Page Turner's Blog, page 15

What About the Soft Block?

I used to be a person who responded to everyone who contacted me. Day or night. Regardless of who they were, if I even liked them, how much it inconvenienced me.

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“If It Doesn’t Hurt, It Isn’t Love,” She Tells Me. I Don’t Agree.

"If it doesn't hurt, it isn't love," she tells me. And she sounds so sure of herself as she says it. But I don't agree.

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I Keep Reminding Myself My Job Isn’t to Fix You

I remind myself that the best thing I can do is be there for you. To hold some space for you while you do what you need to do. That my job isn't to fix you. I do all of this. But it's hard.

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I Never Think the Pain Will Fade, But Then It Does

They say that time heals all wounds, but that always sounds like a load of hooey to me. Time heals all wounds? Yeah, right. Then why is time the thing that gets everyone in the end?

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The People Who Helped You Want You to Feel Better — Not to Feel Guilty for Their Help

I've been through some dark times in my life. Thankfully, most of them were past. But some of them happened at a time when I was impressionable, vulnerable, malleable. And because of that, the person I am today is forever linked with those difficult times -- one way or another. My personality grew around the tough times.

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I Wish I Could Tell My Past Self to Slow Down

I wish I could go back to that girl I used to be and tell her, "Slow down. You have more time than you think. And when you try to rush, you're wasting it."

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I’m Like a Cat: Occasionally Clingy, But Only Once I’ve Gotten to Know You

I'm like a cat -- occasionally clingy, but only once I've gotten to know you.

In my opinion, there are countless healthy ways to operate in the world. And this is one of them.

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You Can’t Be a Designated Hitter When It Comes to Caring

Once upon a time, I had a truly magical outlook regarding emotions. I thought that if I only cared enough about situations that it would affect the other person. Move them somehow. Even if they were selfish, cold, only concerned with their own self and their needs, if I cared enough, I could soften another person's heart.

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I’m Learning to Hold on to My Mistakes & Appreciate Them

I'm learning to hold on to my mistakes in a different way -- not to shame myself but to appreciate my imperfections.

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When You Start Sticking Up for Yourself, Selfish People Won’t Like It.

My doormat friend has been working on assertiveness. Some of us are extremely proud of her and cheering her on as she pursues more healthy patterns in her interpersonal relationships. But other people who know her are really unhappy.

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