I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye Quotes

“Grief:” You don’t get over it you just get through it you don’t get by it because you can’t get around it it doesn’t “get better” it just gets different every day . . . grief puts on a new face.”
― Brook Noel, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

“May you see light where there was only darkness, hope where there seemed nothing but despair, may your fear be replaced with faith and insight, may you feel some victory in the defeat and a sense of the sacred web into which we are all woven. Most of all may you stay in tune with your capacity to love life even as you are engulfed by death.”
― Brook Noel, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

“a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.”
― Brook Noel, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

“I should have known” or “If only I had talked to him for two minutes longer” or “I shouldn’t have left her bedside” are sentiments that those who grieve may say to themselves. Realize this guilt is a way of trying to gain control over the uncontrollable, and then work to let it go. Each time it enters, remember that this is our longing for control, but don’t give in to the guilt. You cannot change what has happened and odds are you couldn’t have changed it beforehand. No one knows these things are going to happen—no one has that much control or foresight. Brook found that she ran on the “I should’ve known” treadmill.”
― Brook Noel, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

“Brook sought the help of a psychotherapist in working through grief. The psychotherapist had a valuable viewpoint on exhaustion. “Her first words to me were simple and powerful. ‘Brook,’ she said, ‘What has happened here has the same effect on you as if you had gone through major surgery. Consider yourself in intensive care and treat yourself as if you are in intensive care.’ Her point hit home. Although emotionally I had experienced a ‘triple bypass,’ I expected myself to return to jogging the day after. My body was carrying its own messages of what it needed—and that was rest and extra care.” There are many remedies for exhaustion. People may prescribe vitamin combinations, exercise, eating well, staying busy, and more. The suggestion of the psychotherapist is perhaps the most important: You are in recovery. Give yourself some time to grieve and let the emotions work through you. If you jump to stay busy now, to sidetrack part of the grieving process, it will only resurface down the road.”
― Brook Noel, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

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― Brook Noel, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

“What we call the beginning is often the end. To make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.” —T.S. Eliot”
― Brook Noel, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

“Do not stand at my grave and weep I am not there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the sunlight On the ripened grain. I am the gentle Autumn’s rain. When you awaken in the morning hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry. I am not there. I did not die. —Hopi Prayer”
― Brook Noel, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

“Needed: A strong, deep person wise enough to allow me to grieve in the depth of who I am, and strong enough to hear my pain without turning away.”
― Brook Noel, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

“reason for prolonged illness. I like this thought.”
― Brook Noel, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

“PATHFINDER You learn to take a little bit extra on the in-breath just in case you come up short when heartbreak comes. You learn to lean a little less than most, just enough to catch yourself and keep a balance should you start to fall toward the abyss. You learn to love a little more intensely should life send grief to poke you in the eye and a golden moment pass unseen. You learn to speak the language of the heart more clearly to the ones you love just because there’s so many ways the night can come and stop you in your tracks, so many ways the boot can crush the rose.” Marilyn Houston—Springfield,”
― Brook Noel, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

“the grief associated with bereavement is one of the most profound of all human emotions—and one of the most lethal.”
― Brook Noel, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One