An Experiment in Love Quotes

“You're only young once, they say, but doesn't it go on for a long time? More years than you can bear.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“So many years of preparation, for what was called adult life: was it for this?”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“I was the subject of an experiment in love. I lived my life under her gaze, undergoing certain trials for her so that she would not have to undergo them for herself. But, how are our certainties forged, except by the sweat and tears of other people? If your parents don't teach you how to live; you learn it from books; and clever people watch you learn from your mistakes. ”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“I think now that this is the great division between people. There are people who find life hard and those who find it easy. There are those who have a natural, in-built, expectation of happiness, and there are those who feel that happiness is not to be expected: that it is not, in fact, one of the rights of man. Nor, God knows, one of the rights of women.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“The world moves on so fast, and we lose all chance of being the women our mothers were; we lose all understanding of what shaped them.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“Feminism hasn't failed, it's just never been tried.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“This was the usual thing. What I asked for was facts: what I got was a sermon.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“Our schools kept from us, for as long as they could, the dangerous, disruptive, upsetting knowledge of our own female nature.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“When men decided women could be educated - this is what I think - they educated them on the male plan; they put them into schools with mottoes and school songs and muddy team games, they made them were collars and ties. It was a way to concede the right to learning, yet remain safe; the products of the system would always be inferior to the original model. Women were forced to imitate men, and bound not to succeed at it.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“I was bound to step out of line, if only because I did not know where the line was: if only because I did not know anything.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“If you knew at twenty what you know at thirty-five, what a marvellous life you could have; on the other hand, you might find that you couldn't be bothered to have any life at all.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“We passed the Irish club, and the florist’s with its small stiff pink-and-white carnations in a bucket, and the drapers called ‘Elvina’s’, which displayed in its window Bear Brand stockings and knife-pleated skirts like cloth concertinas and pasty-shaped hats on false heads. We passed the confectioner’s – or failed to pass it; the window attracted Karina. She balled her hands into her pockets, and leant back, her feet apart; she looked rooted, immovable. The cakes were stacked on decks of sloping shelves, set out on pink doilies whitened by falls of icing sugar. There were vanilla slices, their airy tiers of pastry glued together with confectioners’ custard, fat and lolling like a yellow tongue. There were bubbling jam puffs and ballooning Eccles cakes, slashed to show their plump currant insides. There were jam tarts the size of traffic lights; there were whinberry pies oozing juice like black blood. ‘Look at them buns,’ Karina would say. ‘Look.’ I would turn sideways and see her intent face. Sometimes the tip of her tongue would appear, and slide slowly upwards towards her flat nose. There were sponge buns shaped like fat mushrooms, topped with pink icing and half a glace cherry. There were coconut pyramids, and low square house-shaped chocolate buns, finished with a big roll of chocolate-wrapped marzipan which was solid as the barrel of a cannon.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love: A Novel

“Sometimes I sensed within myself–somestimes I felt it strongly– a will, a pull towards frivolity. I wanted to separate myself from the common fate of girls who are called Carmel, and identify myself with girls with casual names, names which their parents didn't think about too hard. I wanted to elect pleasure, not duty, and to be happy, and to have an expectation of happiness.
I think now that this is the great division between people. There are people who find life hard and those who find it easy. There are those who have a natural, in-built, expectation of happiness, and there are those who feel that happiness is not to be expected: that it is not, in fact, one of the rights of man. Nor, God knows, one of the rights of women.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“My mother did not need much food - she ran on wrath (pp94)”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“scrupulous”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“It is a depressing fact about the women of my generation: name them a year, ask them the fee for an abortion, and they’ll be able to tell you. They know the price of expectation, and how expectation dies. And if they don’t know, it’s because they repress and refuse the memory; you may be sure that they knew at the time.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love: A Novel

“People take you at your own valuation, she said. Always remember that.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“think women carry this faculty into later life: the faculty for love, I mean. Men will never understand it till they stop confusing love with sex, which will be never. Even today, there are ten or twenty women I love: for a turn of phrase or wrist, for a bruised-looking ankle where the veins have blossomed out, for a squeeze of the hand or for a voice on the end of the phone. I would no more go to bed with any of them than I would drown myself; and drowning is my most feared form of death.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love: A Novel

“Men will never understand it till they stop confusing love with sex, which will be never. (pp54)”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“There are people who find life hard and those who find it easy. There are those who have a natural, inbuilt, expectation of happiness, and there are those who feel that happiness is not to be expected: that is not, in fact, one of the rights of man. Nor, God knows, one of the rights of women.”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love

“If you knew at twenty what you know at thirty-five, what a marvellous life you could have;”
― Hilary Mantel, An Experiment in Love: A Novel