The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Quotes

“What is objectively true about your situation is not as important as how you come to see the situation, how you choose to measure it and value it. Problems may be inevitable, but the meaning of each problem is not.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“The third level is our personal values: Why do I consider this to be success/failure? How am I choosing to measure myself? By what standard am I judging myself and everyone around me?”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Why am I suffering—for what purpose?”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“[...] Nas redes sociais, o compartilhamento público de "injustiças" atrai muito mais atenção e simpatia gratuita aqueles que se sentem perpetuamente vitimados.
A "injustiça chique" está na moda em todos os cantos da sociedade hoje em dia, entre ricos e pobres. Na verdade, esta pode ser a primeira vez na história da humanidade em que todos os grupos demográicos se sentem injustamente vitimados ao mesmo tempo. E Todos aproveitam a euforia da indignação moral que vem junto.
Neste momento, qualquer um que se sinta ofendido com qualquer coisa [...] acha que está sofrendo algum tipo de opressão e que, portanto, merece se sentir ultrajado e receber determinada quantidade de atenção.
O atual ambiente da mídia tanto encoraja quanto perpetua essas reações, porque, no final das contas, dá lucro. O escritor e comentarista Ryan Holiday se refere a isso como “pornografia do ultraje”: em vez de reportar histórias e problemas reais, a mídia acha muito mais fácil (e lucrativo) encontrar algo levemente ofensivo, transmitir o caso para uma ampla audiência, criar a sensação de ultraje e depois transmiti-la de um jeito que também cause ultraje a outra parcela da população. Isso desencadeia um eco de asneiras que ricocheteia entre dois lados imaginários e ao mesmo tempo distrai dos verdadeiros problemas e injustiças da sociedade. Não é de se estranhar que estejamos mais politicamente polarizados do que nunca.
O maior problema da injustiça chique é desviar a atenção das vítimas reais. É como uma overdose de alarmismo. Quanto mais gente se autoproclama vítima de pequenas infrações, mais difícil é enxergar quem realmente sofre.
As pessoas se viciam em se sentir constantemente ofendidas porque isso lhes traz euforia: ser hipócrita e moralmente superior provoca bem-estar. Como disse o cartunista político Tim Kreider, em um editorial do The New York Times: "O ultraje é como várias outras coisas agradáveis que com o tempo nos devoram de dentro para fora. E é ainda mais insidioso que a maioria dos vícios, porque sequer o reconhecemos conscientemente como um prazer".”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Because here’s the thing that’s wrong with all of the “How to Be Happy” shit that’s been shared eight million times on Facebook in the past few years—here’s what nobody realizes about all of this crap:
The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.
This is a total mind-fuck. So I’ll give you a minute to unpretzel your brain and maybe read that again: Wanting positive experience is a negative experience; accepting negative experience is a positive experience. It’s what the philosopher Alan Watts used to refer to as “the backwards law”—the idea that the more you pursue feeling better all the time, the less satisfied you become, as pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you lack it in the first place. The more you desperately want to be rich, the more poor and unworthy you feel, regardless of how much money you actually make. The more you desperately want to be sexy and desired, the uglier you come to see yourself, regardless of your actual physical appearance.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“A person who actually has a high self-worth is able to look at the negative parts of his character frankly—“Yes, sometimes I’m irresponsible with money,” “Yes, sometimes I exaggerate my own successes,” “Yes, I rely too much on others to support me and should be more self-reliant”—and then acts to improve upon them. But entitled people, because they are incapable of acknowledging their own problems openly and honestly, are incapable of improving their lives in any lasting or meaningful way. They are left chasing high after high and accumulate greater and greater levels of denial. But eventually reality must hit, and the underlying problems will once again make themselves clear. It’s just a question of when, and how painful it will be.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“The true measurement of self-worth is not how a person feels about her positive experiences, but rather how she feels about her negative experiences”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“But a true and accurate measurement of one’s self-worth is how people feel about the negative aspects of themselves”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“What creates our positive experiences will define our negative experiences.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“This is a difficult pill to swallow. We like the idea that there’s some form of ultimate happiness that can be attained. We like the idea that we can alleviate all of our suffering permanently. We like the idea that we can feel fulfilled and satisfied with our lives forever. But we cannot.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“If you make a sacrifice for someone you care about, it needs to be because you want to, not because you fee obligated or because you fear the consequences of not doing so. If your partner is going to make a sacrifice for you, it needs to because he or she genuinely wants to, not because you've manipulated the sacrifice through anger or guilt. Acts of love are valid only if they're performed without conditions or expectations.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Rather, a healthy relationship is when two people solve their own problems in order to feel good about each other.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“No one makes it thru life without collecting a few few scars on the way out.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Problems never stop; they merely get exchanged and/or upgraded. Happiness comes from solving problems. The keyword here is “solving.” If you’re avoiding your problems or feel like you don’t have any problems, then you’re going to make yourself miserable.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“This premise, though, is the problem. Happiness is not a solvable equation.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“We’re all going to die, all of us. What a circus! That alone should make us love each other, but it doesn’t. We are terrorized and flattened by life’s trivialities; we are eaten up by nothing.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Entitlement closes in upon itself in a kind of narcissistic bubble, distorting anything and everything in such a way as to reinforce itself. People who feel entitled view every occurrence in their life as either an affirmation of, or a threat to, their own greatness. If something good happens to them, it’s because of some amazing feat they accomplished. If something bad happens to them, it’s because somebody is jealous and trying to bring them down a notch. Entitlement is impervious. People who are entitled delude themselves into whatever feeds their sense of superiority. They keep their mental facade standing at all costs, even if it sometimes requires being physically or emotionally abusive to those around them.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Hay un simple detalle del que se deriva toda mejora personal y todo crecimiento: la comprensión de que somos, individualmente, responsables de todo en nuestras vidas, sin importar las circunstancias externas.”
― Mark Manson, El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida

“Speakers and professors are shouted down and banned from campuses for infractions as simple as suggesting that maybe some Halloween costumes really aren’t that offensive.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Este Maldito círculo vicioso del sobreanálisis se ha convertido casi en una epidemia; a muchos nos pone más estresados, más neuróticos, y propicia que nos despreciemos más. En la época de mi abuelo, si se sentía mal consigo mismo pensaba: “Caray, hoy me siento como excremento de vaca . . . Pero, bueno, supongo que así es la vida. A seguir paleando la paja”.”
― Mark Manson, El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida

“Those people whose opinions we cared about so much before are no longer present in our lives. Rejections that were painful in the moment have actually worked out for the best. We realize how little attention people pay to the superficial details about us, and we choose not to obsess so much over them.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“You will see every adversity as an injustice, every challenge as a failure, every inconvenience as a personal slight, every disagreement as a betrayal. You will be confined to your own petty, skull-sized hell, burning with entitlement and bluster, running circles around your very own personal Feedback Loop from Hell, in constant motion yet arriving nowhere.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Because when you give too many fucks—when you give a fuck about everyone and everything—you will feel that you’re perpetually entitled to be comfortable and happy at all times, that everything is supposed to be just exactly the fucking way you want it to be.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“The pain of honest confrontation is what generates the greatest trust and respect in your relationships.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“And if you’re dreaming of something all the time, then you’re reinforcing the same unconscious reality over and over: that you are not that.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“After all, no truly happy person feels the need to stand in front of a mirror and recite that she’s happy. She just is.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Our culture today is obsessively focused on unrealistically positive expectations: Be happier. Be healthier.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“a question that most people never consider, is, “What pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?” Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“Because when we believe that it’s not okay for things to suck sometimes, then we unconsciously start blaming ourselves. We”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“The current media environment both encourages and perpetuates these reactions because after all it's good for business. The writer and media commenter Ryan Holiday refers to this as "outrage porn": rather than report on real stories and real issues, the media find it much easier (and more profitable) to find something mildly offensive, broadcast it to a wide audience, generate outrage, and then broadcast that outrage back across the population in a way that outrages yet another part of the population. This triggers a kind of echo of bullshit pinging back and forth between two imaginary sides, meanwhile distracting everyone from real societal problems. It's no wonder we're more politically polarized than ever before.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life