Ritu Chowdhary's Blog: Shades of Life - Posts Tagged "marriage"

Yesterday I was reading a news item-“Shikha Sharma, CEO, and MD of Axis Bank told graduating students of IIM-A to wisely make three important choices including that of a life partner that will shape their lives.” My first thought was the life partner you get, is a matter of chance, and not the choice. The rationale behind my thinking was very simple, no one is perfect and a ready-made material for anyone; If you try to know your partner completely before making a choice, I bet any wise person would hardly be able to enter in a relationship. So there is always an unrevealed portion for a relationship to formalize.

Here comes the role of chance. Howsoever thoroughly ‘Desired Attributes Analysis’ you do before entering into a relationship, the person unfolds it's true self only when you stay together in a legal alliance.

I was surprised to find the reinforcement of my thoughts within no time. In the afternoon I met a friend of mine who’s getting her house painted. While we were conversing on what all she is doing, I couldn’t control my female instinct of knowing the amount she’s going to pay for the contract, and then it being on the higher side by around Rs 15,000-20,000/-. Before I could even get a chance to purse my lips, she started complaining about her husband, how much is he interfering whenever she’s trying to negotiate or save some money for the house as he finds it too minuscule. Within a flash of light she added, “Whenever I’m buying something for myself, he always finds it too expensive.” I didn’t have any choice but to say, “All men are like that.”

Her sorrow clogged her throat when she said, “Unfortunate part is you only come to know about it after marriage.”

I’m sure there would be umpteen men who would like to share the similar views about their partners. Don’t crib about it guys- It’s a matter of chance and not the choice. Everyone tries to make the best choice.