Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man Quotes

“The beautiful thing about the piano is that you got white keys and you got black keys. And the only way to make the most beautiful, magnificent, and poetic noise is with both sets of keys working in tandem. You can’t just play all white keys, because you won’t maximize what the instrument has to offer. You can’t just play all black keys, because you won’t maximize what the instrument has to offer. But integrate the white and black keys together, and that is when the piano makes a joyful noise.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“To clarify: defunding the police doesn’t mean abolishing the police, though there are more radical calls for that, too. It instead means redirecting money from police budgets to other government agencies funded by the city. Defunding the police could mean more money for underfunded schools, for mental health programs, or for drug recovery programs, all of which can help to reduce crime.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“White privilege is about the word white, not rich. It's having advantage built into your life. It's not saying your life hasn't been hard; it's saying your skin color hasn't contributed to the difficulty in your life.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“Everyone, and I mean everyone, has biases. It’s the job of empathetic and considerate people not to let them dictate actions that harm others.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“Know that when you say you are an ally, you are saying that you are willing to risk your white privilege in the name of justice and equality for marginalized voices.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“There’s no White History Month because we celebrate the accomplishments of white people Every. Single. Day. White people have always been esteemed in this country, have always been celebrated. Black people have had to push to celebrate themselves and their culture in public.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“Do good work, but don’t make the mistake of caring more about your intentions than about the impact of your intentions, or seeking out gratitude or praise. Make sure you aren’t engaged in optical allyship—the kind that goes only so far as it takes to get the right post for social media. True allyship is a commitment to fight this fight for the long haul: long after it ceases to be a top-of-the-fold news item, long after the cameras have stopped capturing it. Not today, but tomorrow, next week, next year, next decade.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“It's not white people's job to police the feelings of black people, but as fellow human beings, please rant black people the right to the full gamut of emotions regarding their wounds.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Boy

“Nobody comes to a game to see the players huddle. They come to see the players execute the plays that are called in the huddle.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“The New York Times estimates that between fifteen and twenty-six million people demonstrated over George Floyd’s death in the United States alone, making it the largest demonstration in the history of the country. Some researchers number the protestors at twenty-four million worldwide, which would make it the largest mass protest in history, period.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“Let’s think about what this means: race was a political creation, an economic creation—all this hate developed to secure the interest of some seventeenth-century dudes who wanted to get rich growing sugarcane and cotton, who wanted to make sure they’d always be the class on top. Which is to say, racism has always been about power. Which is to say, we invented racism. Which is to say, maybe we can learn to uninvent it, too.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“The lesson there is that being an ally means showing up.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“True allyship demands that it move from conversation to action. And that action will include risks. This isn’t the 1830s or the 1930s, 1950s, or 1968, but I won’t lie to you and say it’ll be easy. The risks might be something as small as a distant social media friend unfriending you. But it could be something more severe, like ostracism from an intimate friend group, job insecurity, public or private ridicule, friction with loved ones.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“Cultural appropriation happens when members of a dominant group—in the United States, white people—take elements from the culture of a people who are disempowered. It’s problematic for a number of reasons. For one, it trivializes historic oppression. It also lets people show love for a culture while still remaining prejudiced toward the people of the culture and lets privileged people profit from the labor of oppressed people. On top of that, it can perpetuate racist stereotypes.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“What I’m saying is that a white person’s skin color isn’t the thing contributing to holding them back, and that for all black people, their skin color contributes to what’s hard about their lives no matter what other privileges they might enjoy.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“Those of us who know our whites know one thing above all else: whiteness defends itself. Against change, against progress, against hope, against black dignity, against black lives, against reason, against truth, against facts, against native claims, against its own laws and customs. —TRESSIE MCMILLAN COTTOM”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“In the time of slavery, black women were often sexually exploited by white men. (Read up on Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings.) Now, imagine you were a black man and the woman you’d claimed as your wife (legal marriages between slaves weren’t allowed) was raped by your white master or overseer. Not only was she raped but she was impregnated and gave birth to the master’s child, and there was nothing you could do about it. Try to imagine the kind of hurt and anger you’d feel if this happened to you once, twice; if it happened to your children; if you suspected it had and would go on for generations. On the other hand, imagine that if you so much as looked sideways at a white woman, if you did nothing but were accused of violating her respect and/or chastity, you could be captured, beaten, and lynched by a posse of white men. And when it was all over, that there would be nothing your people could do lest they suffer the same fate as you. And no consequences for the white people who murdered you. If that were your reality, if that were the history of your forebears, how angry would you be?”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“Vote, vote, vote, vote like your life depends on it. Like our lives depend on it. They do.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“don’t forget about local elections. State legislatures have a huge influence on what you can and can’t do where you live; the mayor approves the city budget on things like police or school funding; your local district attorney has say over who goes to prison and who doesn’t. Local elections can even get your potholes filled, and I think we’re all anti-potholes. So do your research on the candidates just as you would for a president. Attend their speeches and debates when you can, call them out on issues of fairness and bias. Make them accountable to their records in a public forum.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“For almost a century, black people were not allowed to legally vote, even as their bodies (three-fifths each) were used to beef up the Southern vote. Then they get the legal right to vote, only to face all kinds of nefarious tactics to keep them from it. They then face a justice system not of their peers but white people (in 2017, 71 percent of U.S. district court judges were white), who send them to prison far more often than white people. Once freed, they face yet more obstacles to vote. Should they somehow vote by accident, they face more prison—and should they not vote, well, they have little means of changing the laws and those who make them. A lose-lose situation, whichever way you look at it. That, brothers and sisters, is the nature of the Fix.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“Imagine the worst insult you’ve ever received. Now imagine that when you heard those words, what you also heard was that you’re second-class forever. That you don’t deserve any of this American dream. Imagine what you heard was: You’re an animal. Imagine you heard, You’re stupid. You’re a slave. My people owned your people, and you were better off when they did. Imagine that you heard, You won’t amount to anything, boy. And the nothing you get is exactly what you deserve. If you can picture one word communicating all of that, then you’ll have some sense of what hearing the N-word does to me and any other black person in America.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“systemic racism is the legitimizing of every dynamic—historic, cultural, political, economic, institutional, and person-to-person—that gives advantages to white people, while at the same time producing a whole host of terrible effects for black people and other people of color. Those effects show up as inequalities in power, opportunities, laws, and every other metric of how individuals and groups are treated. Which is to say: systemic racism is making the unequal treatment of people of color the national norm.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“It’s not white people’s job to police the feelings of black people, but as fellow human beings, please grant black people the right to the full gamut of emotions regarding their wounds.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“A country in which the simple declaration that people who look like me are worth saving has become controversial.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“The ultimate logic of racism,” Martin Luther King Jr. once said, “is genocide.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“You can’t shackle and chain someone for hundreds of years, liberate them to compete freely with the rest and still justly believe that you’ve been fair.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“The simple version is that an ally is a person from an empowered group who acts to help an oppressed group, even if it costs them the benefits of their power.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“I want to leave you with this: if you see a black man and he is angry, obviously don’t assume he’s angry because he’s black, but also don’t assume he’s even angry at anything racism-related in that moment. Let people have emotions. See him as an individual”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“The bottom line: our criminal justice system too often treats black people like thugs instead of like people. So the cycle perpetuates, and both stereotypes and actual violence keep going and going and going.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man

“According to the Bureau for Justice Statistics, people living in households with income below the federal poverty line are twice as likely to commit violent crime than high-income households, regardless of race. We’ve been doing it wrong. The best tough-on-crime bill is a tough—the toughest—on-poverty bill.”
― Emmanuel Acho, Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man