The Accidental Woman Quotes

“We say, ‘Shall we meet for a drink?’, as though drinking were the main end of the appointment, and the matter of company only incidental, we are so shy about admitting our need for one another.

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We say, ‘Would you like to come for some coffee?’, as though it were less frightening to acknowledge that we are heavily dependent on mildly stimulating drinks, than to acknowledge that we are at all dependent on the companionship of other people.”
― Jonathan Coe, The Accidental Woman

“[...] words are tricky little bastards, and very rarely say what you want them to say [...]”
― Jonathan Coe, The Accidental Woman

“Yes, she would have been partial to men, perhaps she might even have confined herself to one man in particular, if only she had been able to find one who shared her view that intimacy between two people was of value irrespective of whether it led to sticky conflux.”
― Jonathan Coe, The Accidental Woman

“[...] these questions gave way, in the course of time, to a different preoccupation, namely, a slow and growing awareness of familiarity with the landscape into which she was being carried. A familiarity based not on the sighting of particular landmarks, but on her feeling that the very contours of the hills and fields, and the very shapes and colours of the buildings, now appeared as surviving monuments to the existence of a much earlier self whom she had long forgotten. She knew, of course, that they could not bring that self back to life, perish the thought, but they reminded her of it in a way which she did not find disagreeable.”
― Jonathan Coe, The Accidental Woman

“Live life as it was meant to be lived. Half asleep, preferably.

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She preferred [...] to go to sleep at once, sleep now being one of the very few aspects of existence for which she felt any degree of enthusiasm [...]”
― Jonathan Coe, The Accidental Woman

“Noi diciamo sempre "Andiamo a bere qualcosa?" come se l'atto del bere fosse il fine principale dell'appuntamento e la compagnia dell'altro un fattore meramente incidentale, tanto siamo timorosi di ammettere il nostro bisogno del prossimo. [...] Noi diciamo sempre "Vuoi salire a prendere un caffè?" come se fosse meno spaventoso riconoscere di essere dipendenti dalle bevande blandamente stimolanti piuttosto che ammettere di essere del tutto dipendenti dalla compagnia di altre persone.”
― Jonathan Coe, The Accidental Woman

“In effetti a questo stadio della sua esistenza, Maria non era contraria per principio al bacio o allo strofinamento occasionale, o all'occasionale orgasmo. Ma più il tempo passava e più Maria cominciava a vedere le brame sessuali della razza umana, incluse le proprie, come il sintomo di una bramosia ben più grande, di una solitudine terribile, di un'urgenza di dimenticare se stessi che, così almeno si diceva in giro, poteva essere attenuata soltanto durante quell'atto tanto privato e particolare che tende ad aver luogo al piano di sopra, tra adulti consenzienti e con le tende tirate.”
― Jonathan Coe, The Accidental Woman