No More Christian Nice Guy Quotes

“If you cannot hate the wrong, it is very questionable whether you really love righteousness.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“Interestingly, I received more requests to speak in charismatic churches than any other form of modern evangelical expression. This is surprising because I’m about as charismatic as Bob Newhart.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“Rather, you are an agent of God’s redemptive power (as opposed to a selfish force) who serves other people as you choose. Sometimes, for instance, this means telling people no without giving a long explanation or having a concrete reason that they need to hear.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“No one on this earth is accountable to bring you what you need or want. It’s not up to your wife or girlfriend to fill your emotional holes. That work is yours. Your boss isn’t on the hook to provide a living for you. That’s your job. It’s not your minister’s role to maintain your relationship with God. That’s up to you. Your kids are yours to nurture, not yours to nurture you.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“cynicism enables you to do nothing but feel morally superior to those who are doing something good but imperfect in an imperfect”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“Let no one cheat you of your reward, taking delight in false humility” (Colossians 2:18 NKJV).”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“Jesus wasn’t always nice. I’m nice. I’m not like Jesus.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“we let things terrify us, life will not be worth living. Seneca”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“The wise man in the storm prays to God, not for safety from danger, but for deliverance from fear. Ralph Waldo Emerson”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“We are to live with heavenly things in mind and with our feet firmly on the ground. We won’t be redemptive forces for good if we don’t grasp this, and our spiritual growth will be truncated. Personal piety alone won’t cut it, but marry piety to shrewdness, as Jesus did, and you’re on your way, Good Guy.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“Theodore Roosevelt saw in the Christian men of his day, who “were very nice, very refined, who shook their heads over political corruption and discussed it in drawing rooms and parlors, but who were wholly unable to grapple with real men in real life.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“The wrath of men shall praise you, says the Bible (Psalm 76:10 ESV), and the fear of the Lord is to hate evil (Proverbs 8:13). Right now, Christian Nice Guys hate only what disrupts comfort.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“As Paul Tillich explains, “Either love is something other than emotion or the Great Commandment is meaningless.”6 When”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“Some of us are sinning because we aren’t angry enough over what makes God angry.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“avoiding anger governs our ability to do damage, it also limits our ability to do good.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“Though we all hold our opinions dear, a hard fact of life is that all opinions are not created equal. Someone has to make a final call or else a church will flounder.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“The word peacemaker does not imply pacifism. It does not refer to those who do not fight, but those who actively bring conflict to an end.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“From the late Francis Schaeffer: One of the greatest injustices we do to our young people is ask them to be conservative. Christianity is not conservative, but revolutionary. To be conservative today is to miss the whole point, for conservatism means standing in the flow of the status quo, and the status quo no longer belongs to us. If we want to be fair, we must teach the young to be revolutionaries, revolutionaries against the status quo.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“Though a “gentle word turns away wrath,”5 it’s not fool-proof either, nor does it claim to be. They listen to power and consequences:”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“Many times expecting personal transformation to happen without humility is like expecting a car to move forward without fuel.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“the essence of what General Douglas MacArthur said is right: All defense and no offense doesn’t get you very far. General Patton provides supporting cover when he advised, “Never let the enemy choose the battlefield.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“God says we shouldn’t take advantage of the fatherless (Exodus 22:22) and that true religion looks after the fatherless (James 1:27). It’s time for the church to flex some real muscle on behalf of the weak and the needy.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“If I still adhered to perfect work, I never would have written this imperfect book, which for the last decade or so has changed lives across the globe.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“perfection is an earthly illusion and is used as an excuse not to complete workplace or kingdom-purpose projects. For many, it’s the fear of failure in disguise.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“And we finally come to a more mature place in our faith and realize what Bonhoeffer knew: “Being a Christian is less about cautiously avoiding sin than about courageously and actively doing God’s will.” We”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“The battle is not the same as the quarrel.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“As courageous Christian men, we’re going to suffer. There’s no way around it, because suffering is choosing difficulty when you could escape it. To be male is to stand in gaps you could flee, but if you did, others would be more than hurt. They would be harmed. And when we become Gap People, a goal of Promise Keepers, we move away from nice and into the good.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“Absorb blows with equanimity. That’s what anthropologist David Gilmore says is at the heart of being male, and man, does that take courage. It means we defend others without giving into hatred, disdain, or contempt. And it means that we defend our own God-given value and importance without succumbing to an eye-for-an-eye or tooth-for-a-tooth. We don’t seek revenge even when we easily can.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children

“Courage without conscience,” wrote Robert Green Ingersoll, “is a wild beast.”
― Paul Coughlin, No More Christian Nice Guy: When Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts Men, Women, and Children