Grave Talk Quotes

“The people we love die. But the people we love live too. And so should we.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“If someone thinks humans are weak, show them what we do for love.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“Don’t ever let anyone convince you human beings are weak, because we can move towards pain, loss and suffering when we have to, without missing a beat.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“We live, Alice. We live . . . because they can’t.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“Grief is indeed the price we pay for love, and I feel like it’s a price I am completely unprepared and unable to pay.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“Grief is the price we pay for love?”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“But rationality is something that really doesn’t help that much when you’re lost in grief. Thinking rationally is about as impossible when you’re grieving as breathing is underwater.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“It’s like having the entire internet shouted at me.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“We’re all prey to the vagaries of the world around us, and none of us know how fast things can go downhill if we’re hit with an out-of-the-blue disaster.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“The barriers we think are a foot thick are sometimes paper-thin to the people who know us.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“Nobody that large should be called Morgan Ponsonby. It’d be like naming Niagara Falls the Canadian Dribbles.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“Someone dying doesn’t change who they were when they were alive, or the way you felt about them.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“Grief blows your life out of the water. It renders your normal day-to-day existence obsolete. Everything becomes about the loss you feel, and anything you can do to give yourself some structure against the maelstrom is welcomed.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“Lives that will never be devoid of the grief and loss we feel for those that are gone, but always balanced with the love and support of those still with us. The people we love die. But the people we love live too. And so should we.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“The thing they never tell you, or show you in the movies, is how grief becomes so . . . fundamental. To everything you do. It changes the world around you in ways you never expect – including your relationships with other people. They’re kind to you because you’ve lost someone, but they also . . . move away from you. Because deep down, nobody wants to be around grief for too long. It’s a reminder of their own fragility. You become a walking, talking symbol of something that will happen to all of us eventually.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“Grief tears work differently to other types, I’ve noticed. Normally, when something makes you cry, there’s a build-up period, while your brain fixates on the bad thing that’s happened, and your tear ducts dutifully well up in response to those thoughts. Not with grief tears. They just instantly appear – like the world’s worst magic trick. You don’t get any time to prepare yourself. Ever.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“There are now two Alice Everleys – just like there are two Joe Everleys.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“They’re kind to you because you’ve lost someone, but they also . . . move away from you. Because deep down, nobody wants to be around grief for too long. It’s a reminder of their own fragility. You become a walking, talking symbol of something that will happen to all of us eventually. So you get a hug, and a kind word. And then they’re gone.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk

“Because grief compounds. Which is something I never realised before (but then again, why would I?). A first horrible loss makes the second one even worse, because you have precedent.”
― Nick Spalding, Grave Talk