Stay with Me Quotes

“If the burden is too much and stays too long, even love bends, cracks, comes close to breaking and sometimes does break. But when it's in a thousand pieces around your feet, that doesn't mean it's no longer love.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“Sometimes I think we have children because we want to leave behind someone who can explain who we were to the world when we are gone.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“So love is like a test, but in what sense? To what end? Who was carrying out the test? But I think I did believe that love had immense power to unearth all that was good in us, refine us and reveal to us the better versions of ourselves.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“Before you call the snail a weakling, tie your house to your back and carry it around for a week”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“I understand how a word others use every day can become something whispered in the dark to soothe a wound that just won't heal. I remember thinking I would never hear it spoken without unravelling a little, wondering if I would ever get to say it in the light. So I recognise the gift in this simple pronouncement, the promise of a beginning in this one word.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“OK, we'll tell her you dug the grave." It's the truth - stretch, but still true. Besides, what would be left of love without truth stretched beyond its limits, without those better versions of ourselves that we present as the only ones that exist?”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“I loved Yejide from the very first moment. No doubt about that. But there are things even love can’t do. Before I got married, I believed love could do anything. I learned soon enough that it couldn’t bear the weight of four years without children. If the burden is too much and stays too long, even love bends, cracks, comes close to breaking and sometimes does break. But even when it’s in a thousand pieces around your feet, that doesn’t mean it’s no longer love.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“It would take a while for me to realise that each of my children had given me as much as they took. My memories of them, bittersweet and constant, were as powerful as a physical presence. And because of that, as a bus bore me into the heart of a city I did not know, while my last child was dying in Lagos and the country was unraveling, I was not afraid because I was not alone.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“The reasons why we do the things we do will not always be the ones that others will remember. Sometimes”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“what would be left of love without truth stretched beyond its limits”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“But even then, I could trap those thoughts and keep them caged in a corner of my mind, in a place where they could not spread their wings and take over my life.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“I had expected them to talk about my childlessness. I was armed with millions of smiles. Apologetic smiles, pity-me smiles, I-look-unto-God smiles - name all the fake smiles needed to get through an afternoon with a group of people who claim to want the best for you while poking at your open sore with a stick - and I had them ready. I was ready to listen to them tell me I must do something about my situation. I expected to hear about a new pastor I could visit; a new mountain where I could go to pray; or an old herbalist in a remote village or town whom I could consult. I was armed with smiles for my lips, an appropriate sheen of tears for my eyes and sniffles for my nose. I was prepared to lock up my hairdressing salon throughout the coming week and go in search of a miracle with my mother-in-law in tow. What I was not expecting was another smiling woman in the room, a yellow woman with a blood-red mouth who grinned like a new bride.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“But the biggest lies are often the ones we tell ourselves. I bit my tongue because I did not want to ask questions. I did not ask questions because I did not want to know the answers. It was convenient to believe my husband was trustworthy; sometimes faith is easier than doubt.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“Already, I was coming undone, like a hastily tied scarf coming loose, on the ground before the owner is aware of it.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“I was armed with millions of smiles. Apologetic smiles, pity-me smiles, I-look-unto-God smiles—name all the fake smiles needed to get through an afternoon with a group of people who claim to want the best for you while poking at your open sore with a stick—and I had them ready.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“A mother must be vigilant. She must be able and willing to wake up ten times during the night to feed her baby. After her intermittent vigil, she must see everything clearly the next morning so that she can notice any changes in her baby. A mother is not permitted to have blurry vision. She must notice if her baby’s wail is too loud or too low. She must know if the child’s temperature has risen or fallen. A mother must not miss any signs.”
― Ayobami Adebayo, Stay with Me

“I would learn later that Akin could keep himself neatly folded in while he drew out other people. He was the kind of person that many claimed as a dear friend. Many of those people did not even know him, but they never knew they did not know him.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“Even the tongue and the teeth cannot cohabit without fighting”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“there is no god like a mother”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“There is nothing stopping a beautiful girl from facing her books”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“If the burden is too much and stays too long, even love bends, cracks, comes close to breaking and sometimes does break”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“This is it then – fifteen years here and, though my house is not on fire, all I’m taking is a bag of gold and a change of clothes. The things that matter are inside me, locked up below my breast as though in a grave, a place of permanence, my coffin-like treasure chest.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“Didn’t think it was possible for the world to change so suddenly. I was aware of other people moving up and down the corridor: I heard heels clicking, people speaking, felt some bodies push past mine. But I felt so alone, as though within the space of time it had taken Yejide to say, “They have taken Olamide to the mortuary” I had been transported to a planet with no human life.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“Before you call the snail a weakling, tie your house to your back and carry it around for a week,”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“But I think I did believe that love had immense power to unearth all that was good in us, refine us and reveal to us the better version ourselves”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“The road stretches before us, shrouded in a darkness transitioning into dawn as it leads me back to you.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“Di we ever really know what we will do in any situation until the situation presents itself?”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“My mother had become a obsession for me, a religion, and the very thought of referring to another woman as Mother seems sacrilegious, a betrayal of the woman who had given up her life for me to live.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“By the time she was discharged and they came home together, I looked at Akin differently. I did not see him as someone who had changed, but as a man I had never known. I doubted the love I had once been so sure of and concluded that he had married me because he thought I was gullible.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me

“I was realising that all the rage had been an affectation. Something I’d reached for to use as a defence against shame. Anger is easier than shame.”
― Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, Stay with Me