Love and Respect Quotes

“In your marriage, be the first to “seek peace and pursue it” (1 Peter 3:11).”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“YOU CAN BE RIGHT BUT WRONG AT THE TOP OF YOUR VOICE”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“his love motivates her respect; her respect motivates his love. We”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“the husband decides he will motivate his wife to become more respectful by acting in unloving ways. This usually proves about as successful as trying to sell a pickup to an Amish farmer.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“Unfortunately, a wife’s usual approach is to complain and criticize in order to motivate her husband to become more loving. This usually proves about as successful as trying to sell brass knuckles to Mother Teresa.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“Psalm 119:130: “The unfolding of Your words gives light; it gives understanding”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“Because he is confused, he doesn’t ask the question, “Don’t you respect me?” for fear she’ll say, “No, I don’t.” That frightens him so he avoids it. As a result, she gets locked into disrespect as a way of communicating her irritation and goading him to change. But over the course of the marriage, something slowly dies between them. She wins the battles, but deep down she knows she is losing the war. WHAT”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“The problem many women have today—including Christian wives —is that they want to be treated like a princess, but deep down they resist treating their husbands like the king. They aren’t willing to recognize that in the depth of his very soul a husband wants to be the one who provides and protects—he wants to be an umbrella of protection who would willingly die for his wife if need be.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“Here is where couples often run into trouble as they try to work out their problems, even small ones. Women confront to connect. The typical response from a man, however, is that he thinks his wife is confronting to control. If another man talked to this man like that, he would sound intentionally provocative. Is that not why some men feel their wives are picking a fight?”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“You thought you were doing the honorable thing by refusing to engage her. But that isn’t going to work now. It won’t stop the craziness. I want you to hear her deeper cry and move toward her. Allow her to vent. Embrace her negativity and anger.” If”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“You can experience disappointment, but it is your choice to disrespect or be unloving.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“Your spouse can affect you, but your spouse does not control you.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“No matter how difficult your spouse may be, you cannot blame your negative reactions on your spouse.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“Truly, truly, I say to you, everyone who commits sin is the slave of sin. . . . if the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed” (John 8:34, 36). What”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“Few seem to have considered 1 Peter 3:1–2. The apostle Peter reveals that husbands who “are disobedient to the word” (meaning they are undeserving of respect) “may be won . . . by . . . respectful behavior.” A simple application is that a wife is to display a respectful facial expression and tone when he fails to be the man she wants. She can give her husband unconditional respect in tone and expression while confronting his unloving behavior and without endorsing his unloving reactions. He may deserve contempt, but that doesn’t win him any more than harshness and anger wins the heart of a woman.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“Ultimately, you practice love or respect because beyond your spouse you see Jesus Christ and you envision a moment when you will be standing before Him at the final judgment, realizing that your marriage was really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for your Lord.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“Ephesians 5:33, Paul writes, “Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband” (NIV).”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“Sin amor, ella reaccionará sin respeto; sin respeto, usted reaccionará sin amor.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Amor y respeto

“ha hecho exactamente lo que usted dijo en su conferencia referente a «Su amor sin importar su respeto». Él me amó cuando yo no en absoluto amorosa, y se aferró a su matrimonio y a su familia cuando no había absolutamente NADA a qué aferrarse. En octubre pasado, le pedí por favor que se fuera de la casa. Deseaba estar sola y solo sentía que ya no lo amaba. Se marchó de mala gana durante un par de semanas […] Yo sabía que mi vida y la vida de las niñas cambiaria drásticamente con un divorcio. Pensé en una visita compartida y en cómo haríamos para vender nuestra casa, la cual habíamos terminado de remodelar poco tiempo antes; pero no me importaba. ¡Solo quería terminar con todo eso! [Mientras tanto] él oraba, estudiaba libros y grabaciones sobre el matrimonio, y tomó la decisión de amarme sucediera lo que sucediera. Las niñas estaban empezando a extrañar no tenerlo en casa, entonces decidimos que no regresaría sino «hasta nuevo aviso». Y bien, él ponía su mano sobre la mía y oraba por mí y por nuestro matrimonio, mientras yo miraba el techo esperando ansiosa que terminara. Me dejaba notitas o una pequeña flor en el espejo del baño o en mi coche. Hacía tantas pequeñas cosas para mostrarme que me amaba y que no iba a dejar que su matrimonio terminara tan fácilmente. Todo esto me fastidiaba. ¿No puede entender que ya no lo amo, que ya no quiero estar con él? ¿Para qué está esforzándose tanto? Ya no sentía estar perdidamente «enamorada» de él. Mis necesidades no estaban siendo satisfechas así que quería terminar con todo; era muy egoísta”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Amor y respeto

“Cuando una esposa se queja, critica o llora, ella está enviando el mensaje codificado: «¡Deseo tu amor!». Y cuando el esposo habla con dureza o no habla en absoluto, él está enviando su mensaje codificado: «¡Deseo tu respeto!».”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Amor y respeto

“A menudo, nos centramos en nuestras propias necesidades y simplemente pasamos por alto las necesidades de la otra persona.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Amor y respeto

“«Un esposo debe obedecer el mandamiento de amar aun si su esposa no obedece el mandamiento de respetar; y una esposa debe obedecer el mandamiento de respetar aun si su esposo no obedece el mandamiento de amar».”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Amor y respeto

“El esposo no debería actuar en forma independiente de su esposa, y la esposa no debería actuar en forma independiente de su esposo. Esposo y esposa deberían actuar juntos, y pueden hacerlo.2”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Amor y respeto

“You begin to resent your spouse and other people because they haven’t healed your hurts or comforted you. Get rid of the victim mind-set! Realize that the only real healing and comfort you’re going to get is by looking to the Lord and trusting Him with your situation, painful as it is.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“I can experience hurt, but it's my choice to hate.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“Don’t play the percentages game with your spouse. It’s an easy way to get yourself off the hook. And once off the hook, you can’t mature spiritually. In fact, a typical result is that you feel like a victim. You get the victim mind-set.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“The difference between successful couples and unsuccessful couples is that the successful ones keep getting up and keep dealing with the issues. Unsuccessful couples want it easy. They want it now. They want their needs to be met. They don’t want conflict; they just want everything to be “happy.” This approach is the epitome of immaturity.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

“A wife may be wondering why her husband isn’t more open when the truth is, she told him many years ago not to be.”
― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs