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November 4, 2018
It is now November
Here it is, a new video to come and check out some reading material and also some reasons to get involved.
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Published on November 04, 2018 13:14
September 30, 2018
The latest update a video
This past month or two has been about making a couple of videos as opposed to blog post.
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August 12, 2018
Being an author. Marketing
Being a self published author is a whole new world and so many things were well eye opening really.
Why share a bunch of this brain drain with you guys, well.... in order to do more marketing of course. That's the name of the game as a self published author. My book will reach as a far an audience as I can reach. The marketing is dependent upon my own efforts.
Where do you come in ?
I value each and every single one of you who have read #TWOsonsTOOmany my memoir. I also appreciate the absolute fact of your being, for those who have taken the time to write a review somewhere online and again the A word, I Appreciate every book sale and download you guys have created for me.
As the self published author that I now am, I am appreciative of many small things too ( it's not all about reviews) but you guys have helped and one cannot deny praise where it is deserved. So thank you all.
TWO sons TOO many is my memoir and is available on Amazon for download and printed book purchase. I probably wouldn't have started or continued promoting it if it were not for the supportive reviews and honest reaction I have received thus far and so I do continue because I have met and shared with some great people because of this very fact. They read my story, not only did they like it but they felt it. There are many here that can understand what that actually means to me the author.
So I continue to share my advert efforts across the social media platforms and gain new readership each and every day. I am touched by each piece of support shown to me along this journey from such a wide variety of people ; family & friends of course ya kinda expect from them, but then strangers from around the globe sending me messages of "thank yous" for writing and posting nice reviews on their Facebook comments or Twitter posts, even finding websites like this one goodreads and posting something. Like seriously how amazing is that ?
I Have continued writing and will bring out something new this year (we hope) and using social media to grab new audience attention but it really does all depend on you guys. You probably didn't even realize or know the massive important part you play. Not only in your purchases of my work but the tiny little shares that you make on your Facebook are so valuable I can never thank you enough. It is the three seconds you take to click share this post now that helps me gain traction and find new readers and this is absolutely amazing.
Using Twitter and tweeting about my memoir or the use of the hash tag #TWOsonsTOOmany is probably the most amazing little notification I can get on my Twitter feed.
When I see a like and a share of something on Instagram that has the 2sons2many written beside it again fills the author (Me) right up with joy and gratitude.
It is marketing after all and requires a lot, nah not a lot, a ton of posting and sharing to reach that world wide audience and it is only with each of you helping me that I can achieve this goal.
When someone said to me "well done on your book" I thought how nice of them. When someone SHARED my book page on their timeline for their friends to see, I almost cried with happiness. When someone wrote a review and gave stars to my memoir, my first reaction was blink blink blink several times, the disbelief crossed with gratitude was overwhelming. These are the little things all of you do to help me reach new readers and everyone of you are awesome for the simple things you didn't even know you do.
My Twitter friends who constantly support me by sharing my content without me even asking ( though I ask all the time) how special a bunch of friends have you all become, priceless would be a word that could fit here.
I do not like annoying sales calls or pitches probably just like most of you. I do not like spam emails and I hate signing up for anything so I never chose to apply the standard email list gathering, asking you to sign up so I can plague you with emails and updates. I prefer organic and asked that you share my story with your friends. You did and I did not go for bombarding you with several links everyday to get you clicking. I provide a blog of thoughts to you on Facebook and share on Twitter too. You guys do the rest and what a wonderful job you do.
So here are the details of some reading and compilations of my marketing efforts for you all to keep on sharing and KNOW that when you do share around the internet, my work, you are not only awesome but highly appreciated.
Come say hi and find a post to share on the platforms below.
Facebook @TWOsonsTOOmany
Twitter. @TWOsonsTOOmany
INSTAGRAM. 2sons2many
Amazon #memoir. TWO sons TOO many
Or jus Google. TWO sons TOO many and have a read of where you can find some of posts to share around the internet. If ya wanna share on Twitter go ahead and use hash tag #TWOsonsTOOmany
Have a great week for yourself and KNOW you have done plenty of good in helping my marketing efforts once again.
The next book is close and will update when even closer
Thank you to All of You. Forever Grateful.
Why share a bunch of this brain drain with you guys, well.... in order to do more marketing of course. That's the name of the game as a self published author. My book will reach as a far an audience as I can reach. The marketing is dependent upon my own efforts.
Where do you come in ?
I value each and every single one of you who have read #TWOsonsTOOmany my memoir. I also appreciate the absolute fact of your being, for those who have taken the time to write a review somewhere online and again the A word, I Appreciate every book sale and download you guys have created for me.
As the self published author that I now am, I am appreciative of many small things too ( it's not all about reviews) but you guys have helped and one cannot deny praise where it is deserved. So thank you all.
TWO sons TOO many is my memoir and is available on Amazon for download and printed book purchase. I probably wouldn't have started or continued promoting it if it were not for the supportive reviews and honest reaction I have received thus far and so I do continue because I have met and shared with some great people because of this very fact. They read my story, not only did they like it but they felt it. There are many here that can understand what that actually means to me the author.
So I continue to share my advert efforts across the social media platforms and gain new readership each and every day. I am touched by each piece of support shown to me along this journey from such a wide variety of people ; family & friends of course ya kinda expect from them, but then strangers from around the globe sending me messages of "thank yous" for writing and posting nice reviews on their Facebook comments or Twitter posts, even finding websites like this one goodreads and posting something. Like seriously how amazing is that ?
I Have continued writing and will bring out something new this year (we hope) and using social media to grab new audience attention but it really does all depend on you guys. You probably didn't even realize or know the massive important part you play. Not only in your purchases of my work but the tiny little shares that you make on your Facebook are so valuable I can never thank you enough. It is the three seconds you take to click share this post now that helps me gain traction and find new readers and this is absolutely amazing.
Using Twitter and tweeting about my memoir or the use of the hash tag #TWOsonsTOOmany is probably the most amazing little notification I can get on my Twitter feed.
When I see a like and a share of something on Instagram that has the 2sons2many written beside it again fills the author (Me) right up with joy and gratitude.
It is marketing after all and requires a lot, nah not a lot, a ton of posting and sharing to reach that world wide audience and it is only with each of you helping me that I can achieve this goal.
When someone said to me "well done on your book" I thought how nice of them. When someone SHARED my book page on their timeline for their friends to see, I almost cried with happiness. When someone wrote a review and gave stars to my memoir, my first reaction was blink blink blink several times, the disbelief crossed with gratitude was overwhelming. These are the little things all of you do to help me reach new readers and everyone of you are awesome for the simple things you didn't even know you do.
My Twitter friends who constantly support me by sharing my content without me even asking ( though I ask all the time) how special a bunch of friends have you all become, priceless would be a word that could fit here.
I do not like annoying sales calls or pitches probably just like most of you. I do not like spam emails and I hate signing up for anything so I never chose to apply the standard email list gathering, asking you to sign up so I can plague you with emails and updates. I prefer organic and asked that you share my story with your friends. You did and I did not go for bombarding you with several links everyday to get you clicking. I provide a blog of thoughts to you on Facebook and share on Twitter too. You guys do the rest and what a wonderful job you do.
So here are the details of some reading and compilations of my marketing efforts for you all to keep on sharing and KNOW that when you do share around the internet, my work, you are not only awesome but highly appreciated.
Come say hi and find a post to share on the platforms below.
Facebook @TWOsonsTOOmany
Twitter. @TWOsonsTOOmany
INSTAGRAM. 2sons2many
Amazon #memoir. TWO sons TOO many
Or jus Google. TWO sons TOO many and have a read of where you can find some of posts to share around the internet. If ya wanna share on Twitter go ahead and use hash tag #TWOsonsTOOmany
Have a great week for yourself and KNOW you have done plenty of good in helping my marketing efforts once again.
The next book is close and will update when even closer
Thank you to All of You. Forever Grateful.
Published on August 12, 2018 02:12
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July 23, 2018
Some of us Know #Grief & some don't
May not be for everybody, but for some of bus it has become everything.
Happy Monday folks.
A little post of what is going in my head today.
I always amwriting stuff and promoting my blog posts, which are my random thoughts on various that can occur for me any given day & of course I wrote and published my memoir and so promotion goes on and on but this is different.
I wrote my memoir TWO sons TOO many. Mostly because I was #Inspired to write having had to bury my two children.
Many told me that "to lose one child is too much"
And I always thought yes, one is too much and to lose TWO sons is TOO many....
So why this post today ?
I write a lot of blog posts to express myself and how the dimension I have now been forced to live in as many (actually all of you know)
There are those who say they find it inspirational and gives them motivation. I feel good for those reasons.
The real nuts and bolts though that may go beyond those who have never lost a child is that we know, we know what we have been left with as far as life or a life are concerned.
The part that brings me to post is that and if you are still reading we are getting there I promise.
The part is
There is a box of let's say we call it "conformity"
To conform to society and society's standards and expectations. We all in one shape, form or other have confirmed all of our life to live within this "box" of "conformity" and that is totally fine.
For those of you who know baseball, imagine it as the box the pitcher must get the ball in to for a strike. It is a box that exists but is not actually real. It is an invented box that society has placed around our lives and how people should act and behave and carry themselves through life.
There are those who have chosen to live outside of the box and such sayings as " think outside of the box" you are all familiar with.
So, I definitely do not mean to bore you with this at all, keep reading I am getting there I promise.
Anyway.
This box, a set of standards and rules that are not really written but do exist within society and we all live within them.
What happens when we lose our child ?
What happens when we lose.our children ?
What happens when we sit by a grave side and watch our most beautiful treasure ever, get buried ?
What just happened ?
For me and my take on it, we have now moved outside of the box.
We now have entered into an arena that came with no rules, no guidelines, no historic texts to learn from.
We have now moved to a barren land where society has not yet formed. Is it the desert ?
Perhaps, many times it resembles such a vast empty place, for sure!
What can be done for us now ?
We are parents who have lost children, we are the un-labelled group of "misfits" that even some of our most dear and close friends do not have words for us, no do they know what to say.
The tools we have to cope are zero, the job or the game of life has just become harder than any of us have ever imagined.
So WTF ? (What the Fuck)
It is on us to try to make sense of everything like a child learning everything for the first time, we do not know how to deal with life anymore.
We feel anxious over the smallest thing, a routine piece of life.
We feel like there is no end to any hurt
We feel like we cannot be productive, we feel like we have lost everything. Every piece of life has left us because to bury our children has been the equivalent of burying our very own soul.
So where is the motivation in all this ?
Where is the inspiration ?
I offer to you a concept for consideration and consideration only, if it fits for you then that would awesome.
Remember the box of society and conform, well you have been excused to live to those standards set by society.
You have now entered an area society does not understand on a whole. However it is ourselves that continue out of habit to hold ourselves accountable to the standards set by society.
We must go very easy on ourselves, cry when you need to and cry when you do not need to.
Take a day off when you can and breathe for yourself. Yes that's right, just breathe. No thinking, no feeling just breathe.
When a passer by says " look at that lady talking to herself and just breathing over there" that is okay. We do not live by the box rules anymore. Allow yourself to not continue to hold yourself to some high and mighty standard of what life is supposed to be like.
Life is no longer the same.
We read more, we go outside less, we gaze at the sky like we are thinking of ways we can just fly away to somewhere up there.
We still belong to society and have active roles within the box of the norm, but society does not understand us. We must understand us, we must be ok with not being able to see a friend and their children today because we are jealous and envious of their happy life.
We cannot watch certain movies as all the feelings come rushing at once and can floor us.
We need to go easy on ourselves and though it is so hard to accept the loss of our child, a big part is accepting our new limitations of how we cannot perform exactly the same within the box of life where society operates.
If we place less emphasis on labels in our life, are we grieving properly ?
Screw it, there is not right or wrong way..
Will we be able for the family get together ?
Screw it, do not go if you do not wish to.
Will I be able to smile at everyone at a work bbq ?
Screw it, don't smile at everybody.
Can I have my friend and her children over for coffee.
Screw it, ask her to leave her kids at home and come by herself.
Can I look at the pictures of my child as I cry for how I miss them?
Screw it, don't look at the pictures.
In these examples all I am saying is there will be days when you can do all of the above and there will be days when you cannot. Both of which are okay.
I Have found to become more and more okay with the likes of these society type things by acknowledging that sometimes I just cannot.
I carry a pain not many understand so I cannot expect anything from anybody.
It is entirely up to ourselves, yes as if things were not lonely enough already. Couple grieve different as does each of us, like finger prints no two people have the same. So it is a lonely buzz to say the least.
Allow yourself to be. Yes Just BE.
Do the basics if you cannot muster anything else, shower as regularly as possible. Eat when you can but be sure to eat and hydrate.
For me the most important.
Breathe!! Take deep breaths and focus on them
When something seems so intense, breathe maybe one two or three deep breaths and just listen to how your lungs work. Think of.nothing In front of you.
Fill your lungs with the air that is filled with the spirit of your child. Feel how your nose takes in the air.
That's about as simple.and basic as our life can now be and this little things help.me go outside and participate in society. When it becomes too much on any given day I do retreat and when that is not possible I run my check list.
Did I shower today?
Did I eat today ?
Did I allow myself to breathe ?
I am sorry for your loss, anyone who has managed to read down this far. If you liked the read, please give a comment, share the post for your friends to also know and of course the promotional
My book page is @TWOsonsTOOmany
I would love if you can stop by and like.and share any of my posts there.
My memoir, the book has been all about building my monument to my two little boys and I will continue on as this is my grieving.
Happy Monday & have a beautiful week.
Sorry for any autotype typos. Posted from a small screen on a phone✌💓💔💔
Happy Monday folks.
A little post of what is going in my head today.
I always amwriting stuff and promoting my blog posts, which are my random thoughts on various that can occur for me any given day & of course I wrote and published my memoir and so promotion goes on and on but this is different.
I wrote my memoir TWO sons TOO many. Mostly because I was #Inspired to write having had to bury my two children.
Many told me that "to lose one child is too much"
And I always thought yes, one is too much and to lose TWO sons is TOO many....
So why this post today ?
I write a lot of blog posts to express myself and how the dimension I have now been forced to live in as many (actually all of you know)
There are those who say they find it inspirational and gives them motivation. I feel good for those reasons.
The real nuts and bolts though that may go beyond those who have never lost a child is that we know, we know what we have been left with as far as life or a life are concerned.
The part that brings me to post is that and if you are still reading we are getting there I promise.
The part is
There is a box of let's say we call it "conformity"
To conform to society and society's standards and expectations. We all in one shape, form or other have confirmed all of our life to live within this "box" of "conformity" and that is totally fine.
For those of you who know baseball, imagine it as the box the pitcher must get the ball in to for a strike. It is a box that exists but is not actually real. It is an invented box that society has placed around our lives and how people should act and behave and carry themselves through life.
There are those who have chosen to live outside of the box and such sayings as " think outside of the box" you are all familiar with.
So, I definitely do not mean to bore you with this at all, keep reading I am getting there I promise.
Anyway.
This box, a set of standards and rules that are not really written but do exist within society and we all live within them.
What happens when we lose our child ?
What happens when we lose.our children ?
What happens when we sit by a grave side and watch our most beautiful treasure ever, get buried ?
What just happened ?
For me and my take on it, we have now moved outside of the box.
We now have entered into an arena that came with no rules, no guidelines, no historic texts to learn from.
We have now moved to a barren land where society has not yet formed. Is it the desert ?
Perhaps, many times it resembles such a vast empty place, for sure!
What can be done for us now ?
We are parents who have lost children, we are the un-labelled group of "misfits" that even some of our most dear and close friends do not have words for us, no do they know what to say.
The tools we have to cope are zero, the job or the game of life has just become harder than any of us have ever imagined.
So WTF ? (What the Fuck)
It is on us to try to make sense of everything like a child learning everything for the first time, we do not know how to deal with life anymore.
We feel anxious over the smallest thing, a routine piece of life.
We feel like there is no end to any hurt
We feel like we cannot be productive, we feel like we have lost everything. Every piece of life has left us because to bury our children has been the equivalent of burying our very own soul.
So where is the motivation in all this ?
Where is the inspiration ?
I offer to you a concept for consideration and consideration only, if it fits for you then that would awesome.
Remember the box of society and conform, well you have been excused to live to those standards set by society.
You have now entered an area society does not understand on a whole. However it is ourselves that continue out of habit to hold ourselves accountable to the standards set by society.
We must go very easy on ourselves, cry when you need to and cry when you do not need to.
Take a day off when you can and breathe for yourself. Yes that's right, just breathe. No thinking, no feeling just breathe.
When a passer by says " look at that lady talking to herself and just breathing over there" that is okay. We do not live by the box rules anymore. Allow yourself to not continue to hold yourself to some high and mighty standard of what life is supposed to be like.
Life is no longer the same.
We read more, we go outside less, we gaze at the sky like we are thinking of ways we can just fly away to somewhere up there.
We still belong to society and have active roles within the box of the norm, but society does not understand us. We must understand us, we must be ok with not being able to see a friend and their children today because we are jealous and envious of their happy life.
We cannot watch certain movies as all the feelings come rushing at once and can floor us.
We need to go easy on ourselves and though it is so hard to accept the loss of our child, a big part is accepting our new limitations of how we cannot perform exactly the same within the box of life where society operates.
If we place less emphasis on labels in our life, are we grieving properly ?
Screw it, there is not right or wrong way..
Will we be able for the family get together ?
Screw it, do not go if you do not wish to.
Will I be able to smile at everyone at a work bbq ?
Screw it, don't smile at everybody.
Can I have my friend and her children over for coffee.
Screw it, ask her to leave her kids at home and come by herself.
Can I look at the pictures of my child as I cry for how I miss them?
Screw it, don't look at the pictures.
In these examples all I am saying is there will be days when you can do all of the above and there will be days when you cannot. Both of which are okay.
I Have found to become more and more okay with the likes of these society type things by acknowledging that sometimes I just cannot.
I carry a pain not many understand so I cannot expect anything from anybody.
It is entirely up to ourselves, yes as if things were not lonely enough already. Couple grieve different as does each of us, like finger prints no two people have the same. So it is a lonely buzz to say the least.
Allow yourself to be. Yes Just BE.
Do the basics if you cannot muster anything else, shower as regularly as possible. Eat when you can but be sure to eat and hydrate.
For me the most important.
Breathe!! Take deep breaths and focus on them
When something seems so intense, breathe maybe one two or three deep breaths and just listen to how your lungs work. Think of.nothing In front of you.
Fill your lungs with the air that is filled with the spirit of your child. Feel how your nose takes in the air.
That's about as simple.and basic as our life can now be and this little things help.me go outside and participate in society. When it becomes too much on any given day I do retreat and when that is not possible I run my check list.
Did I shower today?
Did I eat today ?
Did I allow myself to breathe ?
I am sorry for your loss, anyone who has managed to read down this far. If you liked the read, please give a comment, share the post for your friends to also know and of course the promotional
My book page is @TWOsonsTOOmany
I would love if you can stop by and like.and share any of my posts there.
My memoir, the book has been all about building my monument to my two little boys and I will continue on as this is my grieving.
Happy Monday & have a beautiful week.
Sorry for any autotype typos. Posted from a small screen on a phone✌💓💔💔
July 21, 2018
My life is wonderful, is yours ?
When thinking about my day, I keep coming back to happy place as my life is beautiful and wonderful all wrapped up into one, is yours?
Sounds a bit far fetched you may say or even ask, how on earth is it wonderful?
I awoke this morning to the sound of the birds singing and yes I know the birds make a fierce racket but if you take a moment to listen.
How do they hit the notes so well, what gives them the motivation to wake up with a song and sound so chirpy first thing in the morning?
My ex's grandma was native American and she always used to tell me how her grandma always said "pay attention to the birds"
When severe weather is coming they can alert us and when even earthquakes they say the birds start acting funny just before but this is about their song in the morning.
The bird wakes up happy by nature's instinct, wakes up singing and brings a nice chorus to my ears on a morning that is no different to any other than just nice.
I took a step outside soon after and a big deep breath to start my day, what beauty! The air filled my lungs so pure and fresh, almost had a taste of something angelica like. I really cannot explain the pure taste or fresh feeling it brings to me other than just another beautiful thing that fills my life with wonderful moments.
The air we breathe so essential to our very existence and when we stop for a moment and appreciate exactly what we have in that breath we take, it can taste so wonderful, help to feel so nice all over our whole being and adds that get up and go mood to any day.
Pay attention to your breath and it may relax you while motivating you just like the birds.
I look across the garden and see a new rose has grown fully out of its little bud. The colour is just amazing, red like dark red almost decadent. The colours of those big old curtains in a theatre that open just before the show, the colour of which we rarely take note of because we are anticipating great entertainment. But that colour of deep and lush red, almost black at a certain angle.
It is that colour that for no reason this flower has decided to be or made and it brings a warm feeling.
The feeling where does it come from just from a colour ?
This rose has shown up has such a soft look to it, plush, like the way we want our bathrobe or dressing gown to be. No, not necessarily the colour but the soft and cotton like plushness to it.
I am lucky to be able to share with you my morning and I am just like any one of you out there who has five hundred things to moan and complain about, however my choice is to recognize the beauty and enjoy it. You should try it.
500 things to complain and probably a few more, so here are just the 3 things it has taken to make the day beautiful and remind me of my wonderful life.
Enjoy your weekend
#TWOsonsTOOmany
@TWOsonsTOOmany
Sounds a bit far fetched you may say or even ask, how on earth is it wonderful?
I awoke this morning to the sound of the birds singing and yes I know the birds make a fierce racket but if you take a moment to listen.
How do they hit the notes so well, what gives them the motivation to wake up with a song and sound so chirpy first thing in the morning?
My ex's grandma was native American and she always used to tell me how her grandma always said "pay attention to the birds"
When severe weather is coming they can alert us and when even earthquakes they say the birds start acting funny just before but this is about their song in the morning.
The bird wakes up happy by nature's instinct, wakes up singing and brings a nice chorus to my ears on a morning that is no different to any other than just nice.
I took a step outside soon after and a big deep breath to start my day, what beauty! The air filled my lungs so pure and fresh, almost had a taste of something angelica like. I really cannot explain the pure taste or fresh feeling it brings to me other than just another beautiful thing that fills my life with wonderful moments.
The air we breathe so essential to our very existence and when we stop for a moment and appreciate exactly what we have in that breath we take, it can taste so wonderful, help to feel so nice all over our whole being and adds that get up and go mood to any day.
Pay attention to your breath and it may relax you while motivating you just like the birds.
I look across the garden and see a new rose has grown fully out of its little bud. The colour is just amazing, red like dark red almost decadent. The colours of those big old curtains in a theatre that open just before the show, the colour of which we rarely take note of because we are anticipating great entertainment. But that colour of deep and lush red, almost black at a certain angle.
It is that colour that for no reason this flower has decided to be or made and it brings a warm feeling.
The feeling where does it come from just from a colour ?
This rose has shown up has such a soft look to it, plush, like the way we want our bathrobe or dressing gown to be. No, not necessarily the colour but the soft and cotton like plushness to it.
I am lucky to be able to share with you my morning and I am just like any one of you out there who has five hundred things to moan and complain about, however my choice is to recognize the beauty and enjoy it. You should try it.
500 things to complain and probably a few more, so here are just the 3 things it has taken to make the day beautiful and remind me of my wonderful life.
Enjoy your weekend
#TWOsonsTOOmany
@TWOsonsTOOmany
Published on July 21, 2018 04:57
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Tags:
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July 12, 2018
Ireland has had a summer #heatwave
The summer sun has been amazing in Ireland. Sometimes topping 30 degrees and people just melting all over the country.
The beaches packed with pink skinned folks all blistering the bejaysus out of themselves, how wonderful this #HEATWAVE has been.
I always claimed Ireland is the nicest country ever when the sun is continuously shinning and I have experienced it this past few weeks. How beautiful it really is.
Though it cannot last forever in reality and many people of Ireland wish it to be gone as some prefer the dreary damp conditions the nation is more accustomed to. I for one do not and the rain and the damp can please oh please "go to Spain" as they say.
The reality of it all for me always sinks in eventually, nah sometimes quicker than I even care to imagine and so a dull day has come along, a threat of rain type day that though many welcome, I say "ahh Feck off"
The reality piece, it is a great representation of life, this summer has been. The beauty of our country and the happy vibe amongst the people enjoying the warm spell. Pubs in Ireland have been running out of all kinds of beers and drinks through this time and other people suffering illness experienced harsh times through the heat, with all beautiful things in our lives, can they stay beautiful forever?
I have seen beauty in many areas of my own little life, I have experienced love in life and experienced loss. To me, the beauty while it is here is to be enjoyed, appreciated and loved in every little minute.
Be it the sunshine and a #heatwave or a friend you hold dear.
A new born baby in your life, your children, your parents as they grow older, even your entire family. Sometimes our friends who we hold close and even the distant ones, each and every one of them have brought some form of beauty into your life and it is up to you to enjoy it while it is there and love them all for it.
So our #heatwave this summer has brought about again to my mind of how in the cycle of life things do all change. Nothing will stay the same forever and in times of love and beauty, enjoy them.
In times of sorrow and pain, enjoy them too, they will not last forever either.
Just as my thoughts today will come and go so will the feelings.
I was saddened just recently to pass through a time of remembering my second son on his 4year anniversary followed by the tragic passing of beautiful person in our own locality. The feelings for both of these days just recently were low and very grey. Just as the clouds have decided to move in and take away the beautiful sunshine over Ireland today.
Our memories and thoughts chop and change just like the weather and I put it to you to never fear the hard times and the low parts as they will change for you too.
Some of us can enter into despair, feeling so horrible as to think the world is going to end. So no matter what your pain and no matter how hard it is, it will pass on and bring you to see beauty again. Maybe never in the same way but to a different appreciation of beauty like never before.
So like our heatwave in Ireland we can see around us all the time nature changing and our lives can be quite similar, roll with the good times, roll with the punches. It is all we can do is to keep things as basic as possible to allow the simple and beautiful things shine through for our own better well being.
Enjoy the rest of your summer people and if you wish to have a book to bring on holidays for your beach reading, search out TWO sons TOO many, on Amazon for some inspiring reading times.
The beaches packed with pink skinned folks all blistering the bejaysus out of themselves, how wonderful this #HEATWAVE has been.
I always claimed Ireland is the nicest country ever when the sun is continuously shinning and I have experienced it this past few weeks. How beautiful it really is.
Though it cannot last forever in reality and many people of Ireland wish it to be gone as some prefer the dreary damp conditions the nation is more accustomed to. I for one do not and the rain and the damp can please oh please "go to Spain" as they say.
The reality of it all for me always sinks in eventually, nah sometimes quicker than I even care to imagine and so a dull day has come along, a threat of rain type day that though many welcome, I say "ahh Feck off"
The reality piece, it is a great representation of life, this summer has been. The beauty of our country and the happy vibe amongst the people enjoying the warm spell. Pubs in Ireland have been running out of all kinds of beers and drinks through this time and other people suffering illness experienced harsh times through the heat, with all beautiful things in our lives, can they stay beautiful forever?
I have seen beauty in many areas of my own little life, I have experienced love in life and experienced loss. To me, the beauty while it is here is to be enjoyed, appreciated and loved in every little minute.
Be it the sunshine and a #heatwave or a friend you hold dear.
A new born baby in your life, your children, your parents as they grow older, even your entire family. Sometimes our friends who we hold close and even the distant ones, each and every one of them have brought some form of beauty into your life and it is up to you to enjoy it while it is there and love them all for it.
So our #heatwave this summer has brought about again to my mind of how in the cycle of life things do all change. Nothing will stay the same forever and in times of love and beauty, enjoy them.
In times of sorrow and pain, enjoy them too, they will not last forever either.
Just as my thoughts today will come and go so will the feelings.
I was saddened just recently to pass through a time of remembering my second son on his 4year anniversary followed by the tragic passing of beautiful person in our own locality. The feelings for both of these days just recently were low and very grey. Just as the clouds have decided to move in and take away the beautiful sunshine over Ireland today.
Our memories and thoughts chop and change just like the weather and I put it to you to never fear the hard times and the low parts as they will change for you too.
Some of us can enter into despair, feeling so horrible as to think the world is going to end. So no matter what your pain and no matter how hard it is, it will pass on and bring you to see beauty again. Maybe never in the same way but to a different appreciation of beauty like never before.
So like our heatwave in Ireland we can see around us all the time nature changing and our lives can be quite similar, roll with the good times, roll with the punches. It is all we can do is to keep things as basic as possible to allow the simple and beautiful things shine through for our own better well being.
Enjoy the rest of your summer people and if you wish to have a book to bring on holidays for your beach reading, search out TWO sons TOO many, on Amazon for some inspiring reading times.
July 5, 2018
July 6th 2018 memories, fortunate
It is here, July 6th and right in the middle of the #WorldCup 2018.
What is the significance of these events of soccer and the date ?
4 years ago during the world cup games I awoke to a bellowing and what I ran to see and experience was one of those things that kind of fucks you up for life.
I ran to the patio where my son Patrick was being dragged from the pool by his mammy.
Patrick was lifeless. I grabbed him immediately and began CPR. Unfortunately not like the movies, it did not revive him and others were scrambling for an ambulance and emergency calls.
4years have passed since that God awful day but and yes many a but, it arrives each year his anniversary.
A day, a date that I am reminded of the poxy taste of lactic acid or whatever it is that was coming from his mouth as I tried so hard to breathe life into my baby. Approx 5.40 am Pacific time I was willing for my little boy to awaken and spit water out and draw breath.
The efforts to revive him continued in the ambulance and into the emergency room.
They called a halt, it was not working.
PATRICK you slipped away. My beautiful baba, at 1 year and 4 months had died.
Does it get any easier?
No. Quite simply it keeps coming each year, his anniversary, his birthday, fathers day, you name it even the time to go and play on the grass with a ball or walk for ice cream, all gone that day.
Am I reminded more this year because the world cup is hear again and will each and every four years be tougher ? Who really knows.
PATRICK is my second born son and he also is my second son deceased. Perhaps the fact that I had to bury my first son also when he was only 15 years of age may have made Patrick's death a whole and other type of pill to swallow in life, I honestly do not know.
Is it that Patrick represented to me a new hope for life after losing Darra a couple of years earlier ? Again I do not know.
What I do know and live on a daily basis is that I love them both and so I grieve for them. I live with grief.
No not like the grief you get from a parent or a partner, although it is a very annoying grief as it never let's up.
So why do I feel so fucking horrible today July 6th 2018 ?
Who really knows, no seriously who knows.
Since December 2011 I live with grief. So it is all still very young and early at only 7 years.
What I do know is I have been blessed and am very fortunate to have such love and to be capable of love, I grieve for my sons because I love them and they are not with me today to show it to them, I cannot even send them a text or a "I Love U" tweet or facebook gif even.
Well I can send them all I want, but what I mean is I know they will not get the beep beep notification and look at it and smile, or even be embarrassed in front of their friends by it.
I am fortunate as they have inspired me to make a monument to them and that is the whole reason behind why I wrote a memoir book.
It is my monument to them, as long as people will speak their name, they live on.
The reason I write here is to maybe even help one other person who knows what grief is and who lives daily with it.
I grieve everyday, so why the 6th of July should feel any different ? It just does as it is the big anniversary day of Patrick's death and right amid the world cup tournament again.
The life after death occurs in me everyday as I write to you blogs about how time passes by and how what we choose to feel or how we decide what any given day in our life may be like. I write it to you all to take a read and offer to you some thoughts for your own suffering or perspective on life.
The memoir is titled TWO sons TOO many and is available on #Amazon. You can find it and have a read and see why exactly why they meant so much to once upon a time a dad who always wanted the greatest for his first two sons.
Buy the book, review the book and tell all your friends of what you have found. Someone grieving may never find me or my story and so as their friend they need you to share the word to them.
I always ask for shares and likes for my book page on Facebook to reach farther and hope that someone out there may get a moment of peace knowing my story. They may just take some little needed inspiration to write their own story or allow themselves to cry a little harder and help them on their journey.
So I count on you all to keep on sharing.
I do not use foul language to be cool or to steer away from being civil
But seriously.
FUCK YOU 6th of July
1 Luv to you all.
Thank you for the continued support.
Facebook @TWOsonsTOOmany
Twitter @TWOsonsTOOmany
Memoir title. TWO sons TOO many
Subtitled. To Live, Love & Lose.
What is the significance of these events of soccer and the date ?
4 years ago during the world cup games I awoke to a bellowing and what I ran to see and experience was one of those things that kind of fucks you up for life.
I ran to the patio where my son Patrick was being dragged from the pool by his mammy.
Patrick was lifeless. I grabbed him immediately and began CPR. Unfortunately not like the movies, it did not revive him and others were scrambling for an ambulance and emergency calls.
4years have passed since that God awful day but and yes many a but, it arrives each year his anniversary.
A day, a date that I am reminded of the poxy taste of lactic acid or whatever it is that was coming from his mouth as I tried so hard to breathe life into my baby. Approx 5.40 am Pacific time I was willing for my little boy to awaken and spit water out and draw breath.
The efforts to revive him continued in the ambulance and into the emergency room.
They called a halt, it was not working.
PATRICK you slipped away. My beautiful baba, at 1 year and 4 months had died.
Does it get any easier?
No. Quite simply it keeps coming each year, his anniversary, his birthday, fathers day, you name it even the time to go and play on the grass with a ball or walk for ice cream, all gone that day.
Am I reminded more this year because the world cup is hear again and will each and every four years be tougher ? Who really knows.
PATRICK is my second born son and he also is my second son deceased. Perhaps the fact that I had to bury my first son also when he was only 15 years of age may have made Patrick's death a whole and other type of pill to swallow in life, I honestly do not know.
Is it that Patrick represented to me a new hope for life after losing Darra a couple of years earlier ? Again I do not know.
What I do know and live on a daily basis is that I love them both and so I grieve for them. I live with grief.
No not like the grief you get from a parent or a partner, although it is a very annoying grief as it never let's up.
So why do I feel so fucking horrible today July 6th 2018 ?
Who really knows, no seriously who knows.
Since December 2011 I live with grief. So it is all still very young and early at only 7 years.
What I do know is I have been blessed and am very fortunate to have such love and to be capable of love, I grieve for my sons because I love them and they are not with me today to show it to them, I cannot even send them a text or a "I Love U" tweet or facebook gif even.
Well I can send them all I want, but what I mean is I know they will not get the beep beep notification and look at it and smile, or even be embarrassed in front of their friends by it.
I am fortunate as they have inspired me to make a monument to them and that is the whole reason behind why I wrote a memoir book.
It is my monument to them, as long as people will speak their name, they live on.
The reason I write here is to maybe even help one other person who knows what grief is and who lives daily with it.
I grieve everyday, so why the 6th of July should feel any different ? It just does as it is the big anniversary day of Patrick's death and right amid the world cup tournament again.
The life after death occurs in me everyday as I write to you blogs about how time passes by and how what we choose to feel or how we decide what any given day in our life may be like. I write it to you all to take a read and offer to you some thoughts for your own suffering or perspective on life.
The memoir is titled TWO sons TOO many and is available on #Amazon. You can find it and have a read and see why exactly why they meant so much to once upon a time a dad who always wanted the greatest for his first two sons.
Buy the book, review the book and tell all your friends of what you have found. Someone grieving may never find me or my story and so as their friend they need you to share the word to them.
I always ask for shares and likes for my book page on Facebook to reach farther and hope that someone out there may get a moment of peace knowing my story. They may just take some little needed inspiration to write their own story or allow themselves to cry a little harder and help them on their journey.
So I count on you all to keep on sharing.
I do not use foul language to be cool or to steer away from being civil
But seriously.
FUCK YOU 6th of July
1 Luv to you all.
Thank you for the continued support.
Facebook @TWOsonsTOOmany
Twitter @TWOsonsTOOmany
Memoir title. TWO sons TOO many
Subtitled. To Live, Love & Lose.
Published on July 05, 2018 20:08
June 26, 2018
To Isolate, Isolation, a good one ?
Isolation is a real tricky fella indeed.
To Isolate yourself from anything in life, friends perhaps or even family.
I can understand taking a position of not participating in an event or just saying no to the awesome weekend party, these kind of opt out options can be the norm. However at what point does it change from a healthy, " ah no thanks" to an invitation to maybe even a bar b que these fine weather days, to an isolation buzz of just not wanting to mix with anyone at all ?
Can isolating ourselves be a positive step or just a negative step all round ?
These are worth considering and allowing a little thought when we make our decisions. Sometimes we consider the crowd who we might be spending time with and we prefer not to be around some people for a whole bunch of time. Other times and more than likely we know how our persona is and who we are in our social groups and so rather than have to perform for the crowd, cause this can get tiring, we say no to allow us a more relaxed time, doing something different by ourselves where we do not have to perform or act in any particular way.
There is the way we see ourselves and there is the way in which others see us.
Being YOU and just you can be the best time you will ever spend whether you are in company or alone. We have a natural mechanism to be exactly who we are when we are by ourselves and many times this self is the person we really are in love with.
So why bother to mix with anybody ? Right ??
Well I guess we do need people too, we need interaction and the laughter and fun our friends can bring us. We need our families too, as long as, of course that they are not putting the "funk" into dysfunctional. But we do need the unconditional love that comes with family.
So why do we isolate ourselves ?
I have no idea Other than to say I am quite guilty of it many times too, all of the above actually.
When we are by our lonesome, we can just think a thought and do it. We can put into action our thoughts immediately and in these instances, we love not having any discussions, no back and forth, we just think something and so be it, it s done, so isolation is great in this respect.
There is freedom in being alone by ourselves, a great feeling to see the sky or breathe the air and feel free as bird, as they say and so again this isolation has its huge benefits.
Some will play golf or some will ride a bike or others lose themselves in a book. These are all wonderful ways to escape and have some "me time" in a healthy isolation, by choosing to isolate.
It is I suppose when your thoughts become negative and or let's call them shitty, that it is then that isolation turns nasty. Keeping yourself to yourself can be a sour experience. It is your family and friends who will encourage you to participate and even check in with you with the good old "are you okay, would you like to talk".
Of course when all you want is to be alone and those words can be some of the single most annoying words to ever hear.
Check with yourself and check again, is your choice to isolate a healthy one or an unhealthy one ?
Many will always refer to isolation as a negative occurrence due to the fact of many times it is through hardship or hurt or some kind of pain that can cause us to withdraw. There are however many ways in which isolation can be healthy and a beautiful time all to yourself with thoughts and daydreaming to keep you in a happy content place.
I definitely chose this kind of isolation more often.
But not always. It can be a hurtful lonely experience too, less often of course.
So if you find you do isolate yourself regularly and like being alone, just have a check with yourself to see if perhaps it is worth forcing yourself to take part in whatever, family time or fun with friends time. You may not want to, but involving ourselves in activities or spending time with the ones we love is as rewarding as it gets.
I miss my little loved ones and so my isolation can be many times thinking of them as they have passed but I am certain to check in with myself as to how content am I being alone.
So you see it can be very fulfilling and enjoyable just in your own company and admiring life and just doing it all by yourself. Some crave attention and others hate it.
Try and find that happy balance of keeping occupied and staying involved with people so as not to slip away into a darker place on the inside. Do not isolate to enter into a black hole and if you find yourself stuck, try to talk, chat or communicate with the ones closest to you, then try just a little harder, you will be glad that you did.
If you find yourself isolating to recharge your batteries and have that lovely mix of "me time" and "them time" then you are probably quite content indeed.
If you find yourself wishing they would all just leave you alone, then perhaps it is this precise time to force yourself to participate and reach out to someone. They will be only too delighted that you did.
Now that it is summer, go out there and enjoy it, both in isolation on a private level and a participation with family and friends level.
Isolation is not always negative yet, never feel you have to perform for the crowd.
Be you, yes be you, a hell of a cliche I know it is but it is simple and very clear.
Be you.
You will be happiest when comfortable with who you are, to participate and isolate all within the same day.
If you want to know a little misery & grief coupled with an adventure or two, then check out
"TWO sons TOO many" it is a memoir although I am a firm believer you will not isolate yourself from family because whilst reading this you will want to keep sharing with your partner or friends exactly why your jaw keeps hitting the floor.
Remember there is good and bad isolation, just check with yourself and BE YOU regardless.
Say hi on Facebook / Twitter
@TWOsonsTOOmany.
To Isolate yourself from anything in life, friends perhaps or even family.
I can understand taking a position of not participating in an event or just saying no to the awesome weekend party, these kind of opt out options can be the norm. However at what point does it change from a healthy, " ah no thanks" to an invitation to maybe even a bar b que these fine weather days, to an isolation buzz of just not wanting to mix with anyone at all ?
Can isolating ourselves be a positive step or just a negative step all round ?
These are worth considering and allowing a little thought when we make our decisions. Sometimes we consider the crowd who we might be spending time with and we prefer not to be around some people for a whole bunch of time. Other times and more than likely we know how our persona is and who we are in our social groups and so rather than have to perform for the crowd, cause this can get tiring, we say no to allow us a more relaxed time, doing something different by ourselves where we do not have to perform or act in any particular way.
There is the way we see ourselves and there is the way in which others see us.
Being YOU and just you can be the best time you will ever spend whether you are in company or alone. We have a natural mechanism to be exactly who we are when we are by ourselves and many times this self is the person we really are in love with.
So why bother to mix with anybody ? Right ??
Well I guess we do need people too, we need interaction and the laughter and fun our friends can bring us. We need our families too, as long as, of course that they are not putting the "funk" into dysfunctional. But we do need the unconditional love that comes with family.
So why do we isolate ourselves ?
I have no idea Other than to say I am quite guilty of it many times too, all of the above actually.
When we are by our lonesome, we can just think a thought and do it. We can put into action our thoughts immediately and in these instances, we love not having any discussions, no back and forth, we just think something and so be it, it s done, so isolation is great in this respect.
There is freedom in being alone by ourselves, a great feeling to see the sky or breathe the air and feel free as bird, as they say and so again this isolation has its huge benefits.
Some will play golf or some will ride a bike or others lose themselves in a book. These are all wonderful ways to escape and have some "me time" in a healthy isolation, by choosing to isolate.
It is I suppose when your thoughts become negative and or let's call them shitty, that it is then that isolation turns nasty. Keeping yourself to yourself can be a sour experience. It is your family and friends who will encourage you to participate and even check in with you with the good old "are you okay, would you like to talk".
Of course when all you want is to be alone and those words can be some of the single most annoying words to ever hear.
Check with yourself and check again, is your choice to isolate a healthy one or an unhealthy one ?
Many will always refer to isolation as a negative occurrence due to the fact of many times it is through hardship or hurt or some kind of pain that can cause us to withdraw. There are however many ways in which isolation can be healthy and a beautiful time all to yourself with thoughts and daydreaming to keep you in a happy content place.
I definitely chose this kind of isolation more often.
But not always. It can be a hurtful lonely experience too, less often of course.
So if you find you do isolate yourself regularly and like being alone, just have a check with yourself to see if perhaps it is worth forcing yourself to take part in whatever, family time or fun with friends time. You may not want to, but involving ourselves in activities or spending time with the ones we love is as rewarding as it gets.
I miss my little loved ones and so my isolation can be many times thinking of them as they have passed but I am certain to check in with myself as to how content am I being alone.
So you see it can be very fulfilling and enjoyable just in your own company and admiring life and just doing it all by yourself. Some crave attention and others hate it.
Try and find that happy balance of keeping occupied and staying involved with people so as not to slip away into a darker place on the inside. Do not isolate to enter into a black hole and if you find yourself stuck, try to talk, chat or communicate with the ones closest to you, then try just a little harder, you will be glad that you did.
If you find yourself isolating to recharge your batteries and have that lovely mix of "me time" and "them time" then you are probably quite content indeed.
If you find yourself wishing they would all just leave you alone, then perhaps it is this precise time to force yourself to participate and reach out to someone. They will be only too delighted that you did.
Now that it is summer, go out there and enjoy it, both in isolation on a private level and a participation with family and friends level.
Isolation is not always negative yet, never feel you have to perform for the crowd.
Be you, yes be you, a hell of a cliche I know it is but it is simple and very clear.
Be you.
You will be happiest when comfortable with who you are, to participate and isolate all within the same day.
If you want to know a little misery & grief coupled with an adventure or two, then check out
"TWO sons TOO many" it is a memoir although I am a firm believer you will not isolate yourself from family because whilst reading this you will want to keep sharing with your partner or friends exactly why your jaw keeps hitting the floor.
Remember there is good and bad isolation, just check with yourself and BE YOU regardless.
Say hi on Facebook / Twitter
@TWOsonsTOOmany.
June 21, 2018
TIME, what is it all about ?
TIME heals all, they say. There is always time ! How long has it been ? Or "when God made time he made plenty of it"
What is the connection to our current lives in 2018, between Stress & Time ?
What is this TIME that so many are worrying about ?
A unit of measurement really isn't it ?
I have never heard a person ask me how many litres something may be at a random part of an afternoon, no but I sure have heard them ask me what time it is a hundred times or more.
Here we are on the longest day of the year today and then the sun begins it's retreat back to the south, bringing about all these change's in TIME.
Does today feel any different to yesterday due to this abundance of daylight or the extra TIME we have today ?
We can argue the point of "seasonalitis" vitamin deficiency due to less sunlight and the onset of depression in winter months for people and so for those reasons alone, yes, timing of the sun's path may just be very significant.
Don't waste time others will say or encourage one another to not put off til tomorrow that which can be done today.
But seriously I ask you to think for a moment in your precious TIME, can we really improve anything by stressing over time ?
I believe firmly we can worry ourselves to death even, or bring about unnecessary anxiety into our daily life by thinking about time. Do you worry about inches ? Or kilometers for that matter ?
So hours and minutes are really just belonging to the same category in life, a unit of measurement.
Yes I will agree it is quite polite and mannered to be "on time" for an appointment of any kind, it is also respectful to be "timely" sometimes being timely in your projects of work can be rewarding beyond the normal standard. These however are not to be confused with TIME.
In my own life TIME, I have begged for the clock to stop and oh too often wished hard for time to reverse yet, it does not perform such "miracles" and the feelings just come and go as they please. Thoughts also wander in and wander out without any relationship with what time it is on the clock.
So why worry about it ?
I will feel what I must feel when it occurs and this will be how life will go. I cannot forget all about time on the clock completely as their are other's in my world of life who may just be very concerned about what time it is.
If we can slow our life down to a single moment of our precious time and take note of how we feel, recharge our energy by becoming aware of ourselves, letting go of the stress that occupies our minds. Let go of the aches that come to us from our worry about time.
You may not consider yourself a time worrier or believe you never care, unfortunately it is part of our society and life in 2018.
What can we do to combat it ?
Slow our life down and take a moment, take an hour or a day or if too much going on, catch 5 for a little break. Be alone with yourself and think deeply about nothing. Let the whole world go on pause for your time is more precious than you even know.
I can speak first hand of how in this life of ours that tomorrow is not guaranteed, I know this oh too well, yet can I concern myself about time passing and life continuing?
TIME & tide wait for no man, this is probably the simplest it can get in life. Clear fact and the obvious too, yet we spend our days watching clocks and trying to squeeze everything in. Bringing about stress, worry, anxiety and panic that we can absolutely do without. Take your time and relax to where you can enjoy the small and simple offerings any given day can bring you. Do not be in a hurry to use it all up, life that is.
Take your moments and though yes tomorrow is not guaranteed, be happy with all you have achieved today.
Allow yourself plenty of time as you go about your day, take time for yourself in any given day, feel alive and breathe in the beautiful air that keeps you going.
Allow yourself enjoy your time, stress less about the clock. Take a "time" out and just be you.
You only live once and if done well, then once is enough.
So I guess I find comfort in knowing that this is indeed my time, this is also your time and how we use it can make the difference to having a good time or not.
TIME exists, it is part of our life, it will always just be there. Acknowledge the clock but by no means allow this unit of measurement consume you.
Not me at least !
It would be nice of you to share some "time" with me and share my post with some of your friends,
Perhaps even a shout out to my memoir.
Title, TWO sons TOO many.
You can search it in Google and find where you can pick up a copy.
Feel free to comment below.
There will always be enough TIME......
What is the connection to our current lives in 2018, between Stress & Time ?
What is this TIME that so many are worrying about ?
A unit of measurement really isn't it ?
I have never heard a person ask me how many litres something may be at a random part of an afternoon, no but I sure have heard them ask me what time it is a hundred times or more.
Here we are on the longest day of the year today and then the sun begins it's retreat back to the south, bringing about all these change's in TIME.
Does today feel any different to yesterday due to this abundance of daylight or the extra TIME we have today ?
We can argue the point of "seasonalitis" vitamin deficiency due to less sunlight and the onset of depression in winter months for people and so for those reasons alone, yes, timing of the sun's path may just be very significant.
Don't waste time others will say or encourage one another to not put off til tomorrow that which can be done today.
But seriously I ask you to think for a moment in your precious TIME, can we really improve anything by stressing over time ?
I believe firmly we can worry ourselves to death even, or bring about unnecessary anxiety into our daily life by thinking about time. Do you worry about inches ? Or kilometers for that matter ?
So hours and minutes are really just belonging to the same category in life, a unit of measurement.
Yes I will agree it is quite polite and mannered to be "on time" for an appointment of any kind, it is also respectful to be "timely" sometimes being timely in your projects of work can be rewarding beyond the normal standard. These however are not to be confused with TIME.
In my own life TIME, I have begged for the clock to stop and oh too often wished hard for time to reverse yet, it does not perform such "miracles" and the feelings just come and go as they please. Thoughts also wander in and wander out without any relationship with what time it is on the clock.
So why worry about it ?
I will feel what I must feel when it occurs and this will be how life will go. I cannot forget all about time on the clock completely as their are other's in my world of life who may just be very concerned about what time it is.
If we can slow our life down to a single moment of our precious time and take note of how we feel, recharge our energy by becoming aware of ourselves, letting go of the stress that occupies our minds. Let go of the aches that come to us from our worry about time.
You may not consider yourself a time worrier or believe you never care, unfortunately it is part of our society and life in 2018.
What can we do to combat it ?
Slow our life down and take a moment, take an hour or a day or if too much going on, catch 5 for a little break. Be alone with yourself and think deeply about nothing. Let the whole world go on pause for your time is more precious than you even know.
I can speak first hand of how in this life of ours that tomorrow is not guaranteed, I know this oh too well, yet can I concern myself about time passing and life continuing?
TIME & tide wait for no man, this is probably the simplest it can get in life. Clear fact and the obvious too, yet we spend our days watching clocks and trying to squeeze everything in. Bringing about stress, worry, anxiety and panic that we can absolutely do without. Take your time and relax to where you can enjoy the small and simple offerings any given day can bring you. Do not be in a hurry to use it all up, life that is.
Take your moments and though yes tomorrow is not guaranteed, be happy with all you have achieved today.
Allow yourself plenty of time as you go about your day, take time for yourself in any given day, feel alive and breathe in the beautiful air that keeps you going.
Allow yourself enjoy your time, stress less about the clock. Take a "time" out and just be you.
You only live once and if done well, then once is enough.
So I guess I find comfort in knowing that this is indeed my time, this is also your time and how we use it can make the difference to having a good time or not.
TIME exists, it is part of our life, it will always just be there. Acknowledge the clock but by no means allow this unit of measurement consume you.
Not me at least !
It would be nice of you to share some "time" with me and share my post with some of your friends,
Perhaps even a shout out to my memoir.
Title, TWO sons TOO many.
You can search it in Google and find where you can pick up a copy.
Feel free to comment below.
There will always be enough TIME......
June 11, 2018
Our choice & use of WORDS
In any given day of our lives, we have choices to make. We sometimes have to make big choices about major events and have to think long and hard about such matters, perhaps making a choice of whether to buy a home or not.
Where we are going to live, what are the schools like for our children or even what will we have for dinner ?
These kind of things we actually think about them. We have some thoughts about our choices and we make a decision. Pretty simple process really and we are thinking and making all day everyday in our life.
What to wear ? How to look? Who to phone up & at what time is a good time to call them?
These are a few examples of things we casually think about and some we think a little more about and we, well some might even say, "I have made a conscious decision to ....."
So my question or thought really today is about words. Yup WORDS!!
How come it is that we use words all day everyday, we speak like there is no tomorrow and yet we do not give them as much thought.
I was having a chat with somebody this past weekend and it was this point precisely I was trying to make, we use words in a way like there is no thought.
The process that happens, if we think about it for a moment, we may just say "oh yeah, we don't really do we?"
So we think a word, then say a word and then hear the word all at the same time. That is like 3 basic processes all around our choice of words that we speak and we put little thought in to them. We hear the words in our head just before we speak them and right as we speak them so the words we choose are ringing all around us right as we converse.
Do we think that perhaps if we have a little thought to those words we use, would it possibly to brain wash ourselves, well brainwash might be a bit strong but the concept of teaching ourselves to "be well"
Example, someone could say to me what did you think of x factor? I can answer, "I hate when they do this or that"
I have just heard myself say HATE
Someone can ask me "how are you doing today?"
I might answer "today is a bad day"
I have just heard myself say BAD
In conversation someone could ask "would you like an ice cream?"
I can answer " I don't like icecream"
I just heard myself say DONT
So for me I have used some words there without any real thought and they sound a little negative. My mind has thought them, I have spoken them and I have heard them.
The power these words can have in my day can be just that, negative.
So I do try everyday to give a little thought to my words and prefer to choose words that will help me remain positive and upbeat about how my own attitude will be.
What or why are these choices important to me ?
I have found that anyone can actually stay positive and gain some nice energy through keeping upbeat about life.
I use this practice because of severe loss that I have suffered in my life. Without getting too deep into it, I have had the fortune of having the love for my beautiful two sons, I have had the misfortune to have to experience their funerals.
So it is for these reasons that I do choose to know I am fortunate to have loved so much and to have had those very special moments with my children.
For me it is how I remember all the laughs and special moments that I choose to speak about everything in my life as for how wonderful it all actually is.
When I wake and hear the birds signing or even when I get caught in a rain shower. The pelting rain on my face helps me feel life, how alive it is and how I feel.
I miss my boys absolutely and through soul searching and some (a lot) of disbelief I searched back over my life and found many situations were just unbelievable, so I wrote it all down in my memoir, TWO sons TOO many.
This memoir is my statue to my boys, this is the project that keeps them near me everyday. The more I can spread the wonderful story that my life has been and the more that somebody somewhere reads their names, the happier I can be.
To summarize,
Choose your words to suit how you want to be, you can change your attitude with some simple thinking, just as you would not enter into buying a house without thinking a lot, well do not enter your day or evening without some thought for yourself. Allow yourself to feel the feelings and welcome them with open arms because for these feelings you are alive, alive is wonderful.
To my new friends from my past weekend, allow yourself the rest and spoil yourself a little bit too.
Choose the words you want to hear yourself speak and you will become this too.
Have a beautiful rest of the Summer everyone.
#TWOsonsTOOmany be sure to tweet and follow on Facebook.
Where we are going to live, what are the schools like for our children or even what will we have for dinner ?
These kind of things we actually think about them. We have some thoughts about our choices and we make a decision. Pretty simple process really and we are thinking and making all day everyday in our life.
What to wear ? How to look? Who to phone up & at what time is a good time to call them?
These are a few examples of things we casually think about and some we think a little more about and we, well some might even say, "I have made a conscious decision to ....."
So my question or thought really today is about words. Yup WORDS!!
How come it is that we use words all day everyday, we speak like there is no tomorrow and yet we do not give them as much thought.
I was having a chat with somebody this past weekend and it was this point precisely I was trying to make, we use words in a way like there is no thought.
The process that happens, if we think about it for a moment, we may just say "oh yeah, we don't really do we?"
So we think a word, then say a word and then hear the word all at the same time. That is like 3 basic processes all around our choice of words that we speak and we put little thought in to them. We hear the words in our head just before we speak them and right as we speak them so the words we choose are ringing all around us right as we converse.
Do we think that perhaps if we have a little thought to those words we use, would it possibly to brain wash ourselves, well brainwash might be a bit strong but the concept of teaching ourselves to "be well"
Example, someone could say to me what did you think of x factor? I can answer, "I hate when they do this or that"
I have just heard myself say HATE
Someone can ask me "how are you doing today?"
I might answer "today is a bad day"
I have just heard myself say BAD
In conversation someone could ask "would you like an ice cream?"
I can answer " I don't like icecream"
I just heard myself say DONT
So for me I have used some words there without any real thought and they sound a little negative. My mind has thought them, I have spoken them and I have heard them.
The power these words can have in my day can be just that, negative.
So I do try everyday to give a little thought to my words and prefer to choose words that will help me remain positive and upbeat about how my own attitude will be.
What or why are these choices important to me ?
I have found that anyone can actually stay positive and gain some nice energy through keeping upbeat about life.
I use this practice because of severe loss that I have suffered in my life. Without getting too deep into it, I have had the fortune of having the love for my beautiful two sons, I have had the misfortune to have to experience their funerals.
So it is for these reasons that I do choose to know I am fortunate to have loved so much and to have had those very special moments with my children.
For me it is how I remember all the laughs and special moments that I choose to speak about everything in my life as for how wonderful it all actually is.
When I wake and hear the birds signing or even when I get caught in a rain shower. The pelting rain on my face helps me feel life, how alive it is and how I feel.
I miss my boys absolutely and through soul searching and some (a lot) of disbelief I searched back over my life and found many situations were just unbelievable, so I wrote it all down in my memoir, TWO sons TOO many.
This memoir is my statue to my boys, this is the project that keeps them near me everyday. The more I can spread the wonderful story that my life has been and the more that somebody somewhere reads their names, the happier I can be.
To summarize,
Choose your words to suit how you want to be, you can change your attitude with some simple thinking, just as you would not enter into buying a house without thinking a lot, well do not enter your day or evening without some thought for yourself. Allow yourself to feel the feelings and welcome them with open arms because for these feelings you are alive, alive is wonderful.
To my new friends from my past weekend, allow yourself the rest and spoil yourself a little bit too.
Choose the words you want to hear yourself speak and you will become this too.
Have a beautiful rest of the Summer everyone.
#TWOsonsTOOmany be sure to tweet and follow on Facebook.
Published on June 11, 2018 08:56
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