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The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do about It

3.83  ·  Rating details ·  669 ratings  ·  152 reviews
What is the boy crisis?It's a crisis of education. For the first time in American history, our sons will have less education than their dads. It's a crisis of mental health. As boys become young men, their suicide rates go from equal to girls to six times that of young women. It's a crisis of sexuality. Sex is a minefield for our sons. They're bombarded with mixed messages ...more
Hardcover, 368 pages
Published February 26th 2019 by Benbella Books
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Apr 06, 2018 rated it it was ok
I was actually really excited to read this book after hearing the author interviewed on Andrew Klavan’s podcast. I have been concerned about the state of our boys since I noticed as a high school teacher that most of the kids on the D/F list were boys and the ones in AP classes were girls. And yes video game and porn addiction, lack of father involvement—all of this is a problem. Our boys need help. There’s some excellent ideas about the sexism our boys face that is totally ignored and how to he ...more
Oraynab Jwayyed
May 04, 2018 rated it did not like it
The Boy Crisis is yet another attack on the progress of women, although as subtle as such an attack can be in a period of mass rallies for civil and human rights. And I am appalled by the women who signed on to the book with rave reviews. To think the authors have something against women moving up in the 21st century speaks volumes about the work that still needs to be done.

In every example I came across, the marriage failed because the woman cheated. Not only are we cheating on our partners, b
Margo Kaestner
Jan 11, 2019 rated it it was amazing
In our modern age where girls are told they can do and be anything, The Boy Crisis examines how this is not the case for boys. With more women having long-term careers and becoming their own breadwinners, young men are faced with a "purpose void." The increasing lack of fathers present has long-term damaging effects on boys that last throughout their entire lives. Health intelligence and emotional intelligence trump traditional heroic intelligence (the need to sacrifice yourself to be considered ...more
Mar 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing
‘Your mission – guiding your son to discover his mission’

California author Warren Farrell, PhD places his third book before the public dealing with the concept of gender – THE BOY CRISIS: WHY OUR BOYS ARE STRUGGLING AND WHAT WE CAN DO ABOUT IT. His other two exemplary books are WHY MEN ARE THE WAY THEY ARE and THE MYTH OF MALE POWER. Warren is the chair of the Commission to Create a White House Council on Boys and Men and is the only man in the US to have been elected three times to the Board of
Nov 23, 2018 rated it did not like it
Shelves: audiobooks, dnf
Stay away if you want to keep your peace of mind!

This is ignorant, partial mansplaining. For some stupid reason, I expected a text that sees children as children and beyond sex roles but the book is stuck in the “family” ideal. How come the context can be missing from the discourse of this book? Is capitalism really a given and default way of life? I am sure conservatives who like to think themselves as progressives would love to read this.

Statistics given without any socio-economical context.
Klaus Hansen
Jul 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I usually do not go for this type of psychology-book, but Jordan Peterson recommended it, so I had to give it a go.

It is fantastic. All Dads and future Dads should read this. It is a down to earth blueprint for doing it right with kids and how to assert your rightful and very beneficial role as Dad. Essential reading.

And no, it is not hostile towards women. But it is very critical towards the effects of the Womens Movement.

And no, women have no idea of what it is to be a boy/Dad - therefore th
Jun 30, 2018 rated it really liked it
Too bad about the title. The book would be better served if it were called "In Praise of Dads", or something in that line. I'm giving it 4 stars because it's the first book I've seen that gives the modern male perspective of parenthood in such detail. Farrell repeats himself, obviously passionate about his subject, and dwells on certain topics that I don't agree with him on, but thank God he's talking! For decades now we've been taught to view men as oppressors rather than human beings. I wonder ...more
Misty Vaughn
Jun 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Very insightful. Every person in education should read this!!!!!
Cary Hosner
Apr 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Every legislator and family court Judge and Lawyers! Children need dads in their lives and family law makes that VERY difficult. It’s disgusting really. Please read and share with all your friends. It’s time for change❤️
Mike Carlon
May 04, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A thought provoking read on an underreported issue.
April Rivas
May 10, 2018 rated it liked it
This book has a lot of great information and that alone is worth 5 stars but there is too much repetitive info. They say the same thing over and over with a little extra elaboration. This is a big book but it didn't need to be.
Jun 10, 2019 rated it it was ok
I think the author has trouble interpreting the context of the situations he pulls statistics from. Having a background in psychology, I’m always inclined to be skeptical of how people describe and interpret research secondhand. The book has an interesting premise and does bring up a complex social problem, but the execution was all wrong and a bit repetitive. Also, some suggestions or viewpoints don’t seem to apply to the working class or situations where people may need to take a certain job o ...more
Oct 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
What an eye-opening and yet disturbing book. As usual, it seems we fight to give all equal opportunity, but instead of working together, some feel it is necessary to step on the heads of others in order to find that so-called "equality." In other words, someone must go down in order for someone to rise above. The new 'feminism' has done more damage to men and women than I can possibly imagine. So sad that so many have allowed the media to push us into accepting that the US is a horrible place an ...more
Jul 09, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, sociology
The Boy Crisis is an excellent read: very well researched and documented. I picked this book due to the fact that as an 8th grade reading / language arts teacher, half of my time is spent in disciplining students (both boys and girls). I do believe that education is changing and will need change again due to the needs of all struggling students. Farrell suggests that a large part of the difficulty is the lack of strong leadership from fathers and/or the lack of fathers in the lives of both boys ...more
Sep 19, 2018 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: parent of a boy, volunteers who work with boys
This is a frightening book. I've said for years that this generation of boys is messed up, but until reading this, I didn't know how badly. And the sad thing is, you will see yourself in the causes.

The boy crisis involves young men beginning with the millennial generation. There are a lot of good suggestions about what to do about it, and you can make a difference in the life of your boy.

As a book, it drove me crazy. There are two authors, but the whole book is first person. You never know who y
Don Heiman
May 30, 2018 rated it really liked it
Warren Farrell and John Gray released their book “Boy Crisis” in 2018. The book explains in detail why too many boys today are committing more suicides, declining in school performance, and struggling to achieve key life successes. The authors' recommendations on how to end the crisis are thoughtful and convincing. (L)
Jul 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great information on raising boys

The statistics alone will be an eye opener for any parent. This books has some great insight on raising boys and how to help guide them down a path towards stability.
Jul 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
A book that every parent, teacher, mentor, and grandparent should read & ponder, if you deeply care about the boy(s) in your life. ...more
Chris Haleua
Jul 15, 2018 rated it liked it
chapters on dad deprivation and purpose void were golden. chapters on food and diet were way too long and boring.
Aug 26, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Good up until it started suggesting that homeopathy works.
Feb 14, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: did-not-finish
I had a hard time with this book... such potential... I have a son. And I have a hard time finding motivational/inspirational things for him. The TV/Movies are all about the strong girl overcoming her obstacles in achieving her goal... all the boy shows are fighting. Maybe they are fighting for good, but they are fighting. We have swung so far from the middle to girl power...girls rule, boys drool... How do we inspire our boys to be better men and work hard when they are put down for being the m ...more
Mar 26, 2019 rated it did not like it
Shelves: did-not-finish
I took this out from the library knowing nothing about it, just because I have a son and was curious. I'm disgusted by the language used in the first chapter and will be returning it shortly.
Jul 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is a very good book if you have a son as a parent. The causes of the absent father in the home shows what does happen when there is no dad. If the child is a boy, likely he will be more feminine and/or could go to prison for crimes. This is what the problem which is going on in society with these mass shooters. Everyone on the left believes gun control is the only answer when there are more problems to the equation. The section in the book where Dr Warren Farrell is very informative an ...more
Sep 02, 2019 rated it really liked it
I fear this book could be used as ammo for whataboutism re feminism. It seems to imply that we've come too far for women and left men behind, but rest assured, there's still plenty of work to be done for all! But despite all that, everything in this book felt very well researched and rooted in evidence based studies (well, except for the homeopathic remedies for curing ADHD). If anything it just showed the dangers of the patriarchy and its effects on boys/men, especially regarding their inabilit ...more
Katy Rose
Mar 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Fathers And fathering is also in crisis here in America. The trend of single motherhood is terrifying! I learned so much as a mother through this book and have formulated more of a plan of things my husband and son need to talk about as my son grows up. Recommend every parent read!
Jun 15, 2020 rated it really liked it
The Boy Crisis builds an excellent case for the struggles men face in today's world. Farrell brings to light so many men's issues that we rarely even think of - education, mental health, sex, parenting, and purpose in life. It is thought provoking, well cited, and includes concrete action that you can take to give your sons the best chance they can have in a world increasingly calling them irrelevant.

Farrell also includes a solid amount of common sense and data backed parenting advice that would
Dana Probert
Jan 23, 2020 rated it really liked it
A lot of good stuff here, especially around family dinners. It is possible to empower both women and men. I really like the discussion around the evolution of a man’s “purpose” and how we need to help our sons navigate that in today’s world. I agree that we need to de stigmatize “women’s jobs” the same way we have fought to show girls they can pursue traditionally male jobs like engineering. Men can, and should, be teachers, health aides, administrators. Women can, and should, be carpenters, mec ...more
Marie Hoffman
Jan 13, 2020 rated it liked it
I’m surprised the book is getting the type of topic focused criticism it is. I’ve done volunteer work in feminine trauma healing and have seen the good that can come from this type of work. It’s made me curious as to where a male identified person could find treatment if they wanted to heal from a masculine wound (which presents as toxic masculinity). And there should be some written materials that people can reference specific to helping boys. This was the first book I’ve read on the topic and ...more
John Paul
Feb 21, 2019 rated it liked it
"When a mom hears her son complain, it triggers her instinct to protect."

This line made me chortle.
My mother's concept of protection was extra vaseline for thermometer sodomy. Four people in the house yet somehow I'm the only human with trace amounts of detectable body heat inside the viscera.

There were a lot of sad statistics in this book. The impact present father's have on sons and daughters is very real. I was not aware of the number of incarcerations or early deaths related to uninvolved d
Miguel Calvis
Jan 06, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Father absenteesim is one of the biggest social problems of our time and the root cause of many other problems. This book shows that with numerous examples and shares some tips and insights on what can we do about it. It marks the beginning of a revolution, just imagine a world in which every boy had a loving, caring, righteous, role model father next to him. Highly recommended for parents (specially fathers and single moms), uncles, teachers, mentors and polciy makers, basically everyone who ha ...more
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Warren Thomas Farrell is an American educator, activist and author of seven books on men's and women's issues.

He came to prominence in the 1970s, championing the cause of second wave feminism, and serving on the New York City Board of the National Organization for Women (NOW). However, he left NOW and is now recognized as an important figure in the modern men's movement.

His books cover ten fields:

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“Children living with their dad felt positively about their mom; children living with their mom were more likely to think negatively of their dad.” 2 likes
“Since dad is most at risk of being both bad-mouthed and less involved, lets look at three reasons bad-mouthing sin is in conflict with your child's best interest:
1. Your children grow up feeling, "I hate who I am."
2. Your children fear that "loving dad is betraying mom."
3. Bad-mouthing undermines dad's motivation to invest money and time in the bank of love and to become responible in response to the hope for love.”
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