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I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

4.04  ·  Rating details ·  982 ratings  ·  101 reviews
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Each year about eight million Americans suffer the death of a close family member. The list of high visibility disasters, human suffering and sudden loss in long and will continue to grow. From TWA Flight 800 to Egypt Air 990, from Oklahoma City to Columbine, daily we face incomprehensible loss. Outside the publicized tragedies there are many
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Published January 1st 2000 by Sourcebooks
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Kay Berkley Not really, it is more generic than that and isn't promoting one particular religion. It gives to some stability in your world which is spinning out…moreNot really, it is more generic than that and isn't promoting one particular religion. It gives to some stability in your world which is spinning out of control after the sudden death of someone you love. I bought it after my sister was killed in a car accident going to get us some lunch. I just had a second death in my family that was premature, my 22 year old great nephew. I haven't finished it yet but I will. I recommend it to anyone in this situation of loosing someone close to you. The book separates myth and reality so you can grieve and know you are not going crazy.(less)

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Jul 01, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
My dad died the day before Valentine's Day. He was 52 and his heart just stopped.

Shock is an amazing thing - it let's you get through horrible times without fully feeling the torrent of emotions raging through you. But then shock wears off, and in my case, I had to go back to a city where I don't have family to deal with my grief by myself.

I picked up this book and a couple others hoping to find out that there was an end to the pain I was feeling. There isn't one. But there is a new normal that
Tom Harrington
Jul 31, 2014 rated it really liked it
Having lost my wife - suddenly, unexpectedly - last month, I found a lot of good helpful information in this book, including helpful exercises to make dealing with this incredibly weird grieving process a bit easier, and a lot more understandable.

However, the book loses one star because the authors certainly push their obvious Christianity down the readers' throats. I found that to be unhelpful to say the least. I realize some people need that sort of thing, but I don't believe it is an
Doug DePew
Jan 25, 2012 rated it it was amazing
I've struggled for months with what appeared to be a mid-life crisis. In researching how to get through it, I tracked the source down to delayed grief. I lost my brother in 1995 and my dad in 2000 in very similar auto accidents. I don't think I ever grieved them properly and it surfaced in my forties. This book is one of the ones I found to address my particular situation.

This is a well written guidebook to carry anyone through the experience of losing a close loved one suddenly. It contains
Michelle Jarvie
Jan 14, 2015 rated it it was amazing
One of the best grief books because it (1) tackles the myths/stereotypes of the grief process and (2) presents different segments for every kind of relationship (friend, spouse, child, parent, etc.). Extremely well-written and thoughtful.
Sep 01, 2018 added it
One of the better grief books I think. Also one of the few that specifically talks about sibling death and how it fucking blows
Mar 13, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
On March 4th 2016 my mother passed away. She was only 59.

Reading this book comforted me in my sorrow.
May 16, 2018 rated it liked it
I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye is a comprehensive self-help book for those who've experienced a sudden death - of many kinds. It is comprehensive, and all encompassing, which is its strong point and its weak point at the same time. I have experienced such a loss with my brother, and with several friends, so was eager to read it. It started out well, however, I found it so thorough and heavy that I became bogged down about one third to one half way through. My recommendation is to read just the ...more
Linda Knight Crane
Oct 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Excellent book aid for grief. Practical advice. Divided into segments so you can jump around or skip those that do not pertain to you. Whether youre grieving or know someone whos grieving. A great reference book that I will go back to for continual support as I will never get over my grief. ...more
Francie Mooney
Jul 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This was the first book I purchased after my husband completed suicide. It is the book I loan or suggest when someone asks me what to read after a suicide.

Brook Noel has written a story of grief and recovery. Letting people know that it is okay to grieve the way you want or need to, not how others expect you to.
Nov 12, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction
Very helpful - written by two therapists who have walked the path of losing someone too young, suddenly, and unexpectedly. They do a beautiful job of outlining the complicated nature of grief within the context of complex human relationships, providing specific information for those who have lost a spouse, parent, child, sibling, friend. Really helpful to me to identify my symptoms of grief and know they are normal and that these, too, will change as time continues without my sister. Chapters on ...more
Oct 14, 2008 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
pretty good in terms of practical advice for both the bereaved and those who want to be supportive. specific sections for getting through the early days, the first year, holiday & such, and different types of losses (i.e., parent, child, suicide, multiple losses).some chapters could be more detailed--the one on helping children grieve, for instance, is kind of sparse, though it did give me some good information i hadn't known. overall i think it's a really good resource book, targeted to ...more
Mar 12, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This book has helped me through the most devastating time in my life with the loss of my son....I was so lost and in a fog for awhile till I started reading this book which has helped me through day by day along this new path of mine...I have bought it for a number of friends who have gone through similar loss and they also have told me how much they appreciated having this book given to them....Thanks to the authors for providing sound and great insight into dealing with loss and grief.
Jun 09, 2008 rated it really liked it
This book helped me during a period of grief.
I had lost my sister, niece, and nephew within a 2 1/2 month period and I was grieving. It went through each step of the
griving process and helped relieve some of
the loss I felt because I related to what
I was going thru at that point. It gave true
stories of people who had lost their love
ones in their life.
Theresa Bradley
Mar 14, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I liken this book to "the grief bible!" "I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One" is a must read. Authors, Brook Noel and Dr. Pam Blair both experienced sudden loss of their loved ones. Noel lost her older brother, Caleb, who at twenty-seven died of an allergic reaction to a bee sting. Dr. Pam Blair lost her ex-husband and child's father to a brain aneurysm.

Through their shared experience with sudden loss, they vulnerably and candidly
Sue Summerill
Jun 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Totally true!

I wish there was a cure for grieving but there just is not. I wish I had this book when my son was killed in an auto accident fifty years ago. I wish I could explain grief to my be so they would not call my father crazy.My dad lost his wife of seventy years a year ago. I have suffered tragic loss and fully understand my father's grief. God bless all who have to go through grief from a death. You learn how to cope,but you never forget it.
Rebecca Richardson
Jun 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I bought this book a few months after my 21 year old daughter passed away in 2008.

This book has different sections specific to the type of loss, i.e. spouse, parent, child, etc. I found that to be very helpful.

For me, it was comforting. I have reread parts of it again over the years.

If you or someone you know is dealing with the sudden loss of a loved one, I would highly recommend this book.
Eric Schifferli
Feb 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Good Overall First Read After Traumatic Loss.

This book offers empathy, guideposts, practical advice and additional resources for those who have just suffered the sudden loss of a loved one. Good for trying to figure out how to care for yourself, as well as your grieving loved one.
Jennifer Gamboa
Aug 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This is the first book I read about dealing with death. It was during a time in my life when I experienced major losses in a short period of time. Not many people could relate to me so this book provided me that relatability I needed and thus helped me through that dark time.
Danelle Janney
I havent finished this book. I probably wont. I dont feel it caught me attention more was for me. My grief was 6 years ago. I knew mY sister was dying of ALS. It wasnt surprising or sudden. But I wasnt ready for her to go. I hope the book helps others. ...more
Craig Tuller
Dec 27, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Excellent book for those who are dealing with a sudden, unexpected death in the family (or otherwise).

Certainly helped me to cope with my son's death. Am still healing though, even 10 years later.

I have purchased copies and sent to various friend's dealing with tragic loss.
Feb 14, 2018 rated it really liked it
This book has been very helpful to me over the last few weeks.
Eileen Carter
This was so helpful

This book has really helped me. So much information that was really helpful to me at this stage in of my grief process.
Nov 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
this book was a real help to me
Jun 19, 2017 rated it liked it
I found this book more helpful than others I've read on grief since it specifically discussed sudden loss.
Ali Hysong
Jan 13, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Incredibly well written with an in-depth approach on the grieving process and many myths associated with it. This will be a book I am sure I will come back to many times.
Jul 06, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I'd highly recommend this book for people experiencing sudden deaths. It was filled with golden advice or antidotes on every page but there were certain parts that I will remember forever.
Jun 05, 2018 rated it it was ok
The book felt very generic.
Apr 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
So helpful after a sudden death in our family. We all read it.
Mary 🌸
Mar 13, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2019
Good practical advice on coping with a sudden death of a loved one.

Would recommend the advice in the first few weeks and some of the coping exercises.
Kathleen Kirchner
Feb 17, 2019 rated it liked it
Meh its okay to be sad? Yeah duh. ...more
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Brook Noel is the author of nineteen books, specializing in grief and bereavement and life management and balance for todays busy woman.

Noel is known for going beyond the book by creating a whole experience to interact and support her readers through online and in-person events, Q&A chats, message boards, and communities. She maintains two regular columns, The Daily Rush and Good Morning, and

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