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Celebrating Mother's Day With Famous Female Artists

Female artists from all genres have played a pivotal role in shaping our understanding of femininity and motherhood. With Mother’s Day among us, there’s no better time to highlight these profound female creators and celebrate the impact they’ve had on the relationship between mother and daughter. Invaluable created this fascinating infographic on famous moms in art and literature, featuring quotes from some of our favorite female writers like Toni Morrison, Maya Angelou, and more! This quote from Sylvia Plath says it best, “There must be quite a few things a hot bath won’t cure but I don’t know many of them.”


Check out all the great motherly advice, and don’t forget to celebrate your own mom’s accomplishments this Mother’s Day!Celebrating Mother's Day With Famous Female Artists

Ruth Ware Holds True to Her Thrilling Style In The Lying Game

The Lying Game by Ruth Ware
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

"I have spent so long running from the memories, pushing them away, drowning them in drink and routine and everyday life."

Ruth Ware's The Lying Game is a psychological journey through secrets, lies, and relationships.

The book follows Isa and her former classmates through a journey of horrible memories, lies, and secrets. As they uncover truths they'd tried to overlook, they will learn that sometimes the lying game comes back to haunt you.

I loved that this book truly kept me on the edge of my seat. Just when I felt confident I had figured it out, I changed my mind. The suspense is well-built and keeps you on edge. I also liked Isa's character's imperfections and struggles. She felt very realistic and was easy to like. I found myself rooting for her.

The ending was very well done. The last page, especially, really brought everything full circle.

Overall, this book had a feel of In a dark, dark wood. The concepts were somewhat similar, and Ruth Ware's detailed style didn't disappoint. Overall, this was an engaging story about how dangerous lies can be and how they can haunt us well beyond what we ever thought possible.

I highly recommend this book and will definitely be reading the next Ruth Ware book released.

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An Important Mother's Day Wish For Every Woman

An Important Mother's Day Wish For Every WomanI am a thirty-year-old married woman who doesn't have children. You may be wondering, thus, what business I have writing about Mother's Day.

Here's the thing I've come to learn over the years of being a childless woman: The holiday means something different to every woman. For each of us, we have a different relationship with the term "mother," in reference to ourselves and even in reference to the women in our lives. 

Our backgrounds, our life experiences, our choices, our personalities all impact what the day means... and I think that's okay.

However, I've seen such a divide arise over Mother's Day. The rift between mothers and the childless or the child free seems to be accentuated on this day, and sometimes that leads to animosity on both sides.

I think that is a shame.

No matter who you are as a woman or what your life looks like, I think there is something in Mother's Day for us all. For me, it's a day to celebrate the influential mothering figures in my life. However, I think it is also a day to celebrate the mothering spirit within.

Mother's Day does not only have to be celebrated in the typical, child hand's in yours kind of way. 

So here is what I wish for you this Mother's Day: I wish you joy, happiness, and inner peace, no matter what stage or state your life is in. I wish for you as a woman to appreciate and value your worth in this world, your contributions, and the ways you make this world a better place, no matter what the status is of your biological offspring. 

Most of all, my wish is that for each of you, you find a sense of inner calm on this day to celebrate mothers of all types. Let's celebrate all women this Mother's Day, mother in the traditional sense or not. Drop your wishes for the women in your life in the comments below.To the stay-at-home momSome say you are lucky to stay home and that they would give anything to be in your shoes.

Some judge you and say you are "just" a stay-at-home mom.

But the bottom line is this: I don't think many truly understand what you do.

You give yourself 110% every single day. There are no sick days, no vacation days, no off-the-clock time. You devote every moment of yourself to your children, to their well-being. 

Sometimes, you don't know if you're doing a good job. Some days, you wish you could just escape it all. Some days you wish for something different. Some days you feel guilty for wishing all of that.

I'm here to tell you that you're amazing. I admire you. You, like so many mothers, sacrifice so much to make sure your children have the life you imagine for them. You push yourself to do better. When I see you, I see a woman strong and determined to do a good job, to teach her children, and to love them with all she has.

​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.
To the working momYou're go, go, go on all cylinders. You balance life at home and life at work. You wear so many hats, and maybe you're tired more days than you're not.

I admire you.

I admire that you show your children that a woman can have many facets to her life. Whether you are working out of necessity to provide or out of a love for your dreams, I admire your persistence, your tenacity, and your ability to juggle everything.

Some days, you probably feel like you aren't doing it all so smoothly. You feel like you are shortchanging everyone around you because let's face it: you're one person. You can't do everything.

But I'm here to tell you: You are doing an amazing job. From my shoes, I see you working tirelessly at your job and going home and doing your best to put on a smile for your family, even if you are running on nothing but caffeine. You show me what it means to work hard, to love harder, and to take life on your own terms.

My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.To the foster momTo the foster moms--please note I am not giving you a separate section because you are different or less than or inferior than "biological" moms.

I give you a separate section because I think you have your own struggles, your own challenges, and your own, unique joys.

To love a child is a beautiful thing, whether the child is your biological child or not. To love a child in the ways that you do is noteworthy.

Your hearts are big, bigger than some can even understand.

You love without reserve. You love children who sometimes have bigger struggles on their small shoulders than us adults can understand. You devote yourself to giving all children a home of stability, a home that makes sense.

I know it isn't easy. I know there is a lot of heartbreak. I'm sure there are days you wonder if you're doing the right thing.

But I also know there are days when everything just feels right, when you know without a doubt you are making a difference. I know, too, that you get so much back from the children you mother. I know that even on the tough days or the days held up by frustrating legalities and rules you can't begin to understand, their smile makes it worth it.

​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.To the adopted mom Just like with the foster moms, I want you to know I don't put you in a different section because I think of you as different from the "traditional" mother. Adopted, biological, or foster, our children are our children. There is no need to distinguish.

However, I wanted to take a moment to tell you I admire your persistence. I know without a doubt that adoption has its own set of challenges--legalities, rules, and a lot of patience. 

You are tenacious in your aims to mother your children, sometimes even before you know them. You are dedicated in your aim to follow your heart. 

I know each of your stories are different. I know some of you have different challenges on the path to motherhood.

At the end of it all, though, you become the mother you always wanted to be. You face the same difficulties and doubts of all mothers. You face the same joys and triumphs.

When you hold that child, there is no need for a label--adopted child, foster child, biological child. Because for mothers, all children are simply children, simply love.

I just wanted to say that I recognize your pathway to that moment is a little different and I admire your strength in those moments. 

​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.
To the guardian mothersAgain, biological labels do not matter in the mothering discussion.

However, I want to say to the women raising children who are not their biological children, you show the world that love has no boundaries. Whether you are a grandparent, an aunt, a friend, or a neighbor who is the guardian of a child you did not birth, you show us that love is not about blood type. It isn't about genetics and legalities.

It's about love.

You love your children, even on the hard days. You step up to be the role model they need, the mothering figure they need, when maybe someone else couldn't.

You do it not because you have to or because it's the right thing to do necessarily--you do it because of the love and the giving spirit in your heart. You do it because it's what you know you are called to do. And you do it even if you aren't so sure it's your calling.

​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.To the grieving mothersFirst, I want to acknowledge that I don't understand your pain. I have never had a child, let alone lost a child. I can only imagine the deep, agonizing, chest heaving pain you have felt over and over and over again--and I know what I am imagining isn't even close to what you are feeling.

I know Mother's Day must be a tough day.... but so are all the other days. I know that the sight of a child clutching his mother's hand must sometimes trigger a pang in your chest, must make you want to crumble sometimes. I know you are living in a hell no mother ever wants to find.

I also know that you probably don't feel strong or like you can make it sometimes. I'm sure that you don't feel like there is anything anyone could say to you on Mother's Day to make it better.

I know you are right.

But I do want to say this. I admire your love for your child. I admire those moments you had before life twisted in cruel ways. I admire the love you still have now. You show us that love for a child is unconditional, eternal, and has no boundaries.

And so many of you show us a strength in the human spirit we have never known was there, even when you don't feel strong.

I admire you. I hope you find support you need. I hope you find a way to carry on, to keep loving, and to find a sense of peace that I'm sure isn't easy to find.

We are thinking about you today. 

​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.To the fur mamasI am a fur mama to a mastiff and five cats, so although some might find this section silly, I don't.

Being a fur mama is not inferior, please know that.

Your compassionate heart and capability to feel love knows no bounds. Your love might be for a creature who cannot speak, but that doesn't make it less.

The bond between you and your cat or dog is something so many don't understand. But please know, you are a mother in your own right. You love unconditionally. You are there for nights of illness and for the tough days. You are there, caring and loving without bounds. You are selflessly putting another's needs above your own on so many ways.

And you get a lot back, too. The look in your pet's eyes when you say "I love you." The connection you have. The understanding.

Love knows no bounds, and mothering knows no bounds. ​

​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.To the mamas to beWhat an exciting time to be celebrating. Soon, you will enter into the world of motherhood officially... but in my opinion, you are already there.

You already know what it's like to love someone unconditionally, someone you haven't technically met but already know. You know what it's like to worry about what this world will do to your child, to worry about how you'll teach them the ways to a fulfilling life, to worry about money and needs and social aspects and all sorts of things.

You know what it's like to dream of a world for your child even better than what you've experienced. You know what it's like to dream of all of those moments you will share, the bond you will forge, and the love you will feel.

To the mamas to be, I admire you for your strength in physical pain. I admire how you can smile even though you might be scared, how you can put the love for your child above any scary things about pregnancy (and I've heard there are many scary things). 

You show me that if someday I find myself as a mama to be, I can make it a time of joy and excitement. You show us all that motherhood begins way earlier than that first moment you hold your baby. Mothering is a mindset, and you set a beautiful example for us all.

​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.To the child free womenYou do not feel the call to motherhood like so many tell you that you should.

Maybe this is a forever feeling, or maybe it's just a right-now choice. 

Maybe you're waiting for the right person, the right moment, the right time to change your child free status... or maybe you're completely happy being child free and don't want to change that.

Whatever your position or your reasons, know that you don't have to apologize for your decision, and you don't have to defend your child free status, especially on Mother's Day.

Not every woman is called to mother in the traditional sense. I know what it's like to be criticized for this decision. I know what it's like to be interrogated, to be looked at with condescension, and to be misunderstood.

I know that sometimes being child free can feel like you're being excluded from a club that you don't necessarily want to be in.... but still feel judged for being on the outskirts of.

Know that today, and every day, I respect you for living the life you choose. I respect and admire you for knowing yourself and what you want. Know that I understand your decision and that, even if it is different than what some in society say you should choose, you should keep choosing what is right for you.

And know that just because you don't have children doesn't mean you are less. You are brave and wise and selfless. You are giving and empathetic and strong. 

Because here's the thing... you don't have to be a mother to have mothering qualities or aspects. You don't have to have children to have an important place in this world, to be giving in spirit, and to be nurturing in all sorts of ways.

​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.​

To the mentor mothersMothering isn't always about genetics or meeting someone's physical needs. Mothering comes in all sorts of forms.

Teachers, counselors, neighbors, friends....these can all take on mothering roles. So many of us serve as mother figures to children in our community or in our lives. We set examples, we provide a shoulder to cry on, and we offer a smiling face in the crowd even though we have no biological or legal connection to the child in question.

Mothering takes many forms, and no matter what your mentoring role looks like, know that your job is so important, probably more important than you realize. Today, we celebrate your spirit of giving, your support, and your encouragement for all the children in your life who maybe don't call you mom, but who see you as just as important.

​​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.
To the grandmothersWhat a special role you lead. You are a mother twice. You have seen two generations grow and change. You have been there with cookies after school and hugs and kisses during hard times and smiles during the fun times.

You have loved two sets of children. You have watched one child grow up and take on the role you once knew. You have learned to see your child in a new way, an inspiring way. You have done your job.... but you're not done yet. You are there to dry your child's tears when he or she realizes what you've known all along... parenting is hard. Really hard.

Know that you are making a difference for your grandchild but also your child. Your role may be different now, but it's not any less sweet. Watching another child grow, this time with your own child in the driver seat, is a beautiful gift.

​​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.
To those wishing to be mothersEveryone assumes that becoming a mother is easy. The media, our health teachers, and our parents make it seem like pregnancy is as common as the common cold. 

But sometimes it's not.

Sometimes an empty womb month after month leads to an empty heart that feels like it's going to crack. Sometimes the feel of empty arms and that room you've been wanting to turn into a nursery sitting barren is a slap in the face.

Sometimes Mother's Day is a cruel reminder that you don't have that one thing you want more than anything in the world.

Know that while we can't understand your struggle, we can feel your heart breaking. We know that it is sometimes a challenge to smile at your friend's baby or to walk past those little clothes in the department store. 

And know that we're thinking of you, hoping for the best.

Know, too, that it's okay to keep hoping and praying. Know that it's okay to desperately want what you want.

And know, too, that someday, if you decide that your route to motherhood will look a little different, that's okay too.

You are in control. You are entitled to your feelings, your choices, and your sadness. It's okay to be sad. It's okay to feel what you're feeling.

But also know, it's okay to hope... because sometimes that hope works out.

Hang in there, and please know we are thinking of you today. 

​​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.
To those missing their mothersThe loss of a parent is never easy. The loss of a mother can be felt extra hard on a day like Mother's Day.

To those grieving because they no longer have a mom to give gifts to, to take out to dinner, or to simply say "I love you" to, know that we send our love to you. 

A mother's love never ends, but that doesn't make it any easier to be left here without her. We know that you wish you could spend just one more Mother's Day with her. We know you would give anything to wait in that long brunch line with her or to call her or to just give her one last card.

We are thinking of you and her today. We are hoping you find solace in your previous memories. We hope you know that her love is still with you and that your memories are the gifts that nothing can take away.

​​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.
To those estranged from their mothersNot every mother-daughter relationship is simple. Heck, life isn't simple. Sometimes life prevents a happy mother-daughter relationship from forming. Sometimes, life simply cracks it somewhere along the way.

All sorts of feelings can accompany this. Guilt. Fear. Regret. Anger. Frustration. 

I don't know your story. I don't know why there is a gap between you, and I don't know if it can be fixed. I don't know if you want it to be fixed.

Still, Mother's Day can complicate already complicated feelings. Questions from others about your mom can bring back old feelings and history and hurts from the past.

I hope that if you think your relationship can be repaired and you want it, you take today to reach out. I hope you try. I hope you know that a mother's love is sometimes magical in its reach. It can even bridge gaps that seem impossible to cross.

I hope that if it is not the time to bridge the gap or if it might never be, you find peace with that. I hope you realize that sometimes our parents teach us who we are even if they aren't in the picture--sometimes their absence is what forces us to rise up and become who we are meant to be. Sometimes their lack of love teaches us a strength we didn't know.

And, I also realize that this isn't a fantasy world. I realize that sometimes our estrangement just plain out sucks and has no purpose and is just a scar on our past.

Regardless, I hope you find some time to reflect today and to smile and to move forward, no matter what that looks like.

​​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world.
To every woman out thereI know this isn't an all-inclusive list. There are so many of us out there who may not fit any of these categories or may fit more than one. 

The truth is, all of us have a different Mother's Day story and a different type of mothering spirit. Some of us have a different version of what it means to be a mother.

At the end of it all, I simply wish for every woman out there to realize her worth, her place, her joy, and her purpose. I hope that every woman realizes that it takes so many different types of women to make this world what it is.

I hope that you all recognize the beauty of the place you are, right now, and the other women in your life. I hope you take a moment to appreciate all of the women who have touched your life and who continue to touch the lives of others.

In summary, here's what I wish for every woman this Mother's Day: ​My wish for you is to know that you are strong, you are capable, you are inspiring, and you make a difference in this world. 

Because no matter who you are or what your mothering status is, you are a woman who deserves to celebrate this day, this moment, and this life.

Xoxo,

Author Lindsay Detwiler
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5 Important Tips On How To Choose the Right Wedding Gift

5 Important Tips On How To Choose the Right Wedding GiftThere's nothing better than wedding season: watching friends or loved ones pledge forever, drinks, travel, good food, and cake. I love everything about it.

Well, almost everything.

Other than finding an appropriate dress for myself and trying to make sure my husband (who hates dressing up) has an appropriate outfit, probably the most difficult part of attending a wedding is the dreaded wedding gift.

What do you buy a couple for such a monumental life moment? How much do you spend? How do you avoid going over-the-top? Then again, how do you avoid looking super cheap and unoriginal?

The gift giving process as a wedding guest can arguably cause as much anxiety as being the bride and trying to pick out centerpieces or cake flavors.

As a guest to several weddings, though, and after having my own wedding, I think I've been able to find a way to balance the stress and still give gifts I'm okay with putting my name on.

If you have several RSVP cards stacking up, check out these 5 do's and don'ts for wedding gift giving, and be sure to add your own advice in the comments below. Let's get through wedding season with a smile, a glass of champagne, and some excitement for the next event.1. Do use the registry if you don't know the couple well.We've all been to those weddings where we really aren't quite sure how we got on the guest list. In addition to having to scope out people to talk with, it can be a challenge to find the right gift.

If you find yourself invited to your brother's boss's cousin's twin's uncle's wedding, one of the best routes to go is the registry. If the couple has included a list of items they've spent time picking out, why not go ahead and trust their wishes? That way, you can be sure you pick out a gift they love.

If you are a bride or groom with your own wedding coming up, be sure to complete a wedding registry yourself. It can help ease anxiety in guests who just aren't sure what gift to give you. Zola   great wedding registry website  to make the whole process super smooth... because I know from experience that the registry can create its own set of tension. Let Zola help you make it super convenient and avoid a fight with the significant other (blog post coming soon about how my registry almost caused a divorce before we even said "I do."). 2. Don't be afraid to choose something sentimental over something pricey. Oftentimes, when we are attending a wedding, we get so hung up on the price tag and trying to avoid looking "cheap." However, sometimes the sentimental gifts show a deeper level of thought... and can sometimes be more appreciated at such an important milestone in life.

One of my favorite gifts from my own wedding was a personalized "First Christmas" ornament. It was something I wouldn't have though to purchase but something I truly appreciated when we decorated our first holiday tree together.

Try thinking outside the box. Find that personalized item that isn't necessarily super flashy but is super thoughtful in its aim. Find a gift that highlights something important to the couple or will help them mark a future holiday or tradition. 

It really is the thought that counts, not the amount of money you spend.3. Do know that money is fine as a gift if you think the couple could greatly benefit.There are so many thought processes over money as a wedding gift.

Some argue that giving money shows a lack of creativity, originality, and concern. I disagree. Weddings, although beautiful in their own right, create quite the financial burden, no matter how big or small. If a couple is also in the process of moving in together, money is a welcome gift for the brand-new couple.  

4. Do try to set a budget that you adhere to for all weddings.Whether you are choosing from the registry, creating a one-of-a-kind gift, or giving money, how do you know how much is the right amount to spend? 

My husband and I generally set a budget for wedding gifts based on relationship. We have a certain amount we spend for close relatives and best friends, an amount for coworkers, and an amount for distant relatives or acquaintances. Obviously, the amount we spend for all is still an amount we feel is respectable and will not be distasteful.

At the end of the day, it is up to you to set your budget. Don't feel that you have to break your budget in order to attend a wedding. Speaking from experience, it was more important that the people I invited were simply there to celebrate the day than to bring gifts. You were invited to the wedding because the bride and groom want you to witness their special day--not to get a gift. 

Be generous, but don't feel like you have to overdo it.

Still not sure how much to give? Check out this free guide from Zola on how much to spend.5. Don't forget to enjoy the process and have fun.Weddings are supposed to be celebrations, so no matter what gift you decide on, don't forget to have fun. Being invited to a wedding is a momentous occasion, no matter what gift you settle on. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that you are there to share in such a huge moment with the couple. 

What are some of the best wedding gifts you've given or received? Share in the comments below!

Still Us Release Party & Ladies Night: Win Big!

 To celebrate the release of my 11th novel, Still Us, we're hosting a release party in my hometown of Hollidaysburg, Pennsylvania.

This party is open to the public and will feature all sorts of amazing vendors. Come out for a night of shopping, books, free samples, and more. 

The first 25 through the door will get a free gift bag, which will include an exclusive paperback of Who We Were (you can't buy these!). 

The first 50 will get a free gourmet dougnut from Jenny Bakes Gourmet Treats.

There will be all sorts of giveaways and freebies for you at the event, and books will be for sale for only $10. 

PLUS, enter for your chance to win the prize pack above, including a sparkling pink bracelet from the Crystal Group. See the event page for details. OR Share this blog post on social media and comment below for an entry!!! Where: American Legion, Legion Park, Hollidaysburg Pennsylvania

When: May 19th

Time: 6:30-8:30pm

​Who: Everyone! Open to the Public
Enter to Win!

Everything, Everything Movie Review: Sweet Love Story For Teens

Everything, Everything Movie Review: Sweet Love Story For TeensAs a high school English teacher and romance writer, I rarely commit the "sin" of watching a movie before reading the book. This weekend, however, I couldn't help myself when I was scrolling through HBO and found Everything, Everything.

I've seen reviews of the young adult novel all over bookstagram and have had it on my tbr list. I've also been wanting to see the movie, so I jumped in over the weekend. I wasn't disappointed.

The story follows Maddy, a teenager diagnosed with a rare illness that won't let her leave the house. Essentially, any virus or bacteria can kill her, so she's spent her entire life under the careful watch of her mother and nurse. Locked in a house where everything is sanitized, Maddy feels isolated and like she's missing out on life. When Olly moves in next door, though, her world opens up. Even though they are physically separated, their relationship grows as the somewhat wild neighbor boy steals Maddy's heart. Will she be willing to risk it all for just one real life moment with him?

Overall, the premise of the movie was very intriguing. I empathized with Maddy and couldn't help but feel sorry for her situation. The isolation and loneliness created a real problem, and the added romantic interest certainly pulled on the heart strings. I also loved how Olly brought an edge to Maddy's life. He was the typical "bad boy" who showed his sweet side for Maddy, and an endearing relationship developed. I loved how the two show the true emotional side of romance. The love story was sweet and well-developed.

Overall, the movie was a sweet watch perfect for anyone looking for a sweet romance or any teens looking for a cute love story.

I would give this movie a four out of five. The star deduction is mostly for the ending (SPOILERS BELOW: STOP READING NOW IF YOU DON"T WANT TO SEE SPOILERS)

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Okay, so here is where my issue with the movie comes in.

The entire movie, I was really curious as to how the author would wrap up this love story. Could Olly sacrifice his whole life to be with Maddy? Would she be okay with it? How can you be in a relationship with someone who has such a limited opportunity to see the world, especially when your'e a bit of a wild child?

I also couldn't bear the thought of Olly and Maddy going their separate ways, especially after how much Olly brought to Maddy's world. I realized early on this presented a difficult problem for the writer and was curious as to how it would end.

But then.... I felt like there was an easy way out. Suddenly, Maddy's mom lied about the whole disease (for 17 years!). I understand the reason was plausible and did appreciate the twist. However, I couldn't shake the feeling that the author wrote herself into a corner with the love story and, to give a satisfying ending, had to "heal" Maddy. 

Don't get me wrong... the happy ending was endearing and left you in a feel-good place. I would, however, have appreciated a less-than-cheerful ending if it meant the author had tackled the really tough situation head-on.

What did you think? Did you read the book? Is it different? Let me know in the comments!Get more romance recommendations now! Follow me on Facebook.

Free Excerpt of Small-Town Romance, Still Us

Sneak Peek at Small-Town Romance, Still UsFrom the first time they locked eyes, Lila Morrow and Luke Bowman had a special spark. Their first kiss sealed their fairy-tale romance… until everything fell apart.

Here’s your excerpt of Still Us. I can’t wait to hear what you think of it!

Sitting on the sofa with the curly-haired hunk who was a singer and an animal lover, I couldn’t help but wonder if this might just be different and if Luke’s desire to see Henry might turn into something more.
“I’d like that too.”
We spent the next few hours chatting about school, childhood memories, animals, and life. For those hours, it didn’t feel like Luke was some man I’d met less than twenty-four hours ago. It felt like he was someone I’d been meant to talk to my whole life, like the piece of me that was missing.
When we woke up in the morning to Floyd’s cries for food, I awkwardly stumbled to my feet. I’d been leaning on Luke’s shoulder, a wet spot on his shirt showing where my drooling mouth had been. I flushed with embarrassment.
“Oh my God, I’m so sorry. We must’ve fallen asleep. I’m so sorry,” I said, cupping my mouth in embarrassment.
Luke looked at his shirt, then at me, and started laughing. “It’s fine. Just a little drool, right, Doctor? Nothing you haven’t dealt with before.”
“I’m mortified.”
He shrugged. “Could be worse.”
“Not really. I just fell asleep on a patient’s owner’s shoulder and drooled on him. Not quite professional.”
“Well, there’s one solution for that.”
“What’s that?” I asked, rushing to get Floyd some food from the cupboard, mostly to busy my hands.
“Let’s not make this professional. Let’s make it personal. Go out with me tonight.”
I froze with a can of cat food in my hand. I turned to look at Luke, trying to avoid looking at the drool spot. “I don’t know. That’s not very professional. I mean, what would people think?”
“People can think what they want. Who cares. Go out with me.”
He took a step forward now, and I felt that familiar flutter. I wanted to say yes, to see where this feeling would take me.
But with the haze of the evening gone and the bright daylight streaming in, I realized this could lead me down another path to heartbreak. I didn’t know much about Luke, but I knew he seemed too good to be true. Those eyes were inviting, but they also said trouble.
“I don’t know. I’ll think about it.”
“That means no.”
“It means I’ll think about it.”
“Dammit, Lila Morrow. Just go out with me.”
I sighed, shaking my head. “I can’t. But I think Floyd is okay to take home. Call me if anything changes.”
Luke stared, those eyes piercing into me. For a moment, he hesitated, as if he was going to push me further. “Okay. But you call me if anything changes on your end, okay?”
I smiled, shaking my head. “Okay, I will.”
I helped him get Floyd ready for the ride home, giving him medicines and instructions and things to watch for. As I walked him to the door and thanked him for the coffee, he turned around to me.
“Lila Morrow?”
“Yeah?”
“Just one more thing.”
He leaned in and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I froze, shocked by his boldness. He pulled back so we were almost nose to nose, his eyes glinting in the sun’s rays floating through the door. “I don’t think this is over. I think you haven’t seen the last of me. I think we could be good for each other.”
I sighed again, the fluttering intense now. “Well, for starters, that was more than just one thing, FYI.”
He shook his head now. “I’ll see you soon, soul mate.”
“Soul mate? Really? Don’t you think it’s a little soon?” I said, unable to stop the smile from spreading on my face.
“Nope. Not at all. Come on, Floyd. Let’s get out of here before Dr. Morrow makes a move. We’re not ready for marriage yet, you know.”
“You’re unbelievable.” I was flabbergasted by his confidence, more accurately labeled as arrogance. From his smirk to the way he walked out of there, it seemed like Luke Bowman knew I would be his.
Which was both frustrating and surprisingly intriguing.
“Well, thank you,” he said, whistling as he walked to his pickup truck, loaded Floyd, and drove out of the parking lot, leaving me to stand and wonder what the hell kind of trouble I’d gotten into.
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“Maren, this is a terrible idea. I have no rhythm,” I whined, yanking down my hot pink exercise top and feeling completely out of place. I had no idea why I’d let her talk me into it.
“Come on. Zumba’s great. Plus, that guy I’ve been telling you about works out here, so come on. Just go with it.”
“Wait, that Will guy?”
“Yes, idiot. Hence the hour it took me to get ready for Zumba. Didn’t you think the eye makeup was a little over the top?”
“Still do. But I don’t see what your obsession has to do with me.”
“Because I need a Zumba buddy. Only creepos come alone. I don’t want Will thinking I’m a creepo.”
“That seems like seriously flawed logic,” I said.
“Okay, doctor lady. You get that white jacket and you think you know everything,” Maren said, rolling her eyes but grinning.
I shoved her into the wall, and we started yelling and pinching each other like the preteens we still were together. After we’d settled down, I turned to the right, eyeing the muscular guys on the machinery, taking a peek.
And then I froze, putting a hand on Maren’s arm. “Oh, shit. Are you serious?” I asked, seeing the familiar curls.
He was in a T-shirt and shorts, but even from here, I could appreciate his amazing biceps at work. My heart started to beat faster.
“What?”
“It’s him. That guy from the other day. You know, the whole Floyd thing?”
“Oh, Lila, he’s gorgeous. Go get him.” Maren let out what I thought was supposed to be a Latin growl, but sounded more like a cough.
“No. I can’t. He’s crazy. Super bold. He’s trouble.”
“Trouble is what you need,” she hissed. “You’re so boring. He could liven you up. Now go talk to him.”
“Not in this outfit.”
“Absolutely in that outfit. Now go, or I will.”
“I thought you were here for Will,” I observed, staring at my crazy sister.
“I am. But if you let that fine man go to waste, I’ll just have to move in on both.”
“You’re ridiculous,” I said. “But fine. And besides, there’s Will. Go make eyes at him,” I said, rolling my eyes now. We pinched each other one more time before heading off in separate directions. So much for using the gym to get fit.


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April's Petit Vour Unboxing: Cruelty-Free BeautyI'm a huge animal lover and an advocate for cruelty-free beauty. I love my makeup products, but I also do not want any animals suffering for them.

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Simple Proposals Are Simply The Best

Bigger Isn't Always Better When It Comes to Love
He got down on one knee at King's, our favorite restaurant at the time.

We'd gone there for late-night breakfast dates. We'd gone there after prom, on random Saturdays, on lunch dates.

And so, on a Friday, he got down on one knee in the middle of King's while we ate dinner. There was no fanfare, no clapping, no flashiness.

It was just me and the boy I met at the art table, in the middle of a sleepy restaurant, thinking about forever.

I said yes, and he slid the ring on my finger. We continued on with our date because in reality, nothing had changed. We were still the same people we were before he got on one knee. We were still the couple who argued over stupid things, who laughed at the same jokes, who could know what each other was thinking with a single look.

We were still the couple who had been through ninth grade social, two proms, graduation, first dates, first dances, and first kisses.

Yet, we were also different. Because in that moment, we realized that the boy and the girl who met at the art table would grow up to be a married couple who chased their dreams together, who built a life together. With that ring, the next phase of our love story began, the simple, genuine love has led us where we are today.

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How Keith Urban Inspired This Sweet Romance

How Keith Urban Inspired This Sweet RomanceFirst, let me say this: I’m a huge fan of Keith Urban. The Australian accent, the tattoos, and that sexy voice--I’m in love.

But I never realized my love for the guitar-playing Australian would lead to this.

It was the summer of 2017, and I’d been playing Keith Urban’s latest CD on repeat in my car (yes, I’m old school and still love CDS). For some reason, it was song 12 that started haunting me.

The song, “That Could Still Be Us,” was this super moody song about a couple who broke up but was still longing for each other. I don’t know why, but the song just hit me. It made me feel something.

Let’s be clear--the song really shouldn’t have connected with me. I’ve been with my husband since we were twelve. I’ve never really been through a breakup. I don’t know what it’s like to deal with the emotions of leaving someone you still love. But Keith Urban made me feel like I did.

Suddenly, I was thinking about life in our small town. What if my husband and I after all this time called it quits? How would we separate our lives--not just our belongings, but our emotions and identity? Sometimes when you’re with someone for so long, your lives meld into one. How would we separate them again? And how would it be to live in this tiny town where everything would remind me of our life together?

I couldn’t get the song or the idea out of my head.

And that’s where Still Us was born. I knew I wanted to write a book that captured that emotion. I started imagining this couple who had been together for years but break up… only to realize they can’t get over each other, no matter how hard they try.

I already had two character names I was saving. I’d come up with the names Luke and Lila while still feeling loopy after wisdom teeth surgery (boy, that’s another story for you… it includes me putting my hood up and running into the pharmacy to look at school supplies while my husband was getting my meds). Suddenly, I had the story that Luke and Lila would fit in.

I knew I also wanted to capture humor because that’s my favorite kind of book--one that can make you angsty and make you laugh. I imagined Lila, a twentysomething vet with student debt, having to move back in with her family after the breakup. It’s Lila’s sometimes crazy family that helps bring the comic relief to a book that would otherwise be quite heavy--Grandma Claire is a character you’re not going to soon forget, especially the scene with her blind cat in the casino.

So it started with my love for Keith Urban, a song that moved me, and a storyline that haunted me. That’s where Still Us came from.

What do you think? Have you ever had a song that just wouldn’t let go of you? Hit reply and tell me about it. I’d love to hear from you.

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