The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Quotes

“Depraved”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“The acceptance of my own death, this understanding of my own fragility, has made everything easier - untangling my addictions, identifying and confronting my own entitlement, accepting responsibility for my own problems - suffering through my fears and uncertainties, accepting my failures and embracing rejections - it has all been made lighter by the thought of my own death. The more I peek into the darkness, the brighter life gets, the quieter the world becomes and the less unconscious resistance I feel to, well, anything.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“lout,”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“chronic”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Improve my social life,” I can live up to my value of “good relations with others” regardless of how other people respond to me. My self-worth is based on my own behaviors and happiness.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“The denial of failure is a failure.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“if you’re dreaming of something all the time, then you’re reinforcing the same unconscious reality over and over: that you are not that.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“O segredo para uma vida melhor não é precisar de mais coisas; é se importar com menos, e apenas com o que é verdadeiro, imediato e importante.”
― Mark Manson, A sutil arte de ligar o f*da-se: Uma estratégia inusitada para uma vida melhor

“There’s a name for a person who finds no emotion or meaning in anything: a psychopath.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“if everyone were extraordinary, then by definition no one would be extraordinary—is missed by most people.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“No matter where you go, there’s a five-hundred-pound load of shit waiting for you.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Es una montaña de sueño y una escalada de kilómetros hasta la cima. Y lo que me tomó un gran tiempo descubrir es que no me agradaba escalar mucho.”
― Mark Manson, El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida

“This constant dissatisfaction has kept our species fighting and striving, building and conquering. So no—our own pain and misery aren’t a bug of human evolution; they’re a feature.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Happiness comes from solving problems. The keyword here is “solving.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“No importa a dónde vayas, siempre habrá una montaña de 500 kilos de excremento esperándote. Y está bien. El punto no es alejarse del excremento. El punto es encontrar el tipo de excremento con el que disfrutes lidiar.”
― Mark Manson, El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida

“Le damos demasiada importancia a la serie de televisión que nos gustaba y que cancelaron. Le damos demasiada importancia a nuestros compañeros de trabajo que no tuvieron la atención de preguntarnos cómo pasamos nuestro maravilloso fin de semana. Mientras tanto, nuestras tarjetas de crédito están rebasadas, nuestro perro nos odia y nuestro hijo consentido se mete cocaína encerrado en el baño; sin embargo, nos siguen molestando las monedas que nos dieron y la serie esa horrible que acaban de estrenar.”
― Mark Manson, El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida

“George Orwell dijo que ver lo que tienes frente a tu nariz requiere un esfuerzo constante. Bien, pues la solución a nuestro estrés y nuestra ansiedad se halla justo enfrente de nuestras narices, pero estamos demasiado ocupados viendo pornografía y publicidad sobre máquinas para hacer abdominales que no funcionan y preguntándonos por qué no tenemos una rubia preciosa en la cama esperando acariciar nuestro magnífico y bien marcado torso, como para darnos cuenta.”
― Mark Manson, El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida

“O desejo de ter mais experiências positivas é, em si, uma experiência negativa. E, paradoxalmente, a aceitação da experiência negativa é, em si, uma experiência positiva.”
― Mark Manson, A sutil arte de ligar o f*da-se: Uma estratégia inusitada para uma vida melhor

“الحياة هي ألا تعرف، وأن تفعل شيئًا بالرغم من ذلك...”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Uncertainty is the root of all progress and growth."
This quote demonstrates how good this book is because it shows how different it is. Whereas a normal self-help book would tell you "believe in yourself" and that "you know what you're doing," The Subtle Art encourages you to be real with yourself, and often times this includes admitting that you do not know, and this is okay because you know that you have room to grow and that you still have something to learn.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“An overbearing mother may take responsibility for every problem in her children’s lives. Her own entitlement then encourages an entitlement in her children, as they grow up to believe other people should always be responsible for their problems.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“We are defined by what we choose to reject. And if we reject nothing (perhaps in fear of being rejected by something ourselves), we essentially have no identity at all.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Erin is a self-improvement junkie.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“The rare people who do become truly exceptional at something do so not because they Believe they’re exceptional. On the contrary, they become amazing because they’re obsessed with improvement. And that obsession with improvement stems from an unerring belief that they are, in fact, not that great at all. It’s anti-entitlement. People who become great at something become great because they understand that they’re not already great—they are mediocre, they are average—and that they could be so much better.
All of this “every person can be extraordinary and achieve greatness” stuff is basically just jerking off your ego. It’s a message that tastes good going down, but in reality is nothing more than empty calories that make you emotionally fat and bloated, the proverbial Big Mac for your heart and your brain.
The ticket to emotional health, like that to physical health, comes from eating your veggies—that is, accepting the bland and mundane truths of life: truths such as “Your actions actually don’t matter that much in the grand scheme of things” and “The vast majority of your life will be boring and not noteworthy, and that’s okay.” This vegetable course will taste bad at first. Very bad. You will avoid accepting it.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Pleasure is a false god.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Good values are 1) reality-based, 2) socially constructive, and 3) immediate and controllable.

Bad values are 1) superstitious, 2) socially destructive, and 3) not immediate or controllable.

Honesty is a good value because it’s something you have complete control over, it reflects reality,
and it benefits others (even if it’s sometimes unpleasant). Popularity, on the other hand, is a bad value. If that’s your value, and if your metric is being the most popular guy/girl at the dance party, much of what happens will be out of your control: you don’t know who else will be at the event, and
you probably won’t know who half those people are. Second, the value/metric isn’t based on reality:
you may feel popular or unpopular, when in fact you have no fucking clue what anybody else really thinks about you. (Side Note: As a rule, people who are terrified of what others think about them are actually terrified of all the shitty things they think about themselves being reflected back at
them.)

Some examples of good, healthy values: honesty, innovation, vulnerability, standing up for oneself,
standing up for others, self-respect, curiosity, charity, humility, creativity.

Some examples of bad, unhealthy values: dominance through manipulation or violence, indiscriminate fucking, feeling good all the time, always being the center of attention, not being alone, being liked by everybody, being rich for the sake of being rich, sacrificing small animals to the pagan gods.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“But one night, while reading lectures by the philosopher Charles Peirce, James decided to conduct a little experiment. In his diary, he wrote that he would spend one year believing that he was 100 percent responsible for everything that occurred in his life, no matter what. During this period, he would do everything in his power to change his circumstances, no matter the likelihood of failure. If nothing improved in that year, then it would be apparent that he was truly powerless to the circumstances around him, and then he would take his own life.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“When we learn something new, we don’t go from “wrong” to “right.” Rather, we go from wrong to slightly less wrong. And when we learn Something additional, we go from slightly less wrong to slightly less wrong than that, and then to even less wrong than that, and so on. We are always in the process of approaching truth and perfection without actually ever reaching truth or perfection.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Our brains are meaning machines. What we understand as “meaning” is generated by the associations our brain makes between two or more experiences. We press a button, then we see a light go on; we assume the button caused the light to go on. This, at its core, is the basis of meaning. Button, light; light, button. We see a chair. We note that it’s gray. Our brain then draws the association between the color (gray) and the object (chair) and forms meaning: “The chair is gray.”
Our minds are constantly whirring, generating more and more associations to help us understand and control the environment around us. Everything about our experiences, both external and internal, generates new associations and connections within our minds. Everything from the words on this page, to the grammatical concepts you use to decipher them, to the dirty thoughts your mind wanders into when my writing becomes boring or repetitive—each of these thoughts, impulses, and perceptions is composed of thousands upon thousands of neural connections, firing in conjunction, alighting your mind in a blaze of knowledge and understanding. But there are two problems. First, the brain is imperfect. We mistake things we see and hear. We forget things or misinterpret events quite easily.
Second, once we create meaning for ourselves, our brains are designed to hold on to that meaning. We are biased toward the meaning our mind has made, and we don’t want to let go of it. Even if we see evidence that contradicts the meaning we created, we often ignore it and keep on believing anyway.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Most of us commit to action only if we feel a certain level of motivation. And we feel motivation only when we feel enough emotional inspiration. We assume that these steps occur in a sort of chain
reaction, like this:

Emotional inspiration → Motivation → Desirable action

If you want to accomplish something but don’t feel motivated or inspired, then you assume you’re just screwed. There’s nothing you can do about it. It’s not until a major emotional life event occurs that you can generate enough motivation to actually get off the couch and do something.
The thing about motivation is that it’s not only a three-part chain, but an endless loop:

Inspiration → Motivation → Action → Inspiration→ Motivation → Action→ Etc.

Your actions create further emotional reactions and inspirations and move on to motivate your future actions. Taking advantage of this knowledge, we can actually reorient our mindset in the following way:

Action → Inspiration → Motivation”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life