Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered Quotes

“Politeness doesn’t require actual humanity. It’s just cultural ritual...
Politeness is fancy curtains in your front window. Kindness is the home-cooked meal on your dinner table.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“Fuck politeness.” Fuck the way we were socialized. Fuck the expectation that we always put other people’s needs first. And while we’re at it, fuck the patriarchy!”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“We barely get any time on this planet. Do not spend it pleasing other people. Fuck politeness. Live life exactly how you want to live it so you can love the life you make for yourself.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“I think its good to just say what you're thinking out loud. Some guy comes up to you on the street and starts asking a bunch of personal questions, you can say 'Whoa, this is weird behavior, I don't know you. You seem like a predator.' If he gets mad and calls you a "bitch", it doesn't mean you're a bitch, it just means you were right." -Karen Kilgariff”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“There’s really nothing like the self-righteousness of the partially informed.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“But for women, it’s so much more than that. The politeness that we’re raised to prioritize, first and foremost, against our better judgment and whether we feel like being polite or not, is the perfect systematically ingrained personality trait for manipulative, controlling people to exploit.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“Don’t get into a fight with one more friend over the umbrella they borrowed and never gave back or the time they didn’t save you a seat at the group dinner or whatever the fuck. Stop finding fault and making a fuss and crying in weird apartment building hallways expecting people to come out and wrap you up in a warm blanket of giving a shit. They’re not going to. Yes, it would be really nice, but it’s unrealistic to the point of self-abuse. Everyone has their own problems. Some of them are awful and tragic, and if you knew what they were, you’d be grateful for the ones you have.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“Friendship leads to human connection, which feeds your soul. More than kale or spinning or fifteen-minute naps under your desk, conscious communication with your clutch friends is the best form of self-care.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“I’m not a shitty person, which really is the point of life in my eyes: “Don’t be a dick and do good things.” That’s my other motto. It has the word dick in it.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“The epitome of fucking politeness is learning how to act in the moment, instead of wishing you had later.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“I know now that no matter how far into something you are, how many times you've agreed and moved forward, you can always decide to turn back. It's often not easy or comfortable, but you get to choose.”
― Georgia Hardstark, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“Why does everyone think whistling indicates relaxation? It’s literally one of the weirdest things you can do in public without breaking the law.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“We are cups, constantly and quietly being filled. The trick is, knowing how to tip ourselves over and let the beautiful stuff out. —RAY BRADBURY”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“Motivation isn’t necessary,” she said. “You just have to do it.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“Politeness doesn't require actual humanity. It's just cultural ritual. Kindness means you actually care and have good intentions toward a person. It means you think about them as much as you think about yourself. Politeness is fancy curtains in your front window. Kindness is the home-cooked meal on your dinner table.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“Don't be a dick and do good things.”
― Georgia Hardstark, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“When people sit down to have a conversation, all they're looking for is something they can agree on or participate in with you.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“The following quote is from a Ted talk my sister sent to me that blew my mind....
We talk about how many women were raped last year, not about how many MEN raped women...
We talk about how many girls in a school district were harassed last year, not about how many BOYS harassed girls...
We talk about how many teenage girls got pregnant in the state of VA last year, rather than how many men and teenage boys got girls pregnant...
So you can see how the use of this passive voice has a political affect. It shifts the focus (and blame) off men and boys, and onto girls and women.”
― Karen Kilgariff & Georgia Hardstark, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“don’t throw your shit all over town. If you have a problem, don’t just confide in whoever wanders into your office. Save it for a person who cares about your well-being.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“KAREN: “Get a job” was the first step in the three-part process I once blurted out while we were ranting about the importance of personal safety. Self-sufficiency is your first form of self-defense. The sooner you accept that you must work for a living, the sooner you can roll your sleeves up, find your true calling, stack that paper,”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“She taught us that the sad truth is, you can't stay out of the forest because the world is a forest. And it's filled with predators. If someone is assaulted, it wasn't because they were careless, irresponsible, or dressed wrong.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“you’re currently living, I’ll say, just remember that as long as you’re attempting to not be a dick and doing your best to do good things, you’re worthy of a good life, one that you’re proud of and that when you wake up every morning makes you stoked to be yourself. And if you don’t wake up stoked to be you, figure out the first step you can take toward that life you want. Once you’ve taken that first step, then figure out the next step, and so on. It might feel like a long journey (it is), but for me, that was the most important part, because once I got to where I wanted to be, I was confident in my ability to grab that opportunity by the balls and make it my bitch.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“Sometimes you just have to jump out the window and grow wings on the way down. —RAY BRADBURY”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“And society was fucking brutal to her because not only did she DARE to have a body with curves, but she was … (looks left, looks right, lowers voice) … a single mother. The nerve! And her socially unacceptable single mother–ness resulted in isolated loneliness that she was told, like all women, to blame on her body.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“It’s much easier for me, for all of us, to complain and gossip because it holds the listener’s interest, but it does have a negative residual effect. I thought I was making fun dinner conversation, but it was actually just a release for me. My friend had no choice but to open up those “low vibrational” topics because that’s what I’d been talking about the most. Things people have done or said that are fucked up, ways people have let me down, failures, bad behavior, rudeness, lies. The shortcut to human connection is meeting on the common ground of hating a third person. But that shit is low vibrational and leaves a fart fog of shittiness in the air. And sometimes, people already have so much shittiness going on in their lives, they just can’t take another moment of it. Remember that.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“I’m a hustler and I work hard, but being a lazy person is my default. It’s what I do best. I’m a champion napper—I’ve even taken a nap in the Louvre among other weird places. I love chilling and day drinking and taking it fucking easy. But as it turns out, I’m not retired just yet, so I try my best to go against the lazy grain, which is why I always have multiple to-do lists going. Otherwise, I’ll to-don’t with everything and take a nap instead.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“Even the term violence against women is problematic. It's a passive construction, there's no active agent (of violence) in the sentence. It's a bad thing that happens to women. It's a bad thing that happens to women, but when you look at that term 'violence against women' nobody is doing it (acts of violence) to them, it just happens, men aren't even a part of it." Jackson Katz, PHD from his Ted talk 'violence against women it's a mens issue”
― Karen Kilgariff & Georgia Hardstark, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“you’re responsible for your own quality of life. Accepting that fact is the first step in the journey to that distant oasis that is watered by the ancient spring of self-care.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“feminism wasn't a bad word; it was a vital pursuit and would be until girls were raised to believe in themselves and the importance of their contribution to the world the same way boys were”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

“People who don't care "yes and" you. They'll help you stir that soup of sadness you're making because it somehow feeds them, too.”
― Karen Kilgariff, Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide