Drama Free Quotes

“Critical thinking is a threat to unhealthy systems, and questions make people think.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“You can love your parents and be upset about how they raised you.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Visit the past, but don't stay there.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Sometimes, it can be challenging for people who haven't experienced a dysfunctional family to understand someone else's choices. When people have no frame of reference, we give our power away if we try to convince them to understand us. Let them have their story while you keep yours. It isn't always possible or necessary to convert people, and it can be peaceful to let go of trying to reach an agreement. The way you choose to deal with your family may look different from how others choose to deal with theirs. Neither needs to be seen as right or wrong, and can simply be accepted as different.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Relationships need boundaries. Yours are your responsibility, and when you set one, it's your job to ensure it's honored.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Family is not solely by blood; it’s also The people who choose you The people you feel deeply connected to The people who lovingly hold you accountable The people who offer you a sense of safety The people who consistently show up for you The people who are willing to give you what you need The people who know you well and love you greatly”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“It's always your choice. You can teach yourself things that you never learned as a child, you can choose to respond differently, and you can be yourself. Your superpower is your ability to decide how you wish to show up in the world.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“When it's family, we might make an unhealthy exception because--it's family. But we shouldn't make that mistake. Don't allow anyone to mistreat you, no matter who they are.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Relationships can’t be healthy when they lack trust. An integral part of a healthy relationship is believing that the other person will honor their commitment to you. The only way to learn to trust is to allow another person into your world and hope they’ll live up to your expectations.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“When receiving unsolicited advice: "You seem like you’re trying to help, and listening would be really helpful right now”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Honesty isn’t betrayal; it’s courage. Stop sugarcoating your experiences and allow the truth to free you. People often misrepresent their relationships and experiences because they’re too afraid to admit what’s true. But denial will keep you from breaking free from your past. Hard Things to Accept About a Family Member They are selfish and will do whatever it takes to get what they want They aren’t a good listener They make changes, but only temporarily”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Recuerda: a los hijos adultos se los acompaña, no se los gestiona.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Sin dramas: Una guía para entender y gestionar las relaciones familiares difíciles (Autoconocimiento)

“Being in healthy relationships requires time and consistency. Maintain contact regularly over a period of time, and you will build healthy relationships. Waiting for the other person to reach out first might not help you stay connected in a manner that works for you. If you want a relationship, put your best foot forward, hoping that the other person does the same. Of course, not all relationships will work out. Let go of the ones that need to be released while being open to new ones. Expect some relationships to end; the best thing you can wish for is that they end without drama.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Stop pretending that things are normal, and give up staying silent to keep the peace. Healthy relationships require tough conversations and boundaries.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“You survive when you don't repeat the cycle, but you thrive when you create a new legacy and trajectory. Conscious awareness and effort are what separate someone who thrives from someone who survives. You can consciously create a different life, and those who do are known as "cyclebreakers.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Boundaries in unhealthy families are a threat to the ecosystem of dysfunction. Changes like new boundaries mean that dysfunctional systems are being challenged.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Vulnerability builds community. You attract people who are like you by being authentic and open. Sometimes, you find "your people" after you are transparent about your story.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“When you don't want to participate in gossiping: "I’d like to hear more about what’s happening with you”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Honesty isn’t betrayal; it’s courage. Stop sugarcoating your experiences and allow the truth to free you.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Honesty isn’t betrayal; it’s courage. Stop sugarcoating your experiences and allow the truth to free you. People often misrepresent their relationships and experiences because they’re too afraid to admit what’s true. But denial will keep you from breaking free from your past.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“You Only Live Once by Jason Vitug,”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

“Stop sugarcoating your experiences and allow the truth to free you. People often misrepresent their relationships and experiences because they're too afraid to admit what's true. But denial will keep you from breaking free from your past.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships