WHY MEN HATE GOING TO CHURCH Quotes

“Your system is perfectly designed to give you the results you’re getting.”
― David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church

“When Christ called disciples, he did not say, “Come, have a personal relationship with me.” No, he simply said, “Follow me.” Hear the difference? Follow me suggests a mission. A goal. But a personal relationship with Jesus suggests we’re headed to Starbucks for some couple time.”
― David Murrow, WHY MEN HATE GOING TO CHURCH

“But a Christ who is all grace cannot stir the masculine soul. Deep down, men long for a harsh affection—the love of a coach who yells at his players to get every ounce of effort; the love of a drill sergeant who pushes his recruits to the limits of human endurance; the love of a teacher who demands the impossible from his students. As Western society feminizes, it’s getting harder for men to find this kind of love. The Lion of Judah offers harsh father-love in abundance—yet he’s becoming an endangered species in the modern church.”
― David Murrow, WHY MEN HATE GOING TO CHURCH

“Men are hard-wired for risk taking—particularly young men. The number one killer of fifteen- to twenty-four-year-old males is accidents.6 Female investors hold less risky investment portfolios than their male counterparts and generally take fewer chances with their money.
Churches need men because men are natural risk takers—and they bring that orientation into the church. Congregations that do not take risks atrophy. Jesus made it clear that risk taking is necessary to please God. In the parable of the talents, the master praises two servants who risked their assets and produced more, but he curses the servant who played it safe. He who avoids all risk is, in the words of Jesus, “wicked and lazy".”
― David Murrow, WHY MEN HATE GOING TO CHURCH

“Western men are openly hostile toward the Christian faith, I believe most are simply ambivalent toward it. What’s more troubling, the men who do go to church seem to become more passive and detached by the”
― David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church

“People are so convinced of God’s meekness they no longer fear his wrath. (Who fears a raging lamb?) God is not seen as a judge who holds us accountable for our actions; he is a protector who watches over us. He’s no longer a disciplining father; he is a doting grandfather.”
― David Murrow, WHY MEN HATE GOING TO CHURCH

“Men tend to be more orthodox in belief. Their concern for the rules keeps a congregation from drifting toward mushy moral relativism.”
― David Murrow, WHY MEN HATE GOING TO CHURCH

“Dr. Woody Davis studied this issue more formally. Davis “conducted a series of focus groups to identify the primary themes of the Christian faith. The ten most mentioned responses all came from American culture’s feminine set, including such themes as support, nurture, humility and dependence.”2 There’s widespread agreement—among the religious and the irreligious alike—that genuine Christianity is, at its core, a soft, nurturing faith. To “be like Christ” means always loving, always caring, always compassionate, and always gentle. Jesus does not judge people; he hugs them.”
― David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church

“Here’s a mind bender: What if we canceled the children’s ministry and put that effort into building up the men of the church? I firmly believe that such an approach would, in the long run, win more youth to Christ. It would also save more marriages and produce happier women. Children’s ministry and youth ministry are good things—but spiritually healthy male role models are the best thing.”
― David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church

“lamented, “Too often sissy fellows have paraded themselves as representatives of Christianity’s crowning work and characterization”
― David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church

“Many have called men back to church. Now it’s time to call the church back to men.”
― David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church

“Why are churches so unproductive? They try to be all things to all people. They can’t say no. They do too much and end up doing a lot of things poorly. They keep adding ministry programs but never prune the ineffective ones. But parachurch organizations do one thing—such as hunger relief, housing for the poor, vaccinations, or Bible translation—and do it very well. Productivity fires the imaginations of men.”
― David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church