Friend-ish Quotes

“As soon as we see our friends as the solution to our loneliness, we cease to be able to love them sacrificially.”
― Kelly Needham, Friend-ish: Reclaiming Real Friendship in a Culture of Confusion

“Our friends do not answer to us; they answer to God. He is their king, their Lord, their first loyalty.”
― Kelly Needham, Friend-ish: Reclaiming Real Friendship in a Culture of Confusion

“But when Jesus is our stability—our consistent friend and refuge—we are freed to truly love others and love them sacrificially”
― Kelly Needham, Friend-ish: Reclaiming Real Friendship in a Culture of Confusion

“Another reason for our resistance [to the idea of idolatrous friendships] is that these friendships, at least in the beginning, feel like winning the friendship jackpot. Like you've finally found the person who gets you, who is there for you, and who makes you feel at home. When our idol has not yet failed us, when the water has not yet drained out of the broken cistern, when the storm has not yet come to destroy our house built on sand, we perceive our friendship to be the best thing ever. But just because a friendship that replaces Jesus "feels right" does not make it right.”
― Kelly Needham, Friend-ish: Reclaiming Real Friendship in a Culture of Confusion

“Jeremiah said it well: “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” (Jer. 17:9). Apart from Jesus, we are skilled at doing all the right things for all the wrong reasons. We look like generous friends but we are driven by greed. We look like faithful friends, but only so far as something is gained. Counterfeit friendship looks selfless but underneath is selfish.”
― Kelly Needham, Friend-ish: Reclaiming Real Friendship in a Culture of Confusion

“But what concerns Jesus most isn’t the “what”; it’s the “why.”
― Kelly Needham, Friend-ish: Reclaiming Real Friendship in a Culture of Confusion

“We do not usually need transformation in our actions in friendship but in our motivation for friendship.”
― Kelly Needham, Friend-ish: Reclaiming Real Friendship in a Culture of Confusion