The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible Quotes

“The biggest mistake abuse survivors make after leaving their relationship is to shrink. They wallow in sadness and allow the abuser to go on social media sites and post pictures of how wonderful their life is now that you left them. They allow the abuser to win again by showing people they are so over you. This is not okay! I hope every abuse survivor has a marketing campaign of glory and triumph. Don't let the abuser paint the image of you as someone they discarded. Post your comeback story on social media. Invite the world back into your life. The victory is yours. Show the world that you overcame a monster. Show them you won!”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“Many victims of narcissistic abuse are hypersensitive. They don't want to be told by others that they wrong when they fight with their narcissist. They see it as standing up for themselves, when in reality it is perpetuating what the narcissist wants- drama and a reaction.”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“It doesn't matter if she was prettier than you when he decided to cheat. She was treated like trash just like you. He didn't commit to her. He didn't love her soul or cherished any of her accomplishments. He just liked her face and what is that? It is nothing. That is not who she is. He didn't give his heart or time to her. She was the one that was cheated because he stayed with you. You never lost him because he never made a commitment to her. So don't be so hard on the other woman. She was treated poorly also. She was nothing to him. She was only something superficial that he coveted. But loving her? Knowing her? Sharing his deepest feelings with her?... No! She could have been any pretty face. It was never her but a fantasy. He didn't even know her, but for her beauty. And what is beauty? Isn't that something you can buy at a plastic surgeon's office?”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“You might not get your apology in this lifetime. They might never confess to the abuse they caused you. They might feel you deserved all of your pain. They might not care, but they will later. Angels witnessed everything they did to you. There will come a day of restitution. You will have your day of justice. God will finally tell you what you did not know about that situation and he will hold a spiritual court with these people. You will be vindicated. God loves you too much to leave you in pain.”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“The only question you need to be asking in a toxic relationship is this: If you were disfigured in an automobile accident and lost all your beauty would your husband still stay by your side and love you? Deep down in your soul you know the answer to this. The next questions you need to ask is when you are going to leave.”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“Freedom isn't free.”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“When unrequited love dies it gets replaced with complete and utter contempt.”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“It doesn't matter if she was prettier than you when he decided to cheat. She was treated like trash just like you. He didn't commit to her. He didn't love her soul or cherished any of her accomplishments. He just liked her face and what is that? It is nothing. That is not who she is. He didn't give his heart or time to her. She was the one that was cheated because he stayed with you. You never lost him because he never made a commitment to her. So don't be so hard on the other woman. She was treated poorly also. She was nothing to him. She was only something superficial that he coveted. But loving her? Knowing her? Sharing his deepest feelings with her?... No! She could have been any pretty face. It was never her but a fantasy. He didn't even know her, but for her beauty. And what is beauty? It is anything that can be bought at a plastic surgeon's office?”
― shannon l. alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“It doesn't matter if she was prettier than you when he decided to cheat. She was treated like trash because he didn't commit to her. He didn't love her soul or cherished any of her accomplishments. He just liked her face and what is that? It is nothing. That is not who she is. He didn't give his heart or time to her, She was the one that was cheated on because he went home to you. You never lost him because he didn't divorce you. So don't be so hard on the other woman. She was nothing to him. She was only something superficial that he coveted. But loving her? Knowing her? Sharing his deepest feelings with her?. No! She could have been any pretty face. It was never her but a fantasy. He didn't even know her, but for her beauty. And what is beauty? It is anything that can be bought at a plastic surgeon's office?”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“If you think the other woman caused the break up of your marriage you would be wrong. If your husband loves you, there is no other woman. Put blame where it deserves to be--on him!”
― shannon l. alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“If you think the other woman caused the break of your marriage you would be wrong. If there is a marriage and your husband loves you, there is no other woman. Put blame where it deserves to be--on him!”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“Cheaters only cheat when they are missing something. There is a loss going on and it is up to you to figure out what that is. Their reason might be stupid to you but to them it was more important than you realize. Because cheaters know the risks they are taking. They know cheating is not a casual thing. There is something so intense inside of them to drive them to that point. You might not like what that thing might be, but you must accept it is there and either fill that need or move on. This loss could be anything: attention, someone more attractive, control, dominance, boredom...you name it. You will never heal a relationship unless you accept that there truly is a "why" that the cheater is not willing to share with you.”
― shannon l. alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“Sometimes it takes a crazy person to see the world clearly.”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“It might look like your enemies are winning, but be ready God is about to flip the script.”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“Justice always happens when you know how to write and Jesus is your co-author.”
― shannon l. alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“If a man has been married twice and has been in several relationships that ended badly, you need to ask why before you date him. So many woman are gullible and think the reason those relationships didn't work out was because the women he was involved with were insecure. All abusers blame their breakups on the woman. Don't be so egotistical that you think you have the magical assets to keep this guy in love with you. A smart woman doesn't date a man with a long history of bad relationships. She finds out the other side of the story from the women that came before her. She recognizes there is a pattern and something is not right.”
― shannon l. alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“I am convinced that half the world is full of stalkers. It is something everyone has done once or more if they own a social media account or have access to Google. The main reason most people look up other people is to make themselves feel happy. This concludes that half the world is not satisfied until they have compared themselves to other people. It doesn't quite make sense that we accuse others of this behavior when it goes on within most of society and everyone has done it. So don't be so upset about it if it happening to you. The only question you need to be asking is this: If I am not being stalked then what is wrong with me?”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“Cheaters only cheat when they are missing something. There is a loss going on and it is up to you to figure out what that is. Their reason might be stupid to you, but to them it was more important than you realize. Cheaters know the risks they are taking. They know cheating is not a casual thing. There is something so intense inside of them to drive them to that point. You might not like what that thing might be, but you must accept it is there and either fill that need or move on. This loss could be anything: attention, someone more attractive, control, dominance, boredom...you name it. You will never heal a relationship unless you accept that there truly is a "why" that the cheater is not willing to share with you.”
― shannon l. alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“Just because a person says they are Christian it does not mean they are emotionally evolved. Churches are full of spiritually dysfunctional people that stumbled into the church because of some wound they received in life from another person. Everyone is at their unique stage of spiritual evolution. Some can ask for forgiveness or forgive others. Then there are some that only believe in the old testament- an eye for an eye. Expect nothing from people that call themselves Christian and you won't be disappointed.”
― shannon l. alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“The only question you need to be asking in a toxic relationship is this: If you were disfigured in an automobile accident and lost all your beauty would your husband still stay by your side and love you? Deep down in your soul you know the answer to this. The next question you need to ask is when you are going to leave.”
― shannon l. alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“Never cross an inspirational author or you will be the example of what not to be like in everyone of their books.”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“Many victims of narcissistic abuse are hypersensitive. They don't want to be told by others that they wrong when they fight with their narcissist. They see it as standing up for themselves, when in reality it perpetuating what the narcissist wants- drama and a reaction.”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible

“No one ever gets mad at being shamed by someone unless some shame is felt.”
― Shannon L. Alder, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible