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Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide

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The instant #1 New York Times and USA Today best seller by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark, the voices behind the hit podcast My Favorite Murder now available in paperback. Includes special bonus material!

Sharing never-before-heard stories ranging from their struggles with depression, eating disorders, and addiction, Karen and Georgia irreverently recount their bigge
Kindle Edition, 304 pages
Published May 28th 2019 by Forge Books
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Krissy Harbison I didn't know of the authors and I enjoyed the book. I think anyone who was a kid in the 80's can relate. …moreI didn't know of the authors and I enjoyed the book. I think anyone who was a kid in the 80's can relate. (less)

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Caroline Vericker
I will always be a little bit heartbroken, I think, that I don't get to actually be best friends with Karen and Georgia ...more
Donna Backshall
I know I'm in the minority, but Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide didn't resonate with me.

I much prefer the podcasts, with discussions of true crime and impromptu jokes and antics. Not that Karen and Georgia's how-I-got-here stories weren't interesting, it's more that they simply weren't what I wanted from this comedic duo. It seemed like they were trying to "get real", but I could have done without the feel of the written, almost bloggy, stories.

Oh well. I couldn't r
May 26, 2021 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
therapy is expensive and hard, but reading this book is easy and (based on my ingenious move to temporarily steal it from my sister’s friend’s apartment) free.
Brandon Forsyth
Feb 23, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Here’s what you do. You make a thousand signs.

You put them up on street corners and community bulletin boards. You hang them from ornate balconies and make them look like the flag of a new country. Drag them behind planes and make them circle the cities of the world like you’re announcing a new global superpower. You turn the signs into clothing like those weird toilet paper ads.

Miranda Reads
Dec 18, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: audiobook
description can’t “stay out of the forest” because the world is a forest. And it’s filled with predators
True crime addicts Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark run a hugely successful crime podcast, and for the first time they have published a book.
We barely get any time on this planet. Do not spend it pleasing other people. Fuck politeness.
This book is more like a collection of essays - it covers difficult times in both their lives - from eating disorders to addiction to depressi
Deanna ✰ ☾
Jun 02, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction, memoir, humor
Hate to say this but... I didn't really enjoy this book. I have listened to K&G's podcast for a couple of years now and love it, but I didn't feel like their speaking voices translated well to writing. Unfortunately, that really is how this book was written; it's very informal and sounds like something you would read on a blog, not in a book. I know that many people do enjoy that type of writing style (which is fine), but it's not my cup of tea. One other disappointing thing about the writing wa ...more
Aug 17, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: audiobook, 2019-reads
4.5 stars
I bought the hardback knowing I would want to share it with my (adult) daughter after I finished. We entertained ourselves on a 7 hour road trip last year listening to My Favorite Murder (MFM) podcast episodes. It's billed as a true crime comedy show which sounds like an oxymoron, but they make it work and are always respectful of victims.

As soon as my daughter saw the book on my coffee table it disappeared. Knowing I’d never see it again (lol), I downloaded the audio. Am I ever glad I
Okay, so I read a book about a podcast even though I had never listened to that podcast before. Sue me.

But actually don't, because the universe already sued me, essentially, with a very meh reading experience. A spiritual lawsuit.

I thought I would like this book even though I have no concept of the podcast because I do, at the very least, know the podcast is true crime-y, and I know that I like true crime.

However, this was more like a celebrity memoir of the two hosts of said podcast, and consid
This is one of the best nonfiction books I have ever read. It was so good I kind of want to immediately reread it. I listened to the audiobook and it’s easily one of the best audiobooks I’ve ever listened to, at times I was cracking up laughing and other times I was trying not to cry and nodding my head in agreement. Here are some notes I took while reading this:

-Love that they are always saying they aren’t the experts, and you’re only the expert in your own experiences so their advice won’t wo
Natasha Niezgoda

A MUST READ FOR ALL - 5 “I really needed to hear that” stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ for Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered!


Words cannot describe how perfectly pertinent this book was to my present life. And if I can get real with you, it’s kinda like walking into a deeply personal therapy session. And I know the word “therapy” is weird and scary and defeating, but it shouldn’t be. I’ve gone. For 6 years in fact. And it changed my life. And this book makes you r
I love Karen and Georgia but this book was mediocre at best.
Johann (jobis89)
“The epitome of ‘fucking politeness’ is learning how to act in the moment, instead of wishing you had later.”

If you’re a fan of the My Favorite Murder podcast, then there’s a good chance of you enjoying this part memoir/part self-help book. Lacking in true crime itself (which totally works!), it shines a light on the other topics and discussions that come up regularly on the show, such as mental health issues, self-care and addiction.

For each of the catchphrases or slogans that the show has crea
Livia Linhares Miller

I have a love/hate relationship with these girls. I love their podcast and normally enjoy listening to them, I love how casual the whole thing feels and I think they’re intelligent and hilarious.

but, I must say: I hate how problematic, eye-rolling, cringeworthy and privileged some of their comments are.

with that being said, I wanted to love this book SO BAD. but did I? no, I did not. I somewhat liked it, at best.

I enjoyed some of the chapters (and shed a tear when Karen described her ex
Disclaimer: I love MFM. While you normally can't bribe me enough to leave my house to go to a simple movie, I've literally paid money to go to several live shows of the podcast, even though it meant combining three of my least favorite, anxiety inducing things, crowds, heights, and stadium seating with death seats. MFM isn't perfect, but it's more than just a podcast I enjoy—it's something my bff and I bond over, a funny way to feel less alone about some of my anxieties, and it's one of my curre ...more
Laurie  |  LOHF
Jun 19, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir
I HIGHLY recommend you listen to the audiobook version of this book because it is narrated by the writers and you'll miss a lot of the emotion in the words if you don't hear them tell it. I also suggest that you only pick it up only if you are a fan of the My Favorite Murder podcast - otherwise you might not get what it is all about and you'll probably be very disappointed and will be left scratching your head at the title. It's not a guidebook instructing you how to "Stay Sexy & Don't Murdered" ...more
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Quick thoughts:
For the most part this was okay but there were times I honestly just skimmed through it. Some of it was less of a How-to Guide and more like a sounding board to their success and personal achievements. Seriously, whole chapters were dedicated to them basically patting themselves on the back. Which is great, more power to them for making it in this cutthroat world, it just was not what I wanted the majority of the book to be about. I wanted more MFM talk and less about how gre
Ashley Daviau
Feb 01, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Confession, I read this book without ever having listened to the podcast and I still fell absolutely in love with it. It’s just such a fabulous book to read as a woman, I felt like I was sitting down and chatting with two incredibly badass friends and I adored every second of it. In fact, I blew through it in one single sitting! It made me laugh, it made me cry, it made me feel not so alone in the world, it made me feel empowered and it made me realize some truths about myself. And then add in a ...more
Elyse  Walters
Jun 04, 2019 rated it really liked it
Audiobook.... read by Karen
Kilgariff, Georgia Hardstark, and Paul Giamatti.

Parts were recorded in front of a live audience. The energy from the people in the room during the ‘live’ sections were explosive... adding a contagious - “I HEAR YA” & “WOMEN ROCK”, energy.

I enjoyed these women... and their life stories about being young- scared - insecure with themselves - confused- depressed - and dealings with anxiety.

If Karen heard her parents fighting or felt the stress from their divorce she gr
Janelle Janson
I was fortunate enough to receive a partial early copy from Forge. I loved every single page I read and cried at the end. It’s that good. Full review to come.
Aug 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Reread in September 2020 and upping my rating from 4 to 5 stars. After reading SSDGM the first time, I fell down the rabbit hole of the My Favorite Murder podcast and count on these women to provide distraction and witty commentary whenever I need it most.


I’m not a podcast fan, because listening to them gets in the way of all the audiobooks on my list. So I’d never even heard of “My Favorite Murder,” let alone its creators. Somehow their book caught my attention, and I downloaded it on audio
Olivia (Stories For Coffee)
Karen and Georgia always know exactly what I need to hear. I love them
Laura Thalassa
Dec 13, 2019 marked it as to-read
Loving this one so far!
One author’s essays I found entertaining, heartwarming and sometimes even inspiring. The other author, not so much.
Lindsay Nixon
Jun 07, 2019 rated it did not like it
My first reaction was "This is another shitty memoir written by some 'popular' blogger who has dipped into narcissism and thinks she has "advice" for the rest of us (or s/he assumes we want to hear every last word about her life and childhood).

After a thoughtful pause, I thought maybe I'm just not the intended reader, as I had no clue who these people were or had ever heard of their podcast... Perhaps if I had already known and liked them I would want to hear their life story. For example, I met
Jun 15, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
3.5 stars
I know I'm in the minority of readers who didn't absolutely love this book, but it just wasn't quite what I hoped it would be. I heard great things and and was excited to read it, and though it's entertaining, it wasn't as engaging as I hoped it would be. I found the authors to be a little irritating, even as I wasn't left unaffected by their stories and what they went through. Obviously, this is a personal thing and many other readers will feel quite differently and really enjoy. If yo
Oct 17, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
"Little girls are taught to be polite, to smile pretty and sit up straight, to be nice and accommodating. And then those little girls turn into grown-ass women who've spent years being polite to the detriment of their own wants, needs, and safety."

This is a book I just inherently knew I would love, and it definitely delivered! I've been a murderino since I was a little girl, thanks to my mom who introduced me to true crime when I was like 8. I love this podcast and like many others that are par
Jan 28, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It doesn't matter if you fail. Your trying is what sets the tone for your whole life story. Think of everything you do as being chapters in your future autobiographical self-help book about murder. Your “career” is just another word to help you categorize your journey through life. Why not start brave and bold and believing in yourself?

I'll begin by saying that I'm not a “Murderino”, but my daughter is and we've listened to a few episodes of the My Favorite Murder podcast together; I know wh
Tucker  (TuckerTheReader)
O MG! I was just listening to My Favorite Murder in my MRI. I'm so excited!

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Morgan Walker

I was extremely excited for this book, I love Karen and Georgia not for the murders but for the banter, they have a great rapport and I was excited to see that in novel form with new information on the girls that hadn't been shared before.
They promised a look into their lives that the podcast couldn't offer and yet everything in the book was a story or lesson they'd already discussed either once or multiple times.
I felt disappointed, like I'd been lied to for cheap marketing tacti
This dual memoir is something special.

It's refreshing, and funny, and relatable. At times it's heartbreaking. Often it's thought-provoking. Each time Karen and Georgia looked inwards, they invited their readers to do the same. It gave me some uncomfortable moments as I was reading, but ultimately it meant that I came away from this book having been a little more honest with myself, and, as a result, maybe I ended up knowing -and liking - my (deeply) flawed self just a little bit better.

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Karen Kilgariff is an American writer, comedian, singer, author, actress, television producer, and podcast host. Since 2016 she has co-hosted the true crime comedy podcast My Favorite Murder along with Georgia Hardstark. In 2018 she and Hardstark co-founded the podcast network Exactly Right.

Known for her biting wit and musical prowess, Karen Kilgariff has been a staple in the comedy world for deca

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