Raising Boys Quotes

“Have you ever browsed through a family photo collection and seen photos of a boy taken over the course of many years, from babyhood through to young manhood? If you have, you’ll know that boys don’t grow up in a smooth way. They go in surges—looking the same for a year or two, then suddenly seeming to change overnight. And that’s only on the outside. On the inside, great changes are happening, too. But developing maturity and character aren’t as automatic as physical growing. A boy can get stuck. Everyone knows at least one man who is large in body but small in mind or soul. He just hasn’t developed as a mature person. Such men are everywhere—they might be rich, powerful, a president, or a tycoon, but you look at them and think, Yep, still a boy. And not a very nice one.”
― Steve Biddulph, Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different--and How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men

“If at all possible, a boy should stay home with one of his parents or a close relative until about age three. Daycare of the institutional kind does not suit boys’ nature during these very early years. Many studies have shown that boys are more prone than girls to separation anxiety and to becoming emotionally shut down as a result of feeling abandoned. Also, a boy of this age may cope with his anxiety by becoming restless or aggressive. Experienced caregivers talk about the “sad/angry boy syndrome”—a little boy who feels abandoned and anxious and converts that into hitting and hurting behavior. He may carry this behavior into school and later life. Care by a loving relative is far better than an institutional situation for toddlers under three. Children under three need to spend the long days of childhood with people to whom they are very special.”
― Steve Biddulph, Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different--and How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men

“Po dosažení čtyřiceti let začne hladina testosteronu postupně klesat. Někdy i několik dní za sebou nemyslí na sex! V ložnici nahrazuje kvantitu kvalita. Teď nemusí nic dokazovat a je klidnější a moudřejší. Ve skupině a pracovních situacích se stává tichým vůdcem. Cení si přátelství a je teď pro svět největším přínosem.”
― Steve Biddulph, Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different - And How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men

“Tell him we both need to calm down. Make some coffee or a cool drink, sit down, and talk it over rationally. 2. If you are feeling too angry or upset, tell him that you will come back to the subject later—when you feel less emotional. 3. Go and sit down, or have something to drink, or go to another room. 4. Try to act before you are actually upset—if you wait until you are crying or very angry, he will feel guilty and confused. 5. Later in the day, have a talk with him. Set aside the original problem to begin with. Talk about the bigger issue of being able to get along well in the household and how important that is. Ask if he, too, wants to get along well. Explain that this sometimes involves compromises. The things you won’t compromise on are those concerning safety, his keeping agreements he makes, and respecting the rights of others in the family. Ask if he is willing to always stop and calm down if you ask him to do so. Then you can either have a break to celebrate or talk about the original problem. By doing something like this, you are saying, in effect,”
― Steve Biddulph, Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different--and How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men

“Because teachers often use much longer sentences when teaching, these kids are stuck trying to understand the first part while the teacher (or parent) is going full steam ahead with the rest of the message. The researchers recommend that teachers use short sentences and only go on speaking when they see that “lights go on” effect in children’s eyes. And Dr. Sax adds that perhaps boys should sit at the front of the class, not the back. In”
― Steve Biddulph, Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different--and How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men

“Všechno to, co je noční můrou rodičů (riskantní chování, alkohol, drogy a trestná činnost), se děje proto, že nenacházíme způsoby, jak by se mohla realizovat touha mladých mužů po slávě a hrdinských činech.”
― Steve Biddulph, Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different - And How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men

“Do patnácti let věku umírají (chlapci) třikrát častěji než děvčata, a to z nejrůznějších příčin - ale nejvíce následkem úrazu, násilí a pokusu o sebevraždu.”
― Steve Biddulph, Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different - And How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men

“V dnešní době jsou sebejistější, motivovanější a pracovitější děvčata.”
― Steve Biddulph, Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different - And How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men