Taoist Secrets of Love Quotes

“At heart most men are as terrified of women's infinite sexualcapacity as they are fascinated by it. The general effect on men isto make them feel sexually insecure and causes them to attempt tocompensate with some other strength. Sexual insecurity may bethe primary reason men have sought physical, political, financial,intellectual, and religious advantage over woman.”
― Mantak Chia, Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy

“How can you love a woman in your arms if you are
busy holding another one in your dreams?”
― Mantak Chia, Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy

“13. If the goal is to build up one's sexual energy, what's the
harm of sleeping with a lot of different women (or men) to increase
your ching chi?
Chia: The goal is not to build up one's sexual energy—it is to
transform raw sexual energy into a refined subtle energy. Sex is
only one means of doing that. Promiscuity can easily lower your
energy if you choose partners with moral or physical weakness.
If you lie with degenerates, it may hurt you, in that you can
temporarily acquire your partner's vileness. By exchanging subtle
energy, you actually absorb the other's substance. You become the
other person and assume new karmic burdens. This is why old
couples resemble each other so closely: they have exchanged so
much energy that they are made of the same life-stuff. This practice
accelerates this union, but elevates it to a higher level of spiritual
experience.

So the best advice I can give is to never compromise your
integrity of body, mind and spirit. In choosing a lover you are
choosing your destiny, so make sure you love the woman with
whom you have sex. Then you will be in harmony with what flows
from the exchange and your actions will be proper.
If you think you can love two women at once, be ready to
spend double the chi to transform and balance their energy. I doubt
if many men can really do that and feel deep serenity. For the sake
of simplicity, limit yourself to one woman at a time. It takes a lot of
time and energy to cultivate the subtle energies to a deep level.
It is impossible to define love precisely. You have to consult
your inner voice. But cultivating your chi energy sensitizes you to
your conscience. What was a distant whisper before may become a
very loud voice. For your own sake, do not abandon your integrity
for the sake of physical pleasure or the pretense that you are doing
deep spiritual exercises. If you sleep with one whom you don't
love, your subtle energies will not be in balance and psychic warfare can begin. This will take its toll no matter how far apart you
are physically until you sever or heal the psychic connection. It's
better to be honest in the beginning.
For the same reason make love only when you feel true tenderness within yourself. Your power to love will thus grow
stronger. Selfish or manipulative use of sex even with someone
with whom you are in love can cause great disharmony. If you feel
unable to use your sexual power lovingly, then do not use it at all!
Sex is a gleaming, sharp, two-edged sword, a healing tool that can
quickly become a weapon. If used for base purposes, it cuts you
mercilessly. If you haven't found a partner with whom you can be
truly gentle, then simply touch no one. Go back to building your
internal energy and when it gets high you will either attract a
quality lover or learn a deeper level within yourself.”
― Mantak Chia, Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy

“Sex essence is the source of all energy available for creative and thinking processes (shien).”
― Mantak Chia, Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy

“Taoists view any attempt to describe the totality of nature, the Tao, as futile. They found it far more useful to find ways of experiencing deeper harmony with it.”
― Mantak Chia, Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy

“Sperm is the storehouse of male sexual energy. A single ejaculation has 200 to 500 million sperm cells, each a potential human being. There are enough spermotozoa lost in a single orgasm to populate the entire United States if each cell was to fertilize an egg.”
― Mantak Chia, Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy

“The actual Taoist practices themselves are as simple to understand as the sun and the moon, because the ancient Taoists used the natural elements of the universe as their teacher. They watched the way plants and animals lived and died, how the weather effected their own metabolism, and how their subtle energies varied with the seasons, the earth’s tilt toward the sun and stars, and the phases of the moon. Before language was even invented the sages observed the balance of forces in nature and then found that same harmony within themselves. Life is simple and natural if you keep it that way. No extraneous cultural images or religious concepts are needed to decorate the original and natural vision of the Tao as harmonious nature.”
― Mantak Chia, Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy

“The Taoists call the balance of mind within which this alchemical process of transformation effortlessly occurs “Wu Wei". This is translated as “non-action", and sometimes taken to mean that the Taoists are passive mystical observers of nature who never get involved for fear of upsetting the delicate balance of yin/yang. What it really implies is a neutrality, or state of receptivity, so that anything can spontaneously happen. It’s a passive state in the sense that the entire universe is pure potential, but it is active in that it exists in total harmony with the universe that is dynamically manifesting itself every moment. You are eternally free to act or not-act, depending on what the situation demands.”
― Mantak Chia, Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy