the children, soon after being on a restraining order for almost crushing the skull of his seven-year-old son and almost having killed his daughter as an infant, he tried to abscond with the children, having stolen their passports and secretly crossing state borders to take them hours away from home. This directly violated court directives, and he was caught only because the terrified children called their maternal grandfather, but none of the above bothered Nissirios

However, when the mother picked up her children slightly early from school, on a day she was specifically authorized to have her children — partly because they were distressed and suicidal from the prior, terrifying weekend with their unstable father — she descended on the mother like a hawk! She immediately coordinated with the father to make a false police report, scheduled an emergency, secret hearing without notice to either the mother or her attorney, and sent in a SWAT team of five police officers, who forcibly tore the crying and clinging children from their mother, accusing her of trying to “abscond” with them. This ambush attack could also be deemed an attempted murder, since just hours earlier the mother had notified the Court, including Nissirios and the father, of a medical emergency: life-threatening, stress-induced high blood pressures that Nissirios and the father themselves caused through hourly harassment and demands for updates. The charges against the mother were instantly dropped when their lies to the police were exposed, but having seized the children, they had no intention of letting them go. Police raids are apparently Nissirios’ specialty, as she has done across dozens of cases, before blocking the children’s contact with the loving parent altogether — and then telling the children the good parent abadoned them, no longer loves them, and wishes to have nothing to do with them.

‘Judge’ Jane Gallina-Mecca

That this Family Court “judge” is the orchestrator of these child theft operations is seen in her relentless control of the narrative. How Gallina-Mecca has aggressively taken down articles, despite the Washington Post shaming her for doing so years earlier — and falsely arrested medical professionals, based on secret orders she could not show anyone — has been written about elsewhere. Her track record is extremely disturbing, with multiple murders under her “belt”, and a petition for impeachment in process, whereby several family members of litigants who were murdered under her hope to testify.

Herself an abusive personality, she “mentors” already-sadistic Nissirios on heaping one human rights violation after another to hide their own, shocking criminality. By going against ten psychiatric reports unanimously confirming the mother’s “excellent mental health” and “exceptional talent in parenting” — one of them 96 pages long with extensive testing and collateral interviews — Gallina-Mecca was practicing medicine without a license.

Because she had no evidence, witnesses, or experts taking her side, Gallina-Mecca simply appointed an endless stream of needless court actors to parrot her preset narrative. This included a guardian ad litem for the mother, Linda Schofel — for the duly-diagnosed psychopathic father’s fantasy fulfillment of labeling the mother “mentally ill” and in need of a “guardian”, instead of himself. It also included an unlicensed student “counselor”, Tara Devine — who was willing to give Gallina-Mecca the “evaluation” that no other, highly-credentialed psychiatrist or psychologist would (and Gallina-Mecca, of course, counted only her opinion!). There was also a designated pediatrician, Karen Wu — who has finally recently been criminally indicted for falsification of medical records, tampering with evidence, retaliating against witnesses, and failing to report child abuse. And, in addition to Child Protective Services and the Child Abuse Hotline, the long tentacles of Gallina-Mecca have also interfered with one assignment judge, one civil court judge, one municipal judge, two appellate judges, and at least one covering judge on this one case — and this is only what I know about!

The Father

That this kind of “court” is where my brother-in-law drags his family into should make clear his serious psychiatric problems, without even knowing his diagnosis (since the most dangerous psychiatric disorders are also the most deceptive). After all, he decided to file for divorce because my sister “stopped praising” him enough. A corporate lawyer and student of Alan Dershowitz, he is the perfect kind Family Courts cater to. They enticed him with full custody, financial rewards, and punishment for a family that dared to have a mind of its own (for example, when he suddenly imposed himself on the children so that he could have an edge in his divorce — after being an absentee father all their lives — they dared to scream and cry every day!). And now, with the Family Court to prop him up, he will show them he is somebody!

Instead of containing his sickness and managing his behavior — indeed, during the five days he was on a restraining order after smashing his son against a window, both children were calm, cheerful, and back to their normal selves — Family Court saw his symptoms as an “opportunity” to entice and enable. His compulsions would find it impossible to resist their offer, and his detachment from reality would keep him from noticing how the Court is draining all his and his wife’s assets. He was busy rejoicing, for the first time, being labeled “the good parent” and being given the license to unleash vengeance against his family for “not loving” him enough, with all the force of the law behind him!

This is the ugly “service” that Family Courts sell, breeding psychopathy and violence, under the guise of being a “court”. Violent men, who like in my brother-in-law’s case almost killed his wife six times, almost killed each of his children on different occasions, kidnapped the children, and continues to neglect, injure, and harm them, can experience being all-powerful and all-righteous, while putting on a perfect public façade — since no one would believe the truth, even if one heard it.

Picking up the ruling:

December 4, 2024, was the date of ruling, available for pickup only two days later. It was obviously timed for maximal inconvenience, so that my sister would have to prepare an appeal, to move residences, and to meet all the demands of the judgment during the holiday season — so that all would be ready for the father by the New Year. I and a friend had accompanied her to the courthouse, in case she needed to go to the emergency room, as she did the last time she was there (she almost died five times from stress-induced hypertensive crises, because of the Court). The experience was interesting: like a mob boss, the judge had her clerk’s office hidden away and inaccessible. Instead, when we inquired a passerby, she had us wait for her to get the judge’s clerk, who directed us to sit on a bench, far out in the rotunda. While we were told the judgment was being printed, not one but two clerks constantly stepped out to surveille us in the sitting area. Finally, when one of them emerged to deliver what seemed like an envelope with half a ream of paper, she was accompanied by a police officer with a gun!

The friend was stunned, but I was not: this judge is fully cognizant that my sister was entering the building for the first time in three years, because her Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) accommodation identified the courthouse as a site of trauma. She literally developed post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) after the police raid took her children, and has been unable to feel safe near a policeman since. What more maximal way to torment and “break” someone, as is the chief mechanism by which Family Courts carry out their heist? We did not have to take my sister to the emergency room then, but the next day the ambulance transported her there, where she was recommended to be hospitalized.

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The Untold Barbarity and Brutality of the Family Courts

A Health Professional’s Introduction

When forensic mental health experts first enter the court system, we are warned that it is a “different universe” with its “own way of doing things.” Indeed, when I was medical faculty teaching at a law school for seventeen years, I spoke to law students of how law school is an “acculturation” process, just as medical school was for me. This, in part, helps professional training and the adoption of habits and ways of processing that facilitate our becoming specialists in our respective fields. However, who could prepare any civilized, unsuspecting person — professional or not — for the organized crime that is hidden in the Family “Courts”? I actually call Family Courts “anti-courts” because they are the very antithesis of a court system, but that is only the beginning. Through total secrecy, unlimited judicial “discretion”, poor-quality judges, and grotesque racketeering, these entities have become the epicenter of unspeakable human depravity, barbaric injustices, and brutality against the most vulnerable members of our society. Children, instead of being protected, are the first to be preyed upon, battered, tortured, raped, and murdered (see the statistics of one thousand children who have been murdered). And loving parents, instead of being supported, are stripped of their children, their possessions, their profession, and their dignity, if not their lives (many die through suicide, heart attack, cancer, and other Family Court-caused illnesses, if not murder). Buttressed by tightly-guarded cronyism, judges and court officers can create their own alternative reality by redefining abuse as “good”, empathy as “bad”, and the courtroom their playground for sadistic cruelties. Health professionals do not have this choice; being data-driven, they cannot help but witness the untold human suffering from in and out of court. Yet, there is nothing one can do, since court officials are the ultimate arbiters of “truth”, no matter how untethered to reality or the law (as are Family Courts). Below is an essay I invited upon a therapist contacting me, stating: “I’ve been shocked and horrified as a trauma therapist, by the behavior of Family Court toward my clients. I just thought it was misogyny and lack of training, [but supervising a social worker Family Court victim,] I think it may be a bigger problem than we thought….” Here is her expanded essay:

Family Court Perpetuates Coercive Control Abuse

By Pamela Rogers

I first noticed there was a problem in Family Court when I worked in community mental health, running a Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) group. I got referrals from Family Court, and at first, I saw it as positive, thinking in good faith that they were sending traumatized Domestic Violence survivors to DBT because it helped those symptoms, as well as borderline personality disorder. Many of these clients had no choice but to comply, whether it worked for their jobs or for their psychological state or not. The process just imposed undue stress on them and almost none of them met criteria for Borderline Personality, so it wasn’t necessary they attend. That’s when I realized the problem. These women weren’t being referred to our service for their own good, but for their perpetrators, so that they could be labeled with a problematic personality disorder and be made responsible for the trauma they endured. Their stories told in individual sessions revealed their pain at being separated from their children by the court and that they had considered suicide over the loss. I assumed, at first, there was more to their stories, something to justify it, such as substance abuse, anything, but I never really identified much in nearly all cases.

Around that time, I had an individual therapy case who had shared custody with a man who had been observed to be abusive toward her child. This woman was not only unable to report suspected abuse or risk her custody but was prevented from having her daughter examined by a doctor around suspected sexual abuse by a guardian ad litem appointed by the court who had a relationship with the father. This same guardian ad litem failed to hold the father accountable for using a breathalyzer when her daughter was with him, as ordered by the court, as well as using a sealed document of her taking her daughter to a doctor out of concern over her frequent UTI’s against her after taking away her right to take medical and educational decisions. They effectively shut down her will to fight for her daughter’s safety.

Later, in private practice, I heard even more heinous stories, first the pattern of coercive control, of isolation and terrifying abuse, sometimes while pregnant, followed by use of the court system to continue the pattern of intimidation and emotional abuse around co-parenting. My clients would be discouraged by attorneys from bringing up their domestic violence issues at all, to avoid being penalized by the court. Family court would only allow them shared custody if they could prove they could effectively co-parent with their abuser, often being forced into co-parenting counseling together. They would then be penalized for their dissociative or reactive symptoms in that highly inappropriate setting. Co-parenting and family therapists were often chosen by their abuser and were therefore sympathetic to only their side and inappropriate and grossly unqualified for counseling in a domestic violence situation. They were generally not open to my input in the situation, my clients being presented as unstable borderline personalities, and they were not. It is my experience that clients that do meet criteria for BPD, when in treatment, are appropriate parents, but vulnerable to the stresses of domestic violence and community violence perpetuated against them by Family Court.

Additionally, I began to see patterns of what I now understand to be predatory alienation perpetrated by my clients’ abusers, who at the same time accused their victims of “alienating” parental affection by telling their abuse stories. That is classic “accuse the other of that which you are guilty” — the gaslighting common in coercive control abuse. “Parental alienation” is misunderstood by the court system since it was hijacked by abusers to prevent their victims from telling their stories, right from the beginning. This is why attorneys discourage clients from bringing up domestic violence and even from suing for child support when they have a dangerous ex. It seems these dangerous personalities will easily manipulate the Family Court system to get custody, even primary custody, to avoid child support, or even get support from their victims.

“Parental alienation” involves the exaggeration of parental mistakes that under normal circumstances would not impact parental attachment but would be used by abusers to continue the pattern of abuse. If it doesn’t involve serious violence or terrifying behavior, I know as a trauma therapist, it wouldn’t impair that attachment without the pattern of alienating behavior, which can literally flip the attachment from the safe parent to the abusive one, in a pattern like Stockholm syndrome. Children remain attached to even grossly abusive parents as they are hard wired for attachment as a survival strategy. If children have impaired attachment toward parents with whom they have previously had healthy attachment, this pattern of alienation should be investigated by the courts.

Clients don’t recover from trauma if they can’t tell their stories, so they must be able to tell the trauma story, and the children who observed the trauma must hear it to avoid the dissociative symptoms common in these dysfunctional family systems. There is a way to tell the stories without alienating parental affection, if there is evidence the offending parent is mending their ways. If not, they have no business having custody of the children regardless. I have advocated for the rights of fathers, but not at the expense of victims of domestic violence. Both parents are important in the lives of the children, but only if they are not actively abusing their children, and actual predatory alienation is child abuse. Family Court needs to be educated on what that pattern really involves to avoid participating in the pattern of coercive control abuse after divorce.

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The Organized Crime of Family Court has No Checks or Balances

Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca Enjoys Impunity So Far, while Hundreds of Innocent Victims have Suffered

Family Courts have two things going for them: the words, “Family” and “Court”. The public is deceived about the damage Family Courts are doing to the fabric of family structures, specifically by decimating — often literally killing — the women and children who walk into their courtroom doors. The voiceless not only entirely lose their voice, but often their psychological and physical survival as well, in this predatory system that exploits the most vulnerable like perhaps no other destructive machine (mostly because of secrecy). The public is also in the dark about how Family Courts have nothing to do with the law, having been endowed with “unlimited judicial discretion” — initially so that they could perform benevolence, but which in practice they use for the most gruesome imaginable malevolence. Unlimited “discretion” has allowed them to steal children from healthy parents and families, to traffic them to pedophilic sex rings and the child pornography industry, and to siphon off billions of dollars from private bank accounts and federal coffers. How does a court structure deal with such massive organized crime within its ranks? It doesn’t. Appeals are important checks and balances of the judicial process, but they do not work in overturning “discretion”; federal courts avoid getting involved, citing “the Rooker-Feldman doctrine” (a principle that prevents federal courts from rehearing state court judgments); and all other law enforcement agencies are under Family Court, not over it. This is why public exposure of Family Courts is so critical.

Below is an application for an emergency appeal my sister, Patricia Lee, filed, which I had to obtain through other means, since she is not allowed to talk to me about her case. I ran it by a talented lawyer who, impressed with her writing, said: “This should have been the perfect appeal!” However, Patricia’s judge is the notorious Jane Gallina-Mecca, who extends long tentacles to control and meddle into everything in and out of court — and she had a classmate (same school and same year) and former fellow Family Court judge in the Appellate Division to deny the appeal. This is only one of numerous times she has done this, and one of the reasons why Gallina-Mecca is being referred to the State Senate for impeachment, with close to 2000 signatures and at least a dozen recorded witness testimonies.

Application for Permission to File Emergency Appeal

What is the nature of the emergency?

The trial court transferred custody of my two (2) children to their violently abusive father, who almost killed each of them and was previously on a restraining order (which the Court negated by mandating visits). He has now detained them for over three (3) years, despite forensic expert reports of their steep medical and academic decline. Now, in collusion with a compromised guardian ad litem, he is targeting me for homicide.

What is the irreparable harm, and when do you expect this harm to occur?

The irreparable harm is my imminent death, not to mention my children’s ongoing “soul murder” (a psychological condition of those in my children’s situation, where they are imprisoned with their abuser without access to their primary caregiver). The emergency room documented two (2) near-death episodes in me in four (4) months, as a direct result of the guardian ad litem’s and my ex-husband’s instigation of my known medical condition. The trial court’s turning a blind eye to facts and evidence over four (4) years has emboldened them, escalating dangers for me. Numerous expert witnesses have warned that my life is at risk because of my ex-husband’s dangerous personality disorder and his “tangential spouse abuse” (abuse of my children to torment me).

What relief do you seek?

An overturning of denial of the habeas corpus motion, so that a de-facto custody arrangement, achieved through intentional lying, suppression of evidence, and fraud upon the court can be reexamined. An issuance of the order confirming my mental competence, so that my rights do not continue to be violated. And restoration of custody time, so that a fourth (4th) holiday season does not go by with my being unable to see, hear from, or exchange gifts with the children I raised since their birth.

a) Have you filed for a stay before the trial court or agency?

I have made numerous filings in the trial court, but no evidentiary hearing has resulted. The trial judge’s arbitrary and capricious, predetermined rulings, in contradiction to facts, are upheld by default through the simple passage of time.

If so, do you have a court order or agency decision denying or granting same?

The recent denial of habeas corpus amounts to an application to reconsider the November 12, 2021, ruling that transferred custody of my children, based on a secret meeting without notifying me or my lawyer, without a plenary hearing, and without a statement of reason. I am still barred from accessing the transcript of that meeting.

If you did not immediately seek a stay from the trial court or agency, or if you did not immediately file this application with the Appellate Division after the trial court or agency denied your stay application, explain the reasons for the delay.

In December 2021, the trial judge threatened my lawyer against filing an interlocutory appeal. When I went pro se, the trial judge appointed a guardian ad litem to prevent me from filing. In January 2023, I completed a psychiatric evaluation that confirmed my mental competence. The trial judge only heard it in February 2024 but refused to issue an order. When I applied for an emergency appeal anyway, in April 2023 and June 2023, they were denied because my divorce trial was supposedly “imminent” — now, seventeen (17) months have passed while I have still not seen or heard from my children.

If the order, judgment or agency decision is final, have you filed a notice of appeal?

There is not yet a final decision, even though a trial was held over six (6) months ago — in my absence and while denying me all due process.

Also, a final decision should not be considered “imminent”, as the Appellate Division deemed it when I filed my last application seventeen (17) months ago. The trial court uses stalling as a means of avoiding accountability, or of simply “habituating” an unacceptable arrangement. For example, for the past four (4) years of litigation, little has been achieved other than dragging out time to cement my children’s “traumatic bond” with their abusive father — while prohibiting, without cause or stated reason, my having any contact or communication with them, even though I was their primary caregiver. In other words, a “temporary” transfer of custody that was illegitimate and illegal in the first place was by default made “permanent” by imposing an inordinate passage of time.

What is the essence of the order, judgment or agency decision?

The order keeps me from seeing or communicating with my children for whom I was the primary caregiver all their lives. It has also served, in its fourth (4th) year, as a de-facto permanent transfer of custody of my children to their violently abusive father without due process. The basis of this order was the false arrest and malicious prosecution orchestrated by the guardian ad litem, [name redacted because of threats], in collusion with the father, Alan T. Chan, to give justification for an immediate and illegal transfer of my children without due process, without my or my lawyer being present, on the specious grounds that I was “absconding” with my children — on my assigned weekend with them. The trial court gave “legal” cover by aiding and abetting these unconstitutional actions.

a) Has any aspect of this matter been presented to or considered by another judge or part of the Appellate Division by emergent application or prior appeal proceedings?

Yes. Judge Kevin McNulty of the Third Circuit District Court, and Judges Thomas Hardiman, Thomas Ambro, and Julio Fuentes of the Third Circuit Court of Appeals. They cited the Rooker-Feldman doctrine and all — including the New Jersey Supreme Court’s Advisory Committee on Judicial Conduct — referred me to the Appellate Division.

a) Have any transcripts been ordered (particularly of the trial judge’s challenged ruling)?

Yes. I have been denied all transcripts from the last four (4) years of this litigation, including the trial judge’s challenged rulings, without recourse, justification, or explanation.

If so, when will the transcript(s) be available?

I may need the Appellate Division to compel it, as all transcripts for the last four (4) years have so far been “sealed” against me without justification or explanation.

Please give a brief summary of the facts of your case.

My full-time custody of my children, ages seven (7) and nine (9) at the time, was abruptly interrupted when a SWAT team of five (5) police officers raided and seized my children, without warning, on my authorized weekend of being specifically assigned to have them, on November 12, 2021. I was falsely accused of “absconding” with them when I had simply taken them to a nearby hotel twenty (20) minutes from my house to use its swimming pool. It was later revealed that the compromised guardian ad litem, [name redacted because of threats], and my ex-husband, Alan T. Chan, had orchestrated the raid by lying to the police and committing fraud upon the court — fraud that was so blatant, the police immediately dropped the charges against me, but the trial court never returned my children. The previous weekend, it was discovered, my ex-husband actually tried to abscond with the children, having stolen their passports and crossed state lines into Pennsylvania, violating court directives — and was caught because the children called my father in terror. My ex-husband had reasons to abscond, having recently had zero (0) custody, while on a restraining order for slamming our 7-year-old son against a window, almost crushing his skull. He also almost killed our daughter as an infant, by throwing her in the air to land head first on a concrete floor. This raid was also a near-homicide, as the court had been notified of my life-threatening medical condition just hours earlier. Once [my children] were abducted, the trial judge simply closed down all investigations and refused any plenary hearings, despite reports of numerous other injuries and failure to thrive, unprecedented absences from school, and their “care” being passed onto their feeble, 87-year-old grandfather. I would further add that, since November 12, 2021, I have been denied all motions to see or even talk to my children even for one (1) minute, denied access to all court transcripts, denied access to my children’s school and medical records, and denied discussing this case with anyone, including my own sister.

What legal citation (i.e., statute, regulation, court case) is most important for the proposition that you are likely to prevail on appeal?

Mackowski v. Mackowski, 317 N.J. Super 8, 11 (App. Div. 1998) stated: “[o]ur courts have repeatedly held that so drastic a decision as a change in child custody cannot be made on the basis of conflicting certifications” without witnesses or evidence. The Supreme Court held in Beck v. Beck, 86 N.J. 480 (1981) that the courts cannot enter a custody judgment without an evidentiary hearing. For custody decisions “to serve the best interests of the children,” Sacharow v. Sacharow, 177 N.J. 62, 80 (2003), a judge must come to a decision that “fosters, not hampers, a healthy parent child relationship.” Nufrio v. Nufrio, 341 N.J. Super. 548, 550 (App. Div. 2001). Interlocutory appeals may be heard “in the interest of justice.” R. 2:2–4; R. 2:5–6. Leave is granted “where … justice suggests the need for a review in advance of final judgment.” Appeal of Pennsylvania Railroad Co., 20 N.J. 398, 409 (1956). Refusing to follow N.J.S.A. 9:2–4, the trial court stripped my constitutional parental rights for years without recourse.

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How Family Court Corruption Kills

Having a Case in Family Court Should Not be a Life Sentence for the Innocent Child and a Death Penalty for the Loving Parent — but Too Often It is

Here is one example of how it happens. The “guardian ad litem” (GAL) co-conspired with the violently abusive father to abduct two children from their loving home and nurturing mother, to transfer them to the violent father’s full custody. Being callous and uncaring of the children’s needs, the violent father has refused even one minute of visitation or phone call with the mother who singlehandedly raised them from birth, for a full three years — even though, or precisely because, there has been no finding of fault in her whatsoever (whereas he was on a restraining order for almost killing each of his children by head injury). The GAL is the court actor who facilitates this wrongful transfer of custody: she orchestrates the forced abduction, through violent police raid in this case; she uses her court authority to ensure that the pediatrician, school officials, and the police do not report evidence of violent abuse; she buries evidence and intimidates witnesses, through false arrests in this case; “exonerates” the violent parent by closing down investigations; and she “incriminates” the innocent parent through abuses of authority in a secretive court without oversight. Why? It is a multi-billion-dollar business, which yields lucrative returns for stealing children and trafficking them to the “wrong” parent. Since the “wrong” parent likely engages in violence, abuse, and all too often trafficking to pedophilic sex rings and the child pornography industry, this means that children are being auctioned off to their life sentence at best and torture, battery, rape, suicide, and murder at worst. Since the loving parent is a witness, she is intimidated, harassed, and sometimes killed. All this is happening to tens, if not hundreds, of children per year, simply for entering Family Court, perhaps thinking of getting a divorce…. Below is my supplemental reply/affidavit to the GAL who filed for a protective order against my sister (when the GAL is the one who literally came close to killing her three times — and a fourth time two days after this affidavit!) and a protective order against me for speaking about what she has done:

I, BANDY LEE, of full age, do hereby Certify/Swear as follows:

1. This is not a response to the contents of [GAL’s] Supplemental Certification but to the fact that she submitted one — against the Rules of the Court and in ways that threw both myself and [Patricia Lee’s] lawyer into confusion and chaos — to demonstrate why her application for a protective order should be reframed as an act of aggression, not a desire for protection, and why she must be referred to criminal court.

2. [GAL’s] style is very consistent. At the very last minute, she creates an ambush, so that her victim has no recourse for action. Literally, figuratively, and metaphorically, her actions are those of a predatory thug. She lies in ambush to outmaneuver her victims, not legally but through assaults so massive and unexpected that, by the time her victims recognize what is happening, it is often too late. She seizes children by police raid without warning, tortures the children and parent until they psychologically “break”, and then claim that the children had to be taken because the mother was “mentally ill.” This is what she attempted in Patricia Lee’s case, also: she assigned for her to have her children the weekend of November 12, 2021, and then manipulated the police to raid and seize her children, under the false accusation that she was “absconding” with them! Of course, she omitted the fact that November 12, 2021, was the very weekend she herself assigned for Patricia Lee to have the children (see Exhibit A). It is rather the massiveness and egregiousness of her lies that help her get away with them, since it would be unbelievable to most that an officer of the court could lie so blatantly and so viciously.

3. [GAL] is not afraid for her life; she is only afraid of accountability for her actual crimes and “damage” to her false reputation. The First Amendment exists to protect a citizen’s ability to criticize government abuses, including court appointees. [GAL] has filed for a protective order solely for the purpose of circumventing the First Amendment. If [GAL] believed my public writings were unfair or untrue, she had a recourse: a defamation lawsuit. She has not gone this route for one and only one reason: she does not have a case. Every word I have stated is true. Only in Family Court can she be totally untethered from the Law, which is why she is trying to force a square peg into the round hole of a protective order.

4. Your Honor is being used as a patsy. [GAL’s] certifications are replete with features of criminal psychology that would be immediately evident to a seasoned forensic psychiatrist or psychologist. You Honor knows there is no case, and it would be embarrassing for you to continue.

5. Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca, who enabled and supported [GAL’s] false witness, through her documented 600 lies and acts of perjury — is now being referred to the New Jersey Senate for impeachment with 1600 signatures and a half-dozen video-recorded testimonies.

6. By placing Your Honor in charge of something Judge Gallina-Mecca herself was rebuked for trying to do, you are being used to try to justify the unjustifiable. Whether you obsequiously go along with this pathetic attempt to violate the U.S. Constitution by silencing me will be a litmus test on your integrity as a judge — and could well define your reputation, also.

7. You have already stated that you will not subpoena a transcript that Judge Gallina-Mecca has sealed. At the same time, you allowed [GAL] to go as far back as November 2021 to support her argument — when the Victim’s Assistance and Survivor Protection Act (VASPA) permits complaints only from January 2024 onward.

8. You cannot hide behind your black robe. You unequivocally accepted [GAL’s] feeble rationalization and her feeble case without any credible evidence, and then issued possibly the most frivolous protective order in the history of jurisprudence.

9. That [GAL] is in no sense fearing for her life was evident when she made an offer to Defendant Patricia Lee — an offer to drop her case in exchange for no more articles. When Patricia Lee consented, under the condition that she access the transcript of November 12, 2021, [GAL] retracted her offer. If [GAL] were truly fearful for her life, why would she exchange it for a transcript? And what could be in that transcript that [GAL] is so terrified of revealing, that she cannot even allow Defendant’s lawyer to see it?

10. What is in that transcript is the fact that [GAL] has taken sadistic, perverted delight in kidnapping children from a devoted, loving parent, sent them to their torture, and then unconscionably and sadistically tormented these traumatized children by taunting them that their loving mother “abandoned” them. This is her consistent pattern, as several witnesses have attested to, and this is what she did on November 12, 2021, in collusion with Patricia Lee’s abusive spouse, Alan T. Chan, when she orchestrated her children’s abduction and refused to allow them to see or speak to their mother for even one minute in three years, much to the “alarm” and “shock” of several child psychiatrists who have consulted on the case.

11. What is the difference between what she did — police raiding Defendant Patricia Lee based on lies, violently seizing Defendant’s children, closing down Division of Child Protection and Permanency (DCPP) investigations of the children’s violent abuser, transferring the children’s custody to their violent abuser, getting doctors arrested, getting Patricia Lee arrested, pressuring pediatricians to alter their medical records, pressuring the principal to change school attendance records, and keeping all court records sealed against Patricia Lee herself so that she cannot fight back — and kidnapping two children? There is no difference, once the smoke-and-mirrors “legality” she abuses is taken away.

12. The bitter irony is that a protective order needs to be issued against [GAL], for almost causing Patricia Lee’s death at least three times; causing four arrests of innocent people based on malicious prosecution; causing irreparable, irreversible psychological trauma and physical failure to thrive in two innocent, vulnerable children; and protecting their duly-diagnosed, psychopath father from criminal accountability, based on her 600 documented lies and acts of perjury!

13. [GAL] is hiding under the sanctuary of the court, and you are being used to cover for criminal acts for which she should be disbarred and incarcerated. [GAL] has made a mafia organization out of her court connections. Indeed, her guise of being an “officer of the court” has shielded her from prosecution for the most heinous, violent, and predatory crimes against innocent children and their loving parents. I am a mandated reporter of these crimes. This, and only this, is the reason [GAL] is petrified of my exercising my First Amendment rights, as well as my legally-mandated duty as a professional expert witness for the courts.

14. Not only did [GAL] file for a frivolous protective order, she intended to weaponize it for harm. [GAL] intimidated Defendant Patricia Lee as a witness of her crimes from the start. Hence, despite knowing of Patricia Lee’s life-threatening, stress-induced high blood pressure condition (see Exhibit B) — or precisely because of her knowledge of it — she is now using her phony “protective order” as an excuse to send the police to her home for her, for me, for an amended complaint, and for an amended complaint for me. Unsurprisingly, because of her life-threatening condition, Defendant Patricia Lee landed in the emergency room with life-threatening high blood pressures following this “protective order” (see Exhibit C), which the emergency physician stated could have killed her — and has now been bed-ridden for three months and ongoing. She already has Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) accommodations for the court, solely as a result of [GAL’s] assaults, as you know (she had no need before). Yet, despite these irrefutable, documented facts, Your Honor refused to issue a protective order for Defendant Patricia Lee. What does this say about your biased view of this case?

15. Your Honor should unequivocally dismiss this case, sanction [GAL] for filing for a frivolous protective order — in the same manner that [GAL] fined Patricia Lee 27,000 dollars for suing her, when [GAL] had caused Patricia Lee to lose her children without due process or cause — and refer [GAL] to criminal court. As her last-minute submission of a Certification showed, every action by [GAL] is consistent with the criminal pattern to “DARVO” (“Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender”) when one’s victim is most vulnerable — a well-known tactic of violent offenders. [GAL] was depending on her ability to “break” her victim psychologically through gaslighting, torture, intimidation, misinformation, disinformation, floods of useless information, lies, propaganda, and abuse of “judicial immunity” to get away with her crimes. But despite these insults, Patricia Lee is psychologically intact, as ten highly-qualified psychiatrists and psychologists attest to. Only her physical symptoms, in the form of stress-induced, lethal-level high blood pressure crises serve as a measure for [GAL’s] violent assaults, even when she disguises them in her highly psychopathic manner. Hence, Patricia Lee has accumulated abundant medical evidence and remains fully capable of testifying against [GAL] in a criminal court that actually looks at evidence and follows the Law — which has so far not happened in family court.

Signed, Bandy X. Lee, M.D., M.Div., and Notarized on the 17th day of October, 2024.

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Probable Cause Found!

Against One of the Accomplices of a Corrupt Family Court Guardian ad Litem

Family Courts could not carry out their organized crime of trafficking children to their abusers, fixing “evidence”, silencing witnesses, and destroying victims’ ability to fight back or to speak up, if not for accomplices. These may include police officers, school officials, or health professionals. After a series of setbacks, including established criminal charges against a guardian ad litem mysteriously being reversed, probable cause was finally found against a pediatrician she caused to alter her records. Below is my affidavit:

I, Bandy Lee, duly sworn upon oath, declare the following statement is true to the best of my knowledge:

I am a forensic psychiatrist, former fellow of the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), and consultant of the World Health Organization (WHO), who taught at Yale School of Medicine and Yale Law School for seventeen years before joining the Harvard Program in Psychiatry and the Law. In 2002, I assisted in the WHO’s launch of its World Report on Violence and Health. In 2007, I coauthored the United Nations Secretary-General’s chapter on “Violence against Children.” In 2013, I submitted a report on Rikers Island Correctional Facility that brought in federal investigators and initiated reforms. I helped the French Ministry of Justice reform its criminal justice system in ways that are now emulated around the globe. I have now been asked to help reform New York State’s entire system of 44 prisons, simultaneously to reduce violence and solitary confinement, which I have already demonstrated with the San Francisco County Jails. I have been an expert witness in over 200 criminal and civil court cases, of which approximately 40 were family court cases. I have authored over 100 scientific articles, over 300 opinion editorials, and an authoritative textbook, Violence. I have witnessed and documented the actions of Dr. K.W., as the pediatrician of my niece and nephew, X and Y.Dr. W. was the first physician (among approximately a dozen health professionals) to acknowledge to the mother, Patricia Lee, that their father, Alan T. Chan, was physically and psychologically abusive and neglectful to them, which led to their acts of self-harm, suicide notes, and one witnessed suicide attempt. I witnessed all of this in real time, as well as am the firsthand witness of Mr. Chan’s daily violent abuse of his children and spouse.On September 29, 2021, as part of my legally-mandated reporting of child abuse and endangerment, I sent Dr. W. a copy of Mr. Chan’s alarming psychiatric diagnosis — psychopathy, as simultaneously but independently diagnosed by myself and Dr. Michael Stone, one of the nation’s top experts on psychopathic disorders.Instead of heeding our warnings, Dr. W. violated HIPAA (medical confidentiality) laws to give the report to Mr. Chan, which endangered his victims, who gave their reports under promise of anonymity (the diagnosis of psychopathy relies on the multiple interviews with victims as collateral sources).Dr. W.’s failure to make a mandated report, but rather pretending that the children were “fine” led to Mr. Chan’s ability to kidnap and conceal the children, since November 12, 2021. For example, she omitted the children’s missing half of school, suffering injuries that an orthopedist said were “neglected for months,” making multiple emergency room visits, undergoing surgery from dental neglect, being recklessly exposed to Covid-19 and Hepatitis B, etc., since their violent transfer to the father’s “care” three years ago. Mr. Chan, meanwhile, prevented anyone other than Dr. W. from examining them. At the same time, Dr. W. removed documentary evidence she previously included on the children’s abuse from the medical records.Yet, Dr. W.’s records themselves showed that they went from average height and weight to the bottom of their age groups, but she did not find this alarming at all. Instead, she falsified her records to leave out orthopedic injuries, emergency room visits, and their missing almost half of school since the forced abduction.On August 3, 2023, Patricia Lee called to request her children’s annual checkup records and was told that she could pick them up on the next day, August 4, 2023. When she did, the most critical notes were missing from the records. Failing to resolve the issue by phone, Patricia Lee presented to Dr. W.’s office, and after great effort received the records but found out that the content was tampered with, and the growth charts — which showed extreme failure to thrive in the past — were missing. Rather, Dr. W.’s notes contained critical falsehoods, fabrications, and serious omissions, in order to paint a fraudulent, “rosy” picture. Patricia Lee asked to meet with Dr. W. but was told that there was a new “rule”: the pediatrician could not see a parent without her children! Upon hearing this, I decided to try to speak to her as physician to physician and went to Dr. W.’s office directly from work. Instead of meeting with a colleague as a normal professional would, Dr. W. refused to appear. When I showed my physician badge and stated that this regarded a medical emergency and child endangerment, the office staff astonishingly began to call the police!

2C:28–5 Tampering with witnesses and informants; retaliation against them.

Dr. W., believing that an official proceeding or investigation is pending or about to be instituted or has been instituted, knowingly engaged in conduct that a reasonable person would believe would cause a witness or informant to:

(2) Withhold documents;

(3) Elude legal process summoning them to testify or supply evidence;

(5) Otherwise obstruct, prevent, and impede an official proceeding or investigation into Alan T. Chan’s child abuse.

b. Retaliation against witness or informant. Dr. W. attempted to harm both Patricia Lee and myself, both reporters of Alan T. Chan’s child abuse and one a fellow physician, with purpose to retaliate for or on account of the service of Alan T. Chan, through threat of arrest.

N.J.S.A. 2C:33–2, Disorderly Conduct, by failure to report child abuse

According to Title 9:6–8.10, any person having reasonable cause to believe that a child has been subjected to child abuse, including sexual abuse, or acts of child abuse shall report the same immediately to the Division of Child Protection and Permanency by telephone or otherwise. Dr. W. failed to do so when she herself agreed that these children were being abused and related this to the mother, Patricia Lee, recommended a child psychiatrist for this reason, and accepted and inserted documentary evidence into the medical record. She not only failed to report the abuse as a mandated reporter but later colluded with the abuser, Alan T. Chan, to cover up his abuse and support his kidnapping and concealing them for three years. Because of her actions, a substance-abusing, pornography-addicted, and violent, previously absentee father, who was previously on a restraining order for almost killing each of his children by head injury, was allowed to kidnap and conceal his children in order to gain financial advantage in his divorce (based on his “warehousing” the children, he is demanding six-figure “child support,” the house, all his legal fees, and refusing to pay any alimony, despite making a million dollars a year). Without Dr. W.’s support and medical “rubber stamping” of his violence, he would not have been able to achieve this.

Signature________________________________

Bandy Lee

Subscribed and sworn to before me, a notary public, on this ___ day of July,

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Predatory Family Court Guardian ad Litem Plays DARVO — or First Amendment Violation Disguised as a…

Predatory Family Court Guardian ad Litem Plays DARVO — or, First Amendment Violation Disguised as a Protective Order

My Reply to a Perpetrator Guardian ad Litem’s ‘Denial, Attack, and Reversal of Victim and Offender’

People sometimes ask me: if such horrific violence is happening in the Family Courts against children and the adults trying to protect them, wouldn’t the world know about it by now? Actually, no. When it comes to atrocities, the more they exceed the imagination, the less they come into consciousness. And the more violent the perpetrators, the more aggressively they will crush dissidents, silence whistleblowers, and persecute truthtellers behind the scenes. Consider how far the Nazi Holocaust advanced before the German population knew about it; even after their cities were bombed into ashes, they refused to believe, until the Allied Forces physically took them to the death camps to see. When mass oppression is happening, stifling reporting and shaping the narrative is all it is about: child abuse is good parenting, protecting children is a criminal offense, etc. This is why a certain “guardian ad litem” (“GAL”), after failing to impede my First Amendment rights by every other method, had a crony Family Court judge issue a “protective order” against me, even though truthful public reporting is not “harassment”, and appearing at a public meeting by invitation is not “stalking”. Below is my response:

I, BANDY LEE, of full age, do hereby Certify/Swear as follows:

1. As usual, [GAL] is looking only for legal loopholes in order to obfuscate and to try to circumvent the most critical, fundamental fact: that she committed fraud to deprive a rightful parent of her children and to damage and destroy them for life. In the process of her doing so, she needed to silence witnesses such as myself, and therefore assailed, entrapped, and falsely arrested me and other innocent persons, such as a renowned expert on child abuse and torture, by intimidating us and tampering with the evidence we brought. Her 350 lies in official proceedings, while pretending that she was telling the truth, and her 250 acts of perjury under oath, should serve as proof of her mendacity, criminality, and fraud.

2. [GAL] cannot respond to even a single one of my accusations, because she has nothing to say. All my statements are truthful.

3. Plaintiff also cannot cite a single act of harassment, as defined by N.J. Rev. Stat. § 2C:33–4 (2023):

[making, or causing] to be made, one or more communications anonymously or at extremely inconvenient hours, or in offensively coarse language, or any other manner likely to cause annoyance or alarm; [subjecting her] to striking, kicking, shoving, or other offensive touching, or threatens to do so; or [engaging] in any other course of alarming conduct or of repeatedly committed acts with purpose to alarm or seriously annoy such other person.

4. Similarly, Plaintiff cannot cite a single act of stalking, as defined by N.J. Rev. Stat. § 2C:12–10 (2023):

directly, indirectly, or through third parties, by any action, method, device, or means, following, monitoring, observing, surveilling, threatening, or communicating to or about, a person…; repeatedly committing harassment against a person; or repeatedly conveying, or causing to be conveyed, verbal or written threats or threats conveyed by any other means of communication or threats implied by conduct or a combination thereof.

5. Instead, “harassment” and “stalking” describe accurately Plaintiff’s own actions against myself and Patricia Lee, in co-conspiracy with Patricia Lee’s violently abusive husband, with whom Plaintiff coordinated in almost every way from the start, even though she was supposed to be the children’s guardian ad litem. Her violent police raids, false arrests, and weaponization of the police have all occurred in co-conspiracy with this violently abusive father and husband, as discovery and phone records have revealed. At times, they made daily phone calls to each other, and they coordinated with the school principal, for example, to call him for one hour each the day before and for a half-hour each the day of our arrests, in order to disrupt, sabotage, and prevent our scheduled meeting with the principal. At the time of our arrest, Plaintiff and Alan T. Chan were both at the school — in only one incident of co-conspiracy among countless many.

6. When Plaintiff added her harassment to Patricia Lee’s husband’s, it did not just cause alarm but caused trauma and a new diagnosis of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), after almost causing her demise. Plaintiff may experience as “harassment” any objection to her near-deadly assaults, her abduction of children, and her extreme deprivation of these children by not allowing a single phone call or even one minute of visitation with the mother who raised them, for three years without due process or cause — and her calling this a “temporary transfer of custody” would be laughable is not so permanently destructive! And truthful reports of her heinous, outrageous, and disgraceful actions may feel like harassment to her, but this is not the definition of harassment. Additionally, appearing at a public Board meeting once, on invitation of members and officials of her community, can under no stretch of the imagination count as “stalking” — especially for Patricia Lee whom I, coming in from New York City, had to solicit for a ride (not to mention that Patricia Lee was invited, too). Plaintiff is accustomed to using gangster-like methods of assault against innocent people with such overwhelming force, that they are rendered incapable of fighting back. Unfortunately for her, I have twenty-five years of experience evaluating and recommending sentences for violent offenders in maximum-security prisons, and I immediately recognized Plaintiff as one of the most extreme and most predatory aggressors I have encountered. Her very insinuation and the “framing” of her victims with her own guilt are the very criminal manipulations I witness every day, and so doing through abuse of authority under color of law is the reason for which she is being federally sued.

7. Similarly, Plaintiff’s and Patricia Lee’s husband’s, Alan T. Chan’s, stalking of me is a well-documented fact, on multiple court records spanning over years. In order to prevent the entry of my testimony onto the divorce court record, as the primary witness against the abusive father’s daily violence against his spouse and children for fifteen months, these two have surveilled, stalked, monitored, character-assassinated, threatened, arrested, and intimidated me as a witness for the last three-and-a-half years. Indeed, their obsession over me predates by at least a year any article I have written, although since I started writing true accounts of their actions, they have become almost hysterical: plastering their motions with my name in every unrelated context (the response to Patricia Lee’s appeal against [GAL], for example, had very little on the actual appellant), bringing me into the divorce case as if I were a litigant myself (even as they denied me my testimony), attempting to pressure and control me through weaponization of the state and local police, and even contacting the journals and magazines that published my interviews — only to be rebuked by their legal departments for violating the U.S. Constitution. This context must be considered if one is to understand her true motives behind this false guise of a “protective order”: to intimidate, stalk, harass, and control me further as a witness, in order to cover up their true, violent crimes. The very fact that she sent Patricia Lee to the emergency room, where the emergency physician ruled her out for a heart attack and a stroke and told her that she almost died (see Exhibit A) — which would not be the first time (see Exhibit B) — should be an objective measure of how violent and dangerous Plaintiff is.

8. That Plaintiff is not the audience of my articles should be obvious from the public’s response to them: several of my articles have had thousands of readers and top many articles I have written on other subjects, showing the resonance I am having with my readers. Also, I had a twenty-two-year career in violence prevention before I ever met Plaintiff and started writing about her shocking, ruthless, unchecked violence. In fact, more than two dozen former and current litigants whose lives Plaintiff has similarly destroyed, by violently abducting their children and transferring them to their rapists, batterers, and attempted murderers, have reached out to me, and this was the impetus of my writing as a form of mandated reporting, since all other avenues of reporting failed (the Office of Attorney Ethics, for example, refused to investigate her). Even those who did not have Plaintiff as guardian ad litem or as children’s lawyer reached out to inform me of other ways she defrauded them: she stole, for example, the equities of at least two entire homes, after having done almost no work. One of them has asked me to perform a psychopathy checklist on her, which is an extensively researched and extremely reliable diagnostic assessment tool (developed in the 1990’s by Dr. Robert Hare) that is based primarily on objective documents and victim interviews. The preliminary results, based on objective documents, are utterly disturbing.

9. If this case is not dismissed, I would like to ask for an evidentiary hearing where I could marshal witnesses. The problem so far has been the absence of any evidentiary hearing or any resemblance of due process. A smoke-and-mirrors guise of “legality” is insufficient, and in this case has been used to cover up the most egregious violations of local, state, federal, and international law. The matrimonial court’s primary weapon has been a Star Chamber-like secrecy — used not to protect children but to commit atrocities against them with impunity — except when [GAL] wishes to file a frivolous protective order, at which time she is allowed to divulge anything from the “sealed” records at will. The same information for which the innocent mother was threatened with incarceration, without any proof that she divulged, is free-for-all for Plaintiff to disclose, when it comes to aiding her criminal ends. [GAL] and Alan T. Chan can even skip mandated court meetings to coordinate their false arrests of medical experts simply trying to fulfill their legally-mandated duty to report child abuse, as they were permitted to do on June 22, 2022, while Patricia Lee was required to attend court.

10. Plaintiff’s continuous, serial lying is especially of grave concern. The 600 documented lies and acts of perjury are not just a number but an indication of pathological lying, a deeper character pathology, and potential dangerousness. Dangerousness makes a person unfit for duty, and scoring disturbingly high on a psychopathy checklist raises alarms that this person is anywhere near children. Predators of children often take on functions in schools, churches, and Family Courts as “guardians ad litem,” in order to gain access to their victims. [GAL] has not only lied but has had to maintain her lies endlessly, since one always needs a new lie to cover over the first lie. This is why plenary hearings with factual evidence are critically important, and it should be noted that not a single hearing has occurred with relevant facts and witnesses, so that her “smoke and mirrors” pretenses would not be debunked with factual evidence.

11. Plaintiff shows more than several disturbing signs of unfitness — not only because of what she has done to Patricia Lee’s children, against the advice of a dozen medical professionals, but what other parents have reported to me. Her pattern is consistent: abducting children from fit, nurturing primary caregivers; imprisoning children with their abusers; and telling the children that their loving parent “abandoned” them and “no longer loves” them. These actions have been committed ruthlessly, repeatedly, and systematically in too many cases to assert that all these cases are so exceptional as to require such extraordinary interventions. The more likely explanation is that Plaintiff is mentally unfit and dangerous to continue to serve in her role.

12. Fitness is presumed until there are signs of unfitness, at which time a petition can be made to the Court for an evaluation. As a seasoned forensic psychiatrist and expert witness for the courts, who has performed more than 200 mental competency evaluations, I request that [GAL] be required to undergo an evaluation of mental competence as well as a dangerousness risk assessment. I also ask that this Court refer her to Criminal Court; Family Courts are ill-equipped to deal with the most dangerous individuals, who are detectable not by the stereotypes common in popular fantasy, but by appearing exceptionally innocent and sympathetic. It was impressive to me just how spectacularly innocent-appearing [GAL’s] public images are,[1] so much so that I created an impression I believed to be more fitting of her true, Machiavellian nature.[2]

13. Like the most violent offenders whom the Law has failed to contain, Plaintiff has tried to cover up her violence with more violence. When her false police raids and false arrests did not work, she assaulted Patricia Lee in ways that almost caused her death, as medically proven multiple times by physicians in multiple documents. When harassing Patricia Lee to deadly levels, beginning in November 2021 and continuing to this day, did not make her “comply” — which for Plaintiff essentially means that a loving mother must obediently watch the medically-proven destruction of her children without legal or constitutional recourse — Plaintiff rained down the most sadistic, heartless, and diabolical acts against these children, such as keeping them totally separated and isolated from the mother who raised them (after which they stopped growing).

14. There are other signs of Plaintiff’s mental unfitness. She negated Alan T. Chan’s diagnosis of psychopathy — confirmed by four forensic medical experts of national and international stature — despite not having any mental health background of her own. She suppressed reports warning of Alan T. Chan’s danger to his children, despite six highly-qualified mental health experts forming a medical consensus — including an expert who is among the most highly-respected in New Jersey Family and Criminal Courts. Plaintiff continued to claim that Patricia Lee was “mentally unfit,” even though ten psychiatric experts disagreed — all of whose reports Plaintiff suppressed. Insistence on reversing sickness and health, in order to deny one’s own sickness, is a common symptom of those who are suffering from mental debility. The inability to accept factual evidence, the need to distort reality to one’s wishful view of the world, and the attacks against anyone who would contradict her beliefs are all signs of mental incompetence.

15. Incapacity to do a job is not incompatible with criminal responsibility. Plaintiff’s frivolous abuses of protective orders, as well as of her legal connections, her authority, and her quasi-judicial immunity as “absolute immunity,” all indicate a criminal mindset. Additionally, Judge Jane Gallina-Mecca’s endorsement means very little, especially when she herself is being referred to the New Jersey Senate for impeachment, after more than 1500 citizen signatories agree that she has committed egregious constitutional violations and human rights abuses (see Exhibits C & D). Plaintiff’s actions consist of some of the worst possible human rights abuses against children, as established by a United Nations Human Rights Council report[3] and a South Texas Family Residential Center study,[4] which no court should condone, no matter the temptation to protect one’s own, after having extensively worked with her in the past.

Subscribed and sworn before a notary public, on October 1, 2024,

Bandy X. Lee, M.D., M.Div.

[1] See, for example, her public profile: [Internet link]. For the trained eye, this level of “total innocence” exuding from a photo is unusual and raises the possibility of predatory manipulation intended to conceal the opposite. At the June 16, 2024, virtual hearing, Plaintiff sat timidly, far in the back, while her attorney defended her from up front. Again, for the trained eye, these are sophisticated theatrics consistent with a highly-skilled predator who uses deception and manipulation to make herself appear “the victim.” Because of these “skills”, the most dangerously-disordered personalities are multifold less likely to be prosecuted and multifold more likely to get out of prison early, despite being more dangerous and more likely to recidivate than those without a dangerous personality disorder.

[2] See my diagram of her “true” personality, in an article that has also garnered considerable public attention (her extraordinary manipulative skills can also be seen in the fact that she managed to remain on a Board despite being voted out — while succeeding in driving out the duly-elected member of the Board!): [My article].

[3] See: https://www.ohchr.org/en/documents/thematic-reports/ahrc5336-custody-violence-against-women-and-violence-against-children

[4] https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0259576

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Now, Even the Guardian has Covered the Horrid Murders and Mayhem in the Family Courts!

Finally, Objective Reporting and Research are Happening in the U.K., unlike the U.S., but Obstacles Continue

When approaching Family Court, one is not dealing with a normal judiciary. It is no accident that women and children wither and die, if not are gruesomely murdered, once they enter these “Courts”. Decades of lack of transparency and accountability have created not only an industry that profits from further victimizing victims, but a culture of psychopathic jurists assisting psychopathic killers. Using the “Court” to cover up one’s crimes through abuse of judicial process is the same as a “doctor” setting up a hospital to lure in unsuspecting victims for one’s lust for cruelty. Only these “doctors” are rare, since the judicial system keeps them in check; there is no such outside system to keep the judicial system in check. As a result, courtroom abuse, torture, psychological murder, and physical murder have become commonplace in the secret Family Courts. They escalate and multiply harm in the following manner: if a child needs to stay with a nurturing parent, they take the child away; if a child needs to be kept from a dangerous parent, they imprison the child with that parent; only the good parent is supervised, in order to prevent reports of child abuse; only the innocent parent in incarcerated, in order to prevent reports of judicial abuse. They wield their authority over police and child protection like no other court, so that no one dares defy. Meanwhile, the good parent’s and other witnesses’ wealth, possessions, profession, reputation, and social supports are drained and destroyed, so that no one can fight back and no credible witnesses remain against these predatory “Courts”. This happens to tens of thousands of children per year in the U.S. alone — and the adults who love them — and a thousand children are documented to have been murdered between 2008 and 2024 (without counting the perhaps even greater number of suicides). There should not be an expectation of internal reform; only the Court of Public Opinion can save these innocent lives. Since the U.K. government has forced its Family Courts to open to researchers and reporters, some objective analyses are getting out, and now even the Guardian Editorial Board has picked up on the matter, but challenges remain:

The Guardian View on the Family Courts: The First Principle Must be Safety

The system is entrusted with difficult and sensitive decisions, but more must be done to prevent violent fathers from harming children

3 Oct 2024

The 10th anniversary of the murder of Claire Throssell’s two young sons, Jack and Paul, is a horrifying reminder of the catastrophic consequences that can follow when the family justice system makes mistakes. The serious case review that followed their deaths, in a house fire deliberately started by their father, concluded that the court should have considered suspending the boys’ contact with him. Ms Throssell had left the family home due to domestic violence and had warned that he had told her he could understand why men killed their children.

Case reviews are supposed to be learned from. But a decade later, there is plenty of evidence that poor decisions are still being made when domestic violence victims come before family judges. Last month a convicted rapist, Kristoffer White, was stripped of parental responsibility for his daughter — but only after the child’s mother appealed an earlier ruling that permitted unsupervised contact.

Nineteen children were killed by fathers who were allowed contact with them between 2005 and 2015, in England and Wales. Others have been harmed. A report from the Ministry of Justice in 2020 contained 72 recommendations aimed at tilting the culture of the family court away from a presumption of contact with both parents, towards a greater emphasis on safety. But these have not all been implemented, while legal aid cuts continue to have adverse effects. A domestic abuse perpetrators’ programme abolished in 2022 has yet to be replaced.

More positive recent changes include the inclusion of coercive control in 2021’s domestic abuse act. This was part of a broader shift towards a more holistic understanding of the dynamics of abusive relationships. But it is hard to tell to what extent this is reflected in the courts or the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service — which represents children’s interests in family law cases, and has also faced criticism for past failings.

Nicole Jacobs, the domestic abuse commissioner for England and Wales, is due to lead a study on the way abuse allegations are handled. In July, Sir Andrew McFarlane, the family court’s president, reported that trials in two areas of a new, child centred and less adversarial approach to private law disputes had been “far more successful than even its most ardent supporters would have anticipated”. Another pilot, of family court reporting by the press and legal bloggers, has been extended beyond its initial three locations.

Huge gaps in the published data remain a sticking-point. Case numbers are in the public domain. In 2022 there were 52,204 new private law cases involving children, and 16,384 public law cases where children’s services were involved. But statistics on children’s involvement in proceedings and on the orders made by judges — and how these vary over time and between regions — are lacking. So are many other details that could help inform, and improve, policy and practice in a system entrusted with difficult and highly sensitive decisions. The risks to families in which fathers are domestic abusers, or sex offenders, remain the most serious concerns.

Senior judges have indicated their support for a more open system. But a lack of resources hinders progress. The anonymisation unit that was supposed to enable more judgments to be published does not exist, due to a lack of funding. And this means that no one — not journalists, lawyers, campaigners or the public — can learn from them.

(The original article is published here: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2024/oct/03/the-guardian-view-on-the-family-courts-the-first-principle-must-be-safety.)

Here is another article in the Guardian:

Research by herEthical AI Reveals Attitude of Disbelief and ‘Stereotypical Assumptions’ about Survivors in England and Wales

Family Court Judges Use Victim-Blaming Language in Domestic Abuse Cases, Finds AI Project

Rachel Hall8 Oct 2024

Judges in the family courts are using victim-blaming and gender-biased language towards domestic abuse survivors, AI analysis of judgments and appeals in England and Wales reveals.

The findings are the result of a project called herEthical AI, which trains computers to identify attitudes among judges that it warns is resulting in the retraumatisation of domestic abuse survivors in the family courts.

Examples found through the research include characterising a woman as a “deeply troubled mother with mental health difficulties unrelated to the father’s behaviour”; referring to an attempted strangling as a possible “prank”; or concluding that it was improbable that an “educated professional” would not speak to anyone else while “inappropriate and wrong” sexual relations were happening.

The idea for the project originated with a campaign called Breaking Bias run by Right to Equality. Charlotte Proudman, its founder and a barrister, said the AI model could “look through the nitty gritty to find patterns of behaviour in the language used” and reveal “stereotypical assumptions” about victims of domestic abuse, as well as a lack of understanding around coercive and controlling behaviour and how trauma impacts memory.

She said the findings underscored the need for greater training on domestic abuse in family court proceedings to help rebuild low levels of public trust in the fairness of the judicial process.

“There’s an attitude of disbelief — victims have reported feeling gaslit, victim-blamed, dismissed in the courtroom setting, some have described being cross examined as equivalent to being raped all over again — which is one of the most harrowing things I have heard. That’s horrendous. The courts are there to protect victims not to make it worse,” she said.

One problem she identified was the “adversarial” system, which can retraumatise survivors of domestic abuse and has a “deterrent effect” on others thinking of coming forward.

HerEthical AI, a startup that brings together academic experts in psychology and machine learning, along with a retired police inspector, plans to publish a journal article with its findings, as well as helping survivors make the case to be tried by a different judge or file complaints against them.

So far, it has used freely available judgments and appeals, but the project is crowdfunding to buy transcripts to better understand what is going on in courts. The cost of a court transcript comes per folio, which consists of 72 words — the cheapest being 80p a folio and going up to £1.91 a folio. This is often out of reach for domestic abuse survivors, who may have taken a financial hit to leave their abuser.

Hazel Sayer, a member of HerEthical AI and a research fellow specialising in gender-based violence at Bournemouth University, said this meant that family courts could be a “secretive environment, lacking accountability and transparency”.

The result, according to Roda Hassan, founder of Riverlight, a nonprofit that provides advocacy services for domestic abuse survivors and is collaborating on the project, was that “at the moment there’s no real way to hold judges and magistrates accountable” for what goes on inside courtrooms, other than through “very expensive and difficult” appeals processes, requiring specialist legal knowledge which many survivors cannot afford.

Riverlight has worked with survivors whose transcripts have included phrases such as “you’re a silly girl” and “you could not have been raped because you were married to him”.

One woman Riverlight is working with is Sarah (not her real name), who was shocked by the attitude of her judge when she tried to claim full custody of her children after leaving an abusive relationship. She had been pushed while pregnant, and had testimony from a GP who saw the bruises as well as recordings of her partner being verbally abusive.

She felt that the judge’s priority was ensuring the children would still have access to their father, even though she was frightened to leave them alone with him. “I was accused of not being child-focused by bringing up the abuse that me and the children suffered,” she recalled, adding that the judge’s attitude was “you need to put it in the past and move on”.

As a result, she said, “my mental health was horrendous, I was having nightmares, I started CBT through the NHS to help me cope”. She added: “I actually doubted myself about whether I should have left because now I have to hand over my children and not be there.”

(The original article is published here: https://www.theguardian.com/law/2024/oct/08/family-court-judges-victim-blaming-language-domestic-abuse-cases-ai-project.)

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I Brought Up Family Court Atrocities on a Network of 3 Million

… And Again, Responses are Flooding in Like No Other Time

The Weekend Show interviewed me on anti-abortion laws, misogyny, sexual abuse, and child abuse in the context of Donald Trump, which led to my broaching the subject of Family Courts in an uncommon venue (Family Courts begin at around 52:00 and end at 60:00):

LIVE: Top Psych DIAGNOSES Trump’s Latest Public COLLAPSE

Never do I receive a flood of messages as when I mention Family Courts; not even my speaking up against Donald Trump, since the start of his presidency, has ever produced such a response, including an inundation of emails. More immediately, a startled audience commented with the following:

Incredible discussion Anthony and Dr. Lee, if only those who need to hear this information could listen.

​​OMG!!

Wow.

Thank you Dr Lee for giving a voice to those who don’t have one.

Incredible discussion Anthony and Dr. Lee, if only those who need to hear this information could listen.

​​Finally! I love Dr. Lee!

​​WOW Dr. Lee

​​MONEY TALKS EVERYWHERE!

Follow the money….

They’re HIDING pedophiles because that’s the perfect place to hide.

​​Startling statistic.

Amen. if moms say the children are being abused by the father, the courts say the mother has brainwashed the kids and the kids need to be taken from her and put with the abusive father.

Yes, women and children are dying from this Abuse.

​​WTF! THIS HAS TO STOP!

So sad.

​​Family courts pay pedophiles to abuse children.

​​Children have no rights in family court. That is an understatement.

Exactly right about family courts.

​​10k watching! Get educated!

​​Most judges are men (fact), but women also can be inclined towards allowing pedophilia if they too were groomed into it.

​​Who REALLY is safe?…

Oklahoma has women in prison for their children being abused by other adults.

Yes, they get more time than the abusers sometimes serving life.

That is like the 4th horrible thing about Oklahoma I’ve heard about their laws and courts. Disgusting.

It starts from the top.

QAnon was projecting what they themselves do. Our judiciary system is based on white supremacy, so of course it’s a hidden secret about the court system and children.

​This is chilling. I had a terrible experience in family court while trying to leave my abusive ex.

Those are the real child traffickers, if you ask me.

10k watching and over 9k likes. Excellent!

That’s disturbing AF!

Family Courts aren’t on the side of the kids, they are all about profit, nothing more. If they can keep the high conflict going it equates to money, money, money.

All I can say is WOW!!

​​Hope she presents her evidence for those statistics.

Creepy American Culture.

Have heard of this forced reunion.

​​THANK YOU FOR SPEAKING UP FOR US!!!!!

​​You are absolutely right about Family Courts.

​​Family courts are absolutely the worst with human rights.

Yea, it’s insidious.

Thank you, Dr Lee!!!! My experience of family court is exactly this. The people who are a part of it have twisted so much. Children know that even if they get their own lawyer, they will not be heard.

​​Please Continue to Educate us, Dr. Lee!!!!

Social Workers burn out SO fast! They can’t win no matter what, they battle public perception & assumptions, the courts themselves, and their own nightmares because of the shit they see.

Family courts are killing women and children in unprecedented numbers! End this atrocity!

Where can I learn about this family court problem?

Family courts exploit women and children.

​​Thank you, Dr. Lee, for bringing light to this subject.

Yes, women in OK sometimes get life but way more time than the abuser

WOW. I did not know this about Family Courts.

It Just Happens​​crazy from the top down.

The treadmill boy.

My GOD, unreal your information about family services, making me go out of my mind, MY LORD.

It could have been me…. I was lucky.

​​The judge is an abuser also … allowing it.

This is how you “word weave.” Thank you, Dr. Bandy Lee.

Why? How? How do they get away with it? Project 2025 would make it worse. Old guys would claim a 12 year old by violating and knocking her up, then she would be given as his wife for a life of hell.

What is up with family courts??!! They need to be outlawed!!!

Most family court is custody.

Foster care system is broken.

​​Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere

OMG. I have no words. Horrific.

This is sickening. I worked in Family Court a couple of times and requested not to go there again.

This has happened to me. Family court took my 13 year old daughter away from me. She didn’t want to live with her mother. The court didn’t allow her to choose.

Family court summarized- Judge- he abused you, not the kids. He will have visits/shared custody…. Days, months, years later most of those children are murdered. It’s ridiculous.

It’s all about access to sick f*ks.

Why would they remove a child from a safe situation to a dangerous situation?

For profit Family Courts are like for profit Prisons.

How to heal such a broken heart….

​This is what happened to me when trying to protect my three daughters from their father, a sexual predator. It took 6 yrs to stop him, and it wasn’t the courts. It was intervention from a Senator.

My heart is now broken.

​​So evil.

In the absence of a jury and a licensed mental health practitioner these children are at an increased and significant exposure to adverse childhood events.

It’s a turnover. Victims become predators.

Thank you for speaking out, Dr Lee.

Dr. Lee is right about family court. Look at the drugs and alcohol involved with indigenous people, and look at how many of the women are missing.

​​That’s right, Dr Lee. Childhood trauma takes a lifetime to heal.

Broken, unspoken.

Such a fantastic episode tonight.

It’s not right. I’m glad to hear someone speaking on your platform about this.

Parents have more rights than do the children in family court.

​So tragic to hear about how children are treated by family courts. How can citizens help to change that?

A similar thing is happening, children being seized from a good parent or parents, with seniors, or the disabled, that have assets being seized into the court appointed guardianship racket.

Has happened tooo much!!

And this does not happen in poor families only.

Shady wants mothers to stay with their abusers. Trust me, divorce is never easy especially when you have kids. It’s not like he says. He has no concept of reality, just like Trump does not know.

Grow up to end up with men just like their parents and repeat the cycle…. We sooo need more public education on the matter.

​Totally agree, untrained FC judges couldn’t care less about domestic violence. Corrupt and unethical. Many fraud psychologists or “custody evaluators” in FC who LIE and ignore facts. Impacted my children.

Thank You for being a voice, Dr. Bandy Lee. Keep it going…. Those children and families need a voice.

Dr. Lee you are a courageous person. I appreciate you speaking up about Family Courts tonight. And for continuing to educate the public on DJT.

This Weekend Show is a Beautiful Educational Program. I love it, and I enjoy listening and Learning from Dr. Lee. And Anthony asks some Serious and Critical Questions too. Thank you both!

Evangelicals to catholic abuse of children to family court abuse.

Dr. Lee is spot on. As a mental health nurse in child adolescence for the last 43 years, the insufficient systems in place need be overhauled.

Thank you, Anthony and Dr Bandy Lee!

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