The Infj Writer Quotes

“If you are a Sensitive Intuitive, then you are also a born healer. Writing is one of your heart's passions, but only one. You also have a life purpose to use your healer abilities to be of service to the world.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“Some gifted people have all five and some less. Every gifted person tends to lead with one. As I read this list for the first time I was struck by the similarities between Dabrowski’s overexcitabilities and the traits of Sensitive Intuitives. Read the list for yourself and see what you identify with: Psychomotor This manifests as a strong pull toward movement. People with this overexcitability tend to talk rapidly and/or move nervously when they become interested or passionate about something. They have a lot of physical energy and may run their hands through their hair, snap their fingers, pace back and forth, or display other signs of physical agitation when concentrating or thinking something out. They come across as physically intense and can move in an impatient, jerky manner when excited. Other people might find them overwhelming and they’re routinely diagnosed as ADHD. Sensual This overexcitability comes in the form of an extreme sensitivity to sounds, smells, bright lights, textures and temperature. Perfume and scented soaps and lotions are bothersome to people with this overexcitability, and they might also have aversive reactions to strong food smells and cleaning products. For me personally, if I’m watching a movie in which a strobe light effect is used, I’m done. I have to shut my eyes or I’ll come down with a headache after only a few seconds. Loud, jarring or intrusive sounds also short circuit my wiring. Intellectual This is an incessant thirst for knowledge. People with this overexcitability can’t ever learn enough. They zoom in on a few topics of interest and drink up every bit of information on those topics they can find. Their only real goal is learning for learning’s sake. They’re not trying to learn something to make money or get any other external reward. They just happened to have discovered the history of the Ming Dynasty or Einstein’s Theory of Relativity and now it’s all they can think about. People with this overexcitability have intellectual interests that are passionate and wide-ranging and they study many areas simultaneously. Imaginative INFJ and INFP writers, this is you. This is ALL you. Making up stories, creating imaginary friends, believing in Santa Claus way past the ordinary age, becoming attached to fairies, elves, monsters and unicorns, these are the trademarks of the gifted child with imaginative overexcitability. These individuals appear dreamy, scattered, lost in their own worlds, and constantly have their heads in the clouds. They also routinely blend fiction with reality. They are practically the definition of the Sensitive Intuitive writer at work. Emotional Gifted individuals with emotional overexcitability are highly empathetic (and empathic, I might add), compassionate, and can become deeply attached to people, animals, and even inanimate objects, in a short period of time. They also have intense emotional reactions to things and might not be able to stomach horror movies or violence on the evening news. They have most likely been told throughout their life that they’re “too sensitive” or that they’re “overreacting” when in truth, they are expressing exactly how they feel to the most accurate degree.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“As you work more and put more energy into spreading your light and helping others, your life will begin to change and you will become more comfortable with your Sensitive Intuitive self. Ultimately, you will understand your gifts and how you were meant to use them here.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“Whatever emotional experience has made you who you are today is where you will find the seeds of your life purpose.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“Turn off your phone, shut down the internet, and lock yourself into that silent-hour. If you're not writing, then you're staring at the table. Those are your two options. You'd be surprised how easy it is to pick writing when there is literally nothing else to do.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“Every INFJ knows the feeling of approaching someone who seems slightly cold, maybe even dismissive, and being slowly let in when they see how earnest we are about appreciating them.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“Even with our closest friends, we hold back. We always hold back.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“Limitless compassion. Finding beauty in the underappreciated. Patience devoted to a job well loved. These are the values that set Sensitive Intuitives on fire. Not competition and not reward-based approval systems.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“You can be authentic with people and still maintain the strict levels of privacy the INFJ needs to feel healthy and safe.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“We (INFJs) form intimate connections with people just by breathing.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“It's entirely possible to sneak into a conference and sneak out again, armed with a ton of new knowledge, and without directly talking to anyone.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“People want to tell us about their stuff. They trust us, usually immediately and 100%. Probably because they know we're not going to tell anyone else. INFJs are like vaults with secrets. It's rare for us to dishonor someone else's private information even if it's someone we truly dislike.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“You have to actually do the exercises.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“the more I learned about what it meant to be an INFJ, the more I saw how my INFJ-ness infused my challenges, talents, and creative growth in the realm of writing.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“Kazimierz Dabrowski and his Theory of Positive Disintegration.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“Our natural way of being is to gently probe the core of other people, while keeping ours carefully hidden.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“Money is energy. The less money you have, the less energy you have. The less energy you have, the less you are able to give to the world.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“the beautifully-crafted stories they’re used to seeing in a final-product book become the demons that won’t stop haunting them while they’re working on their own sloppy first draft.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type

“When I was drinking I was doing it to suppress emotion, yes, but I was also doing it because it made me, for the first time in my life, able to be King Extrovert. And I loved that feeling. Under the influence of alcohol I could socialize with friends for hours, and not get drained. I could go to packed stadiums to watch games or concerts, and not get drained. I could flirt and mingle and chat with dozens of people over the course of a night and not…get…drained. It was like a miracle pill that erased all the parts of myself I had struggled with for years. The shyness, the awkward way I made small talk, the pounding headaches I got after too much noise and too many bright lights.”
― Lauren Sapala, The Infj Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World's Rarest Type