Judith Iris Quate's Blog, page 13
March 4, 2015
Trailer for Our Special Child: Jason’s Story
My book is available from the publisher’s website and can be purchased directly from them in soft back and e-book.
https://www.tatepublishing.com/bookstore/book.php?w=9781634180368
Pre-orders are now being accepted on Amazon. Kindle books are not available at this time.
To my dear friends,
This book was written with love for my son Jason. Because he was tucked away in his confined world for many years. I had a strong need to share his story. I opened my heart and soul so my son’s story will give support and guidance to young parents who are finding themselves in the emotional roller coaster I so carefully expressed in this book. They need to learn how to advocate for their child. My experiences I expressed in this book should give them some support and comfort to get the care they need.
I ask you kindly to share this post so the word can be spread to reach these parents.
Thank you and God bless,
Virtual hugs
Jude
March 3, 2015
A Thought Provoking Article
The other day I read a very interesting article and it left me with my imagination working in full force. I imagined an interpretation so wild that it just needed to be shared with you.
Without quoting the article in its exact words or copying it here, I will explain the point of the article and share my very odd interpretation from my off the beat imagination.
The story in the article related a conversation between twin fetuses inside their mother’s womb. If you know my backstory you probably figured out my impression in my own words.
It is the day of their birth and the twin boys were enjoying the comfort and warmth of their environmental surroundings enjoying nourishment from their umbilical cord. Suddenly there comfortable and safe surroundings are showing signs of a drastic change. They are feeling pressure and the home they lived in for seven months appears to be in jeopardy.
The older brother feels the need to comfort his brother because he is very upset. “I am so scared. I am not ready to leave the comfort of our mother’s womb and the much needed nourishment I still need to make me stronger. My lungs are not strong enough.” The older twin attempts to comfort his brother. “I know how you feel but I don’t think we have a choice. We are losing our nourishment and air supply. We have to be delivered. Don’t worry, the doctors will take care of us.”
Almost immediately the older brother feels the hands of someone lifting him and placing him down somewhere, amd reach for his younger brother just 30 seconds later.’ “Well brother we are now in our new world and I hope we both will be okay. I am now scared too.”
Okay, I warned you my imagination was off the wall. However, you have to admit it is certainly an interesting concept to contemplate. The younger brother in my imagination was Jason and he had every right to be scared. He knew his life will never be normal. As scared as he was of what his life would be like, he was extremely thrilled his brother survived the difficulty of the first two months after leaving the comfort of their mother’s womb.
Virtual hugs,
Jude
February 20, 2015
My Book is Available
https://www.tatepublishing.com/bookstore/book.php?w=9781634180368
I am extremely proud to present my book, Our Special Child:Jason’s Story. You can purchase it directly from the publisher’s site listed above in both book form or e-book.
On March 17, 2015 the book will launch on Amazon where it will also be available as an e-book and book form.
The back of the book reads as follows:
September 8, 1979, A young mother’s life dream of raising normal, healthy children and living a quiet life with her family vanished when her twin boys were born two months premature.
This is a heart-wrenching true story of a life full of emotional roller coasters and the love she feels for her sons, especially Jason, who was diagnosed with spastic quadriplegia.
She fills this book with passion that will tug at your heartstrings, causing you to either cry or laugh at times. You will feel and share her frustrations with each page you turn.
Eight years ago after learning that Jason passed away and deeply mourning and missing him, I realized he had a purpose in his short life. He was tucked away for so many years because of his severe disabilities, no one had a chance to know him, except for those who worked closely with him.
For this reason I decided to write Jason’s memoir. While writing the book, I became involved with groups on Facebook dealing with parents of cerebral palsy children and adults. They were sharing their posts of frustrations and the inabilities to understand how to get the best help for their children. This is when I decided the second reason for presenting Jason’s story to the public is to help these young parents. Maybe I can help them get through the hard times and also teach them how to advocate for their children.
I began to believe Jason was placed in my arms for a purpose, and God found me to be his caregiver. How lucky I was!!!
Virtual hugs to all of my friends,
Jude
February 12, 2015
Walk Out of Your Comfort Zone
I am relatively a very shy individual. Surprised?…yes I am as well.
As a child I was extremely self absorbed in my insecurities, lack of self esteem and very awkward with groups. I had a very supportive home life with my parents and my sister. There was nothing in my life back then to cause me to act this way. Because of this strange fault in my personality, my experience in grade school, middle school and especially in high school was awkward and very hard to deal with. I had friends but never was able to keep them for long. When I graduated high school, I wasn’t that girl who hung out with groups of friends attending dances or going to clubs. I was lonely. There was no one to blame but myself. It was my awkward personality I was born with and I needed to overcome it someway.
My mother understood this fault in my personality. Possibly I took after her and she saw herself in me. She pushed me to join the USO back in 1968 to meet friends and learn how to interact with different people, both men and women. I pushed myself out of my comfort zone and listened to my mother and joined the USO.
The USO was the beginning of my new life. I met friends who are now my life long friends who I care very much for. I also met many different personalities of young men who needed my friendship. They were away from home for the first time in their life and on their way to war. I was someone they could talk to and provide some comfort before they went off to Vietnam.
When my twin boys were born, again I found myself having to change. For the first time it wasn’t hard for me to step out of my comfort zone. I was like a mother hen protecting her flock. I would have done anything I needed to take care of my boys. I would have jumped off a bridge if needed, to save my boys. I set a standard as a mother who meant business and all professionals I had contact with, understood what made me tick and respected me as a mother who you did not full around with.
However, this wasn’t something I acquired immediately. I needed to learn through mistakes, some crucial, in order to create the dynamic personality I needed in order to care for a special needs child. For this reason, along with a few others, I wrote my book, Our Special Child:Jason’s Story. I needed to document the trials and tribulations I went through in order to become the best advocate I needed to be for both of my boys. I want young parents today to read my book and know they can follow my story and learn from it. They also can be the best advocate for their special needs child as well; especially if you have the personality I had as explained above. You can overcome anything if you have the desire to.
I am still working through my shyness. Last night I attended a social for the first time sponsored by a professional women’s organization I belong to. There were 150 people at this social and I had to walk through the door and represent myself as a professional woman business owner and network with them. I was apprehensive all day thinking about the event. I was afraid to be the wall flower, standing alone and looking awkward. I was stepping out of my comfort zone again….Yuck! However, I put on my brave face and stepped into the “war zone”, so to speak, and I did great. Thankfully, the group and its members, are very inviting, friendly, outgoing and made me feel part of the posse with common interests and needs. They did not allow me to be the wall flower I feared.
Note: To my readers in cyber world who were lucky enough to find my blog, let me give you a word of advise. In order to help make yourself more comfortable with large groups, get involved. I am the new treasurer of my group and I believe it helped me feel part of the central core as compared to being the outsider looking in. Just a suggestion…
Have a great day friends
Virtual hugs from
Jude
