Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent Quotes

“Don’t Lie, Pretend, or Deny the Truth to Your Children You may feel that you should never say anything negative about the other parent to the children. However, when they come to you and say the NP/BP is being mean, scary, or doesn’t love them, denying their feelings and the facts of the other parent’s behaviors will be injurious to your children—making them feel wrong, crazy, or unable to trust their own perceptions. Instead, ask them to tell you what happened and how they felt. Console them, sympathize with their feelings, and ask how you can help. If your child asks you about your reactions and feelings, be honest, but brief. “Yes, that hurt my feelings. I am disappointed. This is not what I expected. No, I don’t like being yelled at.” This can be done without demeaning the other parent and without dishonesty. Teach your children words for their feelings so they can accurately assess and understand their world.”
― Margalis Fjelstad, Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent