Finally Free Quotes

“You will not experience dramatic change in your struggle as long as you use accountability to describe your sins instead of declaring your need for help in the midst of temptation.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“You will know you are finally free from sin when you have full access to it and yet no desire for it.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“You need more than a change in your circumstances to win the battle, you need a change in your heart.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“An immediate and critical test whether your sorrow is godly or worldly is whether you are willing to accept the consequences of your sin”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“Sin is a harsh master, not a submissive servant”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“God says that in place of immorality there should be something else, and that something else is thankfulness.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“Third, you must reach out for help. Repentance is crucial. Remembering the Bible is essential. But as important as it is to be armed with these powerful graces, you are not designed to fight the battles of sin and temptation alone. You must call in reinforcements. You should have several people you’ve talked with in advance who will hold you accountable, people you can call when you are in trouble. I often tell people that I want them to feel comfortable calling me at any time of the day or night. They might wake me up in the middle of the night, but it’s better to do that than to sin. Reaching out to others immediately in the midst of temptation will often be difficult to do because sin loves the darkness and is skilled at presenting attractive excuses. You must fight these temptations and expose the darkness to the light.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret” (Ephesians 5:11–12).”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“After you resolve to confess, know that it’s not your job to figure out all the possibilities, plan for every contingency, and worry about all the potential responses. Your job is simply to be faithful and do the next right thing. Confess with a willingness to accept consequences and work toward long-term restoration.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“There is no struggle for purity so intense that Jesus’ grace cannot win the battle.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“God made marriage to point to the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Husbands and wives exist to reflect the saving purposes of Christ for his bride, the church. Marriage is an arrow that points to the reality of Christ's love for the church. Marriage is a shadow whose substance is the saving purpose of Jesus.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“As long as your sorrow is like your sin and focused on the things you want, you will return to sin again and again”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“First, radical measures give you space in which to grow. Change takes time. Old ways of living must die; new ways of living must form. New kinds of thinking must be learned. If you are enslaved to pornography, God will not usually change your desires instantly but by degrees (see 2 Corinthians 3:18). Radical measures allow the space and time needed for you to direct your attention toward Christ instead of porn.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“Third, you can get rid of any equipment you use to view pornography. In our high-tech age we often consider it impossible to exist without our computers, tablet devices, smartphones, or TVs. The honest truth is that you don’t need any electronic device, but you do need to be holy. The inconvenience will be worth the gain in holiness.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“Second, install accountability software on your computer and phone. This software is inexpensive, is available from many different sources, and either blocks objectionable websites or records your Internet activity and sends it to someone of your choosing. It’s best to use software that does both. You also should implement filtering and monitoring strategies for your router—not just for your individual devices.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“First, you can ask someone to put passwords on your computer, phone, or TV that will make it impossible for you to access the Internet or to view pornographic material without the code, which only your accountability partner or perhaps your spouse would know. You also should be denied administrative privileges on any devices that allow this. Such access should be reserved for the person who is holding you accountable.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“This means you must limit the time you spend alone—especially in the early phases of the struggle against pornography. Be honest with your accountability partner about the typical times when you are alone and find yourself tempted. Make plans to spend those times with others. You can study together, take a walk, play sports, read the Bible and pray, or watch a movie. You can even have an accountability partner scheduled to call you during those times (with the requirement that you must pick up the phone) to check in on you. If you’re married, you may need to commit to going to bed at the same time as your spouse, even if you don’t feel tired. Cut back as much as possible on the times when you are alone and tempted to indulge in pornography.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“Second, you must remember Scripture. Scripture memory is not just a pious spiritual discipline for people who are more holy or mature than you are. Scripture memory is a powerful weapon that can give you victory in your battle against porn. The psalmist says to God, “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you” (Psalm 119:11). The Bible—internalized as a treasure in your heart—is available as a powerful ally against temptation. You have access to an entire Bible full of passages you can hide in your heart to help you in temptation. You can memorize Psalm 119:11; Matthew 5:27–30; or any other Bible verse in this book. The passages you select do not even need to address sexual purity. A diverse stockpile of biblical truth is needed to combat the lies of temptation when they come.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“First, you must repent immediately. We talked about our need for repentance in the first chapter. Repentance isn’t something that only takes place in tranquil moments of calm reflection or intense times of powerful resolve. Repentance is an ongoing practice, and it happens most commonly in the fog of temptation. Repentance is something you will do repeatedly in your long-term struggle against porn. In that initial moment of temptation, you must begin asking the Lord to forgive you for your lustful desires. You must ask him for grace to flee this temptation.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“Foundationally, this battle begins in your heart—with your thinking.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“You will need to employ radical measures in at least three areas. You look at porn when you have the desire to see it, when you have the time to look at it, and when it is available to you. Nobody looks at pornography without all three of these elements coming together. In your fight to be free from pornography, you must learn to take radical steps to eliminate each one.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“Finally, Jesus discusses the serious stakes of disobedience. Why does Jesus urge such radical measures? Because of the life-and-death nature of the consequences. Employing radical measures is the path to life, while indulging sin is the path to hell. God does not forbid sexual immorality because he wants you to be miserable; God forbids it because sexual immorality leads to brokenness, sadness, emptiness, death, and hell. Righteousness, on the other hand, leads to fullness, joy, peace, and life. According to Jesus, sin is not complicated. There are two simple choices and two guaranteed consequences—the easy path of sexual immorality, which will kill you, and the hard path of radical warfare against it, which will lead you to the fullness of life.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“Jesus follows this with a serious strategy for fighting sexual sin. If you are tempted to violate the standard and commit sexual sin, then Jesus says you must gouge out your eye or cut off your hand. You must not only remove these parts of your body; you must also throw them away. Jesus won’t allow you to retain these sinning body parts in hopes of using them later. He commands that you cast them away and abandon any future prospect of using them again for sinful purposes.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“First, Jesus provides a serious standard. If a person wants purity, it is not enough to avoid having a physical, sexual relationship with someone who is not his or her spouse. If they want purity, Jesus says, they must not want sex with someone who is not their spouse. Jesus raises the standard of purity from physical acts of fornication to lustful intentions of the heart and lustful looks of the eyes.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.” Matthew 5:27–30”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“Finally, true accountability requires an effort to be committed in the long term. It’s quite typical for these sorts of relationships to start strong, only to taper off after a relatively short period. When people get lazy and stop trying, failure is not far behind. Be sure your group is praying to be diligent over the long haul.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“True accountability also requires someone who possesses the biblical knowledge and practical wisdom to guide you toward purity. This does not require years of experience or advanced degrees. It can be any growing Christian who is walking in sexual purity and is willing to read this book along with you.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“True accountability involves three elements. First, you need to find someone who understands that the commitment to accountability is more than simply the commitment to meet regularly. They must be willing to take time through the week to pray for you, call you, answer your calls, and check up on you. The calling to be a spiritual person who restores another caught in a sin is a high and holy calling that requires time.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“Effective Accountability Must Actually Hold People Accountable.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

“The responsibility to confess sin and expose the darkness lies with the person who has committed the sin. It’s not the job of spiritual mentors to go on a fishing expedition to reel in a confession from those they are trying to help. A person passively waiting to provide answers to specific questions is in a far different place spiritually than a person who is willing to take the initiative to expose their struggles in the pure light of day. In other words, keep the responsibility where it belongs and simply invite the person to share where they have sinned and need help. This will reveal just how much help a person looking at pornography really wants. Accountability leads to freedom much more quickly when conversations grow into times of honest and free confession on the part of the struggler. Spiritual mentors can certainly begin with questions to start the conversation, but they should also keep in mind the goal—full and free confession without the prompting of questions or probing to uncover hidden secrets.”
― Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace