Daring Greatly Quotes

“The absence of love, belonging, and connection always leads to suffering.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“for Wholehearted living that point to what the Wholehearted work to cultivate and what they work to let go of: Cultivating Authenticity: Letting Go of What People Think Cultivating Self-Compassion: Letting Go of Perfectionism Cultivating a Resilient Spirit: Letting Go of Numbing and Powerlessness Cultivating Gratitude and Joy: Letting Go of Scarcity and Fear of the Dark Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith: Letting Go of the Need for Certainty Cultivating Creativity: Letting Go of Comparison Cultivating Play and Rest: Letting Go of Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Productivity as Self-Worth Cultivating Calm and Stillness: Letting Go of Anxiety as a Lifestyle Cultivating Meaningful Work: Letting Go of Self-Doubt and “Supposed To” Cultivating Laughter, Song, and Dance: Letting Go of Being Cool and “Always in Control”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Vulnerability is about sharing our feelings and our experiences with people who have earned the right to hear them. Being vulnerable and open is mutual and an integral part of the trust-building process. We can’t always have guarantees in place before we risk sharing; however, we don’t bare our souls the first time we meet someone. We don’t lead with “Hi, my name is Brené, and here’s my darkest struggle.” That’s not vulnerability. That may be desperation or woundedness or even attention-seeking, but it’s not vulnerability. Why? Because sharing appropriately, with boundaries, means sharing with people with whom we’ve developed relationships that can bear the weight of our story. The result of this mutually respectful vulnerability is increased connection, trust, and engagement. Vulnerability without boundaries leads to disconnection, distrust, and disengagement. In fact, as we’ll explore in Chapter 4, “letting it all hang out” or boundaryless disclosure is one way we protect ourselves from real vulnerability”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“É incrível a quantidade de energia que gastamos tentando evitar esses territórios difíceis da alma, quando eles são os únicos que podem nos libertar.”
― Brené Brown, A coragem de ser imperfeito: Como aceitar a própria vulnerabilidade, vencer a vergonha e ousar ser quem você é

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― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“A jornada da vulnerabilidade não foi feita para se percorrer sozinho. Nós precisamos de apoio. Precisamos de pessoas que nos ajudem na tentativa de trilhar novas maneiras de ser e não nos julguem. Precisamos de uma mão para nos levantar quando cairmos (e se você se entregar a uma vida corajosa, levará alguns tombos).”
― Brené Brown, A coragem de ser imperfeito: Como aceitar a própria vulnerabilidade, vencer a vergonha e ousar ser quem você é

“Certa noite, eu queria muito concluir a leitura de um livro policial. Achei que soubesse quem era o assassino, mas estava ansioso para confirmar minha suspeita. A certa altura, coloquei o livro na mesa de cabeceira e me levantei para ir ao banheiro. Quando passei pelo espelho, vi a imagem refletida de minha esposa, e ela me pareceu triste, escovando seus cabelos. Era um momento de porta entreaberta. Eu tinha uma escolha. Poderia sair daquele banheiro pensando: “Não quero lidar com a tristeza dela esta noite; quero ler meu livro.” Mas, em vez disso, talvez por ser um sensível pesquisador de relacionamentos, decidi ir até ela. Segurei a escova que estava em suas mãos e perguntei: “O que está acontecendo, querida?” Ela me disse que estava triste. Naquele exato momento, eu estava construindo confiança; eu estava ali para apoiá-la. Eu estava me conectando com ela em vez de escolher me dedicar apenas ao que eu queria. São em momentos assim que a confiança é construída. Um momento como esse pode não parecer importante, porém, se nós sempre escolhermos virar as costas para as necessidades do outro, a confiança no relacionamento vai se deteriorando – lenta e gradualmente.”
― Brené Brown, A coragem de ser imperfeito: Como aceitar a própria vulnerabilidade, vencer a vergonha e ousar ser quem você é

