Masculinity Amidst Madness Quotes

“You will not learn for others to pat you on the head and feed you a biscuit. That is a child’s approach. The applause of others is nothing compared to the satisfaction of gathered wisdom.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Be careful of the man who speaks of equality. The further from himself the grievance he wishes to address, the more likely he is hiding mistreatment of those closest to him.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“These women do not stop to ponder the consequences of their claims to be playing with the boys. They do not consider the full male experience, but cosplay the particular parts the system wants them to play. She works hard for the corporation. She has meaningless sex. She acts tough. She isn't afraid to fight. She then wonders why women are depressed more, committing suicide more often, and why one in four are on mental medication. Playing at just a few parts of the male role drives women to medication, drinking, and despair. It is womans ignorance of masculinity that they would ever dare to claim she was performing a father's role. No man would claim to do a mother's role, for he knows he could never be a mother. A dog may jump around and act like a cat, but it is still a dog.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Charisma in this world is often just looking good and speaking well. Others merely project onto you what they want to believe to be true. Most people have superficial attachments and shallow thoughts, so the glib man can persuade many. One does not have to be a supreme salesman. No need to be a wizard with words. People clamor for a confident speaker that sounds the part. That your actions can deliver on words cements their allegiance. But even if you don’t become a leader yourself, you may find a key supporting role as a great communicator. Even before you speak, work on being a better listener and observer of cues in others. All messages must be tailored to the audience. In a group, there may be one listener who, if engaged, can turn the whole room towards your speech. Speak calmly, clearly and keep eye contact. Your voice is the voice of a leader confident in his capabilities and beliefs. Changes in tone should have a reason.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Include extended family as much as possible in your child's life. Their personalities will develop more fully if you give them a variety of figures to interact with. Children are always watching. They watch as we talk and move and extrapolate what we are thinking. They copy strength. They cору what is pleasing and beautiful. They will think as you do, so think virtuous thoughts. A child that sees his father humble himself before God will learn that humbling himself before his parents is natural. Think of your studies, your physical activity, and prayer. If children see this, they will emulate it, and it will come naturally all their lives.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“What good did all the surveillance technology do for the victim? Where is the victim's father? Where is his agency? What is his power and influence? Where is his circle of family and friends? The perpetrator has a family. In days of old, this would have been settled by the families. Instead, the pity social media post goes up, dad buys his kid a toy, and the world moves on. A familial act of justice would prevent the next stomping for another child, but that is barbaric.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“No is not purely a negative. No is considered a bad thing in our permissive society. The no for you can be a savior. Glory-hound coworkers ask for your help and you know they won’t credit you? No, that is your project. Friend is getting a vasectomy before he even marries? No, I will not validate your odd choices. Single mom declares on social media she does a father’s work? No, you aren’t even a good mom. This man feels like a woman sometimes but other times feels like a man so they have a continuously changing set of names? No, and maybe get some help.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“This has destroyed the meaning of climbing Mount Everest. Once the impossible summit, it was climbed by heroic men seeking to conquer nature. Look at the summit now and it looks like a velvet rope-corralled line at a nightclub in snow. Spending good money, these new men and women simply want the photo and the marketed trip. It is devoid of soul. It is no accomplishment. It is a purchase.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Listen to the wine-sipping man’s criticism, “It’s so easy with a rifle.” They then turn their head for the next three-minute political point. Those are the words of a person who has never woken up at 3AM to get dressed. They have never quietly walked trails in the woods, looking for signs and smelling for scents. They have never masked their own scent and been still for five minutes, let alone the hours of a hunt. They have never selected a spot to patiently wait or use a well-practiced call. They have never stalked anything that moved as fast as a car and spooked at the slightest sound. Easy is the word used by a man who never saw a beast and felt the rush in their body that this was their chance for the season. Had to carefully raise their rifle for their one shot. They have not done it and cannot do it, therefore they smear it as beneath them or barbaric. These practices of their ancestors and even the men that they may have known as children are to be mocked. It cannot simply be allowed to be. If not smeared with a negative label, others may elevate it above what they do.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“but the immediate insult is to sexual prowess. They know that is how you have chosen to define your worth. Deny them this. You seek the approval of greater figures, the men of the ages. Sexual prowess is to be esteemed, but to be led by your genitals is to be a teenager. The men from your line would be impressed by your bedding dozens of women. They would expect conquered villages and monuments left to your glory. But unless your notch count is the side-effect of such a life, they would be puzzled or even disgusted.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Greeks worshiped Achilles. He chose death! He could have chosen a long and comfortable life. Greeks had a word for this kind of life: “by his mother’s side.” It was almost poetic formula. It’s said of Jason, leader of the Argonauts and his crew, and of what they chose against. But Jason and his crew chose instead a great voyage into the unknown and great fame. Achilles chose a short life of war, and he chose death to avenge his friend. He thereby won eternal fame among men. Theseus chose danger, a great voyage, the Labyrinth: he saved his homeland from a foreign beast that devoured its choicest young every year. Who will be our Theseus?”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Ancient men conquered cities put them to the sword and fire, meanwhile you go to WINE BAR with ‘gf’ and enjoy tasteful banter…YOU ARE GAY!”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“These women do not stop to ponder the consequences of their claims to be playing with the boys. They do not consider the full male experience, but cosplay the particular parts the system wants them to play. She works hard for the corporation. She has meaningless sex. She acts tough. She isn't afraid to fight. She then wonders why women are depressed more, committing suicide more often, and why one in four are on mental medication.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“What have they done? What have you done? How will you chose to honor them? Will people honor you? It is good to sing their praises, but hagiographies are children's tales. There is most likely something in every person you know who passes on in your lifetime that you share in common with them. Learn from their mistakes. Consider the errors they made. Think of their strengths and emulate them. To emulate and copy them is to honor their existence. This destroys the nihilists who argue how nothing is meaningful and everything is impermanent and useless.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Asking for help is not just to alleviate our loads, mental and physical, but to offer other men the opportunity to help. In these instances,a son has the opportunity to prove growing skills and strength. A friend or coworker can prove their personal skills are handy. They show value in a world where we are never quite sure where we stand. To deny these opportunities is to prevent the full expression of your fellow man. They do not reduce your standing as an individual or as a part of the family or community.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Look around you at the groups that thrive and grow even in this age of chaos. There is a common trait to them.They police their borders and behavior of members. There is a cost to defecting and bucking the norms and mores. They say no to bad behavior. They shame behavior detrimental to the group's stability and continuity because they know that the group provides identity and a sense of purpose and belonging.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“How many children are spoiled and grow to be incapable adults because a father could not say no? The child given everything melts down in adulthood when they meet the grinder of reality. Strategic nos would have saved them future pain. If a child melts down, remove the child from the room. The child may say,“I don't love you anymore."Answer, "Good for you." Be sure to remind them of that statement the next hour or day when they do declare their love for you.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“How many marriages are turned into slave-master relationships because a man could not simply say no and laugh at the ensuing outrage. She will get angry and she will move on. Those husbands suffer through miserable lifetimes because they did not want to deal with a painful argument.Think of the women that threaten or outright withhold sex from their husbands due to small disagreements. It is not the act, but even the threat shows the man's weakness. He has shown that he is weak there and will cave for the tiniest morsel of physical gratification,because if a woman thinks the threat will work, sex has completely devolved to a scheduled activity for her. The passion and animal spirits are gone. She knows he cannot say no and deal with her upset at him. She knows he will not verbally retaliate with barbs that cut far deeper than simply withholding sex.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Women are drawn to men who take risks. Not simply in the cultural memes of men on motorcycles, but in the scientific proof of their attraction to men with facial scars. The scars signal risk-taking, proof that the man survived a challenge and maybe even left a foe for the worse.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Man has protected woman by placing her in the home by the children. Men approach the outside realm, bearing the burden of facing the unknown or dangerous world. Man tries to hide this from woman. It is hard to put into words this concern and the desire to protect them from seeing the indifferent universe for what it is. Yes, you may believe in an all-powerful God, but God's will is not often your will. Women have grown to resent this, yet the resentment is found in ignorance of the great void of indifference. Only now, female surgeons that realize their fertility window is closed and 40 more lonely years stare at them understand this horror. Only after losing that chance do they understand how protective the old arrangement was.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“At the heart of it,all men understand that they are born alone and without purpose. Men make their purpose. A woman is born and quickly learns that she is a cherished vessel for the next generation. Built in meaning and purpose is within her grasp. She can grow life, give birth to living being who will love her. This is her power, and in our chaotic societ any man can help her make this happen. Her power to create is godlike.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“These rituals are nearly gone in our chaotic society and the chain of generations is broken for so many. The lowest replica for this now is the circle of friends that verbally haze a newcomer. If he sticks around, he is accepted, but if he leaves, well, he did not pass the threshold. There are moments, though, where we sense our elders letting us in as respected men. Maybe not men, but not as the boys we just were. It might have been the first time your father or uncle invited you hunting. It could have been the first time your father viewed you as a help when the car broke down and bragged about it to friends. You may have only held a flashlight and handed him the right socket, but you did it without complaint. It might even just be that invitation to sit by the fire and talk with the men.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Small pioneer towns were often collections of men that believed in similar ideas,prayed to the same God, and brought their families along to build civilization on the plains or desert. They had to trust one another with their lives and their families' lives. These men had set roles to play, but could trust in one another to defend the territory and respect each other's rights and privileges. Just as not all men can be warriors, priests, or scholars, the Männerbund allows for specialization and a network of skilled and reliable men. A hierarchy will form and plans can be executed because order is found within the Männerbund.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Eloquence is a skill to work on, and it starts with simply overcoming apprehension and nervousness when speaking to a stranger. If you have been honing your skills and knowledge in different areas, you should be confident when speaking about them. The medium is the message, so the well-put-together man speaking eloquently about his passion or beliefs is a man that will entice others to follow him.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Like any craft and tradition, hunting too can be shared and passed down generations. From the dawn of man to our own age, the hunting party is a well-worn staple of masculinity. All hunting parties will have roles and rough hierarchy set into them. There is the man who organized the party, the experienced hunters who guide others, some who entertain and cook, and the new hunters that are not just gophers but the next generation to lead future trips. The hunting party creates inside jokes, stories that can only be known by those who attend, and fosters familial bonds. In our culture of chaos,a hunting trip allows for quiet moments that few get anywhere else with friends or family.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“The weekend spent on the hunt for a wild animal for the potential to enjoy meals won with hard work is a crude fall pastime. In their eyes, eating processed food and watching steroided up semi-literates collide with one another is superior. “It is barbaric," they text you from their device made with materials collected by African child labor in mines while wearing shoes made in Asian sweatshops.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“The mind is where the attention is. The days where you have your child's full attention and trust are limited. As the leader of the household, you filter the world and its meaning for them. You allow them to interact with it on their own where you deem it appropriate. If they go to schools, they have a circle of children that tell them about the world. Do you know your children's friends' names? Do you know their parents? This should be the least of things you know about them. If they watch television, someone else is telling them about the world. Do you know the plots of the shows your children watch? Why even allow it? If you allow it, be engaged and control what is watched.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Children are naturally curious. This world is new to them. Encourage this trait as a way to develop a curious intellect. Do not be short with the child that asks questions. Use humor to end a line of questioning when a child turns into a prosecutor. Children are always surprised, and their minds lose focus when an adult drops to their level. Children will ask you many questions, progressing from what to how to why. As a child is continuously learning, you too will have to stay continuously learning.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Roughhouse, wrestle, and be active with your children, for age catches up with you fast. Exposure to vigorous play will keep them active even when you are not around. Play-fighting also exposes your kids to physical activity separate from actual anger and punishment. They will not run from any conflict simply because of the presentation of force. They will learn context. There will come a moment where they will hit you. It will hurt. 'They will realize their growing power. To be a man is to be aware of the possibility of physical violence. To sanitize one's persona of all aggressive tendencies is to abdicate a responsibility. Look at children's entertainment today. Why do all the male figures seem gay? They aren't, but they act feminine. They have been stripped of any sense of violence, any capability to attack or protect. These are cardboard cutouts, neutered men.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Women want a leader, a man that is his own and makes her a part of his life. Consider the couples where the woman keeps her own name in marriage, and how that increases their odds of divorce. One house, one name. If you are relinquishing your freedom to build a family with her, she should gladly take your name. The sharp-tongued woman who claims to belong to no man would purr like a kitten for one she found worthy. Don’t believe the excuses women come up with to cover for their noncommittal behavior. Maybe she says it's for her career, as if she is destined for the corner office and executive salary. Forget the millions of successful married women for whom a name change was no hindrance (also forget that nobody really cares how much money a woman makes).”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness