There Is No Good Card for This Quotes

“If we really want to have authentic connections with others, then we need to talk about two kinds of psychological baggage we tend to carry around, which make us completely self-conscious about our capacity to connect with people: (1) guilt about how we’ve let others down, and (2) resentment about being let down by others in the past.”
― Kelsey Crowe, There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love

“We consider compassion to be the heart’s natural, instinctive response to the pain of others. It’s most likely to occur when you encounter a person in a difficult situation very similar to one you have suffered. You know what it felt like when your husband left you, so you naturally feel compassion for your coworker when the same thing happens to her. Empathy is when you use your imagination to expand your ability to feel compassion for people in situations beyond those you have experienced, maybe even in situations completely different from those you have known. It’s a useful mental tool for developing more compassion.”
― Kelsey Crowe, There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love

“Guilt can be useful when it reminds us to do better, and when it lifts us up to be more responsible, mature people.”
― Kelsey Crowe, There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love

“Sometimes, we only need to know people are thinking about us and don’t need to always talk about what we are feeling.”
― Kelsey Crowe, There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love

“Empathy is when you use your imagination to expand your ability to feel compassion for people in situations beyond those you have experienced, maybe even in situations completely different from those you have known.”
― Kelsey Crowe, There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love

“To summarize, Monroe suggests a compassionate response is something we do, not just think about. Its benefit is solely for the other person, and the act might even diminish our welfare without any expectation of recognition on our part. That’s a pretty heroic list, which is why Monroe defines this set of qualities as “heroic compassion.”
― Kelsey Crowe, There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love

“Forgiveness comes when we’re able to recognize that the other person’s actions were more about them—their own motivations and context—than about us. (And that insight may or may not justify their behavior.) It’s not so much that we forgive to forget, but that we forgive in order to learn about others, learn about ourselves, and let go of resentments that hold us down.”
― Kelsey Crowe, There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love

“COMPASSION = NOTICE, Feel, RESPOND EMPATHY = COMPASSION + IMAGINATION”
― Kelsey Crowe, There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love

“Crying for days on end, feeling numb, not sleeping for weeks, pretending to not be grieving so other people feel more comfortable around you—it’s all exhausting.”
― Kelsey Crowe, There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love

“IF YOU’RE CHOOSING BETWEEN
SAYING SOMETHING
AND SAYING NOTHING,
YOU’RE ALMOST ALWAYS BETTER OFF
SAYING SOMETHING.”
― Kelsey Crowe, There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love