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The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do about It

3.84  ·  Rating details ·  288 ratings  ·  70 reviews
What is the boy crisis?

It's a crisis of education.
For the first time in American history, our sons will have less education than their dads.

It's a crisis of mental health.
As boys become young men, their suicide rates go from equal to girls to six times that of young women.

It's a crisis of sexuality.
Sex is a minefield for our sons. They're bombarded with mixed messages,
Hardcover, 368 pages
Published March 13th 2018 by Benbella Books
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Apr 06, 2018 rated it it was ok
I was actually really excited to read this book after hearing the author interviewed on Andrew Klavan’s podcast. I have been concerned about the state of our boys since I noticed as a high school teacher that most of the kids on the D/F list were boys and the ones in AP classes were girls. And yes video game and porn addiction, lack of father involvement—all of this is a problem. Our boys need help. There’s some excellent ideas about the sexism our boys face that is totally ignored and how to he ...more
Oraynab Jwayyed
May 04, 2018 rated it did not like it
The Boy Crisis is yet another attack on the progress of women, although as subtle as such an attack can be in a period of mass rallies for civil and human rights. And I am appalled by the women who signed on to the book with rave reviews. To think the authors have something against women moving up in the 21st century speaks volumes about the work that still needs to be done.

In every example I came across, the marriage failed because the woman cheated. Not only are we cheating on our partners, b
Mark Haines
May 26, 2018 rated it really liked it
Excellent book but I would have excluded the chapter on ADHD. It undermined the credibility of the rest of the book.
Mar 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing
‘Your mission – guiding your son to discover his mission’

California author Warren Farrell, PhD places his third book before the public dealing with the concept of gender – THE BOY CRISIS: WHY OUR BOYS ARE STRUGGLING AND WHAT WE CAN DO ABOUT IT. His other two exemplary books are WHY MEN ARE THE WAY THEY ARE and THE MYTH OF MALE POWER. Warren is the chair of the Commission to Create a White House Council on Boys and Men and is the only man in the US to have been elected three times to the Board of
Jun 30, 2018 rated it really liked it
Too bad about the title. The book would be better served if it were called "In Praise of Dads", or something in that line. I'm giving it 4 stars because it's the first book I've seen that gives the modern male perspective of parenthood in such detail. Farrell repeats himself, obviously passionate about his subject, and dwells on certain topics that I don't agree with him on, but thank God he's talking! For decades now we've been taught to view men as oppressors rather than human beings. I wonder ...more
Jacob Naur
Jul 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I usually do not go for this type of psychology-book, but Jordan Peterson recommended it, so I had to give it a go.

It is fantastic. All Dads and future Dads should read this. It is a down to earth blueprint for doing it right with kids and how to assert your rightful and very beneficial role as Dad. Essential reading.

And no, it is not hostile towards women. But it is very critical towards the effects of the Womens Movement.

And no, women have no idea of what it is to be a boy/Dad - therefore th
Cary Hosner
Apr 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Every legislator and family court Judge and Lawyers! Children need dads in their lives and family law makes that VERY difficult. It’s disgusting really. Please read and share with all your friends. It’s time for change❤ ...more
April Rivas
May 10, 2018 rated it liked it
This book has a lot of great information and that alone is worth 5 stars but there is too much repetitive info. They say the same thing over and over with a little extra elaboration. This is a big book but it didn't need to be.
Michael Carlon
May 04, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A thought provoking read on an underreported issue.
Margo Kaestner
Jan 11, 2019 rated it it was amazing
In our modern age where girls are told they can do and be anything, The Boy Crisis examines how this is not the case for boys. With more women having long-term careers and becoming their own breadwinners, young men are faced with a "purpose void." The increasing lack of fathers present has long-term damaging effects on boys that last throughout their entire lives. Health intelligence and emotional intelligence trump traditional heroic intelligence (the need to sacrifice yourself to be considered ...more
Jul 09, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, sociology
The Boy Crisis is an excellent read: very well researched and documented. I picked this book due to the fact that as an 8th grade reading / language arts teacher, half of my time is spent in disciplining students (both boys and girls). I do believe that education is changing and will need change again due to the needs of all struggling students. Farrell suggests that a large part of the difficulty is the lack of strong leadership from fathers and/or the lack of fathers in the lives of both boys ...more
Jul 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is a very good book if you have a son as a parent. The causes of the absent father in the home shows what does happen when there is no dad. If the child is a boy, likely he will be more feminine and/or could go to prison for crimes. This is what the problem which is going on in society with these mass shooters. Everyone on the left believes gun control is the only answer when there are more problems to the equation. The section in the book where Dr Warren Farrell is very informative an ...more
Don Heiman
May 30, 2018 rated it really liked it
Warren Farrell and John Gray released their book “Boy Crisis” in 2018. The book explains in detail why too many boys today are committing more suicides, declining in school performance, and struggling to achieve key life successes. The authors' recommendations on how to end the crisis are thoughtful and convincing. (L)
Jul 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great information on raising boys

The statistics alone will be an eye opener for any parent. This books has some great insight on raising boys and how to help guide them down a path towards stability.
Kathryn Packingham
Mar 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Fathers And fathering is also in crisis here in America. The trend of single motherhood is terrifying! I learned so much as a mother through this book and have formulated more of a plan of things my husband and son need to talk about as my son grows up. Recommend every parent read!
Misty Vaughn
Jun 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Very insightful. Every person in education should read this!!!!!
Feb 14, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: did-not-finish
I had a hard time with this book... such potential... I have a son. And I have a hard time finding motivational/inspirational things for him. The TV/Movies are all about the strong girl overcoming her obstacles in achieving her goal... all the boy shows are fighting. Maybe they are fighting for good, but they are fighting. We have swung so far from the middle to girl power...girls rule, boys drool... How do we inspire our boys to be better men and work hard and put down for being the male privil ...more
Kerry O'Grady
May 30, 2018 rated it liked it
This book needed an editor to cut the book in half. The book tried to take on too much.
Chris Haleua
Jul 15, 2018 rated it liked it
chapters on dad deprivation and purpose void were golden. chapters on food and diet were way too long and boring.
Jul 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
A book that every parent, teacher, mentor, and grandparent should read & ponder, if you deeply care about the boy(s) in your life.
Jennie Rosenblum
Mar 13, 2018 rated it really liked it
The issue of the Boy Crisis has been on my radar for a couple of years now. I have read a couple of books over the last two years but this book goes a little more in depth into recent studies being done and the fact that our boys/men are being left behind. This book has well documented and researched statistics from many sources. That said, it is still a controversial subject. Our society and the educational environment has been working hard to get our girls raised up – and we are doing a wonder ...more
Nov 23, 2018 rated it did not like it
Shelves: audiobooks, dnf
Stay away if you want to keep your peace of mind!

This is ignorant, partial mansplaining. For some stupid reason, I expected a text that sees children as children and beyond sex roles but the book is stuck in the “family” ideal. How come the context can be missing from the discourse of this book? Is capitalism really a given and default way of life? I am sure conservatives who like to think themselves as progressives would love to read this.

Statistics given without any socio-economical context.
Sep 19, 2018 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: parent of a boy, volunteers who work with boys
This is a frightening book. I've said for years that this generation of boys is messed up, but until reading this, I didn't know how badly. And the sad thing is, you will see yourself in the causes.

The boy crisis involves young men beginning with the millennial generation. There are a lot of good suggestions about what to do about it, and you can make a difference in the life of your boy.

As a book, it drove me crazy. There are two authors, but the whole book is first person. You never know who y
Jolena Tu
Jun 13, 2018 rated it really liked it
You have to get used to writing style but important concepts!
May 19, 2018 rated it really liked it
Dr. Farrell sheds light on an underreported topic in the late 20th century and early 21st century about the crisis of the Divine Masculine in our young boys today. He presents many reasons why this is happening and gives ways to figure out how to combat it, so that we can produce strong, purpose-driven, healthy and fulfilled men in America. John Gray picks up the last 1/3 of the book with a link between dopamine levels and attention span in children, mostly boys, with ADHD, and how we can change ...more
May 28, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I love all of John Gray's books. His co-authored books have been equally wonderful, like this one is. His friend Warren did a great job with this fascinating analysis of males' development.
Becky Gallego
May 17, 2018 rated it really liked it
Definitely a lot of good information, but some the advice needs to be taken with a grain of salt or just disregarded.
Anna Murdock
May 10, 2018 rated it it was ok
This was interesting, I really agreed with some of it, and totally disagreed with other things. I loved that he focused a lot on the importance of dads.
Dec 05, 2018 rated it really liked it
This was a pretty intense read/listen to. I want to rate it highly because it opened my eyes to a lot, but it was also often painful and confronting. The book covers a lot of the other side of gender in a 'patriarchal' world. We hear a lot about the weirdly specific disadvantages women and girls have in society, but the way our culture works, there are also a lot of areas where men and boys are specifically struggling that are generally not on the radar because they are so accepted and normal. B ...more
Jun 30, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: myaudiobooks
Descriptively interesting but prescriptively very flawed and sometimes incoherently vacuous. In the sense that he'll begin an argument before jumping to another without completing it.
The problems caused commonly by statist education and intellectuals' assaults on the more traditional family, he seems to believe can be solved by predominantly statist and intellectual proscriptions. This is incorrect.
Almost as bad as this is the fact he pays lip service to the all-permeating cultural marxist phant
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Warren Thomas Farrell is an American educator, activist and author of seven books on men's and women's issues.

He came to prominence in the 1970s, championing the cause of second wave feminism, and serving on the New York City Board of the National Organization for Women (NOW). However, he left NOW and is now recognized as an important figure in the modern men's movement.

His books cover ten fields:
“If children live in separate homes, proximity to the other parent has been found to be the single most important factor determining a child's likelihood of success.” 0 likes
“Although girls express their feelings more easily, what they receive most often from girlfriends and mom is reassurance. Unlike boys, who are frequently challenged by their friends, girls are less likely to have anyone besides their dad to go to with the anticipation of being challenged by someone who has her best interest at heart.” 0 likes
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