Anger Quotes

“human anger is designed by God to motivate us to take constructive action in the face of wrongdoing or when facing injustice.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“A man is about as big as the things that make him angry. WINSTON CHURCHILL”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“God’s forgiveness is always in response to man’s repentance. His”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“In processing anger toward someone with whom you have a relationship, two questions are paramount: 1. Is my response positive—does it have the potential for dealing with the wrong and healing the relationship? 2. Is my response loving—is it designed for the benefit of the person at whom I am angry?”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“The apostle Paul stated it clearly when he said, “In your anger do not sin” (Ephesians 4:26). The challenge is not “Don’t get angry;” the challenge is not to sin when we are angry.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way

“The greatest remedy for anger is delay. SENECA”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Angry people need someone who cares enough to listen long enough to understand the pain. They need someone who listens carefully enough to identify with the person’s anger, wisely enough to express understanding, and courageously enough to respond with a gentle, truthful answer—an answer that seeks resolution of the issue that gave rise to the anger.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Anger” is one letter short of “danger.” AUTHOR UNKNOWN”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing. WILL ROGERS”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Anger, then, is the emotion that arises whenever we encounter what we perceive to be wrong. The emotional, physiological, and cognitive dimensions of anger leap to the front burner of our experience when we encounter injustice.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Author Ambrose Bierce said, “Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”
― Gary D Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“The apostle Paul stated it clearly when he said, “In your anger do not sin” (Ephesians 4:26 NIV). The challenge is not “Don’t get angry”; the challenge is not to sin when we are angry.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Is it positive and is it loving? That is, does the action I am considering have any potential for dealing with the wrong and helping the relationship?”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Restraining our response is not the same as storing our anger. It is refusing to take the action that we typically take when feeling angry.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“For most of us, anger control will be something we must learn as adults, and that means unlearning old habits.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“(1) consciously acknowledge to yourself that you are angry; (2) restrain your immediate response; (3) locate the focus of your anger; (4) analyze your options; and (5) take constructive action. As we complete each step, we move toward making our anger productive.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness. RALPH WALDO EMERSON”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Por cada minuto de enojo se pierden sesenta segundos de felicidad. RALPH WALDO EMERSON”
― Gary Chapman, El enojo: Como manejar una emocion poderosa de una manera saludable

“1. Listen to the person. The best thing you can do is hear him out and begin to understand his story. 2. Listen to the person. Having heard his story, ask the angry person to repeat it. This shows that you really want to understand what happened and that you are not condemning his anger. 3. Listen to the person. Ask additional questions to clarify the situation. It can take three or four rounds of listening for the angry person to get out all of his or her concerns. 4. Try to understand his plight. Ask yourself if you would be angry in the same situation. 5. Express your understanding of the situation. Speak with compassion; affirm the person’s feelings of anger. 6. Share any additional information that may shed light on the subject. At this point you may help the person realize that you have not wronged him. 7. Confess any wrongdoing and seek to make right the wrong you have committed. If the person’s anger is valid and you have wronged him, this is the step to take.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“In order to help the angry person, you must temporarily overlook the loudness of his voice, the glare of her eyes, and the intensity of the body language. You must look beyond all of this to the heart of the matter: What is the person angry about? What wrong does he perceive has been committed? It is dealing with this wrong that is the issue. Whether the wrong is definitive or distorted, it is real in the mind of the angry person. If we do not listen to the person’s message, the anger will not be processed positively but will later show up in outrageous behavior, depression, or, tragically for some, suicide. Attempting to put a cap on another person’s anger is an effort in futility.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Let me suggest seven steps. The first three are extremely important. First, listen. Second, listen. Third, listen. The best thing you can do for an angry person is to listen to his story. Having heard it, ask him to repeat it. Having heard it a second time, ask additional questions to clarify the situation. Listen at least three times before you give a response. That’s why I call listening the first three steps in responding to angry people. In the first round of listening, you become aware that you are in the presence of an angry person, and you get something of the person’s story and the heart of why she is angry. In the second round of listening, she begins to see that you are taking her seriously, that you really want to understand what happened, and you are not condemning her anger. In the third round, she is scraping up the details and making sure you get the whole story; at this point, the individual usually begins to calm down, as she senses that you are trying to understand her. It takes at least three rounds of listening, sometimes four, for the angry person to get out all of his or her concerns. If you respond to someone’s anger before you have thoroughly heard his story, you will not defuse the anger. You will compound it. Inside the mind of the angry person is a deep sense that he has been wronged. He is expressing his anger to you either because you are involved or he thinks you have the power to help.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Love is to be the distinguishing mark of the Christian. As you take positive action in loving the person you have wronged, you cannot force him to reciprocate your love, but you can be confident that love is the most influential weapon for good in the world. If your love is truly unconditional and is expressed in actions as well as words, you are doing the most powerful thing you can do for another person. However the individual responds, you will feel good about yourself because you are following the teachings of Jesus. You have been forgiven by God, perhaps by others, and you have forgiven yourself and are facing the future with hope.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“If your child is using some of the negative behavioral responses to anger, such as pushing, shoving, and throwing objects, focus on the anger first and the behavior second. You might say, “It’s obvious that you are very angry. I would like to hear what’s bothering you, but we can’t talk while you are _________. Would you like for us to take a walk and talk about it?”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Concentrate on the reason your child is angry, not on the way he is expressing it. Seek to understand what he thinks is unfair or wrong. You may not agree with his perception, but the purpose is to hear him out. If he thinks he was wronged, the anger will not go away until he feels that you have heard and understood his complaint. You are the parent, and you have the final word on what will be done, but your child needs to know that you think his feelings and ideas are important. Don’t let the child’s method of delivering his message keep you from getting the message.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“On a three-by-five card, write the following words: I’m feeling angry right now, but don’t worry. I’m not going to attack you. But I do need your help. Is this a good time to talk? Put this card on the refrigerator door or some other easily accessible place. The next time you feel anger toward your spouse, run for the card. Holding it in your hand, read it to your spouse as calmly as you can. If it’s not “a good time to talk,” then set a time to talk. And at the appointed time, begin the process of seeking an explanation and resolution of the issue that stimulated your anger.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Sixth, agree to affirm your love for each other. After the anger is resolved, tell each other of your love.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Fifth, agree to seek a resolution.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Fourth, agree to seek an explanation before passing judgment. If you are angry with your spouse, your first impression is that his behavior is wrong. But you should always take this as tentative until you hear his side. We often misinterpret the words and actions of our spouses.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Third, agree that verbal or physical explosions that attack the other person are not appropriate responses to anger.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

“Second, agree to acknowledge your anger to each other. When you are angry with each other, give the other the benefit of knowing what you are feeling. Otherwise, the spouse must guess based on your behavior. Such “guessing games” are a waste of time and usually not very accurate.”
― Gary Chapman, Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion