The Neuroscience of Human Relationships Quotes

“Those who are nurtured best, survive best.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment And the Developing Social Brain

“The problem is, when you depend on a substitute for love, you can never get enough.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment And the Developing Social Brain

“of the diverse systems within our brains. Optimal sculpting of the prefrontal cortex through healthy early relationships allows us to think well of ourselves, trust others, regulate our emotions, maintain positive expectations, and utilize our intellectual and emotional intelligence in moment-to-moment problem solving. We can now add a corollary to Darwin’s survival of the fittest: Those who are nurtured best survive best.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain

“Thus, the brain remains plastic into adulthood and can be changed for the better through positive interpersonal relationships.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain

“Patients with somatosensory cortex damage have difficulty drawing upon past experiences when making decisions, they may be able to understand the points for or against a choice, but lack of feel for the right choice that would allow them to pull the trigger and make a decision. It can be assumed that this final step more visceral and emotional, and cognitive requires a sense of certainty that comes more from the body than from thought. This perspective has led to the idea of somatic markers as a kind of visceral, emotional shorthand providing unconscious input into our conscious choices.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment And the Developing Social Brain

“Although our brains have evolved to predict what others are thinking, they are lagging behind, projection is reflexive and self-awareness requires effort, and a willingness to tolerate the anxiety. Self-awareness is an evolutionary frontier that stretches ahead of us. A second evolutionary frontier relates to an anxiety evolution that has shaped the fear response to help animals stay alive. This is a good thing except when you add an ever expanding cortex, the sheer brain power we now have for abstraction conceptualization and imagining the future leads us to the point where we are able to be afraid of things that are not even possible. We have also created a society that itself generates so many stressors that we can be in a state of constant anxiety that could last our entire lives. As modern human beings we have these two automatic and implicit processes: projection and anxiety that automatically and unconsciously shape our experiences of the world. Unfortunately, mindfulness and the ability to tolerate anxiety are far less common if anything, our omnivorous, consumerism and thrill seeking behavior, bind us ever more tightly to sources of stimulation outside ourselves.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment And the Developing Social Brain

“Emotions are our conscious experiences and interpretations of our bodily states, involving many of the brain’s neural networks (Calder et al., 2001).”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain

“Countless learning experiences are organized and stored in right-hemisphere networks; these stored experiences give rise to what we call “gut feelings.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain

“While the increasing inhibitory ability of the left hemisphere has led to greater cognitive abilities, it also resulted in a capacity to separate mind, body, and emotions. Experiencing the world from high atop the left hemisphere led Descartes to equate human existence with thinking, much to the detriment of psychology and neurology. Thus we have found that with specialization and increasingly complex functioning, the “healthy” brain has become vulnerable to the types of dissociation we see in psychological disturbances.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain

“It is the power of being with others that shapes our brains.”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain

“Humans, having the most complex brains and intricate society, have the most prolonged period of total dependency of any species (Cacioppo & Berntson, 2002). Compared with the young of other primates, human babies are born quite early relative to the maturity of their brains. In fact, the first 3 months of life have sometimes been referred to as the fourth trimester. If we followed the pattern typical for other primates, we would stay inside our mothers for 24 months (Gould,”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain

“complexity. Assuming”
― Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain