Out of the Fog Quotes

“a narcissist will demand that you make them your everything, while they make you their nothing.”
― Dana Morningstar, Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

“... the reality is that most people don’t live in reality; they live in a heavily-rationalized reality, based on either what they think is reasonable (even if reality doesn’t match up and their being reasonable puts them in harm’s way) or what they want reality to be.”
― Dana Morningstar, Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

“I never thought in a million years that if a man comes along like Prince Charming, that this is also a big red flag!”
― Dana Morningstar, Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

“general, a hopeful optimistic nature, and dedication and commitment to being problem solving and solutions oriented is a good character trait, and is one that will serve you well throughout your life. Except in interactions with the destructive and the disordered. In those cases your stubbornness, dedication, hopefulness, optimism, and your commitment to finding solutions will be turned against you, and it will eventually cause you to implode in a most spectacularly devastating and destructive manner.”
― Dana Morningstar, Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

“I’ve known for at least 30-40 years: You cannot control anyone except yourself, so I went to war against myself, and tried to control, mangle and corral myself into being perfect, and into being able to tolerate and to accept anything, without needing or wanting anything, and without judging or discerning anything about anyone ever. And it STILL wasn’t enough.”
― Dana Morningstar, Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

“it’s for you to think about what’s healthy for you, and to take action from a place of what’s healthy for you and not from a place of feeling you need to sacrifice your safety and sanity out of fear, obligation, or guilt.”
― Dana Morningstar, Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

“one day you will shake your head in disbelief as to how you could have ever confused being treated abusively with love.”
― Dana Morningstar, Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

“When I began speaking out about what happened to me, many people didn’t want to hear it. They kept telling me to ‘get over it’ or that I should be happy he’s no longer in my life. What they don’t seem to realize is that I was abused and terrorized by this man for decades, and during all of that I lost my voice and I nearly lost my mind.”
― Dana Morningstar, Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse