The Boy Crisis Quotes

“And if your son is unemployed? Three out of four women say they would not date an unemployed man. In contrast, for two-thirds of men, dating an unemployed woman is a nonissue.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“Children living with their dad felt positively about their mom; children living with their mom were more likely to think negatively of their dad.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“In these ways, your son's economic health can dictate his ability to be loved, which makes his economic health inseparable from his mental health, and therefore his physical health. And few things affect his economic health more than his education.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“The discipline of postponing gratification is the single most important discipline your son needs.”
― Warren Farrell PhD, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“The trading of wit-covered put-downs is boys and men training each other to handle criticism, unconsciously knowing that the ability to handle criticism is a prerequisite to success.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“In a study of more than twelve thousand teenagers after divorce, children living with single dads fared better than children living with single moms.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“Every day, 150 workers die from hazardous working conditions. And 92 percent are male.”
― Warren Farrell PhD, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“In one generation, young men have gone from 61 percent of college degree recipients to a projected 39 percent; young women, from 39 percent to a projected 61 percent.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“Three-quarters of dads who were in South Carolina jails for being behind in child support payments suffer from extreme poverty. And one-eighth of all South Carolina inmates are in jail for being behind in child support payments. No dad is imprisoned for not spending enough time with his children. And it is rare for a mom to go to jail for preventing dad from spending enough time with his children.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“But here's the first clue: the male-female pay gap is not a gap between men and women; it is a gap between moms and dads. Or more precisely, between men and women's work-life decisions when they become moms and dads.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“If children live in separate homes, proximity to the other parent has been found to be the single most important factor determining a child's likelihood of success.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“even when race, education, income, and other socioeconomic factors are equal, living without dad doubled a child’s chance of dropping out of high school.5”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“brief, I saw how “dad deprivation” and the purpose void had a compounding effect.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“Peter's dad, Joe, had prepared his son to know that a certain amount of hazing is the price of admission for acceptance, not rejection. The trading of wit-covered put-downs is boys and men training each other to handle criticism, unconsciously knowing that the ability to handle criticism is a prerequisite for success.”
― Warren Farrell PhD, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“The boy crisis' primary cause is dad-deprived boys. Dad deprivation stems primarily from a lack of father involvement, and secondarily from devaluing what a father contributes when he is involved.”
― Warren Farrell PhD, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“Fatherhood was about your dad trading in the old glint in his eye-what he loved to do- for the new glint in his eye: his love for you.”
― Warren Farrell PhD, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“If your son is heterosexual, then he discovers the harder it is to find a job, the harder it is to find a woman.”
― Warren Farrell PhD, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“In brief, we spend billions to get from dads the money few of them have, and virtually nothing to allow dads to give the time they do have-the time their children need.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“Since dad is most at risk of being both bad-mouthed and less involved, lets look at three reasons bad-mouthing sin is in conflict with your child's best interest:
1. Your children grow up feeling, "I hate who I am."
2. Your children fear that "loving dad is betraying mom."
3. Bad-mouthing undermines dad's motivation to invest money and time in the bank of love and to become responible in response to the hope for love.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“Although girls express their feelings more easily, what they receive most often from girlfriends and mom is reassurance. Unlike boys, who are frequently challenged by their friends, girls are less likely to have anyone besides their dad to go to with the anticipation of being challenged by someone who has her best interest at heart.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“Your son is more likely to seek a job in a sector that is being increasingly outsourced overseas- as with computer technology and manufacturing, as well as online jobs. Your daughter is more likely to hold jobs in stable sectors that are more recession proof, like health and education, both of which are 75 percent women.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“The problem? There has been no parallel effort to help our sons become multipurpose men. The female-only scholarships and affirmative action for our daughters to enter the STEM professions is not matched by the male-only scholarships and affirmative action for our sons to enter the "caring professions" -- elementary school teachers, social workers, nurses, dental hygienists, marriage and family therapists, or becoming a full-time dad.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“What’s a boy-friendly way for a nonacademically inclined boy to use his mind? Having a concrete goal. If a boy has a concrete goal of being a welder, that catalyzes motivation to study the physics and chemistry necessary to become a high-paid welder.”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“Living in homes without dads is more correlated with suicide among teenagers than any other factor.16”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“That is, findings published in Pediatrics in 2017 concluded that “at 9 years of age, children with father loss have significantly shorter telomeres.”1 Telomeres in our cells are what keep our genes from being deleted as our cells divide. As the National Academy of Sciences reports, “Telomere length in early life predicts lifespan.”2”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“When male vervet monkeys fight in their wars with other groups of monkeys to protect their territory or to get food, female monkeys reward the best surviving “warriors” by grooming them. The social status of these warrior monkeys goes up, and therefore more female vervet monkeys want to mate with them. In contrast, the female monkeys ignore and “snap” at the male monkeys who abstain from battle.2”
― Warren Farrell, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“Prisons are the United States' men's centers (9 percent male). A staggering 85 percent of youths in prison grew up in fatherless homes. More precisely, prisons are centers for dad-deprived males- boys who never became men.”
― Warren Farrell PhD, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“Their successful husbands had learned that earning money led to love. Because it did. However, earning money didn't sustain love. As women were becoming more in touch with and sharing what was bothering them, their husbands were often burying their heads in the sand, hoping the bullets would miss. The more successful they were, the more they learned to repress their feelings, not express their feelings.”
― Warren Farrell PhD, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“Helping your son develop his sense of purpose requires beginning at a very different place than his dad-or granddad. His dad or granddad was told his sense of purpose. Your job is to help your son find his sense of purpose.”
― Warren Farrell PhD, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It

“In these ways, your son's economic health can dictate his ability to be loved, which makes his economic health inseparable from his mental health, and therefore his physical health.”
― Warren Farrell PhD, The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It