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Overcoming Feeling Inadequate

Something worth thinking about.

MakeItUltra™ Psychology

“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” ~C.G. Jung

1. Acknowledge your feelings

Before we can overcome feelings of inadequacy, we need to acknowledge that we feel this way. Do you feel like you are not enough? Do you feel like you can’t do anything right? If you feel this way, it’s ok. Just accept it. We can easily stay stuck in our denial. But, if we choose to ignore how we truly feel, we can never dismantle and reconstruct these feelings. Take a moment to explore the area in your life you feel is lacking.

2. Identify the source
Feeling inadequate often stems from negative messages we receive from other people. During childhood, we are especially vulnerable to adopting negative core beliefs. A negative core belief might be, “I am not worthy of love,” or “I will never be good enough.” Without receiving unconditional positive regard, we are likely to view our self-worth as conditional. If we value ourselves conditionally…

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Need

Restless

Romantic 

Rapture

Sensual

Seductive

Smooth

Tantalising

Textured

Touch

Unbridled Passion 

Unexpressed aching

Unquenchable thirst

Desires of the flesh

Deliciously naughty

Desperate need

Meet 

Meld

Make love.

Release 

Roused

Rapture

The person I wanted you to be

I am finding it hard to reconcile

How I could be so naive

It should be on our codicil

We didn’t set out to deceive

I found myself so much in love

With the person I wanted you to be

Instead of looking objectively enough

At the person there to see

Maybe in your vanity 

You tried to hide your flaws

Maybe in my vanity

I ignored the warning scores

It’s sad I can’t forgive you

For having feet of clay

When mine are similar too

Maybe that’s my dismay

I haven’t yet cured myself of love

Without you I am feeling blue

Am I longing for my fantasy above

A love given true?

The need to write

Out of my mind, onto the page,

Ideas stream, words just rage,

Clamouring for release, urging me on,

My love for life, drives the marathon,

Creativity tantalises, pushes the pace,

The need to transcribe, a daily race,

Wanting to engage,  to evoke a reaction,

Portraying all of life, immense satisfaction

A thousand desires

A thousand desires

Maybe more

I can feel you draw

As you trace the fibres

Of my being

Rose coloured beauty

My reaction to you spooky

A window to a world intriguing

As we draw closer

You evoke furthermore

A thousand desires, maybe more

Let’s make disclosure.

Moving closer

Excited by the flirtation

Every move a revelation

She steps ever closer

Shedding her composure

Should she take a chance

Her heart before, was lanced

Protecting that healed wound

Must not leave her bound

Time to take the plunge

New world’s, old world’s expunge

No time to reminisce

Now is the time for bliss

Excited anticipation twists

Together they join in that first kiss

Desperate for Love

Desperate for love, she gets taken in,

Her need stops her checking  the words on the tin,

Married and unhappy, feeling cheated of love,

Looking for her white knight, to love her no bluff,

She talks on the Internet,  to the men that she meets,

If they are responsive, her hopes are increased,

Her heart beats faster, when their texts she recieves,

She develops a friendship  hoping for more,

Searching for somebody to adore, adore,

Cybersex is mentioned she’s reluctant to try,

But words like sweetie, my love, darling she cannot deny,

With the promise of love, to Skype she agrees,

She’s in love with this figment, to a thousand degrees,

They make plans to meet, and it cannot be,

He is so sorry, to set her free,

Her heart is broken she can’t eat or sleep,

Never again will she get involved it’s cheap,

Six weeks later, a new friend she meets,

Taking it easy, she wants love not repeats,

Desperate for love she gets taken in,

Her need stops her checking the words on the tin.

New day

New day

Risky venture

Make it pay

Add adventure

Try for balance

Look for positives

Misery absence

Grab your prerogatives

Mix some kindness

Listen and understand

Don’t be mindless

Life expand

New day

Make it count

Learn from yesterday

Try the profound

Recognise joy

Ride the angst, and revile

Don’t be a decoy

Find that smile

New day

Don’t waste

Grab it and taste.

Light a spark

I challenge you, a deal to win

Ignite me, light a spark within

Hold me close, liberate the waves

Energy, jumps from you to me, ablaze

I feel set free, relaxed able to be

Join me in my wonder

Send me to heights, sate my hunger

Liberate me, Join me

Ignite me,light a spark within

Blackbird

Blackbird tapping on the window pane

Demanding sultanas, a recognised claim

I react, He has me well trained

First thing in the morning, my reflex ingrained

Put on the kettle, take out the box, open the window

Scatter some stock, our winter ritual, me his slave

Now in the spring, more demanding, he will rave

Now he’s children to feed, he has more need

Seems word is  spreading, now from his lead

Others arrive to share in the feast

They don’t realise it costs money, at least

The pleasure I get is its own reward

Ah here he comes, must supply his reward