“Perfectionism is a form of shame. Where we struggle with perfectionism, we struggle with shame.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“What’s ironic (or perhaps natural) is that research tells us that we judge people in areas where we’re vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we’re doing.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Perfectionism is more about perception than internal motivation, and there is no way to control perception, no matter how much time and energy we spend trying.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“The research team found that the act of not discussing a traumatic event or confiding it to another person could be more damaging than the actual event. Conversely, when people shared their stories and experiences, their physical health improved, their doctor’s visits decreased, and they showed significant decreases in their stress hormones.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“When learning and work are dehumanized--when you no longer see us and no longer encourage our daring, or when you only see what we produce or how we perform--we disengage and turn away from the very things that the world needs from us: our talent, our ideas, and our passion.

What we ask is that you engage with us, show up beside us, and learn from us.

Feedback is a function of respect; when you don't have honest conversations with us about our strengths and our opportunities for growth, we question our contributions and your commitment.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“The four best strategies for building shame-resilient organizations are:

1. Supporting leaders who are willing to dare greatly and facilitate honest conversations about shame and cultivate shame-resilient cultures.

2. Facilitating a conscientious effort to see where shame might be functioning in the organization and how it might even be creeping into the way we engage with our co-workers and students.

3. Normalizing is a critical shame-resilience strategy. Leaders and managers can cultivate engagement by heling people know what to expect. What are common struggles? How have other people dealt with them? What have your experiences been?

4. Training all employees on the differences between shame and guilt, and teaching them how to give and receive feedback in a way that fosters growth and engagement.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Just like blame is a sign of shame-based organizations, cover-up cultures depend on shame to keep folks quiet. When the culture of an organization mandates that it is more important to protect the reputation of a system and those in power than it is to protect the basic human dignity of individuals or communities, you can be certain that shame is systemic, money drives ethics, and accountability is dead.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Ordinarily, when we reach out and share ourselves--our fears, hopes, struggles, and joy--we create small sparks of connection. Our shared vulnerability creates light in normally dark places.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“When we treat people as objects, we dehumanize them. We do something really terrible to their souls and to our own. Martin Buber, an Austrian-born philosopher, wrote about the differences between an I-it relationship and an I-you relationship. An I-it relationship is basically what we create when we are in transactions with people whom we treat like objects--people who are simply there to serve us or complete a task. I-you relationships are characterized by human connection and empathy.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Rather than judgment (which exacerbates shame), empathy conveys a simple acknowledgment, "You're not alone.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Vulnerability begets vulnerability; courage is contagious.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Now, at that moment, I was building trust; I was there for her. I was connecting with her rather than choosing to think only about what I wanted. There are the moments, we've discovered, that build trust.

One such moment is not that important, but if you're always choosing to turn away, then trust erodes in a relationship--very gradually, very slowly.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“El asesino secreto de la innovación es la vergüenza; no puedes medirla, pero está presente. Siempre que alguien tiene una idea nueva y se echa atrás, no se atreve a proporcionar a su superior una información que éste necesita, o tiene miedo de decirle qué piensa a un cliente, puedes estar seguro de que la vergüenza ha tenido algo que ver. Ese miedo profundo que todos tenemos a equivocarnos, a que nos humillen y a sentirnos inferiores a otra persona, es lo que impide que asumamos los riesgos necesarios para que nuestras empresas prosperen.”
― Brené Brown, El poder de ser vulnerable: ¿Qué te atreverías a hacer si el miedo no te paralizara? (Crecimiento personal)

“Cuando nos pasamos la vida esperando ser perfectos o inmunes antes de salir al ruedo, sacrificamos relaciones y oportunidades que quizá sean irrecuperables, derrochamos nuestro valioso tiempo y tal vez le damos la espalda a nuestras aptitudes, a esas contribuciones únicas que sólo nosotros podemos hacer.”
― Brené Brown, El poder de ser vulnerable: ¿Qué te atreverías a hacer si el miedo no te paralizara? (Crecimiento personal)

“Se eu tivesse que escolher uma forma de traição que tenha aparecido com muita frequência em minha pesquisa e que tenha se mostrado a mais perigosa em termos de corrosão do elo de confiança em um relacionamento, eu mencionaria o descompromisso.”
― Brené Brown, A coragem de ser imperfeito: Como aceitar a própria vulnerabilidade, vencer a vergonha e ousar ser quem você é

“a surefooted and confident mapmaker does not a swift traveler make. I stumble and fall, and I constantly find myself needing to change course. And even though I’m trying to follow a map that I’ve drawn, there are many times when frustration and self-doubt take over, and I wad up that map and shove it into the junk drawer in my kitchen.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Da, težko je govoriti o občutku sramu. Vendar pogovor o njem ji niti približno tako nevaren kot to, kar istvarjamo s tišino! Vsi poznamo občutek sramu. Vse nas je strah govoriti o njem. In manj ko govorimo o njem, bolj ga občutimo.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Vsi občutimo sramoto. Vsi imamo v seni dobro in slabo plat, teko in svetlobo. A če se ne soočimo z občutkom sramu, s tem, kar nas teži, začnemo verjeti, da je nekaj narobe z nami - da smo slabi, nepopolni, ne dovolj dobri - in kar je še huje, ravnati začnemo v skladu s temi prepričanji. Če želimo živeti z vsem stcem in biti povezani, moramo biti ranljivi. Da bi bili ranljivi, pa moramo postati sramoodbojni.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Občutek sramu črpa svojo moč iz neizrekljivosti. Zato ima rad perfekcioniste, saj tako lahko ostane neizražen. … Ravno tako, kotnje bila izpostavljenost svetlobi smrtonosna za gremline, tudi ebsede in zgodbe osvetlijo ta občutek ter ga izničijo.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Medsebojna povezanost našemu življenju daje smisel in namen. Moč, ki jo ima v našem življenju, je bila potrjena, ko se je za glavno skrb udeležencev izkazal strah pred odtujenostjo; strah, da nas zaradi nečesa, kar smo storili ali nam ni uspelo storiti, zaradi nečesa, kar smo ali od koder prihajamo, drugi ne marajo ali nismo vredni, da bi bili z njimi povezani. Naučila sem se, da to skrb rešimo z razumevanjem svoje ranljivosti ter krepitvijo sočutja in poguma - s tem, čemur pravim sramoodbojnost.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Preprosto povedano, upanje se zgodi, ko:
- smo sposobni postaviti realistične cilje (vem, kam hočem);
- smo sposobni ugotoviti, kako bomo te cilje dosegli, ter znamo biti prožni in najti druge poti (vem, kako bom dosegel to, vztrajen sem in znam prenesti razočaranje ter poskusiti znova) in
- verjamem vase (zmorem!).
Upanje je torej kombinacija postavljanja ciljev, vztrajnosti in vzdržljivosti na poti ter zaupanja v svoje sposobnosti.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Ni treba, da smo popolni, le predani usklajevanju svojih vrednot s svojimi dejanji.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Da smo neizmerno pogumni vemo takrat, ko si dovolimo občutiti svojo ranljivost, to pa se ne more zgoditi, če nas ima sramota v krempljih. Enako velja za odtujenost, ki jo povzroča zaskrbljenost. Dve najmočnejši obliki medsebojni povezanosti sta ljubezen in pripadnost - in obe sta nespremenljivi potrebi moških, žensk in otrok. Med intervjuji sem spoznala, da obstaja le ena stvar, ki moške in ženske z globokim občutkom ljubezni in pripadnosti loči od tistih, ki ju občutijo stežka. To je prepričanje v lastno vrednost. Stvar je namreč preprosta in hkrati zapletena: če želimo ljubezen in pripadnost čutiti z vsem srcem, moramo verjeti, da smo vredni ljubezni in pripadnosti.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead