Love Me, Don't Leave Me Quotes

“The more intense the emotions that get activated, the more likely it is that you are responding to your parent (or the offending person from your past), not the person you are with at that moment.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“Your childhood is in the past, but your current situation is triggering your story and making you feel like you’re back in it. So your natural instinct—your biologically driven need to protect yourself—kicks in, and you are engaged in a behavioral reaction designed to rid you of the painful thoughts and emotions, but instead it makes you feel worse.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“When we’re in a situation or engaging in an interaction and a look, words, or an action trigger one of our core beliefs, our memories get activated, and that releases a powerful dose of negative emotions that fuels our fight, flight, or freeze response. This system that’s hardwired in us is actually creating relationship problems: we’re behaving as if there is a threat of death when it’s really emotional harm—sure, it makes us feel bad, but it’s not going to kill us.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“Let it all happen as you watch: thoughts…sensations…feelings. It’s all just weather, while you are the sky. As the sky, you just let the weather pass. …You simply watch…label…and let go.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“Core beliefs are triggered by stressful social situations and interactions. And core beliefs are highly emotional—when triggered they produce strong feelings of fear, shame, anxiety, despair, depression, loss, grief, and so on.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“Your core beliefs have characteristics that make them challenging, but not impossible, to overcome. They are unconditional in that you experience them as deeply held truths about yourself, others, and your environment. They are resistant to change because they are ingrained from childhood. They are self-perpetuating in that the behaviors that get triggered seem to confirm the core belief, so it reinforces your story.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“Accept that these thoughts will always be there and that you need to just let your thoughts come and go even though they will be painful and disturbing at times.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“Failure Core Belief If you have a failure core belief you may have thoughts that include: Most of my peers are more successful than I am. I am not as smart as other people in my life. I feel ashamed that I don’t measure up to others. I don’t possess any special talents.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“Defectiveness Core Belief If you have a defectiveness core belief your thoughts may include: If people really knew me they would reject me. I am unworthy of love. I feel shame about my faults. I present a false self because if people saw the real me they wouldn’t like me.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“Emotional Deprivation Core Belief If you have an emotional deprivation core belief your thoughts may include: I feel lonely. I don’t get the love that I need. I don’t have anyone in my life who really cares about me or meets my emotional needs. I don’t feel emotionally connected to anyone.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“It matters not what road you take but what you become on the journey.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“The themes in your story are probably sabotaging your relationships or at least making them more difficult.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“When your story and the corresponding core beliefs get activated, they can disrupt or sabotage your attempts at creating healthy relationships.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“You can’t change your past, but you can begin your journey by understanding it.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

“It’s an old and familiar feeling. The emphasis is on how familiar it feels.”
― Michelle Skeen, Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships