The Surprising Purpose of Anger Quotes

“We want people to see that it’s how we look at the situation that creates our anger, not the stimulus itself.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg, The Surprising Purpose of Anger: Beyond Anger Management: Finding the Gift

“I feel as I do because I am telling myself thoughts about the other person’s actions that imply wrongness on their part.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg, The Surprising Purpose of Anger: Beyond Anger Management: Finding the Gift

“if you want to use guilt with somebody, you need to communicate in a way that indicates that your pain is being caused simply by what they do. In other words, their behavior is not simply the stimulus of your feelings; it’s the cause of your feelings.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg, The Surprising Purpose of Anger: Beyond Anger Management: Finding the Gift

“In NVC, whenever we feel angry, we recommend saying to ourselves, “I’m feeling angry because I am telling myself__________,”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg, The Surprising Purpose of Anger: Beyond Anger Management: Finding the Gift

“Identify the stimulus for our anger, without confusing it with the evaluation. 2) Identify the internal image or judgment that is making us angry. 3) Transform this judgmental image into the need that it is expressing; in other words, bring our full attention to the need that is behind the judgment.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg, The Surprising Purpose of Anger: Beyond Anger Management: Finding the Gift