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How to Build Healthy Relationships as an INFJ: A Podcast

    Hi Everyone! I wanted to share the latest collaboration I did with Bo Miller of The INFJ Personality Show. Some of the questions I answer in this podcast are: How important are healthy relationships to an INFJ? What is one of the biggest benefits of having solid, dependable relationships? How will you know [...]

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Free Chapter from The Quiet Rise of Introverts: Getting Past Independence, Principles of Love and Relationship

Photo by Nathan Walker on Unsplash I wanted to give you, my loyal readers, a small gift. This week's post contains a link to a PDF of Practice Four: Getting Past Independence in my book, The Quiet Rise of Introverts: 8 Practices for Living and Loving in a Noisy World. This chapter talks [...]

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Performance Based Love Doesn’t Feel Like Love : Parenting So Our Kids Feel Secure

I said, "How are you?" to my son the other day after school and he replied, "OK, but I had a math test today that was hard." It was obvious the tough math test weighed on my guy's mind. It seems often my kids' happiness depends on their grades or status in their extra curricular [...]

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Six Ways to Equanimity

Photo credit Leio Mclaren of Unsplash In last week's post, I promised to tell you how I reached my current state of equanimity. First, I would like to give you a working definition of equanimity. Here is Wikipedia's version: Equanimity (Latin: æquanimitas having an even mind; aequus even animus mind/soul) is a state [...]

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Holidays Highlight Loneliness and Happiness: Using This Time to Take Inventory

Photo by Val Vesa via Unsplash It's Tuesday morning and I'm working through my to do list to get prepared for Thanksgiving. I'm hosting this year. My sister and her family will be here along with my man M and his two sons. M and I both feel excited about this holiday season. [...]

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Repairing Ruptures in Your Connections with Family, Partners and Yourself

photo credit Ib Wira Dyatmika Every relationship has times of disconnection. These times are not concerning unless 1. They are constant and highly stressful or 2. There are no repairs made. In fact, relationships where there are ruptures in connection but consistent and quick repairs, tend to have the most resilience. Disruptions in therapy [...]

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Do You See Good People or Bad People? Using Mindfulness to Improve Our Outlook

  I believe most people are good. This belief may be due to the upbringing and life experiences I've encountered. It may be because I have a learned habit of reframing most experiences to highlight the positive. Whatever the reason I know not everyone agrees with me. I had a long-term love who openly declared [...]

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5 Ways to Help Teens Feel Less Anxious

Last week I wrote a post about the increase in severe anxiety among privileged teens. This week I want to talk about how to reduce the anxiety. Severe anxiety debilitates. If a child (or adult) avoids everything that makes them uncomfortable their life is seriously hindered. What can we do about the trend of avoidance [...]

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Why the Increase in Anxiety Among Privileged Kids?

According to the New York Times article titled, "Why Are More American Teenagers Than Ever Suffering from Severe Anxiety?", 1/3 of adolescents and adults  suffer from overactive fight or flight responses and privileged teens are among the most emotionally distressed. Photo by Sasha Rudensky for The New York Times I've experienced first-hand the increase [...]

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What We Measure, We Make Happen: Building Self-Discipline and Reducing Anxiety

I read a quote recently that said, "We manage what we measure." It was from one of my favorite contemporary non-fiction Gretchen Rubin writers, Gretchen Rubin. I've been thinking about that. Do we? Do we even want to manage? I hate micro-managing. Managing a budget is no fun. Managing a household can be [...]

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