Divya Singh's Blog: All that is Unsaid
July 20, 2017
What matters??
On a quest to discover what life is all about,
What matters the most, there should be no doubt.
Is it the balance in your bank account?
Or the number of friends you have around.
Is it the happiness that make you smile?
Or the tears you've been hiding all this while.
Is it achieving a perfect life?
Or just enjoying a sunset with your wife.
Is it the people who love you at all cost?
Or the people who judge you and make you feel lost.
Is it about loving unconditionally and never losing hope?
Or hanging your expectations on a very thin rope.
Is it the pain from the long lost past?
Or the happy news you just heard last.
But none of that matters if you're not happy within.
For living an unhappy life is THE greatest sin.
Divya Singh
What matters the most, there should be no doubt.
Is it the balance in your bank account?
Or the number of friends you have around.
Is it the happiness that make you smile?
Or the tears you've been hiding all this while.
Is it achieving a perfect life?
Or just enjoying a sunset with your wife.
Is it the people who love you at all cost?
Or the people who judge you and make you feel lost.
Is it about loving unconditionally and never losing hope?
Or hanging your expectations on a very thin rope.
Is it the pain from the long lost past?
Or the happy news you just heard last.
But none of that matters if you're not happy within.
For living an unhappy life is THE greatest sin.
Divya Singh
July 8, 2017
A letter to Dear Old Me
Dear Old Me,
I never thought I will be writing you a letter but I feel it is time and you should know that I am grateful to have lived your life.
You were a mess, a walking disaster, so naive but more than anything you were so innocent and unaware of the politics of this world.
I loved being you. You taught me how to love, how to be happy, how to be selfless, and so much more.
Today is about thanking you for making me who I am. Today is about saying sorry to you for not being able to stand up for you when you needed it the most.
You loved unconditionally and without fear. It never ended well for you but look what it did to me. It made me strong, it made differentiate my friends and foes.
I am sorry you had to spend so many sleepless nights crying alone in your bed. I am sorry you wished to end this life like a million times. I am sorry that you had no one to take care of you when you were alone and in miserable pain. But you should know that I am taking care of us really well now.
I know it was hard to see through that pain but I am glad that you did. Look how strong and confident we came out in the end.
I know it was unbearable to be heartbroken and be betrayed, but look how we learnt to walk through that pain.
I do wish sometimes that maybe if we did things a little differently, things would have been better. But then I look in the mirror and realize, we are the best version of ourselves.
I know you had to learn everything the hard way but it was a necessary evil. Thanks to you, I learnt to value life, to love myself, and to be happy from within.
Do you remember the time when someone stole your poem and you did not have the courage to even face them? You would be happy to know that I have learnt to stand up for myself and my rights.
Do you remember how you fell in love with the wrong guy always? I know that one is hard to forget but you should know that I learnt to never let my emotions cloud my judgement. I learnt to never let anyone take advantage of my vulnerabilities.
Don’t worry. I did not go anti-love. I did find love and I found it in our best friend.
Do you remember the time when you were locked in your room for two days and none of your friends bothered to check up on you? Well, things have changed so much now. I have friends, so many friends who are always by my side and who never let me feel alone.
I know you deserved so much better in life and I hope you can find peace knowing that you made me a better person in every way possible.
Yours Truly,
New You
I never thought I will be writing you a letter but I feel it is time and you should know that I am grateful to have lived your life.
You were a mess, a walking disaster, so naive but more than anything you were so innocent and unaware of the politics of this world.
I loved being you. You taught me how to love, how to be happy, how to be selfless, and so much more.
Today is about thanking you for making me who I am. Today is about saying sorry to you for not being able to stand up for you when you needed it the most.
You loved unconditionally and without fear. It never ended well for you but look what it did to me. It made me strong, it made differentiate my friends and foes.
I am sorry you had to spend so many sleepless nights crying alone in your bed. I am sorry you wished to end this life like a million times. I am sorry that you had no one to take care of you when you were alone and in miserable pain. But you should know that I am taking care of us really well now.
I know it was hard to see through that pain but I am glad that you did. Look how strong and confident we came out in the end.
I know it was unbearable to be heartbroken and be betrayed, but look how we learnt to walk through that pain.
I do wish sometimes that maybe if we did things a little differently, things would have been better. But then I look in the mirror and realize, we are the best version of ourselves.
I know you had to learn everything the hard way but it was a necessary evil. Thanks to you, I learnt to value life, to love myself, and to be happy from within.
Do you remember the time when someone stole your poem and you did not have the courage to even face them? You would be happy to know that I have learnt to stand up for myself and my rights.
Do you remember how you fell in love with the wrong guy always? I know that one is hard to forget but you should know that I learnt to never let my emotions cloud my judgement. I learnt to never let anyone take advantage of my vulnerabilities.
Don’t worry. I did not go anti-love. I did find love and I found it in our best friend.
Do you remember the time when you were locked in your room for two days and none of your friends bothered to check up on you? Well, things have changed so much now. I have friends, so many friends who are always by my side and who never let me feel alone.
I know you deserved so much better in life and I hope you can find peace knowing that you made me a better person in every way possible.
Yours Truly,
New You
July 5, 2017
Marriage: A love saga or societal drama
The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever same.
Yet our lessons come from the journey, and not the destination. Be it our first time in school, or the first time we leave home or the first time we take up a new job, a part of us matures in this ongoing journey of life.
One of the major milestones in this road or the turning point in almost everyone’s life comes when one gets married.
Marriage has different meanings for both boys and girls.
For a boy, it is like a whole new set of responsibilities. He, now, has a member in his family that he has to make sure lives happily. He has a partner with whom he can share even his darkest secrets, someone who will stand by him at every step of his life. Also, he has to make sure that this new member doesn’t feel out of place at all. After all, she has come to join his family with full faith and confidence in him.
For a girl, it is like a whole new life altogether. She enters a new home, meets new relations and most importantly has a new family. She has to learn to adapt herself to these surroundings. The way they live, the kind of food they eat, their traditions and almost everything. The only thing that makes it easier for her is the love and support of her life partner and the other family members.
Not just this, she has to act as a bridge, a bond between the two families. She has to wholeheartedly accept this family as hers, sometimes even giving more importance to her new family.
For a girl, it is a lot to take in.
The life indeed becomes better for both the man and the woman when they are for each other, both in times of tribulations and happiness.
Marriage certainly has it perks. Be it the celebrations of anniversaries, be it the trips or the long outings, or be it the comfort of having someone to support you through everything that you face in life.
When everything is so hearts and flowers, why do we hear cases of dowry, bride burning, domestic violence, and mental and physical harassment of the girls after their marriage? What goes haywire?
Blame the men, blame the in-laws or blame the SOCIETY.
For every problem, every social enigma, there is just one plain answer, “SOCIETY is the problem”. Ever thought, who are the people who constitute this society, that “evil” society that does everything malicious?
We all know the answer and still we pretend to not hear it. We are the people, the people who are the “SOCIETY”. It is among us that such evil minds exist, hungry for wealth and greed. The people who create a living hell for a girl if she is unmarried in her late twenties, the people who sell their children for money, in the name of dowry, the people who do not hesitate to beat up their wives and daughter-in-laws, sometimes for money, sometimes for a male child and other times just to satisfy their rotten ego.
Some people might say getting married is not necessary and I cannot agree more. In India, getting married is something that people can hardly run away from. Accept it or not, the bitter truth is, no matter you want it or not, you will have to get married, maybe under some social obligation or some parental pressure.
However, there is no doubt those times have changed and there is a certain crowd of people who have changed their outlook towards marriage and who wait for the right time and the right partner to get married.
If only this was the case with the majority of people in our country, this institution of marriage would have been less rotten by now. If only it was easier to make people understand that marriage is not some liability that needs to be done. It is a bond, a commitment of a lifetime. It is important and special for both the partners. It would only be fair if none of them is forced into it and are given time to figure it out for themselves.
I’m sure there will be less victims and more happily married couples if the decision to bind in such a pure institution is done with complete maturity and open mindedness from both the sides.
Nothing is black or white. Everything is a shade of gray and so is marriage. A bond for a lifetime if done with complete understanding with a compatible life partner and a bane for life if not made cautiously.
It is quite rightly said:
Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is the one who finds that true friend in his wife.
Yet our lessons come from the journey, and not the destination. Be it our first time in school, or the first time we leave home or the first time we take up a new job, a part of us matures in this ongoing journey of life.
One of the major milestones in this road or the turning point in almost everyone’s life comes when one gets married.
Marriage has different meanings for both boys and girls.
For a boy, it is like a whole new set of responsibilities. He, now, has a member in his family that he has to make sure lives happily. He has a partner with whom he can share even his darkest secrets, someone who will stand by him at every step of his life. Also, he has to make sure that this new member doesn’t feel out of place at all. After all, she has come to join his family with full faith and confidence in him.
For a girl, it is like a whole new life altogether. She enters a new home, meets new relations and most importantly has a new family. She has to learn to adapt herself to these surroundings. The way they live, the kind of food they eat, their traditions and almost everything. The only thing that makes it easier for her is the love and support of her life partner and the other family members.
Not just this, she has to act as a bridge, a bond between the two families. She has to wholeheartedly accept this family as hers, sometimes even giving more importance to her new family.
For a girl, it is a lot to take in.
The life indeed becomes better for both the man and the woman when they are for each other, both in times of tribulations and happiness.
Marriage certainly has it perks. Be it the celebrations of anniversaries, be it the trips or the long outings, or be it the comfort of having someone to support you through everything that you face in life.
When everything is so hearts and flowers, why do we hear cases of dowry, bride burning, domestic violence, and mental and physical harassment of the girls after their marriage? What goes haywire?
Blame the men, blame the in-laws or blame the SOCIETY.
For every problem, every social enigma, there is just one plain answer, “SOCIETY is the problem”. Ever thought, who are the people who constitute this society, that “evil” society that does everything malicious?
We all know the answer and still we pretend to not hear it. We are the people, the people who are the “SOCIETY”. It is among us that such evil minds exist, hungry for wealth and greed. The people who create a living hell for a girl if she is unmarried in her late twenties, the people who sell their children for money, in the name of dowry, the people who do not hesitate to beat up their wives and daughter-in-laws, sometimes for money, sometimes for a male child and other times just to satisfy their rotten ego.
Some people might say getting married is not necessary and I cannot agree more. In India, getting married is something that people can hardly run away from. Accept it or not, the bitter truth is, no matter you want it or not, you will have to get married, maybe under some social obligation or some parental pressure.
However, there is no doubt those times have changed and there is a certain crowd of people who have changed their outlook towards marriage and who wait for the right time and the right partner to get married.
If only this was the case with the majority of people in our country, this institution of marriage would have been less rotten by now. If only it was easier to make people understand that marriage is not some liability that needs to be done. It is a bond, a commitment of a lifetime. It is important and special for both the partners. It would only be fair if none of them is forced into it and are given time to figure it out for themselves.
I’m sure there will be less victims and more happily married couples if the decision to bind in such a pure institution is done with complete maturity and open mindedness from both the sides.
Nothing is black or white. Everything is a shade of gray and so is marriage. A bond for a lifetime if done with complete understanding with a compatible life partner and a bane for life if not made cautiously.
It is quite rightly said:
Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is the one who finds that true friend in his wife.
May 26, 2017
Hypnotized by Love
Hypnotized by Love...So true for almost all the people who are in love or have ever been in love.
Even when there are a hundred more important things in this world that I could discuss, I chose to talk about love. I question myself, Why???
Maybe because this one word has changed me in ways I cannot explain. From my early childhood, I have been a strong believer of love. Seeing that my parents had a love marriage, this feeling of love has always baffled me. The way love makes you see all the beautiful things around you, how love makes you a positive person and how it gives your life, a reason to live.
Love is indeed powerful and beyond. I was a true believer. I had faith that someday I will get that one person and then everything, thereafter, would be my happy ending.
But, in real life, there are no happy endings. There are only endings and then the new beginnings. So what really describes a happy ending? Falling in love? Getting into a relationship? Getting married? Or does having a baby defines a happy ending?
I guess I am somewhere lost on this whole idea of getting a happy ending. Now that I think about it, who put in our heads, this idea of meeting a prince charming and a happy ending? Should we blame the fairy tales or the romantic movies?
I believe that the reason we were fed with this version of the story and not the reality, has a lot to do with the fact that the people who tell us these stories know that there is no such thing as a happy ending. It would be a chaos if people knew the truth and so this cover up of a fairy tale ending suits everyone.
This makes me wonder that if there are no happy endings, is there no love? Is love defined by a happily ever after? Maybe not. I used to believe that you fall in love once and that remains with you forever. But what if that one love wasn't enough to last that long? Would you give up, for that was your only chance? I don't believe that.
Love is a feeling that consumes us and comforts us. Love is not just between two people. Love is between friends, love is when you go out on a trip with your friends, love is when you enjoy being with them, love is when you put their needs before yours, love is when there are no conditions and in a true sense, it is unconditional.
We never look for love, we always look for relationships. Love is so strong and powerful that it will never make you feel sad, while relationships would certainly make you feel worse in many ways. Love is so pure that it only knows how to keep people happy, while relationships do make us cry.
We keep looking for relationships in the fear of spending our lives alone. But we never see that the people who are by our side through all the trials and tribulations of relationships, are the ones who really love you.
So, what if, for a change we don't try to find a relationship and just enjoy the feeling called love.
Maybe if we just try to love and be loved, we might end up finding that perfect relationship that we were all looking for...
Even when there are a hundred more important things in this world that I could discuss, I chose to talk about love. I question myself, Why???
Maybe because this one word has changed me in ways I cannot explain. From my early childhood, I have been a strong believer of love. Seeing that my parents had a love marriage, this feeling of love has always baffled me. The way love makes you see all the beautiful things around you, how love makes you a positive person and how it gives your life, a reason to live.
Love is indeed powerful and beyond. I was a true believer. I had faith that someday I will get that one person and then everything, thereafter, would be my happy ending.
But, in real life, there are no happy endings. There are only endings and then the new beginnings. So what really describes a happy ending? Falling in love? Getting into a relationship? Getting married? Or does having a baby defines a happy ending?
I guess I am somewhere lost on this whole idea of getting a happy ending. Now that I think about it, who put in our heads, this idea of meeting a prince charming and a happy ending? Should we blame the fairy tales or the romantic movies?
I believe that the reason we were fed with this version of the story and not the reality, has a lot to do with the fact that the people who tell us these stories know that there is no such thing as a happy ending. It would be a chaos if people knew the truth and so this cover up of a fairy tale ending suits everyone.
This makes me wonder that if there are no happy endings, is there no love? Is love defined by a happily ever after? Maybe not. I used to believe that you fall in love once and that remains with you forever. But what if that one love wasn't enough to last that long? Would you give up, for that was your only chance? I don't believe that.
Love is a feeling that consumes us and comforts us. Love is not just between two people. Love is between friends, love is when you go out on a trip with your friends, love is when you enjoy being with them, love is when you put their needs before yours, love is when there are no conditions and in a true sense, it is unconditional.
We never look for love, we always look for relationships. Love is so strong and powerful that it will never make you feel sad, while relationships would certainly make you feel worse in many ways. Love is so pure that it only knows how to keep people happy, while relationships do make us cry.
We keep looking for relationships in the fear of spending our lives alone. But we never see that the people who are by our side through all the trials and tribulations of relationships, are the ones who really love you.
So, what if, for a change we don't try to find a relationship and just enjoy the feeling called love.
Maybe if we just try to love and be loved, we might end up finding that perfect relationship that we were all looking for...
