Nasty People Quotes

“Only the weak are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong. —LEO BUSCAGLIA”
― Jay Carter, Nasty People

“لماذا؟ لأن هناك بعض الناس يشعرون بالضآلة الشديدة مما يجعلهم تواقين للتأثير على الآخرين”
― جاي كارتر, Nasty People

“They may talk rapidly and say things that will rip your heart right out of your chest. They can be very invalidating. Their conscience is diminished during the mania, so they may do or say things that seem unconscionable. In their normal state of mind, they may be quite personable and conscientious. If you have friends or relatives who have this imbalance, you really need to not take what they say personally when they are manic. Most of us think things we would never actually say, but mania can be a direct thought-to-mouth process. During the mania, the prefrontal lobe of the brain is diminished, so their judgment is poor, even though they may think brilliantly. They are not in tune to the bigger picture of things or the consequences of what they do. They may intellectually know what they are doing, but they are not engaged in the bigger picture. They feel good, and they may have what I call the trilogy operating: ego, arrogance, and entitlement. I know you might think that people can always help what they say, but if you do think that, refer to the section above on narcissism. Sometimes they really can’t help it. I am not trying to make excuses for them. I am merely trying to point out that it is not personal. What”
― Jay Carter, Nasty People

“Every time you meet a situation, though you think at the time it is an impossibility and you go through the tortures of the damned, once you have met it and lived through it, you find that forever after you are freer than you were before. —ELEANOR ROOSEVELT”
― Jay Carter, Nasty People

“There is a certain feeling that goes along with a double bind, a feeling of being trapped. This feeling should be your cue to start being aware of your environment. This feeling should automatically make you stop thinking, stop introverting. Remove yourself from the immediate situation, and take a look at what’s happening. Once an invalidator has you introverted and thinking, you are under his or her control. The solution: Do not introvert. Do not take it personally. Step back and take a look. Do not defend yourself. Try to notice what makes the invalidator want to put you on the spot.”
― Jay Carter, Nasty People

“إن المحقر الحق سيقول أي شيء يضمن به بقاءك إلى جواره؛ لأنه يتعين عليه الإبقاء عليك, لكن لا لأنه يحبك, بل لأنه مدفوع للسيطرة عليك, ولأنك تشبع رغباته في التحكم والسلطة. إنه مضطر لتملكك لأنك تخدم أغراضه, لا لأنه يهتم لأمرك. إن اهتمامه بك ينحصر فقط في العثور على نقاط ضعفك والتركيز عليها, من أجل السيطرة عليك.”
― جاي كارتر, Nasty People